I think men are more accepting of womens faults than women are of mens.

NotGoingoutofMW · 2021-09-30T21:38:27+00:00

It's not that men are more accepting of women's fault then reverse THAT much, it's mixed with a huge chunk of "putting up with it because the guy is sexless otherwise".

Flightlessbirbz · 2021-10-01T01:48:59+00:00

Different flaws are just more accepted in men and women. Insecurity is much more accepted in women. But what if she were arrogant instead? Wouldn’t stop talking about herself and how great she was, when she seemed fairly mediocre in reality? Would that be okay? Doubtful. I’ve noticed men are very quick to smack down a woman who thinks highly of herself. Insecurity is actually rewarded in women to an extent. Instead, men don’t like loud, arrogant, boastful women. Excess insecurity might be annoying, but it’s just not a visceral turnoff to men like physical flaws or a “masculine” personality.

Kentucky_Supreme · 2021-09-30T21:58:48+00:00

Because it's convenient. Equality when it benefits and inequality when it benefits. Whatever the given topic/situation calls for.

Uglinessisreal · 2021-09-30T23:42:59+00:00

Because men desire women more than the other way around and women use their leverage.

If most guys had lots of options they wouldn't put up with neurotic women.

NUKE_DEMOCRACY · 2021-09-30T23:48:45+00:00

nah women hate fake macho-ness

cornfedduckman · 2021-10-01T01:22:48+00:00

Sperm is less valuable than eggs.

towerofcheeeeza · 2021-09-30T22:58:50+00:00

I think it all boils down to whether they think they have other options. Women who are insecure will put up with a lot. Women who believe there's someone or something (single-ness) better will get out. For dudes who think they can get another girl, they don't put up with shit, but if they think being single and not having sex is worst then they deal with it. If we go by the idea that women can get sex or relationships easier than men then yeah women do probably put up with less shit because they think there's better out there.

TomorrowsWar · 2021-09-30T21:43:25+00:00

Sorry your relationship ended that way. what’s confusing to me is did you expect to provide comfort and support in exchange for her life and future? That sounds dramatic but that’s what it sounds like to me.

I had a boyfriend with an eating disorder. supporting the people you love is basic human decency. We support them because we love them.

it hurts when they don’t love us back but that is a part of life.

I do think men knowingly accept less for themselves, but not because they’re accepting someone else’s flaws but because they’d rather not be alone

I-Fail-Forward · 2021-09-30T21:57:38+00:00

Depends on who you listen to and what they care about.

A lot of men don't even consider any osy who isn't hot, and more or less the only criteria they seem to think about is how much work they have to put in to sleep with a hot chick, and what it will cost them make sure said girl doesn't sleep with anybody else.

They never talk about girls they don't find hot because they don't care about them, and they don't care about the other flaws because if they aren't stopping the guy from getting sex , who really cares.

So they never talk about flaws (unless they becomes massively problematic) because they don't actually care about the sex dispenser.

Now, Reddit tends towards extreme solutions, and people have a distressing preference for the scorched earth policy, or the "knock it all down and start over" approach to problem solving.

If you hang out on subs without those kinds of men, the perceived double standard disappears (unless the problem is confirmation bias).

ARGUS_99 · 2021-10-01T04:59:24+00:00

Men only reject women or leave them if there are glaring red flags

women on the other hand have rejected men, based on their "hands looking weird", or other BS superficial matter.

Women expect men to be perfect but accept all their imperfections with open arms, then complain that they are single

Perseus_the_Bold · 2021-09-30T23:10:27+00:00

That's because men tend to ignore a lot of flaws about women just to be with them while women don't see anything other than a man's flaws.

The majority of women go on fault finding missions when they check out a guy while guys go on a virtue finding mission when they check out a girl.

As a guy when I'm looking at a girl even if she is ugly my mind will block those flaws and focus on what stands out about her, maybe she has a hot body, a sexy attitude, silky hair etc. My brain focuses on what is good and attractive about her and ignores everything else. Women do the exact opposite. They immediately start to tear you down in their mind to see what is left.

