Whenever this subject comes up you hear the same tired responses - “so should women just fuck men they aren’t attracted to?” as if their perceived value and inflated ego due to abundance of men wanting an easy lay hyping them up isn’t directly responsible for their “standards” and what they are “attracted” to. You’ve seen it time and time again, “attraction is not negotiable, etc.”

A classic example of the fluidity of one’s standards and how quickly they can adjust to circumstance is the prison effect. That is, men in prison switching teams in the absence of women. This is obviously the extreme because men are way hornier, but the same concept applies universally to all areas in which sexual attraction is involved. In this case, if women’s practically limitless options were suddenly depleted or limited they would quickly find themselves “attracted” to men at or slightly above/below their level of physical attractiveness.

Please do not bother responding - “aH gOtChA sO mEn CaUsEd tHiS?” as a deflection, as the cause or origin of this phenomenon is irrelevant to this observation. All that we are discussing is the fact that “you can’t control who you are attracted to” is and always will be, bullshit. Furthermore, it is disingenuous to suggest that men are responsible for women being unable to distinguish between genuine flattery and insincere compliments to get laid (the vast majority of what most women receive.)

https://www.ojp.gov/ncjrs/virtual-library/abstracts/prison-homosexuality-and-its-effect-post-prison-sexual-behavior