Sat folding my underwear & getting upset.

lansburysoda · 2021-06-14T22:25:22+00:00

Most American films are written and directed entirely by men. Their audacity knows no bounds. It’s psychological warfare.

Women do the choosing in nature. How they look to us is actually the important thing, not vice versa. Remember that.

Watzoo · 2021-06-15T01:08:37+00:00

Girl. Men spend so much time, energy, and money trying to get close to a naked p***y. Any guy who makes it 98% of the way there and blows it with a weird judgey underwear obsession is dealing with his own demons. Be glad you know before he potentially knocks you up. You don’t want people with that kind of self-destructive tendency in your life.

r4nd0m-u53r · 2021-06-14T23:16:00+00:00

I always like to think of Bridget Jones diary where she picks the high wasted support underwear and then ends up making out with a guy but he laughs and finds them cute. He should be so thrilled to be making out with your undergarments are the last thing he is concerned with and if he is then throw the man out !

drunkenwithlust · 2021-06-15T00:27:52+00:00

Girl I gave up on sexy undies SOOOO long ago. I was sick of feeling weird down there, here I find out even the comfy, mildly butt ugly VS panties I had were made from inexcusable synthetic fabrics. That shit should be made from cotton, PERIODT. I resigned to a couple of packages of Fruit of the loom hipsters and have never looked back. Comfortable and healthy is the sexiest panties. Doesn't matter the size. Butt floss into the Trash 🗑🚮

Bonus that my man loves them but I don't give a shit if he don't

ASeaOfQuotes · 2021-06-14T19:54:52+00:00

I used to be self conscious about my underwear, not sexy enough, too big, too many “granny panties”, but one day I realized I don’t care about the opinion of a man that isn’t going to even see them, and I replaced all of them with 24 pairs of the most comfortable high waisted black cotton undies.

Men can’t even style themselves, they don’t get an opinion on my panties! 😅

lilpuzz · 2021-06-15T01:05:38+00:00

I watched that movie for the first time a few months ago and my jaw was on the floor the entire time for the exact same reason. I think movies have gotten much better since then; the 90s etc. were a TERRIBLE time for rom coms as far as women’s self-esteem

pickadaisy · 2021-06-15T01:51:08+00:00

Men will literally bang trash.

Society uses this type of messaging “your underwear must be attractive” to maintain control over us, distract us from our reckoning, burden and financially drain us.

I’ve worn all types of undies in my life, I’m almost 40, and I’ve been around many a block. No guy has ever cared about my day-to-day underwear in any significant fashion. Do some enjoy a special occasion? Sure. Do some just have a particular affinity for lace? Sure. That’s no different than a man in a nice suit and cuff links - he looks dashing but I don’t expect him to show up like that for a casual date. 😂

None of the men I sleep with should be commenting on my undies, my clothes, my jewelry, my hair, my body — if it’s not to compliment me in some way.

As a now FDSer, my expectations aren’t just an absence of negativity. Men I choose need to be as inherently raging feminists as I am and find me more sexually attractive for making practical choices that do not get in the way of me fighting the patriarchy.

IndividualRoutine661 · 2021-06-14T21:15:02+00:00

I like a bit more coverage myself, prefer the shorts style. Fancy matching underwear generally has scratchy lace.

Be comfortable, the chances of you ever needing to throw them at someone unless you start going to Tom Jones concerts is not high.

waddamelone · 2021-06-15T01:24:47+00:00

I recently bought new period underwear. They’re hella highwaisted and I was looking at them yesterday. I chuckled when I saw how big they were. They reminded me of a pillowcase.

But idc. They’re really comfy and I actually like the highwaist. They don’t cut into my skin and are a bit roomy. I like it a lot.

apple_cores · 2021-06-14T20:01:36+00:00

How times have changed - now everyone wants bigger underwear (booty). I wear the most comfortable underwear I can find that covers my whole bottom and doesn’t ride up. Usually bikini or hipster style. Target has pretty good ones!

45235235346457568780 · 2021-06-14T21:42:34+00:00

I wear men’s boxer briefs. Nothing more comfy for me. I don’t care who likes it, my vagina likes to breathe 😆

TrueWitch · 2021-06-14T21:34:32+00:00

Whenever my female socialisation shows up and my mind wonders if I'm attractive enough, I remind myself that most men would fuck raw chicken, under the right circumstances. Am I going to bother about the opinion of someone who potentially finds everything - and I mean everything - attractive/fuckable? Hell nah.

woadsky · 2021-06-15T02:10:46+00:00

If I could clone myself I would learn how to make my own extremely soft and comfortable panties and bralettes and camisoles. Only pima cotton with a touch of spandex and very soft lace made out of cotton. Breathable, no riding up the crotch or binding around the chest. Interesting sexy colors and subtle patterns. Then I'd make more and try to sell them.

woadsky · 2021-06-15T02:14:42+00:00

A while ago I became indignant at how uncomfortable women's undergarments are and I decided to change. Granny panties or high cut with full bottom coverage, and no bra whatsoever (only bralettes or camisoles). What a relief. I also only wear comfortable shoes and I'm experimenting with how little I can carry in a small handbag, or skip it all together and keep only a wallet in my pocket like men do. I like feeling comfortable and free!

