Ummm...yes? And?

asupernova91 · 2021-08-26T21:21:17+00:00

A family member told me today she’s gonna “wash her husbands bedding tonight” (they sleep in separate rooms). And no he’s not at work or unable to, he’s in vacation, without her. I almost threw up in my mouth.

fak_beauty_standards · 2021-08-26T19:51:13+00:00

she's not my friend? I want her as my friend!

intergalacticanon44 · 2021-08-26T17:59:37+00:00

NVM hate that friend, don’t they?

relationship_reddit · 2021-08-26T20:01:28+00:00

I think every one of us former pickmes knows that that isn't how you keep a man.

VanessaViews · 2021-08-26T20:12:56+00:00

He's going to cheat the minute you forget to pack the fruit snacks

Joohoneybee_002 · 2021-08-26T21:44:53+00:00

Most of us would have no problem doing something nice for a guy that treats us well. But too many women do all of this stuff for a guy just to get cheated on or disrespected. He has to want to be kept for you to keep him.

localgirlcult · 2021-08-26T18:19:35+00:00

Lmaooo, and notice how whichever no value male posted this in hopes of attracting a housemaid made the woman who is questioning the insanity, fat. That means she's a bad person. I truly don't know how much more obvious males like this can get. They genuinely did not grow past being in their mommy's care.

I know that society will get their claws in them and may corrupt them but I beg of the FDS ladies who are mothers of sons to do everything in your power to not raise them to be this useless. Yeah, he's your little boy but he's not a little god.

melodicamagica · 2021-08-26T17:53:41+00:00

That’s so dumb… she’s a great friend. Women shouldn’t do shit for men if they won’t reciprocate. We’re not maids. I guess a friend who questions your behavior is bad? Nah sis

glendoraza · 2021-08-26T18:11:19+00:00

If that’s the way to keep him, no need to keep him

Equal-Ear2312 · 2021-08-26T18:17:21+00:00

Babe, you don't keep a man. A man's not a dog. And a man's not stupid. If you cook snd do housework for him is part of the reason he's with you, he was actually looking for a maid but he found you and he had to pay you nothing.

shutup201 · 2021-08-26T18:15:26+00:00

It's not going to stop him from cheating or leaving. Men walk all over women like this. Many are incapable of appreciating and reciprocating.

punyhumannumber2 · 2021-08-26T19:55:19+00:00

That's how you keep a man who doesn't actually like you.

radfem_babe · 2021-08-26T23:22:36+00:00

Helplessness is not attractive. I don't want to date a man who acts like a child.

VanessaViews · 2021-08-26T19:47:21+00:00

I've definitely been that friend before. It falls on deaf ears. Unsurprisingly though I'm the one with a healthy relationship and all my friends say how they wish they could find a guy like my fiance. But they don't listen to my advice ...

inlovewithaloser · 2021-08-26T21:27:50+00:00

The lunch packing thing is SUCH a big expectation in my culture.

My rebuttal to that has always been, “So, the woman HAS to make lunch for her man every day? But the woman has to pack her own lunch? Who’s worrying for her?” All I’m saying is, there is no societal expectation that men pack women’s lunches, even if the woman works 9-5, 40 hours a week, too! Well, whaddaya know? Don’t you think a woman would want a nice, packed lunch as well? Do we women not get tired or hungry, either?

Whatever. I cook and pack my own lunches, anyway. Sorry to the scrotes who can’t cook past a Ramen cup, hope they can find the doormat PickMe of their dreams that will make sure he gets his veggies in each day.

BlueSkiesOverLondon · 2021-08-26T22:44:30+00:00

The arrow is pointing to the wrong woman lol

frostedgemstone · 2021-08-26T21:39:18+00:00

The woman on the left and I would get along great

Nifteroni-and-Cheese · 2021-08-26T23:25:02+00:00

Classic pick me. Bends over backwards for a man to “keep him” and puts down women who aren’t subservient to men by saying they’ll be unable to keep a man. It’s perfectly acceptable to like making your partner happy, to want to do things for them. But if your relationship depends on doing unpaid labor for someone who wouldn’t be with you otherwise, girl, get out.

