How would you react to finding that your man experiences an emasculating sexual kink?

jorts-enthusiast · 2025-12-26T15:22:37+00:00

Meh. I’m pretty vanilla and I’ve had some negative experiences with kinkier partners in the past. I would be a little wary just because kinks aren’t something I generally enjoy all that much.

myboobiezarequitebig · 2025-12-26T15:19:02+00:00

I would be actually so elated. You’re telling me I get to dominate my big beefy meaty man?

sablesalsa · 2025-12-26T16:24:38+00:00

I would not be surprised. But I'd worry if he found it emasculating? To me that signals some insecurities, and while everyone's insecure about something, having a disconnect between what you want and who you think you should be can really hurt you/your loved ones.

Secret_Entry1840 · 2025-12-26T16:13:09+00:00

I’ve had a few friends and lovers that liked being emasculated and or humiliated. I’m a service switch so I can go both ways. I have certain ways I like being dominated and humiliated and I have certain ways that I like to dominate and humiliate. It’s about open communication and desires. There’s connections in some of our brains that make embarrassment or nervousness arousing. Or that make the idea of “I’m less than but this person wants me anyways” makes us feel more desired. Human sexuality is complicated.

Edit: adding power dynamics are pretty normal in kinks. It’s just another fun thing to pull out once in a while.

Siukslinis_acc · 2025-12-26T15:28:26+00:00

There would be an incompatability. I don't like humiliating people in general.

-Shes-A-Carnival · 2025-12-26T16:56:31+00:00

I would be disgusted , keep it to yourself

theminxisback · 2025-12-26T17:05:26+00:00

I would be proud of him for liberating himself from his shame and false sense of masculinity. And happy and grateful that he felt safe to explore this with me.

True masculinity is found in overcoming your limitations. Sexual liberation is an incredibly intimate and enjoyable experience.

Shame isn't real. It's an illusion.

And there is no such thing as emasculation. That's another falsehood designed to manipulate people.

Rule_Number_7 · 2025-12-26T17:27:10+00:00

I’m not very dominant, so I don’t know how that would play out, but I wouldn’t judge or shame him for it.

januaryphilosopher · 2025-12-26T17:43:55+00:00

As in emasculation is his kink? Not one I share but we could probably work something out if it isn't a non-negotiable for him. I won't do humiliation at all so even if he was into it he'd need to be fine without it. As in his kink is something that people generally find emasculating? Most of my kinks probably fit into that category, so that'd be a good sign. My husband's take on the whole thing is "I'm a man so whatever I do is masculine", and I don't care about labelling things as masculine or feminine in general, though.

Kaleidoscopetide · 2025-12-26T15:39:30+00:00

I’d be thrilled! I like kinky femdom stuff and it’s kind of hard to find in the wild👍

Makuta_Servaela · 2025-12-26T15:59:48+00:00

I might get a little weirded out by some misogynistic or abusive elements, like implying that looking feminine makes you stupid (like some versions of bimbofication), upsetting people on purpose to trick them into humiliating him without their consent of participation to his fetish, or stealing my clothes/undergarments without consent, which is not unheard of from men with those fetishes.

Otherwise, as long as he's not hurting anyone (me and my property included), I don't care. You do you. Dominating isn't my thing, though, so we'd have to figure out how to make it work for us.

My_House_on_Mars · 2025-12-26T15:25:48+00:00

kinks are always fun 🔥🔥❤️‍🔥. Also there's nothing really emasculating of any kink, quite the opposite. A guy who is being emasculated feels bad about himself. In the humilliation kink the opposite happens. He might ask for certain actions that I wouldn't spontaneously do. It's role play.

Anyone who thinks a kink can be emasculating is a 🚩 to me

Its effecting more and more men as society gets more and more "kinky" compared to say they 1960s.

nah, people have the freedom to talk about them, that's it

Lemon_gecko · 2025-12-26T15:11:45+00:00

Okay.

Axis_Control · 2025-12-26T15:44:59+00:00

I wouldn't like that at all. I hate femdom lol

Obvious_Smoke3633 · 2025-12-26T16:39:57+00:00

I hate "kinks" I wouldn't indulge any kind of kink for any man unless he was a master at eating pussy and made me orgasm like 10 times a day. Otherwise it wouldn't be worth my energy.

RoyalGovernment3034 · 2025-12-26T17:59:38+00:00

I would think it's attractive, personally, as long as he's not porno brained and it's not all about dressing up, but more teasing/subversion of typically expected dynamics.

