TofuTofu here to answer your questions...

TofuTofu · 2011-10-27T18:47:33+00:00

How do you deal with the psychological impact of game? I find that near misses or blowouts sometimes affect me. Not in the moment cause I don't give a shit when in state but days later. I also find the flake rate from clubbing very high (even after making out, or SNL) and this is a downer too sometimes (I guess easy come easy go). Also, there are moments where I become aware of one of my chody behaviors and I'm left contemplating the impact of that behavior on my life. Obviously I change it or at least try to but sometimes the realization hits so deep that I'm left contemplating it for hours/days. Like, "how could I have let this happen" or "why didn't I see that earlier".

Anyways, the psychological stress of game. Copeing with moments of weakness. What sayeth you on this topic.

wubbwubb · 2011-10-27T18:39:26+00:00

I am going to be Chuck Testa with a life sized cut out of Gaddaffi for Halloween.

audiostatic82 · 2011-10-27T19:27:33+00:00

Hey, first, as a moderately active user and heavy lurker I just want to say thank you. You're active, knowledgeable, willing to help and (obviously) a moderator. From myself as well as the thousands of people your advice has helped make a better life for, you're awesome. If I ever meet you, your beers are on me.

Alright, enough kissing up, my question. How do I figure out what I'm missing? I know, vague. Here's what I'm running into. I practice, have a light heart about failures, but also don't try to hard and also have nights out where I just relax and enjoy the atmosphere. I'm a pretty decent looking guy and have acquired a long over due fashion sense. I do alright, but the girls I attract all seem to be lower quality than what I'm looking for (as in long term, I'm 30, so one night flings are behind me). When I talk to my female friends about my female acquiring skills (as I put it), they say I do fine, attractive, not un-attractive, funny and enjoyable to be around, but they say something about me is off, there's something I'm missing. I haven't been able to figure it out. How would a person such as myself run a self check of sorts, figure out what I'm scoring low on so I know what to work on?

Also, I'm going as a Spartan from 300.

pppoe123 · 2011-10-27T20:51:20+00:00

where the fuck was this thread when I was in high school.

Jetkuma · 2011-10-27T18:58:25+00:00

Yes! I have a dilema. I have been learning about inner game and approaching girls or talk to some strangers for a month and a half.

Currently, I am focusing on just going out a lot and approach random people and most importantly is to have fun. However, some day i get this conflicting mindset or doubts that fight with my own ambitions (goals?)

I would go out some nights and be in state. Then some nights I would go back to my ownself and just...be an AFC. It goes into a problematic fear to approach and feel like I dont know anything about seduction.

Many nights I would go into a battle between my head and my own ambitions to create who I want to be. I do often tell myself that I have to persist a lot of comfort zone to become a better man and socially dynamic.

How would you defuse this conflicting interest and make it feels like it is a transition or a congruent with your ambition and inner self?

Sorry for the ramble. I am trying my best to describe my own emotions that I am feeling currently about the game so it might sound confusing

ge99 · 2011-10-27T19:17:11+00:00

When to run entourage vs regular game.

I stopped running game on girls in the social groups I'm in because things got way too complicated and catty. :/

Started doing more entourage game to everybody but I'm realizing I'm friend zoning way to many women who seem DTF.

Not sure how to draw the line.

awesomedeluxe · 2011-10-27T19:43:30+00:00

What are some techniques you use to minimize flakes? Especially when you have dates set up a week in advance or are meeting a girl from OKC.
Daygame techniques for groups--in particular, how do you isolate the target? Do you sometimes get both girls' numbers just to be polite, and then just text your target later?
Was it hard adjusting to game after coming back from Japan? I always feel like being white makes it super easy to open in Asia.

Thanks man, you rock.

FRENCH_FUCKER · 2011-10-27T20:08:08+00:00

Can I have your insight on this ?

BigBearSac · 2011-10-27T20:25:43+00:00

Hummm, no real questions. Just a thanks for the great reads.

I am going as a skeleton dressed in a banana suit. Skeletons should be aloud to let lose every now and then too ya know.

emptyopen · 2011-10-27T20:26:04+00:00

For Halloween i'm gonna be a heart and a girl i know is gonna be a cop. so we'll be cardiac arrest. i'm relatively new to this scene but in my life i've been pretty successful with women i think. i guess my question is why do you play the game? is it more fun during the process or is it for the close?

