ESTABLISH YOUR BOUNDARIES ❌

There are things I have NEVER done and will NEVER do with or FOR any man.

Anal sex. Hard Core Bdsm. Cum on my face. Sex without a condom.

STATE YOUR BOUNDARIES

I always state my boundaries clearly before I engage in anything with anyone.

Before getting into a sexual relationship with me my sexual partners know very well what my boundaries are.

So if they don’t want to be with someone that is straight up boring and vanilla in bed they can just jog the fuck on. 🏃🏼‍♂️

HOWEVER Three of my ex’s have followed the same pattern of trying to push me into doing things I explicitly said I never want to do. I’m going to show you how to maintain your boundaries with this type of man (booo hiissss).

Edit: This is advice for the girl that needs help establishing her boundaries and the strength to reinforce them. Sometimes you are in a situation where you need to maintain your boundaries, get to a safe place, then block. You could already be in a relationship, or just casually dating. As comments have pointed out it’s always best to end it at the first sign of disrespect to your boundaries. If he is pushing he is LV and not worth it! If you are not there yet here’s some tips. ITS OK TO SAY NO! We are all growing.

Right after we become sexual, they started pushing my boundaries. My ex’s didn’t even make me cum before they started pushing. They acted like just because they got in, they have a human right to new and degrading sex acts from me.

SAY NO

I reinforce my boundaries by telling them firmly “No” or “in your dreams” or “not going to happen”, just completely shut that shit down. Don’t feel guilty or obligated! If you are in public, who cares? Make a scene.

🚩When they say “have you done that with someone else” know that they are trying to see if you are withholding this act from them because they think if you did it once you should keep doing it. OR maybe you just never had the right guy. JUST KEEP SAYING NO

🚩They tried guilt trips, and pouting like babies. They tried to take affection away and acting hostile and moody. They threaten to leave for someone else.

CALL THEIR BLUFF

So stop having sex with them. Do you want to have sex with a man baby? NO. 🍼 When they guilt tripped me I stopped paying any attention to them. I ignored them and pretended like I didn’t notice their tantrums. If they wanted to fix this mess they made they needed to grow up. When they threatened to leave for someone that would do those things (the nuclear option) I said in a calm voice and with absolutely no expression on my face, “Ok.” And then smiled in a meek way.

BE WILLING TO WALK AWAY AT ANY TIME

Men like this go into a relationship expecting to be able to break women’s boundaries down BECAUSE women want a relationship with a man, not HIM necessarily, just any man! Men fully expect women to sacrifice their self esteem and boundaries for that relationship, because 👰🏼‍♀️ and never expect to do the same. However if you are completely willing to walk away at any time and be single when a situation doesn’t benefit you they can’t tear you down and degrade you sexually. So be ready to walk both figuratively and literally at anytime and anyplace.

All three of them apologized and bought me a gift. I accepted their gift and said I would think about their apology. Then I dumped them a couple days later. Blocked. All three cried. Two were self described red pills and called themselves alpha.

(WHAT A GOLD DIGGING BITCH The entirety of the manosphere just cried out at once and then was silenced)