They never loved us

chestpubesandballfro · 2023-08-13T14:57:02+00:00

I drew this same conclusion.

I’m a programmer by trade so I am safe, calculated, analytically minded, financially stable and a well rounded human…. or the Dork in modern culture.

21 years, 3 kids and the American dream later, I find out at a golf tournament that I sponsored that my x was literally screwed my terribly generic “bad boy” business partner.

It wrecked me.

After a year and a half of separation, and about 30 dicks later, she had the nerve to ask our kids to ask me if she could come back….

Thats a firm no from me dog🤘🏻 (she didn’t realize that I owned the intellectual property rights to my company. My business partner was just a good salesman, Aka replaceable)

Enjoy your single room flea bag apartment.

Prenups are gold, but postnups are forever❤️

lyricbaritone2 · 2023-08-13T12:43:27+00:00

It's true. Society has allowed these women to not honor their commitments. They are not inherently loyal to a man as who he is. It's the utility they are attached to. The bee's and resources are what they really want now. They seek to be the star of their own social media movie.

salty-sheep-bah · 2023-08-13T16:08:24+00:00

My ex told me she "shouldn't have to settle". After 15 years I assumed we had both willfully settled. Isn't any marriage by definition settling? But ok babe, you need more. Now she makes chicken strips at Publix.

berniefl44 · 2023-08-13T14:35:31+00:00

Guys, you don’t understand. Women become different people during and after the divorce. You will not recognize them anymore. They are not the same person you married. They become robots out for revenge and drama and anger. They will do anything to make your life a misery forever. They are angry because they will never find another guy especially if they have kids…My ex Wife wouldn’t even stop on the side of the road if I was dying to help me.. She would keep on driving past me… That’s just the way it is …Sad but true

colobat · 2023-08-14T02:12:37+00:00

I’m going through the exact same thing, divorced after 15 years married .. 19 together … lost the house , all our friends (they don’t talk to me no more) lost 80% of my assets .. she got the house that’s paid off, plus money every month. I now rent a room out with roommates .. oh and she has a BF, apparently everyone on fB knows about this but me .. im so embarrassed, and alone and just angry with myself for being in this situation. Everyone is like ohhh things will get better .. it’s been 2 years and im still struggling to piece my entire life together while she renovated the entire house, being a man is tuff

tragicaddiction · 2023-08-13T13:30:58+00:00

the "i deserve someone better" is definitely something that was said by my stbex

oh and this comment was a beautify too that she shared her sister told her "there is nothing special about him, why are you still with him?" after she napped someone rich.

i think in the beginning everything was ok because we were the best option, then the comparisons comes out and they feel they could have done better.

"why didn't you get me a push present" -> apparently some acquittance of hers got an expensive gift because she birthed their child and this is apparently something now. never heard of it before.

so the expectations is that you have to continuously treat them like they are better than you and you should be so lucky to be with them while they don't' cook, clean, take care of the children, work just as much as you and use sex as a weapon.

BurnDownTheMission68 · 2023-08-13T13:49:09+00:00

It’s true.

Men really need to get this romantic idealism of what marriage/wife should be out of their dumb heads.

Relationships between adults are transactional.

captainchippsixx · 2023-08-13T16:51:33+00:00

And just a heads up. They think it’s funny.
My ex said to her friends first marriage for children, 2nd for love. They can all F right off.

northdakotact · 2023-08-13T16:45:36+00:00

In hindsight, looking back at the very beginning she was playing the long con from the very first summer over 35 years ago. They all engage in some level of physical/sexual/emotional fraud to get you on the hook.

sixtysixpixistix · 2023-08-13T20:22:17+00:00

The truth is so, so much worse than that.

In the game of love, men are idealists and women are opportunists. Therefore, she did love you, but a woman's love is such that she may switch it off for the sake of convenience...

For men a woman is not attracted to, she has a set of rules and boundaries she adheres to religiously. For men she is attracted to, she always has a reason to break her rules and soften her boundaries.

The conclusion that she was merely using you for what you could provide is still intact and correct. The horrible corollary of said conclusion is that no woman will ever share your capacity for love. Nature is an asshole.

SecretDoctor8121 · 2023-08-13T14:03:46+00:00

We actually love the women.They only love our money and assest

sicrm · 2023-08-13T13:24:00+00:00

look up the light switch effect.

