A Swedish NGO released a dating manual aimed at lonely men

Trolburg · 2025-12-07T16:54:33+00:00

This is a cute guide but really doesn't address the issue. For any of this to matter they have to first find you ATTRACTIVE. This is the silver bullet, rest is secondary and you can practice cutesy messages when you start actually getting attention

Get to a healthy weight, work out, shave that shitty beard off. Moisturise - there's a version of you out there that lives the life you want

I think the only useful bit of info here is don't be sexual right off the bat and maybe the bit about hygiene - and being clean is just the start, you need to smell good.

I've had a lot of casual sex and this is based on feedback I've received, 'I could see you pecs through your shirt' 'you smell good' etc. I get a lot of wows when I take off my shirt

Please guys I spent my teens and early 20s borderline incel. I turned it around. I want to lead you all to the promised land. Thanks for coming to my tedtalk

OkOutlandishness6370 · 2025-12-06T23:55:55+00:00

Honestly the fact that is SOME attempt to address the problem without just going "hurr durr incels, hurr durr misogyny" is a postive regardless of how inept and tone-deaf these initial steps are.

DGenerationMC · 2025-12-07T03:04:21+00:00

This would work great for middle schoolers.

DzejSiDi · 2025-12-07T06:02:51+00:00

I can compare it to an umemployed addict trying to fix his life by emptying sink and mopping floor. "It's something", it is a step in the right direction, so I won't criticise it hard.

But it's not good and NOWHERE near enough. BTW people shit on so called "broscience" too much, at least one bro tells the other what worked for him. Here they even did not test their ideas, it is really obvious.

Independent-Mail-227 · 2025-12-07T00:56:28+00:00

oh boy this will be a meme won't it?

"caring, funny and honest... are the most important characteristics with a partner according to young people" LMAO

"where can I meet someone?" you can see the age of the people writing those leaking trough the whole slides.

"write an opening message" "to comment on and curiously and interestedly ask question about what they write about in their profile text" I love the presumption that just because the guide say that you should have X in the profile means that the other person will have it as well.

"remember: If you don't get a response or get rejected, it doesn't have to be about you or something you did wrong" The cherry on top, remember to gaslight yourself.

Emotional-Self-8387 · 2025-12-07T23:16:56+00:00

Didn’t they just vote to conscript men in the event a massive European conflict broke out or am I thinking of something else. Lip service lol

Dear-Tank2728 · 2025-12-07T01:45:20+00:00

The "how to tell what their feeling " part was actually pretty interesting. Not bad ideas.

YeaNobody · 2025-12-07T07:25:51+00:00

It's just shit for men point blank....women have endless choice. Yes that endless choice is 99.9% shit no doubt....but it's like saying money isn't everything when you're in a position where you can afford to say that. Everything about life isn't balanced, capitalism only works for enough people, not everyone, and dating follows that same playbook.

aslfingerspell · 2025-12-07T00:21:34+00:00

I think this pamphlet is a complete joke. It's basically a combination of grade-school level sex-ed and bottom-of-the-barrel dating advice like hygiene. Their list of places to meet people is ridiculously simplistic with no consideration of how difficult/impossible finding people of the opposite sex to interact with actually is.

work or school

Workplace dating is an incredibly risky idea, if it's even allowed in your workplace to begin with. Post-graduation, there is no "school" anymore. Perhaps you could say adult education classes, but I'll have to try those first.

the gym or training

People in the gym are wearing headphones and don't care to interact with others, certainly not strange men they don't know.

recreation center, leisure activity or association activity center

These mostly just have children and old people.

Home party

We do not live in an 80s movie. I have only ever been to a couple house parties in my entire life, and none of them involved sexuality of any kind. Post-covid, this is a nonstarter.

concerts/festivals

These mostly have old people and families with children, or the layout discourages social interaction like having the music be too loud, or people only going with their current partners or friend groups.

dating apps

Yeah okay buddy.

local events

Old people and families with children. People in their 20s basically do not leave the house to have fun.

local associations for your interest

Are almost if not entirely men.

Discord channels and the online community
Online multiplayer games

This is a fantasy. I'm not meeting my girlfriend through a video game.

Careful-Wrongdoer343 · 2025-12-06T21:05:09+00:00

I think it's a good thing this issue is being acknowledged and effort is going trying to help.

But my god this is worthless and filled with the same dogshit advice found everywhere online.

Also, in the section of where to meet people it lists dating apps (LMAO), gym and the workplace, which I find extremely irresponsible due to the repercussions a bad interaction might have.

Suddenfury · 2025-12-07T11:48:43+00:00

It actually wasn't that bad. It fails to mention some things, but you could call that advanced level stuff.

ArkAngelEV · 2025-12-08T12:54:49+00:00

Comically lacking in real substance. This is the basic generic pamphlet for every npc.

growframe · 2025-12-07T00:55:52+00:00

I mean, is this aimed at lonely men?

This just seems like a general use pamphlet. It gives mostly basic but true general advice with some naivety thrown in. It's hardly a comprehensive guide to turning a lonely guy into a poon hound but it's not trying to be.

caption291 · 2025-12-07T16:33:18+00:00

I think that if I wanted to address this problem on a governmental level pretty much all of my focus would be on teaching girls to be less narcicistic and more accountable. I would not even bother talking about what boys should do because they are such a small part of the problem and boys mental health does not need more male hyperagency bullshit.

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Direct-Rip5179 · 2025-12-08T11:14:37+00:00

It’s probably cliched advice but if I could tell my younger self how to succeed with women I’d say: - Give them your full attention when talking to them (i.e pay attention to their emotions, learn about who they are as an individual) - looks, money, success, status etc don’t really matter per se. What matters is knowing who you are/having strength of character - socialise as much as possible (especially with women) - women (and men) love to be led by someone strong who cares about them

If you can get to a place where you accept people for who they are, want the best for others and are comfortable with your sexuality you shouldn’t have difficulty with dating.

Arctolamia · 2025-12-08T18:34:16+00:00

I got to the part where it unironically tells men to shower and brush their teeth. Not interested in anything else it has to say after that.

TopShelfSnipes · 2025-12-08T21:41:40+00:00

This is pretty bad advcie and sounds like some seriously dry conversation and boring dates.

I suppose it's better than nothing, but it really doesn't capture the fun. This is like a "how to" for getting a "no spark" response.

Also, it focuses way too much on online as a source of meeting people and doesn't talk about how to build rapport in person, suss out interest, and get dates from social circle etc. even though it does list non-online spaces.

lastrevolutions · 2025-12-11T18:57:12+00:00

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Demasii · 2025-12-07T00:49:49+00:00

Alot of this is common sense but I have met adult men who go on one date and try to label it as a relationship.

It's simple information for men who don't understand the simple things.

GhostXmasPast342 · 2025-12-07T03:18:21+00:00

At least some country is recognizing how difficult dating is for men and doing something about it.

abraham_ares · 2025-12-07T04:15:51+00:00

In most cases the ideological side of feminism took over so yeah good try but I don’t think this will help

Away-Performance3231 · 2025-12-07T12:33:09+00:00

As a lonely American woman, ima use this guide

Axis_Control · 2025-12-07T14:47:10+00:00

I feel like this should be taught in school for girls and boys honestly.

Title	A Swedish NGO released a dating manual aimed at lonely men
Author	Careful-Wrongdoer343
Upvotes	44
Comments	125
Date	December 6, 2025 9:00 PM UTC (7 months ago)
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