TofuTofu · 2011-10-27T21:05:14+00:00

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user1134 · 2011-10-28T07:55:58+00:00

In Pick Up, What is the closest thing to a "magical pill"? (magic pill as in using X concept, principal, opener, routine or anything that will get you quickest results)

I know there isn't one, but what would be considered close to it?

mcsrobert · 2011-10-28T08:24:54+00:00

What do you do when a girl shit tests for the second time after you've agreed and amplified the first time? Like:

"How old are you?"

"17."

"Hahaha, but seriously, how old are you?"

ISw3arItWasntM3 · 2011-10-27T18:49:30+00:00

Costume: I stole the idea of being a human mullet from the reddit costume idea thread.

Question 1: What do you do when you're out and you feel your frame starting to falter?

Question 2: What is your routine before going out to put yourself in a good frame?

Question 3: What is(are) your favorite pump up song(s)?

DutchPUA · 2011-10-27T18:47:20+00:00

What do I teach a beginner when I go out with him? He has read basic material, should I tell him what to do, when to approach, basically guide him through the whole thing, or let him be and give him pointers when he needs them? Good bits of advice for someone who as far as I have seen, is a really fast learner, but is only just starting.

anonymous_hero · 2011-10-27T19:23:10+00:00

While in Japan, how many non-white-guy-fetishist, genuinely hot girls did you bag?

selux · 2011-10-27T19:34:35+00:00

My costume will be Hunter S Thompson. I've had some luck with it in the past. I always enjoy your perspective when it comes to dealing with women. I've got a few concepts I was hoping you could share some of your thoughts on them.

How might game be different for a handsome guy as opposed to an average looking guy?

Do you have any go to teases? I've read it's important to tease initially to help create attraction, especially at the beginning of the interaction. Would you say this is true, and how important is teasing in your opinion.

Is touch/escalation the most important element in bringing home women?

What aspects of the PUA community do you think are BS? I know that there is wisdom in a lot of the teachings I've read, but sometimes I can't help but feel I'm being suckered into some marketing scheme. Which makes me think that maybe pickup in general can be broken down into a few basic principles instead of having to read 200+ pages on learning how to pick up women.

An area I do struggle with often is texting/calling. When I'm calling or texting a girl for the first time, what can I do to create attraction? Start off with teasing again?

In your opinion what methods are the most efficient at creating attraction?

n0c0ntr0l · 2011-10-27T20:02:10+00:00

So I'm dressing up as a spartan (even though I'm black).

Blowouts. So I'm curious, when you get insulted from the start do you still stay and try your luck?

I ask this because, if my opener is fine, I'm good to go for the rest of the night. But sometimes the girl is rude, and I cocky funny it back (or I just amplify whatever rude thing she says and continue) but sometimes girls will still try and just get rid of you, what would you do there?

jamonman · 2011-10-27T20:24:00+00:00

I'm still not very good at push/pull. The most I figured out is to hold her hand, and then drop it before she does. Or alternately tease her and then not. But it seems like I'm usually just pulling. What are some good examples of push and pull?

TofuTofu · 2011-10-27T21:19:27+00:00

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MistyMountainHop · 2011-10-27T21:25:12+00:00

I’m a musician/producer, and I find that the music I’m hearing has a major effect on my night game. Music I dislike is often distracting and makes me less confident and motivated. How can I improve in these less than ideal venues?

I’m dressing as John Lennon.

TofuTofu · 2011-10-27T21:51:10+00:00

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loki7714 · 2011-10-27T22:17:21+00:00

V from V for Vendetta. If you ever had AA how did you get over it?

TofuTofu · 2011-10-27T23:22:30+00:00

How do you bounce? why do I get a lot of maybes or no's and rarely yeses when I try to bounce?
How do you escalate to kclose to more, verbally and physically (I know dicarlos ladder)
Did you ever hit plateaus? how did you beat them?
What was the turning point, the aha moment, that changed your life from trying to get women, to having lots of women?

Thanks a lot!

Proxify · 2011-10-27T23:55:01+00:00

Quick question I just remembered. What's the correct course of action when you call a girl and she asks you to call back later please and gives you a time frame like "oh I'm driving, could you please call me back in like 30 mins?" Should one call in 30 mins, or waaay after. If it's a shit test, what to do then? Although for the case I'm asking about, the girl says the truth (you could, for example, listen to the cars in the back during the call).

