What in the FUCK did I just read

Noemie_Mathilde · 2021-10-05T05:09:22+00:00

"I have low self esteem". This is why we don't recommend dating when you are mentally all over the place. It makes you more vulnerable to LV manipulators. Dump him sis!

cakewalkofshame · 2021-10-05T06:30:10+00:00

These men act so entitled to have every little sexual whim indulged while the women they're with beg for scraps of love and respect. Sickening. I hope she gets away from this trash fire and finds someone better. But first she needs to work on herself so she's not so vulnerable to predators like this.

purasangria · 2021-10-05T03:57:57+00:00

He wants to cheat, but call it "swinging." Gross. And I bet he's a disgusting scrote. 🤮🤮🤮

pearlspaghetti · 2021-10-05T03:57:56+00:00

“Why can’t I just be enough for him?”

Because he’s a selfish pig? Poor girl. Her self-esteem is in the dump and it’s constantly exacerbated by his sexual manipulation. Men like this are Dementors and just exist to destroy women’s happiness.

KindredMaximus · 2021-10-05T06:28:17+00:00

Gah, the easiest way to shut this down is to start evaluating the men and comparing only great men to her husband. Men are hypocrites - it's their single, unifying trait. They can dish it out but very ,very rarely can they take it. They WOULD NEVER put up with the same shit they expect you to.

If a man says 'how about anal'. you say ''you first''. If a man says swinging, you say ''great, let's look at the other guys and see how hung they are''. It shuts it down immediately.

The next step of course, is always leave. You shouldn't have to be doing this reverse psychology on a grown man - but there it is..

_RustInPiece_ · 2021-10-05T09:43:53+00:00

This is sexual coercion, plain and simple. I'm so sick of the normalisation of sexual coercion in partnerships.

Sewud · 2021-10-05T10:16:01+00:00

I already have a big girl why would I want another

They literally see women as objects :O

millions_ofpeachs4me · 2021-10-05T05:49:58+00:00

I got a weight loss tip for her. Dump this dumbass and you’ll be down a minimum of 200 lbs immediately.

cml678701 · 2021-10-05T10:40:40+00:00

When I started reading this, I expected them to be like 45. Who pressures their 22-year-old wife to do this?! Who is that bored already?! As I kept reading, I understood why. This poor girl needs to get out now! She has no idea how young she is, and how much happier she will be single.

spinsterchachkies · 2021-10-05T05:20:19+00:00

That made me mad

Equal-Ear2312 · 2021-10-05T10:35:32+00:00

Why can't I just be enough for him?

Wrong question.

Why am I still with him is the real question.

europoor24 · 2021-10-05T04:19:51+00:00

Her husband married her for her youth and perhaps her face. He settled, if he could get a pretty skinny 20 year old he would. That's what's up.

Novemberinthechair · 2021-10-05T05:25:14+00:00

Is this real? God help her if it is.

2021-10-05T09:17:32+00:00

Someone message her and bring her here pls

maraslove · 2021-10-05T10:48:59+00:00

Typical smart and gross male. Married a younger girl that he’s certainly not attracted to so he can destroy her in all ways possible. Went through this already and I’m so fucking happy marriage wasn’t in it so I wasn’t tied up, but she is. I hope she finds the strength to just divorce or else she’ll be going insane trying to please that shit “husband” of hers.

Donttellmehow2feel · 2021-10-05T12:56:45+00:00

Jumped into a marriage at 22 is already a red flag.

MmeNxt · 2021-10-05T13:36:20+00:00

That's not compromising, that's being coerced into doing something that she absolutely does not want to do.

Would he be ok with having anal sex with a man, if that was her big dream? Would he "compromise" to do it for her pleasure? I don't think so.

kolsen92 · 2021-10-05T06:29:59+00:00

This hurts to read

BxGyrl416 · 2021-10-05T12:24:57+00:00

TLDR; Wife is basically being bullied into finding her soon-to-be replacement.

Thestral-glow6 · 2021-10-05T12:31:26+00:00

Poor woman. Her husband is disgusting. I hope the comments weren’t trying to somehow blame her for this.

LonchuraStriata · 2021-10-05T09:16:16+00:00

There is only one reason he wants her to come with him:

Clubs and parties like that do not let single or unaccompanied men participate (for reasons we can all imagine), but only couples or single women. I saw a documentary about the scene once and that seemed to be a hard rule everywhere.

He doesn't actually want her to come along, he needs her to, because even swingers won't let a lonely male creep in without a woman to vouch for him or barter with. She's nothing but his ticket inside (or if we want to phrase it differently: Bringing a woman for other men to use is the price of admission) and once he is in I bet everything he is going to abandon her immediately.

arya_ur_on_stage · 2021-10-05T13:50:46+00:00

What a pathetic piece of trash. Bullying your young wife into "swinging" so he can get a taste of what he REALLY wants but can't get without HER husband pushing her into it (the other girl may or may not be into swinging, but no one wants THIS guy, and while I'm sure there's a few girls out there who are genuinely into it, I can guarantee many are just like this girl, it's sick). I would be so hurt if my bf let alone husband suggested trading me for someone else and letting some Rando touch me.

Adventurous-Ad378 · 2021-10-05T11:51:05+00:00

“Why can’t I just be enough for him?”

