This morning, my brother contacts me and begins to tell me about his weekend. Specifically tells me about his gf & how amazing she is. Detailing how she asked him what was wrong and how she listened to him for over an hour rant and even gave him advice.
I took pause to this because I recall how I had done a similar thing in my twenties with not one relationship. But 3 in total. Never have a girl be your emotional tampon. Do you need advice? Call a level headed man for advice. Need to cry? Do so alone or, again, with a level headed man (be it your pastor, father, best friend, etc...) Don't contact a girl. Don't contact your mother, your sister, your best friend that is a girl, etc... Seek the advice and comfort from a man. Don't contact the guy that's gonna tell you you're being gay or the guy that will say fuck bitches and get money.
Seek sound advice and sound comfort from a male. Call your Uncle that you haven't talked to in 3 years if needed.
Did your dog die? Things at work are terrible? Maybe your mother passed away? Use that excuse as time AWAY from your plate(s) as "you're busy". If you have an S.O. Tell her you need time to be alone because xyz(fill in blank) occured. The less details the better. Time apart allows her heart to grow founder anyways.
Always make sure that your girl or plate(s) sees & ALSO HEARS you as confident, in frame, & able to accept everything life throws at him. This gives you the appearance to her, that you are very powerful emotionally.
TLDR: Do not ever allow your frame / emotional wall down and "vent" to a woman. They are NEVER to be your emotional tampon.