LOOKS WEEKLY DISCUSSION THREAD

infps · 2024-08-17T15:24:17+00:00

Go to an airport at 4:30 AM, when everyone just rolled out of bed and as in the long security line for their 5:15 flight. Sweats, no makeup, hair tied back, half barely brushed their teeth. You have to keep passing people, the line moves slowly, you can look at people.

What you'll notice is that other than size, and maybe pink vs gray sweats, and haircuts -- it's hard to tell women from men without a lot of work put in for the women to look like they're halfway back to age 17.

I think a lot of the '''beauty''' work women do is actually the societal work of differentiating the sexes at all. This has likely some social function beyond just "beauty."

shmupsy · 2024-08-15T20:38:32+00:00

Can we quash this thing that men expect women to put so much effort into their looks at almost ALL times? Guys sound off.

serpensmercurialis · 2024-08-14T20:13:04+00:00

What does an “average” attractiveness man and woman look like to you guys?

SevenLovedYouSoMuch · 2024-08-14T15:25:08+00:00

I need serious help. How do I boost my dopamine or whatever so I can stick to eating healthy and exercising. I just feel so far gone. I can't even begin. I always feel like I'm just trying to get through the day. Like I'm just spread so thin I can't keep up with anything. I could write down on paper everything I need to do. I know everything I need to do, but I just can't do it. Making small changes doesn't work because I just won't stick with them or I'll make the wrong choice for a few days and then just give up or the choices I make later in the day make the choices I made early in the day no longer beneficial. I'd say I'm probably low T, but I'm embarassed to ask because I'm so fat that the only thing they'll reccomend is losing weight but it's like a chinese finger trap situation. I can't lose weight because I'm probably low T and low in dopamine, but I can't boost my dopamine or T because I'm so overweight.

The only joy I get is eating shitty food, scrolling mindlessly through TikTok, and masturbating before I go to sleep and I don't even do that because I'm horny, I just do it because it helps me fall asleep quicker otherwise I'm restless and will just lay there for hours. None of these behaviors are healthy or positive, but if I give them up what joy do I even have left?

This is the problem with being obese is like, ok so I'm fat today. If I forgo certain choices I'll still be fat. I would have to forgo certain choices for hundreds of days before there is a real noticeable change and even then, is the change enough to sustain these new choices I should be making? It's like either way there is suffering, in just one scenario there are certain things that alleviate the suffering but I shouldn't be doing any of those things really so what is there? It just sounds so miserable. Not to mention I know that when I do lose the weight I'll have so much loose skin so in a way my body looks better fat than it does skinny because one solid shape is better than looking like a deflated balloon.

So the only benefit of losing weight would being able to be more active and clothes fitting better and looking nicer with clothes on. So are good things that I would actually want, but I just cannot get started or even stick with it. I want to keep a journal and write to-do lists but I can't even stick to that.

I just don't know what is wrong with me.

TruNorth556 · 2024-08-14T03:25:11+00:00

Are all posts on here subject to mod approval before going up? Or am I flagged for some reason?

BrainMarshal · 2024-08-14T02:50:07+00:00

If she doesn't love you at 5'6 she doesn't love you at 6 feet. Never forget that.

Cunning_Linguists_ · 2024-08-12T23:38:55+00:00

CMV:

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A lot of the disparity in women's ratings and men's ratings is due to "Women Are Wonderful Effect", women rate men hard and men rate men hard, both are easier on women.

Maractop · 2024-08-12T21:30:00+00:00

More women are seen as beautiful or cute because the standards for them to be seen as good looking are way lower than the standards that exist for men. Women have a way wider range of what can be considered attractive while the range for men is very narrow. Thats why the average man is seen as unattractive/ugly while the average woman is seen as cute

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Audi_fanboy · 2024-08-12T18:07:15+00:00

Having a nice face and a good looking body is cheating!

You guys have no idea, I feel like I'm playing on easy mode. No, I don't consider myself top tier, neither do I get everyone I want, far from that. But I'm not even putting effort to approach, they do it themselves. This has never happened before. I was a virgin 2 years ago, now we are on another leve, babyyy, let's go!

So yeah, looks do matter. Yeah yeah, be confident, have good posture, hygiene, know how to talk to people (underrated af), but go get those body and face gains, it will get you places.

Edit: Also, height is overrated, I'm 173cm and it isn't really a problem for me. My best buddy is 168cm and pulls double to triple the chicks I do, mans a monster at the game.

Clear-Poet-9212 · 2024-08-12T17:34:25+00:00

Facial attractiveness ratings in an Italian sample

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Savings-Bee-4993 · 2024-08-11T15:18:01+00:00

I think a big piece of ‘atttactiveness’ is not fixating on your level of attraction, being confident regardless of whether you adhere to ‘objective’ beauty standards.

Actively not focusing on worrying about it. (This doesn’t mean forgoing hygiene or dressing well.)

