Imagine being this useless

sallyseethe · 2022-02-28T14:36:18+00:00

And what do we call this behavior, class?

In unison now, "Weaponized incompetence"

edwardianemerald · 2022-02-28T13:53:41+00:00

Cringe.

feministcutie · 2022-02-28T15:13:54+00:00

This is what I do... to my mum when I was a teenager and had no clue what brands to buy. Not a full ass grown man. And even then I didn't spam the calls, I just took photos of the brands and sent it and waited for her reply. He's doing it intentionally to make her annoyed so in future she won't ask him to do it again.

Nifteroni-and-Cheese · 2022-02-28T15:42:17+00:00

Imagine being in a grocery store, where every isle is labeled, every item is required to have packaging that describes what’s inside, there are people working there who can help you find things or answer questions about products, you have the whole wide internet at your fingertips, and badgering your partner because you can’t be bothered to use your brain or your resources.

LittleSnackPack58 · 2022-02-28T17:16:59+00:00

Reminds of my a coworker that left detailed hand written instructions on how to care for their infant son for her LVM boyfriend (father of the child). They all live together and he's the unemployed "stay at home dad" that doesn't care for their child, do chores, clean, cook, or pay any bills. She posted the instructions on Facebook with a laughing emoji face because it's adorable that he's clueless.

shoesfromparis135 · 2022-02-28T21:37:45+00:00

As a person who briefly lived abroad and had to figure out how to grocery shop in an entirely different language and dietary culture, it blows my mind that men act like they can’t pick up three things from the grocery store. It’s not hard. If you have a question, LOOK IT UP ON THE TINY HANDHELD COMPUTER YOU CARRY EVERYWHERE IN YOUR POCKET. Ugh.

linabliu · 2022-02-28T16:03:55+00:00

My aunt never lets my uncle go shopping alone. Her excuse? "He DOESN'T know better!"

Enabling much?

Oh! And she also cuts up his meals for him.

He's 56!!!

Defiant_Error_ · 2022-02-28T14:15:28+00:00

Who upvotes this crap... 🙄

Maingurl · 2022-02-28T15:06:57+00:00

Some men stay acting like adult toddlers.

Carneliancat · 2022-02-28T13:47:33+00:00

Feigned incompetence. I'm pretty sure that when he was on his own, he was able to navigate a grocery store just fine. Divorce.

The_Cat_Empress · 2022-02-28T16:17:26+00:00

Unless she wants a specific type of multigrain bread then WTF?!

If he gets lost then ASK. They change the layout here all the time. Sometimes it takes looking goofy and wandering around to find what’s on the list.

Don’t spent too much time there though because you’ll buy 50 different types of chocolate…like me.

3alabali · 2022-02-28T13:54:49+00:00

Imagine harassing your spouse over three grocery items

Zurflu · 2022-02-28T15:15:32+00:00

Probably was intentional to make her regret not doing it herself. He was on the way there already thinking about how he was going to do this.

MsXxSelfDestructxX · 2022-02-28T21:28:08+00:00

that is not funny at all that would give me a migraine

DeliciousFlow8675309 · 2022-02-28T18:02:20+00:00

My ex husband was like this, when he couldn’t do his laundry, I shrunk his clothes. When he couldn’t bring the right good home I didn’t cook, when he couldn’t stay with his child I’d invite his mother over and go out anyway, when my mil critiqued my cleaning and cooking I let her do it and enjoyed some me time. Eventually we split but towards the end it was a magical time of letting the weapons formed against me prosper right back on to him!

Smoochiesublime · 2022-02-28T20:49:06+00:00

Imagine being utterly useless but not even having the foresight to make a list, double check, and ask all the questions in one call?

How much do you wanna bet he also didn't pick up things that weren't explicitly asked for (reckon he didn't notice they were almost out of washing up liquid or toilet paper) or anything even remotely thoughtful "just because".

elementalvirago · 2022-02-28T16:01:31+00:00

He couldn't find the shallots.

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thicctoria · 2022-02-28T17:52:53+00:00

Is it funny? Or does she have to laugh or she’d cry instead? Nobody’s laughing here. This is tragic. Imagine wasting your life living with someone that can’t do something as basic as grocery shop. I could never.

MyLifeIsWandsXIII · 2022-02-28T16:08:46+00:00

Hahahah incompetent husband funny 😂😂

mothertuna · 2022-02-28T16:37:22+00:00

I either do order pickup or give a list. If he can’t find exactly what I asked for, he won’t get it. What the hell do you need to call for? If you live in the same house and always eat the same foods, you should know what you’re looking for. Useless, clueless and trifling.

mynamespaghetti · 2022-02-28T18:04:47+00:00

I loathe grocery shopping, so I’m an avid user of instacart. If a dude picks up my order, I always cringe. They can’t find things or make any decent replacement recommendations. I’ve had one single dude that impressed me and didn’t stress me the whole time.