TofuTofu · 2011-10-28T01:15:04+00:00

given the current economic and social climate, is dressing as the monopoly guy and making jokes about poor people distasteful?

yokhai · 2011-10-28T02:28:58+00:00

What's this red spot on my dick?

Costume - Going as myself.

TofuTofu · 2011-10-28T08:05:27+00:00

I'm going to be hanging out with a girl soon that I have exhausted so much conversation with already. I'm at a loss for conversation topics. What are some gotos I can use when there is nothing left to talk about?

t0dk0n · 2011-10-28T10:31:54+00:00

ohai, why have we not hung out lately, SpongeTofu BusyPants? :P ALSO, has anyone really been far even as decided to use even go want to do look more like? Important questions with important answers, get back at me bra'!!

TofuTofu · 2011-10-29T23:09:20+00:00

why do japanese girls always seem like they're crying during sex?

TofuTofu · 2011-10-27T19:51:31+00:00

How many women should you be messaging on OKC per week if you're trying to see some RL results on it? How can you tell which one's are up for a meet n skeet?

I'm going as a spelling bee champion, kinda slutty, I know.

TofuTofu · 2011-10-27T19:26:09+00:00

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EtovNowd · 2011-10-27T18:54:16+00:00

I don't celebrate halloween... no for religious reasons, it's just that I grew up poor and my costume would consist of me painting my face black. I'd call myself Black Face... somehow, now that would seem inappropriate.

In terms of seduction, do you see it as an art-form or do you see it as a machine/mechanism?

Also, do you see learning seduction also helping you out in other aspects of life - such as business, friendships, job interviews, etc.

TryCatchRelease · 2011-10-27T19:11:19+00:00

I'm going as "The chief" from the Sabotage video. Tried to dye my hair grey and everything. The wife is going as the rookie, and a buddy of mine is going as Cochese. I love group costumes!

My question is, how do you relax and have fun? I have a hard time letting my guard down, and just relaxing and enjoying people and myself. I'm in my head a lot. I'm generally very calculating, anxious, and worrisome... and I don't know how to turn that off, other than getting 3 gin n tonics deep.

TradeCraft-2275 · 2011-10-27T19:22:29+00:00

I have just finished the "game", but would like some further advice (practical or reference suggestions) to deal with my sticking points. I just graduated undergrad and I am getting killed in bars # close cant f close. Did well in the frat basement Strengths -good sense of humor -intelligent - can carry a conversation - good job/ has ambition -has interests/passions - befriends dudes really easy

Needs Work/ Weaknesses -gets too drunk(frat curse) -cant dance- dance AA - sucks at reading IOI -timid in escalation not really approach - hates small talk during the week - no real female friends -.... and the big one, cant f close even after landing phone numbers and good conversation

I also have some questions on tactics - use indirect or direct at bars given my strengths? - Questions on all female set group theory(what i typically encounter). a. How do you deal with a AFMOG? Some people advised me because I can hold/ lead a conversation and be funny there is an expectation I go after the Alpha female. If i talk to her less attractive friends first It looks beta /congruency issue given personality. B. What are ways to work an all female set with no AFOG? C. How much attention should be paid to friends rather than target? D. Is there a good bench mark for attraction-- When do you go to next stage? Anything other than IOIs

Thanks for taking the time to help us reforming AFC's out. Sick and tired of wasting money at bars with no results.

teazalamode · 2011-10-27T19:31:51+00:00

Hellooo TofuTofu!

I wonder, I've been chatting with a few girls from Chicago, okC, I'm a suburban boy, 33 mins away 0 traffic, 1.5 hrs with traffic. How do I handle logistics if I'm going out there? I feel out of power without a home base. I don't know if things can work at this distance? Is this even consider LD? or am I being a lazy gas stingy pussy? I dunno.

Thanks!

edit: my costume. tony montana

criticalhit · 2011-10-27T20:37:20+00:00

if your job is nerdy (computer science based), how would you convey the value of that job to a woman? it doesn't seem like an inherently exciting career.

my costume is a vampire but i'm going to stuff my slacks and go as "count crotchula".

DialSquare · 2011-10-27T20:45:04+00:00

I'm wondering if this Halloween costume idea I'm planning on using is dumb or not. I saw it on a thread here in Reddit about a week back, probably the same one that other guy mentioned. The idea is to pin a bunch of small toy chicks on me and go as a "chick magnet." I'm doing it more for the joke and the lack of a better idea, but I figure if I can parlay some flirting out of it then why not.

