It's not kink shaming; it's refusing to buy into the bullshit. It's calling out depravity that serves men while destroying the lives of women. It's rising up against a system of oppression every woman on earth is laboring under, due to no fault of our own.

stinkylittlecat · 2021-02-08T03:46:36+00:00

Loosely related, people are quick to call anything kink shaming in attempt to get someone to feel guilty about not wanting to do something and frankly it's annoying. If I say I don't want to try X sex act it doesn't mean I'm kink shaming everyone who likes doing that. I'm saying I personally don't want to do it. That should be the end of that conversation. I don't need to hear about how exciting double penetration is from a dude, and how I don't know if I'll like it until I try it.

Fuckdoesithurt956 · 2021-02-07T22:07:24+00:00

Kinkshaming isn't oppression

bananamilk58 · 2021-02-08T00:17:45+00:00

God and what is it with grown adults posting about their personal sex lives and weird ass kinks so openly? It's so gross and tacky. No one asked. No one consented to seeing or hearing about your fucked up sex life. I had a woman who I follow on instragram (know her irl) posting about her boyfriend stopping at the hardware store to "try something new" in the bedroom. She also posted about "not knowing if you're playing clue or planning your sex life...do I go with the candlestick in the study or the rope in the kitchen?" Like. Girl. Clue is a murder mystery game and your bf is deranged. It's just really sad.

atlanicus · 2021-02-08T00:01:39+00:00

Scrotes be like “can you breast feed me, wash my clothes, and call me your favourite little boy? It turns me on”.

Like damn I think raising my own children would be easier at this point.

Mcccy · 2021-02-07T22:55:51+00:00

I'm done with women that are ALL into the exact 3 same stuff: 1)Anal 2) e-girl or a lolita aesthetic 3)choking, calling normal people "BoRiNg vaNillaS"

Starsuponstars · 2021-02-08T01:00:29+00:00

People defending Armie Hammer’s kinks (cannibalism) has been the most depraved shit I’ve read. It’s getting to a point where people will claim sex positivity for scat play because it’s “consensual”.

gutsandgorey · 2021-02-07T22:22:52+00:00

I understand the thought process behind not kink-shaming and I'm down to not shame people for what turns them on, but when you act on those thoughts and real women are harmed, I'm going to use every weapon in my arsenal to get you to stop, including shame.

randomgirlimok · 2021-02-07T23:13:13+00:00

My first boyfriend was 25 when I was 19. After a few weeks I found out he had a secret BDSM fetish and in his closet were whips and there were eyelets screwed into the wall for tying up his exGF who was apparently into it. Noped out of there so fast. I don’t understand why every guy I date ends up having some kind of awful secret and I’m just done. Where are the NORMAL guys at?!!

Pasdepromesses · 2021-02-07T21:59:29+00:00

Preach 🙌🏼

I shall, and will always kink-shame men who use it as an excuse for depravity.

seraphinelysion · 2021-02-08T00:00:46+00:00

It's not kink shaming. It's reversing the normalization of perversion.

shutup201 · 2021-02-08T09:02:21+00:00

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IndividualRoutine661 · 2021-02-07T22:35:21+00:00

THIS 💯

And let us also stop taking public policy advice from the kink community

Sleepymelmo · 2021-02-08T01:10:15+00:00

I was shamed for doing this exact thing... got into a whole debate with this woman on Reddit desperately defending this dude with an adult diaper fetish and his “Adult Diaper Superstore”. She’s all “pruuude.. it’s not hurting anyone!” Sure Jan. This is great for the environment, exactly what the world needs now... adult men jacking off in their diapers and ostracizing anyone who dares to point how sick and fucked up that is. Tell me more about how porn and fetish normalization is helping society while men get more addicted to porn everyday and can’t even have sex with an actual woman anymore. Is there any way the human race can possibly fuck up any harder than it has been lately ? Because I’m not sure how..