Any_Indication_2754 · 2021-08-26T19:45:25+00:00

You're home washing the stains out of his underwear and he will be out on the streets cheating on you.

frustratedmarxistfem · 2021-08-26T21:43:13+00:00

Men act like just being with a woman at all is such a gift. "Thats how you keep a man." Who cares? What do you need him for if he can't even wash his own laundry?

radfem_babe · 2021-08-26T23:23:57+00:00

Men are dime a dozen. If he is not a HVM what's the point?

Stuffnthings1840 · 2021-08-27T03:33:56+00:00

Notice how the friend with sense is fat. The pick me is thin and scantily dressed? Cause she is a fantasy. I am not packing a lunch for an adult.

Sea_Soil · 2021-08-26T23:59:11+00:00

Any man you have to work to "keep" is not worth having. Contrary to popular belief you can literally just be with someone who actually wants to be with you lol

ItsFreezen · 2021-08-26T23:20:24+00:00

And when Your sick, Scrote will not help you. It's not worth it.

warinmymind94 · 2021-08-27T00:40:51+00:00

Keep a man? Are you serious? Live in nannies for children get around $25 an hour with FREE housing, food/utilities, and have transportation often provided (you usually get to use the families cars to run the kid around or do errands). If you ask me, that's potentially a great gig (provided its actually safe).

Why be a maid to man just to have him come home to sleep there and use you for sex? You could be a live in nanny for a toddler with the free housing, food, transportation and make a salary on top of it.

A grown man needs to be taking care of himself, pick up after himself, he should be cooking for you not just the woman cooking for the man. If hes doing laundry he can throw your stuff in for you or vice versa. The point is not to be taken advantage of and not to be a maid for free and splitting bills atop it. That's messed up.

daglowup · 2021-08-27T00:59:33+00:00

Baby, you a servant. At least house help gets paid, what exactly are you getting out of this?

OrangeyPanda · 2021-08-26T18:26:34+00:00

Snort his skid marks some more pickme. He still gonna cheat on you.

cookiemonstergirls · 2021-08-27T03:06:01+00:00

A man probably made that instead if a pickme

RussianAsshole · 2021-08-27T05:46:30+00:00

And then he cheats on her with a woman who made it clear she did not offer domestic servitude

Drpyroxene · 2021-08-27T04:13:24+00:00

I can't believe someone took the time to draw/make this. Pretty pathetic.

2021-08-27T05:12:52+00:00

.. No, she definitely is your friend. The dude isn't, though. Not in a way that your SO should be your friend.

akashyaboa · 2021-08-27T05:51:41+00:00

What good is a man like that tho? Where is the men she supposedly keeps? Like this is how you keep a mamma's boy, not a man

Novemberinthechair · 2021-08-27T12:44:30+00:00

"That's how you keep a man, honey."

Oh, fuck off.

lavender_icicle · 2021-08-27T09:34:26+00:00

If the only way to keep a man is to wait on him and clean up after him, no thanks. Who in their right mind would say yes to that?

Optimal_Grapefruit_5 · 2021-08-27T12:25:07+00:00

"That's how you keep a man" so she admits that many men can only see relationships with women in a transactional way and that "only men, children and dogs get unconditional love" is bs. So she admits she doesn't actually like doing those things but rather is doing them out of obligation and terror she'll be dumped.

Look, it's nice to be nice. It's nice to do nice things for your partner - but if the only reason you're doing something nice is to obtain something in return (in this case the continuation of that relationship) - well you're not actually being half as nice as you want people to think.
If you only do nice things 'cause you're terrified you'll end up alone, that "nice thing" is entirely a self-serving act.
Partners take care of each other. Notice how certain nice gestures like cooking and doing housework for your partner are considered necessary in order to "keep" a man, but some kind of grand gesture to surprise/impress a woman.

AbbyDean1985 · 2021-08-27T18:53:55+00:00

No. She is your friend. Listen to her.

spinsterchachkies · 2021-08-28T08:54:27+00:00

That’s how you keep a man - a child.

Title	Ummm...yes? And?
Author	Catz10000
Upvotes	1016
Comments	82
Date	August 26, 2021 5:50 PM UTC (4 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/FemaleDatingStrategy
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