Twolipz_78 · 2021-06-14T20:13:33+00:00

I know one way to fix this, just don’t wear underwear, that’s what I do, lol!

Protoetype · 2021-06-14T22:27:56+00:00

I would NEVER...

NEEEVER..

Fold my underwear. You got time to fold yours? Girl, fill that time with something fun. Don't buy into that shit that you have to make dicks hard to deserve love.

SlightlyCapsized · 2021-06-15T05:07:37+00:00

Yeah they don't directly address how ugly and fat Hal was, that's for sure, but I think that's cause they want to make him seem even worse, not only is he shallow, he is also your average incel, as is his friend (he even has a tail?! But is still being women to impossible standards).

The part I do hate about it is that he only changes when he thinks Rosemary is incredibly attractive and caring and nice? That's impossible! She's supposed to be shallow too, cause she's so pretty! And then he gains back normal vision and it makes sense why she has such a great personality is because she is ugly. It makes it seem like women who aren't conventionally attractive have to make up for it with being nice and that the ones who are are terrible people. So he didn't really do a lot of growing anyways, that's still very shallow.

solstice100 · 2021-06-15T05:47:24+00:00

I’ve been buying On Gossamer Mesh Hip Bikini panties in sets of 3 and I’m obsessed. They make me feel like I’m not even wearing underwear- no digging into my waist or giving me a wedgie + so light and breathable. I also just enjoy owning beautiful things and they look so elegant in an understated way when I see them in my underwear drawer. A dream ✨

MissouriBlue · 2021-06-15T08:01:40+00:00

If you’re having sex, he’s not interested in your underpants.

Never have I ever had a guy look at my drawers and decide he didn’t like them enough to hanky-panky…

You wear what is comfortable and makes you feel like a million bucks! Or go commando. Or whatever your rear end likes best!

💕

chasingshoesales · 2021-06-14T22:41:56+00:00

Jack Black was always infuriating to watch

noseatbeltsong · 2021-06-15T03:53:01+00:00

Wait, people fold their underwear? I just throw mine in the underwear draw and then rummage around everyday for the most comfortable looking pair lol

LouMoo82 · 2021-06-15T00:50:03+00:00

Don't worry, bad body image doesn't go away when you are skinny. I went to eating disorder recovery (outpatient but 7 days/week 11hrs/day) for 6 weeks and it was really scary for me to begin exercising again especially since I have allergies now, I eat Paleo which normally is helpful for weight loss but I have to eat 24/7 to maintain my weight (was emaciated before recovery, was 155 after anorexia recovery, now 130, 5'7) since I can't eat normal carbs or dairy or nuts due to legitimate (tested with physician) allergies that developed a few years ago.

Anyway, just some background. I'm a size 6. I like my body, but now I have a new problem: almost all the time I'm wondering "am I too skinny"? I know my bmi is not unhealthy but I feel unhealthy, because I have knobby knees and skinny legs. I try to hike, do yoga and strength building core (stability is so important), but I had to check myself because "body checking" (is my body good enough? How about now? Now?) Is literally a symptom of ED and so I put a curtain on my bathroom mirror and a Norman Rockwell painting ("girl at the mirror").

I'm just saying, you can have equal level of mental problems with your body and your size when you are skinny. I never felt like this as a teenager (probably because I WAS a teenager) but now in my mid twenties I'm like "do I look like a child? Is he going to think I'm hot or look like a child? Oh god what If he watches creepy teen porn and he only wants to date me because I'm skinny and look like a teenager?"

We all need to love ourselves and personally I couldn't do it without Jesus Christ. With Jesus I can just throw myself away but still have strength and peace and a feeling that I'm not out of control. I love Jesus and I use the NLT recovery Bible (Stephen artebaum wrote the footnotes, really helpful and comforting). I also like an eating disorder meditation book (really a mild book, one short read per day) called "inner harvest"

You worry your underpants are too big, I worry if mine are too small (I'm a size 6 but I always feel like a teenage girl or boy, I have small boobs and generic white girl butt). We all are going to worry but just be glad you have a beating heart, two eyes and legs that work. Cover your mirror with a pretty picture. Do yoga (yoga with Adriene on YouTube). Do anything other than think bad stuff about yourself. Besides, having a curvy figure (big bum) is in these days. I feel self conscious I'm not busty or have a big butt. I saw an overweight lady the other day but her body was banging, she had a very round prominent butt. Even if you are overweight, you can still be very attractive if you keep the muscles underneath the fat in good shape, your muscles play a much bigger part in attractiveness than your size or your fat. Lots of women feel empowered weightlifting.

Anyway, I feel for you but understand being skinny WILL NOT solve any problems. The mini trampoline brings me joyful cardio and yoga brings strength and stability. I used to run a lot but I'm too scared to now although I really should because it would help me mental health.

macabrasive · 2021-06-20T01:20:17+00:00

This movie came out when I was 10 and I remember wondering, "How the hell does he think he can get a woman who looks like that, when he looks like that?" Even as a kid I was confused by that premise.

Title	Sat folding my underwear & getting upset.
Author	LouMoo82
Upvotes	727
Comments	104
Date	June 14, 2021 7:40 PM UTC (5 years ago)
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