Once I was making something specific and the guy couldn’t find ricotta because “they were out”. I needed it for my recipe, so went to the same store that same afternoon… they had plenty of ricotta. But because it was in a non-obvious location, “they were out”.

ArtisticBrilliant491 · 2022-02-28T19:06:37+00:00

I saw this and died!!!!! Talk about weaponized incompetence! This is the VERY definition of it. Girl, just throw the entire man out after this stunt.

I call it a "stunt" cuz that's what it is, an intentional act designed to mislead and alarm. He knows what he's doing and should be shown the door for it. Immediately. If he's gonna play games like this over groceries, do ya think he's gonna help out when the shit really hits the fan? Bye asshole. Go play gamezzzz with some one else.

spicyspa · 2022-03-01T02:43:49+00:00

Back in the day, my ex was so useless I wouldn't allow him to shop alone. It was either me or my daughter who was around 8 who would put crap back and follow the list. Otherwise I'd be hounded with calls (no smartphone back then). I still feel bad about having my daughter supervise my ex if I was at work. However, my daughter is very self sufficient because of it.

livingthroughthis · 2022-02-28T16:23:28+00:00

oh, yeah.. weaponized incompetence so he never has to go to the grocery store again, truly hilarious...

this reminds me of that woman on tiktok that made a COLLAGE because her husband "wasn't able to find the things by himself" I truly pity these women

radfem_babe · 2022-03-01T02:24:10+00:00

I know it's weaponized incompetence but even if it isn't, why stay with him?

If man is too stupid to go grocery shopping, wash a dish, fold laundry, I'm not sticking around.

How embarrassing.

The first time this fuckery happens, leave.

And I will tell him to his face that he is a pathetic loser.

(If it's safe to do so. You know, using intuition, red flags, sensing bad vibes; there is usually a sign or several that a man will get violent)

highoncatnipbrownies · 2022-02-28T16:13:33+00:00

I know guys like this... if he leaves the house alone there's sure to at least a dozen calls...

anon_throw_blonde · 2022-02-28T14:03:35+00:00

He should be embarrassed. How many women go to the store, or multiple stores, after planning 3 daily meals for a week without a mans input? Yet this immature child can’t go to the store without calling his wife not once but FOUR times? He’d never pull that with an employer. Why is it okay to treat his wife that way?

LonelyGrumpyGhost · 2022-02-28T14:05:51+00:00

Ah yes, having to repeatedly explain a basic life skill to a grown man. Hilarious.

Whateverforever9000 · 2022-02-28T14:35:10+00:00

Is he a child?

teekaya · 2022-02-28T15:57:07+00:00

There was one where this girl draws a map of the grocery store and the aisles so her husband knows where to pick stuff up. It actually breaks my heart that there’s grown ass women raising grown ass boys.

JoanGreenCat · 2022-02-28T16:45:37+00:00

The worst thing is if you go to some large super market there are A LOT of men on the phone asking (most likely their partner or mom) what to buy or where to find it or how spaghetti pasta looks like.

Cocoo_B · 2022-02-28T17:52:53+00:00

The fact that she felt this was appropriate to post on a sub meant for funny content… Women are so psychologically ruined by men’s incompetence that they resort to self-deprecating humor just to cope. Tragic

zxdlx · 2022-02-28T18:11:03+00:00

How do you get to the point of marriage without knowing how incompetent someone is

Free_Acanthisitta446 · 2022-03-01T00:32:58+00:00

My ex husband last week, when I solved the problem of getting after school care for our kids after he screwed up (he got a new job so he couldn’t do it anymore; so I told him great now you can find care), that “you always took care of all this stuff. I’ve never, like, had to call places and ask prices and stuff.” And I finally got a number of a nanny and handed it to him, told him to call and he sighed and said “can’t YOU do it? I think we’ve established I’m not good at this stuff.”

mercybenelli · 2022-02-28T18:50:49+00:00

Okay, my dad is a NVM piece of shit in pretty much every way imaginable, but he at least can be sent to the store without calling my mom every two minutes. Pathetic.

cherrylilith333 · 2022-02-28T13:39:44+00:00

Seems like she should make him do this more. Clearly he needs to learn how to adult. Time for him to buy groceries every week now. On top of his job. The horrors! Oh and when he forgets her snacks or gets the wrong cold cuts for their kids’ lunches, I guess he will have to go back to the store again! Leave men no space for weaponized incompetence. Send that right back to them!

Junior_Accountant420 · 2022-02-28T14:24:12+00:00

This guy is clearly exaggerating incompetence so she won’t ever ask him to go grocery shopping again. And the wife is enabling him by advertising it on social media. Stop normalizing this behavior!

