I had posted this on the AITA sub and everyone but a few people told me my husband is abusive and that I should leave him. But in my heart, I know that's not true. That sub is quite liberal, so they may see normal leadership behavior from the man of the house as "abusive". So I need to know what you ladies think. Also, I would really appreciate suggestions on how I can make things better.
I'm a stay at home mom. I cook, clean, iron, pick up and drop off kids to and from their activities. I also make a conscious effort to look good for my husband. I try to be the best wife and mother I can possibly be.
However, it's not easy. I do get tired and sometimes I'm not in the mood to have sex with my husband at the end 9f the day. Two nights ago, after a long and tiring day, I crawled into bed and just wanted to sleep.
My husband bwgan touching me and tried to kiss me. We kissed for a while, but I told him I was tired and didn't want to have sex. He asked me to give him oral sex. I said I didn't want to do that either. I was very exhausted.
He became upset and told me I was being unreasonable. When I tried to explain to him that I was really tired, he got angry and told me to go sleep on the couch if I wasn't going to make myself useful in bed. I begged him to calm down, but he said he was laying down the law. He picked up my pillow and three it out of the bedroom.
I left the room quietly and slept on the couch in the living room. The next morning I tried to apologize to him, but he just gave me angry looks. When he came home that evening, I had prepared his favorite meal and was made up and in a nice dress. But He is still being very cold. I usually don't refuse him anything. And I don't think refusing sex just because I was tired should result in me being punished like this. I really don't know what to do.
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