TofuTofu · 2011-10-27T21:01:28+00:00

the best readings and videos you would recommend for someone?

TofuTofu · 2011-10-27T21:06:42+00:00

What should I be for Halloween?

TofuTofu · 2011-10-27T21:08:38+00:00

Should I learn to dance, to improve my game (read: my confidence) at increase my value at clubs and bars?

... I'm really new at this, and trying to not self-sabotage and just get out there. What's your best method for shedding that weak-AFC-terrified mentality?

Proxify · 2011-10-27T21:17:10+00:00

I am fairly good at cold approach, but I fail to pull the trigger number close is the best I've gotten (except on very few occasions). How can I get past this?

Also, I've finally understood what it means to become "outcome independent" and I've realized that when I really don't give a damn I am more subtle, and in general better at this but I can't do it on purpose it just HAS to happen, when I'm genuinely interested I fail to do it, any tips?

Another, how can I kino escalate when there is really NO reason for me to touch? like dinner or movie (except arm brushing here). I feel it seems forced in these examples but too much time goes by without anything happening too.

Lastly (at least on my mind now), what do you do in a situation where you as the guy are expected to pay at least the first time or most times? Where I live it's expected, some girls actually try to pay and I just let them (not in a douchy way) others just think you're cheap if you suggest it but to do so, seems counter intuitive with all I've read/listened to.

Capn_Of_Rum · 2011-10-27T21:19:32+00:00

What do you do when there are alphas around? Is there a guide out there on how to defeat alphas? The only real thing I know to do is "be interested" in what he has to say and basically talk to him and turn the conversation towards each other.

tl;dr: guide for beating alphas?

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Arro · 2011-10-27T21:35:06+00:00

One thing I'm struggling with (as I'm just starting my journey into 'inner game') is the paradox I have to hold in my head. In order to attract girls, I can't want girls. I have to not give a fuck. I have to not want them. And I mean not just act like I don't want them, I have to actually convince myself I don't want them. I've seen this work time and time again. The problem is I actually do want girls.

[Micro FR] Last weekend I went to a college football watching party at a sportsbar. It was an alumni get-together, the first I've been to in my new west-coast city. I went by myself, and I went to genuinely enjoy the game. I just started getting drunk and rooting on my team. It was an amazing game, and I was really into it. This girl started talking to me, and was really digging me. I played it cool with a lot of the stuff I've recently learned from The Blueprint Decoded, which I'm halfway through. Got crazy kino and had a great time. This girl was into me, it seems, because I was totally having fun and exerting a lot of energy with no intention of trying to get laid.

In my experience, with anything else in life, the more you focus on that thing, the more you get it. Wanna be a chess champion? Start thinking about chess all the time. Obsess over it. Dream about it. It doesn't work that way with girls, and it drives me batty.

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minutestomidnight · 2011-10-27T22:39:53+00:00

I'm a big proponent of RSD. I just got back from the free conference, hot seat, and new Foundation series that they were filming. Really great stuff.

I don't really have many sticking points, but I do have some confusion regarding dealing with other people (people who upset you, AMOGs, friends who are being tools, etc). The best thing to do is to address it, but not let it affect you. Whenever I address it, my voice betrays me and they can sense either fear or anger in my voice. It sucks.

I do vocal projection exercises and try to stay in state for as long and in as many places as possible, framing each situation as a fun learning experience that fuels my state. But some people are just so annoying, and being a debater since HS, I get caught up in proving them wrong.

Any tips in just defusing the situation and not letting it escalate? Especially for when they already called you out on being mad, which causes you to get more mad?

MonkeySteriods · 2011-10-27T22:53:44+00:00

How do you handle girls that try to "have important conversations" with their friends at clubs? [when you open they imediently and bitchlily exclaim that "they're having an important conversation".... weird I realize, but I've had that happen]

TofuTofu · 2011-10-27T23:12:32+00:00

I have been working on seduction, especially inner game, for about a year now, lurking on Seddit as well as reading and watching some other stuff like Flawless Natural and Magic Bullets. It is truly amazing how much you can change in such a short time. People talk about triggers to get into state, but how do you deal with influences pushing you back into afc behavior? For example on a date I have found that when certain situations (i.e. nighttime walks) arise I go back into AFC mode instantly and start approval-seeking/supplicating for no good reason. Basically how do you stay outcome independent during a low-key date with somebody you actually like?

edit: No costume yet since I am abroad where they don't play that shit, but I still might do something last-minute

criticalhit · 2011-10-27T23:25:08+00:00

how do you build a harem?

how do you tell girls you want a harem, and what do you say if they want monogamy?

killerwhalekota · 2011-10-27T23:25:33+00:00

My friend wants me to wingman. I have no clue how to do it. Help me!

lolyourdumb · 2011-10-27T23:53:02+00:00

It seems like my biggest sticking point is getting past day 1s. I notice things fizzle out fairly quickly with most women I meet. Even after successful day 1s where the night will end with a makeout or hookup (no sex).