Character_Hippo90 · 2023-08-13T12:44:04+00:00

This is the adage that women are indoctrinated with from a young age, while guys are encouraged to simply work hard. We're not mentored in how to form confidential relationships and how to express vulnerabilities. Sure, we have romantic agendas, but have no followup in case things go south. We learn by default and it hurts.

rocketlaunchedducks · 2023-08-13T13:14:42+00:00

I don't think it's that the love never existed... I don't buy that. For women or men. There was a time when every marriage was exactly what both people wanted. But needs and wants change. And we all tell ourselves the lie that it never existed to make things easier. The truth is... someone, probably both of you, changed. And the love you had was just a season of life - seasons changed, the relationship changed. And maybe the season would have come back, maybe not, maybe you need to find it with someone else. That's just the journey of life my dude.

boltznut · 2023-08-13T13:14:33+00:00

I'm feeling all of this. Too many facts throughout. Nice to see it acknowledged.

Ever-learning271 · 2023-08-13T15:55:25+00:00

We are MEN; we serve our purpose and move on—nothing more, nothing less!

ThePhunkyPhantom13 · 2023-08-14T14:41:25+00:00

I found out my Ex actually resented me for asking her to marry me. I had "trapped her" into marriage just by the fact that I asked her to. She said she had to say yes because it would look bad otherwise.

I think back to all the joking we had over about how stunned she was when I proposed and had to snap back to reality after a pause to say yes. I thought I just surprised her and boy did I. I just did not know that the joke was one me the hole time.

For the better part of a decade afterward every smile and "I love you" towards me was secretly underscored with I never wanted to marry you, I resent you for this and I do not love you.

She really just liked the outside perception of it all and even when in a final confrontation of it was confused why I did not want to keep up the charade.

CrazySanta7 · 2023-08-13T14:13:07+00:00

It's a survival mechanism linked to biology. Don't hate women, but understand their nature. Men value youth, beauty, inexperience (not just sex), and women who don't seek male attention. Women seek provisioning, support, and a man with a future. Men look to a woman's past, and a woman looks at the man's future. Are there exceptions? Yes. But they are getting harder and harder to find due to feminism, only fans, social media, etc. Attention is currency for MOST women.

MoodyMusical · 2023-08-13T14:54:13+00:00

That's exactly what happened to me. I was a springboard

lebonroidagobert · 2023-08-15T00:53:55+00:00

Fuck em

SecretDoctor8121 · 2023-08-13T14:02:43+00:00

Yep...This is Man for them.Just a tool and nothing else but the sad thruth even the constitution look at us expandable,disposable,replaceable.... Love never exist in the first place...just stupid chemicals in your brain makes you think it is real.Once that worn off you come to the harsh truth which is this what you write down.

stent00 · 2023-08-13T14:09:20+00:00

Mine was with me cause she said she was comfortable. You know didn't have to work etc and have me pay for everything

Mountain_Collar_7620 · 2023-08-13T13:43:20+00:00

I’m sorry guys 🤗 it is what it is 🤷🏻‍♂️

Dismal_Elevator_110 · 2023-08-13T17:29:57+00:00

I disagree with you guys 30 plus years here and it's not about the values they took it's about commitment and human dignity nay f kk that crap they became easy lays as soon as they got a chance without a second thought about you . It's disgusting once you find out it a tremendous blow to a person . So I say soldier on men or woman find a better life without that cheater .

CB33isGMC · 2023-08-14T04:00:09+00:00

Husband = sucker. Never again.

RideATX · 2023-08-15T20:47:06+00:00

I disagree. My kid's mom absolutely loved me, by her words and actions. She definitely felt love for over 10 years, women's actions don't lie over the long term. The difference is for her it was a feeling and when she started to FEEL differently she followed her feelings. Men CHOOSE love and stick to their commitment. You've heard a guy described as a man of his word, have you ever heard a girl described as a woman of her word? Bottom line, she's not yours, it was just your turn.

AlexAllen7729 · 2023-08-13T12:34:01+00:00

Damn dude. I know it sucks. Just know there’s a girl out there you will give butterflies to.

MGTOWManofMystery · 2023-08-13T15:12:15+00:00

Plot twist - in some cases (many?), the kids are the bad boy's!

Acrobatic_Access_905 · 2023-08-16T18:37:27+00:00

Women love to have what they want. When you are no longer wanted, they can't love you anymore. It's just a biological disconnect between how women are and how society works. That's why we see so many divorces initiated by college educated women. Working women. When men aren't of value to them, they bite our heads off like black widows.

Title	They never loved us
Author	ww3historian
Upvotes	120
Comments	143
Date	August 13, 2023 12:12 PM UTC (2 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/Divorce_Men
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