Certain-Year-5367 · 2022-02-28T14:54:27+00:00

My elder brother who is married with 3 kids go grocery shopping alone, I lived with him for years so I know. Never once did he call me nor his wife, we just give the list of things we nee and he buys everything on the list.

ProfessorialGator · 2022-02-28T15:12:18+00:00

But he's being so sweet! Look at these wholesome awards! It's the gesture that counts 🥺🥺 /s

Even tweens are more competent than this lazy, manipulative scrote. You bet he weaponises his incompetence in most/all areas of life. Throw the manchild out with the bathwater, except she can only gain by divorcing him.

strixjunia · 2022-02-28T15:31:07+00:00

Imagine being married to a useless manchild

mindless_empress · 2022-02-28T15:36:39+00:00

Do men not know what they need in their day to day life?? Jeez.. if you can't even send them on their own to the supermarket..their parents failed them..

peachsurf · 2022-02-28T16:03:21+00:00

Imagine thinking that this is funny or endearing?? He can’t pick up groceries alone and is a full grown man

GiantDairy · 2022-02-28T17:55:27+00:00

Cooking, shopping, cleaning up are integral parts of the vetting process.

thewetdog_ · 2022-02-28T18:08:58+00:00

Or this abusive that you want to make sure your wife is still at home or not talking to anyone else on the phone.

itsmecarlybee · 2022-02-28T21:25:56+00:00

Saw this post and instantly thought how pathetic it would be to have such a useless partner.

sallyseethe · 2022-02-28T14:36:34+00:00

And what do we call this behavior, class?

In unison now, "Weaponized incompetence"

thatsmisswitchtoyou · 2022-02-28T16:44:56+00:00

I hate how people found this endearing.... seriously?!?! 🤮

Spare me. This is another man who is incapable of performing basic shared household tasks.

CursedNurse · 2022-02-28T18:41:19+00:00

i usually suspect men to be faking ineptitude on things we do already that they dont wanna do... I know, my father in law is like that and a slob, who was letting his 90 somehting yo mother do the dishes after making the meals and even folding his laundry for him util i moved into take her place on that..

foolishtimbit · 2022-02-28T19:13:41+00:00

Husbands acting like absolute fools who need to be babied by their wives will never be funny to me oml.

Watercress_Thin · 2022-02-28T19:20:11+00:00

They can function at their jobs, why can’t they function irl?

maidenhair_fern · 2022-02-28T20:09:36+00:00

A reasonably well raised ten year old should be able to put together a shopping list and select groceries. Men are infants.

howlsmovingcactus · 2022-02-28T23:00:54+00:00

I experienced this when I dated a useless man who didn't even know how to make a fucking sandwich beyond peanut butter and jelly. The grocery store was like a maze to him. Tons of calls! This isn't a rarity, folks... SMDH

One_Growth331 · 2022-02-28T23:15:28+00:00

Weaponized Incompetence.

anakinakova · 2022-03-01T01:04:03+00:00

I thought my ex was the only one who did this haha. It's amazing how he would want to consult me on things like snacks, but major life decisions or something to do with our child he would just go off and do on his own without even telling me.

Hairy-Emotion5285 · 2022-03-01T07:17:11+00:00

Ughhhh literally why I don’t send my husband to do the shopping unless I absolutely need something and can’t go out myself 🙄🙄 people telling me I need to rely on him more but weaponized incompetence is his specialty and to save myself the trouble, I just do everything myself. And he doesn’t understand that I’m so stressed all the time and how resentful I am towards him because I literally do everything except bring home a paycheck. All that’s left for me to do it work and get money literally. Sometimes I wish I could get my shit together and work so I could leave him behind, but we have kids and at the rage of prices rising, it’s very unlikely. A girl can dream though, right :/

ItsFreezen · 2022-03-01T12:38:27+00:00

If he did this to his boss he would be fired!

Capable-Cockroach-10 · 2022-02-28T20:40:43+00:00

I don't know if I have enough points to post yet, but going to try.

I felt lucky dating later in life as most men weren't fresh out of moms house and were generally more competent. I agree with everyone saying women enable men to be totally incapable like this, I'd leave them to starve, I'm simply not that woman.

If I send my bf to the store, it'll be for a very specific deal and he'll call a few times, which I'll mock him for (wasn't really his fault for 2 of the items as his store never updates the sale prices and he doesn't want me to have to go back later if it's wrong). He does most of the shopping on his own though, I only cook if I want to and he does most of the cleaning at both our houses.

Taffeta_Dream · 2022-03-01T01:16:03+00:00

This is not cute or endearing

Title	Imagine being this useless
Author	xfelugirlx
Upvotes	934
Comments	99
Date	February 28, 2022 1:26 PM UTC (4 years ago)
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