I know there’s a pinned post about not dating for a year after the divorce. For some, maybe for most, it’s a good advice. I want to offer an alternative point of view that may help some.

My divorce is very fresh, we’re still in the 6 month waiting period before the state declares we are divorced. Luckily I lost about 30 pounds last year and went hiking and have some pretty good photos that I can put on the dating apps.

I went on Bumble and Hinge apps. In my opinion the others were crap. I’m in my 40s, but have a masters degree and I’m over 6 feet so maybe that works for me. I’ve lived in several states, and I have a lot of funny stories. I am currently talking to 80 women!! I probably talked to 500 and I narrowed it down to these 80, but new ones contact me every day. I’m going on dates pretty much every day. Sometimes on weekends I’ll have a lunch date and a dinner date with a different person. It’s getting to the point where I don’t know their names anymore.

I love the feeling when we are at the end of the first date and we face each other, they hold my hands and look up at me with those doe eyes and a big smile and I can’t help but kiss them. Another nice feeling is when we are walking and I put my arm around them and they reciprocate, or they push themselves into me. Also dancing is a fave of mine, they look up at me as we’re slow dancing and have a big smile and they run their hands over my biceps. One thing I like is they’re always giving me compliments. My ex never did, I didn’t realize how starved I was of that. I know you are thinking “it’s still early, my ex was like that, but then she changed” and that’s in the back of my mind as well. I don’t know what is the end game, I don’t know if one will actually capture my heart and make me delete the apps. I don’t know that I want to get married again or have more kids. But in the mean time I’m just enjoying doing what I should have been doing in my 20s instead of getting married young. I’ll keep going on dates and enjoying the company of good women. It has also helped me not think about my ex, I have no time!