LeaveThisPlanet · 2021-10-01T07:20:00+00:00

I'm guessing It's because women were forced to be accepting of everything when it came to men for aeons throughout history. The last few years, women finally started having a voice and rights and they don't have to accept shit anymore. So they don't.

banalchenal · 2021-10-01T00:39:12+00:00

yes men tolerate flaws because they're horny

goskies · 2021-09-30T23:36:28+00:00

It's 100% true and when you date both men and women it becomes readily apparent.

IntolerantSoul573 · 2021-10-01T08:44:41+00:00

We’re you officially dating these women? Sounds like you were in the friend zone

chingness · 2021-10-01T16:02:42+00:00

Not sure how you can say this on a sub that regularly discusses women as if they aren’t even people 🤣 ratings / n counts / discussions as if women aren’t capable of rationale thought or are children…

lingualistic · 2021-10-01T17:01:48+00:00

lol, no. Men are profoundly judgmental of women and they use those judgements to decide whether they see individual women as human beings deserving of respect or not. Meanwhile women are judgmental of men and when it comes to dating them, but MUCH more accepting of men as a whole. A man will not befriend you if he doesn’t want to fuck. Instead he will ignore your existence or be outright cruel.

Women are kind and friendly to men because they see them as human beings. The reward is that the vast majority of men immediately see that as sexual interest and become inappropriate or start trying to groom/orbit. Because they are projecting, and they would never be kind/interested (or at least act like it) in a woman unless they hoped for prospective pussy one day in the future.

superlurkage · 2021-09-30T21:53:56+00:00

Not accepting, tolerant. For sex purposes

milkyymochii · 2021-09-30T21:45:20+00:00

Anyway, my point is I noticed on here

“On here” as in PPD or FDS? Because it sounds like you are talking about FDS and not this sub or women in general.

This is like me going to a white supremacist forum and wondering why everyone is so racist. What did you expect?

The only possible “rebuttal” I can see being thrown back is biology. Males on here will excuse their borderline pedophilia as “muh biology” but foam at the mouth when women do the same shit.

As sexual selectors, why would we waste our time on males who cannot promise premium grade A genes? Women are by far at the MOST risk when it comes to relationships/pregnancy, so best believe they are vetting and discarding for the best they can get. In nature, only the creme de le creme of males get to fuck, the rest are useless expendables. Males fight each other just for a chance to get a few minutes of pussy, this is nature of mammal biology for most species.

Whether it is morally right or wrong is as arguable as the males on here who fight tooth and nail to justify why fucking extremely young women is ok and “biology”.

My opinion: both female & male counterparts in their respective scenarios suck. treat males nicely unless they give you a reason not to. don’t fuck children / extremely young women. Who knew these simple things were so hard for the majority of us?

manfrom-nantucket · 2021-09-30T21:53:03+00:00

Your mistake here was comforting them. You think she doesn't get enough of that from the orbiters? It was shit test that you failed spectacularly.

throwawaythis2020 · 2021-09-30T22:48:27+00:00

Cause in the old days, mating with a weak man meant we died

neetykeeno · 2021-09-30T22:57:26+00:00

Were these women you were trying to get with sexually but you had pretended to (either all along or after being sexually rejected) that you could handle friendship with them? And by "dropping me later for a hotter guy" do you mean they went off and had an actual relationship with some guy who wasn't you, who made the nature of his interest known, and did not pull that sort of "we can be friends but only until I wise up to the fact you will never be sexually interested" shit on them?

fakingandnotmakingit · 2021-09-30T23:01:09+00:00

I think it depends on what that particular woman views as a flaw.

I don't mind supporting my husbands anxiety for example. But insecurity about dating/sex etc is one of my major turn offs. Can't deal with it. Find it stupid. Call me a bitch but whatever

On the other hand I know a woman who didn't mind her partners insecurity about sex but would probably lose her head if she had to deal with someone with anxiety

Some women can deal with both but would throw their toys out the basket if they had to deal with depression.

I find the tolerance of men depends on their own self esteem as well. Men who are happy single or who think they can always find someone else are less willing to put up with perceived flaws. Men with self esteem issues will stay despite flaws.