Spoiler alert: no woman on this whole planet would be enough for him. There’s no weight/age/beauty standard/personality combo that would magically get him to respect her or any other woman. He wants to feel powerful and in control and the second he has it he loses respect for the person giving it.

polite_as_fuck44 · 2021-10-05T13:19:51+00:00

Ugh fuck girl. This hurts my soul bc I’ve been there. I was completely trauma bonded in my last relationship - left a year ago, been doing intense therapy, found FDS, and finally 12mo later I’m getting my old but improved self back. But I was coerced into sleeping with another man found on Craigslist so he could watch and play out his kink. He recorded it without my consent or knowledge at the time. Even during I was like how did I get here? I’m a strong, independent woman. Little by little over 2yrs that man broke me. I did things I never imagined. I no longer trusted my reality bc he was so adamant how wrong I was (you know how forgetful you are) i thought I was going crazy. No shame but gtf outta there

Feministtiktok · 2021-10-05T15:23:34+00:00

I can’t imagine even letting a man marry me if I was only 22 in the first place. I always said I’d never get married before 30. I’m 26, and I’m not wasting my 20s on a man who could end up being temporary or divorced later

Free_Acanthisitta446 · 2021-10-05T10:21:41+00:00

Divorce him. She’s 22,so they can’t have been married all that long. This isn’t something to compromise on. She is young and deserves someone who thinks she’s the greatest thing ever, however SHE needs to believe she is first.

AbbyDean1985 · 2021-10-05T15:02:43+00:00

Can someone please bring her to this page and help her? Sis needs to leave this fuckstick asap.

xfelugirlx · 2021-10-05T15:24:50+00:00

Wtf dump him and get help girl, he’s literally forcing you to things you don’t want

Need_Paint · 2021-10-05T12:52:47+00:00

This is why leveling up is a must. You can't make healthy decisions from an unhealthy mindset. She needs to make herself the #1 priority in her life. Go to therapy, work on her self-esteem, look into the reason why she can't lose weight- birth control hormones, thyroid problems, depression, etc. She doesn't even see that he's abusing her and destroying her sense of self-worth.

Men will derail your life and career plans, that's why we have to stay alert.

AnalgesicDoc · 2021-10-05T15:35:09+00:00

Wow…. This is just sad. A guy like that doesn’t deserve a partner. I pray this girl will find the courage to leave that pig and find someone who appreciates her for who she is. I know I’m in a minority here since I’ve got nothing against swinging, porn, polyamory or whatever else kind of kink floats your boat. But if it’s not consensual and mutual, and done done love and respect, then it’s not ok.

ShieldMaidenLagertha · 2021-10-05T16:55:02+00:00

I hate these guys that hang on to their wives like security blankets but want sling their dick all around town. Just go be single and stop wasting your wife’s life. Let her go find someone kind and good who won’t always be searching for something “better”.

Jandi18 · 2021-10-05T18:46:04+00:00

She says she has been trying to lose weight but it’s not working. I bet he sabotage her weight lose process. A Guy once confessed to putting sugar in his gf protein shake to mess with her weight loss progress.

tomaito_tomarto · 2021-10-05T04:59:41+00:00

That poor woman, she's been conditioned her whole life that she's basically to be of service to others and what she wants is irrelevant. Even her username breaks my heart.

GlumMirror5 · 2021-10-05T06:08:55+00:00

I want to hug her.

tenkunsfw · 2021-10-05T09:01:23+00:00

Do the same thing back at him "well, what if i want a: bulkier guy/a bigger dick guy-??" to give him a taste of his own medicine of 'expectations'. Or better yet, break up with his dumb ass. While you, as a plus size person deserve to love yourself, to feel loved and APPRECIATED too, and to have your boundaries as uncrossed as possible.

Muniraibrahim · 2021-10-05T10:26:05+00:00

This women has low self esteem and no self worth that she’s cares about a mans opinion

onceuponasea · 2021-10-05T13:00:09+00:00

curlyhaiir · 2021-10-05T12:13:20+00:00

Gross!! He’s coercing her, making her feel bad about her weight knowing she has low self-esteem so he can manipulate her into doing that. I’m sure in a few years, he’ll trade her for Someone younger/skinny. Hope she dumbs his ass and is able to work on herself.

Sweet-Difficulty2121 · 2021-10-05T04:47:15+00:00

She could lose 220+ pounds and instantly feel better. #HeAintTheOne2021

FlockAroundtheClock · 2021-10-05T18:58:55+00:00

Run, don't walk away. No one will ever be enough for this jerk.

FlockAroundtheClock · 2021-10-05T19:12:35+00:00

Also appears to be a daddy/little relationship, so not shocking. A parade of run, girl, run red flags.

ameinolf · 2021-10-05T03:41:42+00:00

Time to leave him he sounds like a dick

Japanese-Spaghetti · 2021-10-06T02:32:53+00:00

First red flag I see in this situation: she’s 22 and already married??

bubblegumsparkles · 2021-10-06T16:02:18+00:00

Aww hell no. I would dump divorce and disown his ass in perpetuity.

Title	What in the FUCK did I just read
Author	Thereismorethanthis
Upvotes	1163
Comments	97
Date	October 5, 2021 3:36 AM UTC (4 years ago)
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