I don't have too much trouble at meeting women, things just always stop progressing very early on. LMR also seems to be a consistent issue when things do escalate. I figure they're somehow related.

6 months ago I began to put a real effort into meeting and dating women and have averaged about a date a week including 2 ONS while clubbing, however this same issue keeps coming up.

Women rarely chase me, and those that do also lose interest very quickly.

I'm a social, smart, positive, good looking guy, athletic, with passions and hobbies, friends, and a keen sense of style.

This really frustrates me since it's been a consistent pattern in my life since I was young and it always brings me down.

I figure I must have some sort of fatal flaw that's causing this, but I just can't seem to figure it out. How do I work through this?

thebrokendoctor · 2011-10-28T00:34:03+00:00

Costume is with my two roomates: I'm going a s twister, another snakes and ladders and the third is operation. All are going to have sexual jokes on them (duh...), so should be funny and fun. My question is one on I guess the theory of value giving/taking: If I see someone I know while eating lunch in the cafeteria and call them over to sit with me (and maybe people I'm already sitting with, am I value giving or value taking.

Not to say I wouldn't do it if it's a friend, I'm just wondering what the dynamics of that are.

Jackthastripper · 2011-10-28T00:53:54+00:00

I am dressing as a character from a (post apocalyptic, russian) videogame. Toy gun with improvised toy bayonet, crappy clothes, gasmask.

Pimpology · 2011-10-28T02:15:21+00:00

What are your opinions on pimposophy?

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newjerseykita · 2011-10-28T03:26:00+00:00

I'm being Andrew W.K. I have a all white outfit and i'm stoked

Background info: I'm a college freshman, have had relationships before never really tried getting with girls just to have hook ups.. I have a hard time getting the girl to come the extra 10 percent (i give 90 she gives 10) until we reach a point where it's even or she's even giving more effort than I. As in investing more into it than I. I'm not a boring person, very personable, i do professional photography, have a crazy awesome taste in music. What can i do to get them to invest more? Or is it just a simple fact that some girls just to won't give any fucks about you wanting to get to know them/with them. I haven't gotten one girl yet, however i approach a 3-4 a day, how can you get a girl to understand you're trying to get with them... and not literally say it. Essentially i want to get a girl to come out and party with men then when we get back from partying it's time for the business to be done... What are some good ways to state this and get a girl to come out with you, (i'm looking for something a little more witty so they have a harder time resisting to go out with me and really get to know me) I feel that i'm starting to settle on (I don't want just hook ups i want feelings involved before i get with a girl, it makes it literally better) If you can answer any of these, thanks.

TofuTofu · 2011-10-28T03:56:10+00:00

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jntwn · 2011-10-28T04:15:43+00:00

A giant banana. I'm asian and I'm really normal white guy.

Edit: What are your thoughts on David Wygant?

haojifu · 2011-10-28T04:44:05+00:00

Well, here's my question:

What's your background?

I may have missed this elsewhere but I'm curious about some pretty basic context - how old are you, how did you become a pua (natural vs hard taught self-study, some combination), what do you do for a living. When did you get started on your path to becoming a pua, etc. I've read a few of your field reports and they are indeed impressive.

I'm 23 and in a LTR with a girl who loves me more than anything and who I certainly love as well, but in my heart of hearts I've always known that I want the lifestyle of a pua, so my final question is if you've ever found yourself in a similar situation?

nycprowl · 2011-10-28T04:59:22+00:00

I'm probably too late to the party here, but how do you make the next step happen? Lately I find myself opening girls, but completely sucking with closing... It's almost like my own mental block.

moozilla · 2011-10-28T05:48:05+00:00

Question about club game:

Last weekend I was out with some friends, dancing, when suddenly a girl comes up behind me and starts grinding on me. I turn around and she is probably an HB9, so I dance with her. We're really going at it, and soon enough we're making out. Here's the problem: I don't know here name, and we haven't said a word to each other. I think she eventually realized this, because she said "I have to go find my friend, wait here" and just left. I tried not to let it phase me and ended up #-closing another girl after that, but still, what should I have done in that situation? Or, is it possible to get any further than a makeout without actually talking to the girl?