Thoughts?

K4matayon · 2024-08-11T10:57:34+00:00

After looking in the mirror for a little bit it looks like I have a slight positive cantal tilt is this a W?

Maractop · 2024-08-11T03:34:05+00:00

Me improving as a short man only puts me ahead of other short men who dont improve and that doesnt mean much as most women dont want short men anyway. Im still seen as less than average height and tall men who are average.

Maractop · 2024-08-11T00:54:26+00:00

Interesting...

I want to hear what women think about this. Anyone can chime in though

Attractiveness is a bigger piece of the pie than ever before. When my grandma and even mom were selecting their partners it was all about "Can this man provide, if so great, I'll do the rest". Looks were useless for them. For me because I can provide for myself I want to be attracted to my partner. I want a hottie. On Bumble I absolutely had a height filter and was veryyyyy selective until I stumbled on my bf who met all the shallow baseline criteria after being single for years. I wasn't in a rush. I felt pure raw lust for my bf. Of course we both wanted commitment but I would have wet dreams about him, I craved him. This is how I knew I could seriously pursue things with him. We both met in medical school so it's not about his potential to provide (though it does feel nice to know I'm likely very safe to take maternity leave without us going completely broke when that time comes), we are attracted to each other. Lust is a pillar here. We keep each other motivated to work out and be healthy all over and it just adds up well.

All this to say, don't let anyone convince you that sexual attraction is shallow or silly. It's a potent glue. A cement of sorts. I disagree with my bf occasionally but remembering that we love and are attracted to each other on a primal level helps a whole lot in navigating new stressful milestones and any conflict.

Redpill-mind · 2024-08-10T23:13:16+00:00

Brunettes>Blondes

Both>red heads

Andraticus · 2024-08-10T20:59:26+00:00

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?/10, what do you guys think?

Ultramega39 · 2024-08-10T19:39:27+00:00

For all the trouble that the internet has caused, I feel like one of the good things that has come out of my time on the internet is that I've realized that I'm not ugly.

Like I thought that most other guys have been asked out at least once. Or that random strangers (especially women) don't treat attractive people differently than unattractive people.

This might sound weird, but hearing a bunch of stories of men being treated poorly because of their looks has made me appreciate my physical appearance more. Because I don’t really relate to those stories.

I first started to have low self esteem about my appearance in 4th grade because this girl in my class bullied me and referred to me as a donkey once.

FunEducation1434 · 2024-08-10T19:23:13+00:00

https://np.reddit.com/r/HairTransplants/s/Lz0TFHYo8v

Lifefuel

Cunning_Linguists_ · 2024-08-10T18:37:35+00:00

new rule for ppd: If you fat then stfu

Dry-Ad3452 · 2024-08-10T18:27:23+00:00

Women be wearing underwear or less than that in public and expect men not to look.

Well, non-Chads that is...

MalePsychopath · 2024-08-10T17:47:41+00:00

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Ana de Armas is a very plain looking, average woman. Cute but a boring dime in a dozen.

That’s the kind of woman you can settle for because you won’t feel bad about it. Not awesome but good enough.

Spread-Em-Plz · 2024-08-10T17:11:15+00:00

It is absolutely crazy to me that there’s dudes who’d get leg lengthening surgery, before they’d go to the gym

And girls who’d get a BBL before going to the gym to build an actual nice proportional booty

People disappoint me. If you aren’t building a nice physique then you have genuinely zero right to complain (assuming you are able-bodied)

All the arguments against it are excuses and laziness

Ok-Coat7665 · 2024-08-10T16:32:38+00:00

I honestly think it’s brave for fat women to wear revealing clothes and I don’t mean that in a condescending way.

Electric_Death_1349 · 2024-08-10T16:20:34+00:00

I was eleven years old when I realised I was ugly; I was forced to go to a school disco with a cohort of older kids and towards the end there was a slow dance section where I got to watch the older boys dance with their girlfriends - I instinctively knew deep down that would never be me and I would never experience that; when I got home I cried

MikeArrow · 2024-08-10T16:09:17+00:00

https://np.reddit.com/r/AskMen/comments/1eod7r4/how_do_i_deal_with_being_an_ugly_guy/lhcongd/

In my late 30's I hit the gym hard and focused on eating clean and getting in the best shape I could. Took a year or so of extreme dedication to get shredded. Took some good B&W photos showing off my body and hit the apps. My face is no better than yours, but I met dozens of decently attractive women off the back of my shirtless douchebag photos, and most of them were interested in me once we met.

My reaction to this comment was "This should be auto commented on every dating advice post ever."

Am I right or am I right?

Hot_Lack_4868 · 2024-08-10T16:05:22+00:00

Is there anything to discuss on it lol . It's just that looks matters lot more to men than it does to men contrary to what people beleive and whatever reason is behind it the point still stands

LoFiPanda14 · 2024-08-10T16:03:06+00:00

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