Disastrous_Agent9307 · 2025-12-26T18:50:14+00:00

"That's a yikes from me, dawg" "You're lost in the ragu and it's time to lock in and get some therapy" "I dunno about them apples" "Negatory Ghostrider"

"I'm not interested, I'm not playing into this, I love you, get help and let me know how I can help. If you don't want to get help, you need to let me know if you still want to be in this marriage knowing it will never happen and knowing I do not support you indulging this sort of thing and will not stand idly by while you do. And if you knew about this prior to us getting together, I'm miffed you didn't tell me because I'm not sure I would have gone this far with you".

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MiddleZealousideal89 · 2025-12-26T21:11:57+00:00

I'd be a bit concerned that he didn't bring it up for 6 years, honestly.

SwimmingTheme3736 · 2025-12-26T23:12:36+00:00

I love it. We haven’t experimented with a lot of kinks and I hope we continue to

selfishstars · 2025-12-27T00:56:16+00:00

I’m a pleaser. I get so much pleasure from turning my partner on and giving them pleasure. If that means holding the key to his chastity cage and ruining his orgasms, then get on your knees and call me Mother.

Temporary-Flight-192 · 2025-12-27T01:44:24+00:00

Do you want me to be honest? If he’s throwing that at me in the first few months, I’m going to think I’m not enough for him, he needs some hinky kinky shit and isn’t really into ME, he’s into his fantasies. Especially if he needs weird shit just to get a boner. That’s a no from me. Try your luck on Fetlife.

If he comes at me with that after a year, I’m going to say, let me try this on and see if it feels genuine. I’ve tried some things that honestly ended up feeling more stupid than sexy, but I’d give it a try.

If it’s after a decade? Hell why not, let’s throw down with something new

It honestly isn’t a fantasy of mine in the least, unless it’s something like pegging. If it’s something he needs to enjoy sex and perform, we aren’t compatible.

Novel-Tip-7570 · 2025-12-27T13:09:05+00:00

I would be interested in exploring it as a one-time thing. I would not want it to be a regular part of our sexual lives though.

Tylikcat · 2025-12-27T21:00:45+00:00

It depends on the kink.

If his kink is to wear a ruffled apron and clean the house - clean away!

I might be up for a certain amount dominating him sexually, though not all the time, please.

But I'm really not up for putting him down or that kind of humiliation kink. Bleh.

TheCounsellingGamer · 2025-12-27T21:20:46+00:00

My ex had an emasculating kink. I had no problem with the kink, except it was something that he was genuinely very insecure about it. He was on the smaller end, and he refused to have penetrative sex with me because he thought he wouldn't be able to satisfy me. He also got very upset when I bought a dildo, because it was bigger than him. I'm talking screaming, sobbing, the whole nine yards.

When he told me that he had a kink for being humiliated about his size, I was confused. We did try it a couple of times, but I felt very uncomfortable with the whole thing. I think if we'd had an otherwise normal sex life, it would have been fine.

csbm_ · 2025-12-29T15:56:43+00:00

I mean, I'm into cucking and all the related femdom stuff so I'd be happy to hear that. Realistically, I likely would've known about it from the beginning and we would've started the relationship with that knowledge, so it wouldn't be a surprise or anything.

uglysaladisugly · 2025-12-30T08:27:00+00:00

People have kinks... I'd not be able to bring him satisfaction about this kink. I'd also be worried that this kink may be a coping mechanism to a trauma or something that is very hard on him and thus, would be very attentive to him around this subject. How does he feel with his masculinity, his body, his gender, his position as a man in the world, etc.

Emergency-Sell-6713 · 2025-12-31T08:01:40+00:00

I don't know, I'd be pretty worried if it's what you describe because it seems like it's not actually something you like and more so something you're cursed with ? I know that some humiliation kinks can be acquired through actual serious self esteem issues...

Poppy_Luvv · 2025-12-26T21:07:25+00:00

I'd probably start planning a way to break up with him.

I don't trust men to be "unfulfilled" in their sexual desires and I have no interest in doing things I get nothing out of.

ResponsibilityAny217 · 2025-12-26T19:29:45+00:00

How would you react to your man having a facet of his sexuality be emasculation, humiliation?

Reluctant but willing.

I'd be willing to try as long as it didn't make me too uncomfortable.

For example : I don't want to call him really mean or degrading names or really hurt him or do anything gross.

Mild stuff I would be more willing. Way more willing to humiliate him than humiliate myself though .

kalashhhhhhhh · 2025-12-26T15:34:59+00:00

That's not really my thing, I'm quite submissive and wouldn't enjoy humiliating my bf.

glowy97 · 2025-12-26T16:50:20+00:00

It would turn me on more than anything else probably 😂😂

mashedturnip · 2025-12-26T18:55:49+00:00

Having to put down women to make a man happy ? No thanks

Title	How would you react to finding that your man experiences an emasculating sexual kink?
Author	Scary-Mouse4817
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Date	December 26, 2025 3:09 PM UTC (7 months ago)
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