CoyoteCookies · 2021-10-01T04:25:14+00:00

You're comparing friends' experiences with shit on Reddit. Of course the shit on Reddit looks more judgmental. If you were actually friends with women (you weren't, you were trying to date them which is different), you would see how much shit women put up with. "Well I know he's a toxic shithead but he's such a nice family man" type shit.

SonicBackScratcher · 2021-09-30T21:38:12+00:00

Should have told her she was fat.

Treat them mean keep them keen.

And if she is fat is not even mean, it honest.

Women also put up with a lot of shit from men as long as its men shit, not emotional shit because thats a womans domain.

If you complain about your boss being mean to you, you dry her out.

Come in from a day in fishing tracking mud and smelling like BO and fish guts, no problem.

ffandyy · 2021-10-01T00:31:04+00:00

This post is cringe level 10

philomexa · 2021-09-30T23:18:37+00:00

Because most men are simps and will take what they can get, even if its a neurotic basketcase.

And so the world turns.

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beeloudglade86 · 2021-09-30T22:19:46+00:00

I'll note that the insecurity women fairly uniformly don't like isn't the feeling, it's the behavior fueled by the feeling. If you are X and X is not an especially attractive trait, you can work with or around X and minimize or maybe eliminate it's negative impact on your life. Or you can complain and whine, or withdraw, or lash out, or all of the above on rotation.

Working with a challenge doesn't guarantee people will notice or appreciate your effort, but it's way better than giving in. That's what so many women can't abide. And really neither can a lot of men.

Anantha1996 · 2021-09-30T22:48:23+00:00

I think it's a question of options. Women tend to have more options, therefore higher standards. Guys with options behave the same way.

Apprehensive_Boat_70 · 2021-10-01T01:10:08+00:00

Give me a single convincing reason for why you should start or consider a relationship with her, bet you cant give me a single one.

NarniaFox · 2021-10-01T06:19:03+00:00

I'm sorry for your experience, but I don't think they dropped you because you were insecure. They dropped you because they weren't really into you in the first place and/or because they were using you for coping with their insecurities. Both men and women can do it, you just don't get to experience it from men, because you don't date them.

Insecurities can be a red flag and a reason for a breakup, if they heavily affect one's relationships. One thing is when your partner complains about their appearance and you have to reassure them that they're okay. It's another when they control what you both eat and it also affects your kids' health and safety. It's one thing when your partner is insecure about your attraction and the other when they control your phone or don't let you meet your friends.

michael1962-01 · 2021-10-01T07:18:51+00:00

Comforting them?

..... wise strategy... lol

PurpleManufacturer94 · 2021-10-01T10:07:44+00:00

Depends on the woman.

Willow-girl · 2021-10-01T11:19:51+00:00

Men will partner with women who are complete trainwrecks as long as she's hawt.

Ask me how I know this, lol.

JacobMoogberg69 · 2021-10-01T13:27:47+00:00

What do you have to be so insecure about?

sivarias · 2021-10-01T13:55:11+00:00

> one girl even sent me pics of her in her underwear in several angles, asking me if I thought she was fat, and she said she was going to stop eating.

Jesus fucking Christ. How much a clearer signal do you need!?

> Did i completely drop them like an asshole? No, I usually comfort them and so on so forth and they end up dropping me later on for a hotter guy.

No, they ended up dropping you for a dude who had some balls to actually fuck her.

Crook56 · 2021-10-01T16:12:04+00:00

Guys are generally pretty thirsty, I get it. Women will listen to your insecurities, but they’re smart enough to know you should be working on them. Expressing my insecurities to women Iv dated or just flirted with has added layers to myself. If you’re afraid they won’t see you in a “sexual” way, you’re wrong as fuck lol

Btw going to therapy is sexy.

razormachine · 2021-09-30T22:52:09+00:00

It's an evolutionary adaptation if you tell a woman she looks fat you are a dead man.

Title	I think men are more accepting of womens faults than women are of mens.
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Date	September 30, 2021 9:23 PM UTC (4 years ago)
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