TofuTofu · 2011-10-28T06:44:31+00:00

I seem to have hit a stickpoints with picking up extremely hot girls. Like your 9s and 10s. I'm able to easily get numbers of 7s and 8s, makeouts and sex but I just don't seem to hook at the beginning with the really hot girls.

Any ideas?

ImNotYourBrah · 2011-10-28T07:07:31+00:00

How can I come back from making a bad joke about her being vegetarian. Doesn't necessarily have to be for this specific example, just how to save face. Should I apologize for the text, ignore it and try and move on with other convo, etc

spivey378 · 2011-10-28T07:22:11+00:00

How's the transition from Asia to America going? When I moved back to the West (Canada) from the East (Korea) there was definitely a little readjustment period, you know on account of it being so easy in Asia.

WolfInTheField · 2011-10-28T12:23:43+00:00

God-Damn-It. Why is there no Halloween in Holland?

Also, hey Tofu, thanks for doing this. Quick question ('i need a female opinion'); is there a tip for growing more balls faster? (beautiful mental image)

Cheers!

TofuTofu · 2011-10-28T16:32:49+00:00

Question for daygame: if I'm walking down the hallway and I see a girl checking me out and maintaining eye contact with me, I know I need to go up and start a conversation, but what up some good openers for cold approaches? (I'm really new at this) Is 'I think you are cute and wanted to come talk to you' too much?

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TofuTofu · 2011-10-29T18:46:20+00:00

Thanks for doing this. First sticky point is in social circle game. I have huuge anxiety about pulling the trigger sexually or starting to see one specific girl. Basically I'm worried about if things go south... and not in a good way haha. I'm not worried about getting rejected, I know if they like me or not. But I'm worried about drama and snipping ropes of the web and losing out on her friends who may be LTR material or something. Is that normal in social circle game, is it in my head, am I just being a pussy and too worried about consequences?

Next is more of a comment. I recently watched the blueprint. One of the complaints about that program is it doesn't explain how to apply and how to 'get there.' I wondered that myself after watching it. Then two weeks later, BAM, mini-breakthrough. You hear the stuff in the blueprint, it goes into your head somewhere, you see the stuff happen and instantly it internalizes. It was actually a weird feeling, one of the points clicking in my head without much conscious thought. What are some of the mini-breakthroughs you've had? And some of the most important?

Lastly, some of your funniest/most epic blowouts

mrdeeds23 · 2011-10-29T19:36:41+00:00

What do you say to a girl when she said "you know you love me". Need something witty, drawing a blank.

sedguy · 2011-10-31T23:11:19+00:00

Hey, hope you're still answering questions. Thanks for doing this. My question is pretty simple but it's a real challenge for me, even going as far as me just obsessing on it.

I'll just see an attractive girl while I'm walking down the street and I'm stunned as to what to do. This could be either with enough time to notice them and have done something or I'm caught completely be surprise (most of the time) and wonder what I could have done. For the latter, even if I'm caught by surprise, I could turn back and do something about it. But I don't know what. Anything specific that one can do in such situations?

lynxon · 2011-11-01T06:05:38+00:00

Hi TofuTofu! I realize that I'm a bit late with this, but I have a question regardless.

Right now the biggest issue I'd say I have is something largely about me as a person - it sucks to say it but I am a value taker. 98% of the time I am the one reacting in almost any given situation; I'm always doing the analyzing thing: I'm more often meta than not.

I really really really want to not though! I want to be the guy, or at least have the ability, to give value - to make being around me fun!

Do you have any tips, advice, links, anything that could help me in this?

2011-10-28T14:05:03+00:00

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lovewillsetmefree · 2011-10-27T22:21:01+00:00

I feel like I'm a shy individual and could use more woman in my life but I want to find a relationship instead of just hooking up with random people. Do you think this subreddit is appropriate for me?

TofuTofu · 2011-10-27T23:54:14+00:00

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Title	TofuTofu here to answer your questions...
Author	TofuTofu
Upvotes	119
Comments	277
Date	October 27, 2011 6:29 PM UTC (14 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/seduction
Original Link	https://old.reddit.com/r/seduction/comments/lr8ds/tofutofu_here_to_answer_your_questions/
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