Imagine that you've recently began a new relationship and started having sex. However, your partner seems clearly unenthused during penetrative sex, and later explains to you why: he isn't enjoying PIV very much because your vagina is too loose to give him pleasure. As a proposed solution, he asks you to stuff a fleshlight in your vagina during PIV sex, which is tight enough to actually satisfy him.

If you don't want to do this, the alternatives are to either forgo penetrative sex altogether (which is totally fine- you can still have a healthy sex life with fingers, oral, and toys), have him continue to perform "duty penetration" that he clearly doesn't enjoy, or open the relationship so he could find someone with a tighter vagina.

Now my two questions are:

  1. How would you feel in this scenario, and how would you react?
  2. How would you feel if this scenario happened in every relationship you got into? Would you develop any insecurities about your vaginal tightness, and if so, how would you attempt to alleviate them?