vacantvivacity · 2021-02-08T03:55:53+00:00

I’ve had a “open relationship” with a man who claimed to be only attracted to women who were financially and emotionally independent. His kink was fucking them raw, and he GRILLED me about any possibility of stds, even tho factually it’s WOMEN who experience the symptoms

2021-02-08T08:58:33+00:00

Abusive men love hiding behind “BDSM” as a way to hurt women. And if they simply ignore what you want and it turns into abuse and rape, they’ll just claim it was all consensual. And other people will join right in on blaming you. Just look at this current bullshit situation with Marilyn Manson. Tons of assholes preemptively victim blamed without even reading hardly anything about it. “Well if she was dating someone like him then she was probably into doing crazy BDSM shit- but now she regrets it so she’s just lying and calling it rape.”

Most men who whine about “kink shaming” are probably just pedos trying to stop feeling guilty for being pedos, or depraved abusive psychos trying to normalize their nasty perversions and their desire to hurt women.

relationship_reddit · 2021-02-08T01:03:36+00:00

Kink shaming should absolutely not be off limits! Just like with anything else on earth, if it's gross or abusive, we should be able to say something about it. Whether or not it gets someone hard or wet is irrelevant.

Emergency-Feed8216 · 2021-02-07T23:35:30+00:00

Hah, just got into this with a self pitying dude who denied seeing any red flags regarding the Pickmeisha who ultimately fleeced him. She did anal and performative sex (things that never gave any woman an orgasm in history), watched porn with men and did painful porn-style grooming. He argued these things were not red flags but, even if he wasn't particularly into those things, were valid choicey-choices and emPowEREd grooviness and that I was being puRItANICaL for judging.

For context, I wasn't really sympathetic to him being ripped off. This started as a discussion about which types of women I personally trust. I said radfems all the way, whether as friends, colleagues, managing my money or being around my kids. I made the point that, in my life experience, Pickmeishas often lack basic integrity, boundaries and principles on all counts. Not all but I've been burned enough to be wary. To the extent that someone accepts pain or boundary-breaches as the price of relationships, they may expect you to do the same and may more often than not dish those things out. I said if I was a guy, I'd only seek a relationship with a radfem. You know where you stand, there's an operating set of principles and any man worth his salt would end up better for keeping that kind of company. If I were a man I'd be scared to be with someone who only echoed and mirrored my tastes and values because of the demented rage that can brew under the surface of people who so thoroughly repress their souls to "fit in."

I think I won that debate but I don't really care what he does. I wouldn't wish anyone so half-baked on any of the queens I know.

LadyGrimes · 2021-02-07T23:21:41+00:00

Those people need to be put in asylums again.

Starsuponstars · 2021-02-08T07:11:54+00:00

Refusing to buy into the bullshit IS kink-shaming. Kink-shaming is not bad. We should be shaming men for objectifying and abusing women.

I love the way liberals think all shame is automatically bad. It's not. Some things absolutely deserve shaming, and I am proud to shame anyone who tries to oppress me or other women.

tinysilverstar · 2021-02-08T01:46:47+00:00

They act like us saying we are uncomfortable with overtly sexual and frankly perverse discussions is the same as shoving a gay person back in the closet.

thinktwiceorelse · 2021-02-08T08:07:31+00:00

People in my country would laugh their asses off if they heard there's a concept of "kinkshaming". Seriously, people who can't speak English probably never heard of it. I'd never heard of it, until I discovered reddit.

spicyspa · 2021-02-08T14:56:30+00:00

People who indulge in this depravity are likely to advocate for themselves to be called People of Kink. I have read some articles where they do you want to be added to lgbtq. It's nonsense it's like I should have a special carve out because I like to have my feet tickled. These people are dangerous.

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ShieldMaidenLagertha · 2021-02-08T06:51:10+00:00

Amen! 🤣

yellow_pterodactyl · 2021-02-08T02:02:04+00:00

What does this sub think about with the podcast ‘guys we fucked’?

(I’m not a fan, but I’m not going to actively hate them)

PrettyPopping · 2021-02-09T03:58:56+00:00

😷

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