This should be how women approach sex. If he can’t make you orgasm he can’t get access. 💅🏾👑

Jandi18 · 2021-12-30T14:50:53+00:00

My 22 year old self wasn’t this confident. I’m so happy Gen Z women are not playing. Learn from our mistakes and take no prisoners when it comes to dating.

Edit: Spellings

thanarealnobody · 2021-12-30T15:33:53+00:00

Yes queen!

I did this with my ex. He kept begging for blowjobs and shit - I said I would be open to it if he made me orgasm.

Guess who never got a blowjob.

Vmchik · 2021-12-30T15:41:10+00:00

While I like this sex strategy, I would’ve been out the door after a week of his behavior. At this point he’s not listening on purpose and will probably never make her orgasm. I’m glad she has the confidence to uphold her boundaries and expectations but I’m sure with age and experience she’ll learn she can dump a man as soon as he’s not showing the effort and care to make her orgasm.

Thestral-glow6 · 2021-12-30T14:55:53+00:00

🙄Ugh. Look how he tries to shift the blame onto her, instead of actually listening to his gf’s advice and being gentle.

He probably watches porn and thinks that ramming his fingers inside her and jabbing her randomly will get her off. Pathetic.

Olympia43 · 2021-12-30T15:40:23+00:00

Dude does not see the problem when his GF says that he is too rough with his fingers ??

That is why "cOmMuNiCaTiON" is a scam. They do not listen and they do not want to. Poor girl, she deserves wayyy much better.

Determinedblonde · 2021-12-30T15:23:56+00:00

My advice: dude stop watching porn and LISTEN. Slowly finger. Ugh 🙄

I’m hoping she’s this close 🤏 to giving up on him and doesn’t let him bully her into rubbish sex.

vietprincessleia · 2021-12-30T14:56:11+00:00

They want to take all the credit for female pleasure and none of the blame for the lack of satisfaction that males provide to females. I wish I had done this. I was convinced I could never orgasm because men and society constantly made me feel as though I was the problem. I didn’t even understand what an orgasm was or felt like. I knew what it was for men, but not for women. I thought this was normal eventually or that it was just me. Men would act like I had one even though I didn’t because their ego hurt, they’d try to say I’m lying when I straight up said no - I don’t think I had an orgasm. Then I got a vibrator and had my first real climax ever. I was so upset about how many women fake it and how many men gaslight women into pretending like they had a mutual climax. It’s such bs.

A HVM will try to either make you cum first or keep pleasuring you after he cums until you reach the same amount of relief. Lmfao this guy should probably learn how to give her head too, women orgasm well if you learn how to eat it right. A lot of women feel so terrible after sex because we don’t orgasm and the men do, but a lot of women don’t even recognize it because they haven’t ever came.

The happy women I know who experience orgasms have this standard with men that the man has to be able to make her cum and so do I. No more pity sex. I’m not worried about intimidating any one because I’m no longer interest in lazy male partners. The guy I’m with now loves to pleasure me and always has an eager attitude. 🙏

Also, i hate hearing, “everyone’s orgasm is their own responsibility” from lazy lvm. If that’s the case, don’t use women as a fleshlight and go jack off. Why is it that it’s “everyone’s own responsibility”, yet she’s often the only one who gets you off? Then you want to say you don’t have to reciprocate?? Okay? Then she doesn’t have to want to have sex with you any more either. Don’t cry and end up on dead bedrooms because your wife realized you were never good at intimacy.

xximaclown · 2021-12-30T16:25:48+00:00

Our good sis should just dump him.

If you can't make me cum, away from you I am gonna run 😌

Edit: thanks for the award 👉🏽👈🏽

herbivorouscarnivore · 2021-12-30T15:35:41+00:00

deep, calming breath

A considerate partner would explore ways to help her achieve orgasm, not shrug and express, “Just because you can’t doesn’t mean I’m not entitled to sex!”

I wish I knew his girlfriend. I would tell her to run far away!

pureRitual · 2021-12-30T15:00:03+00:00

I bet he's using his fingers as if they're a dido instead of looking for her g-spot, and that means he's no where near her clit.

Good on her for setting boundaries, and how disappointing that he's not willing to listen to her. I wish her the best

Muffcakelord · 2021-12-30T18:37:25+00:00

LMAOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOO WHY DID THIS GET REMOVED ON DATING ADVICE

blablaisso · 2021-12-30T15:46:39+00:00

I’m so glad to see that such young women, who is also a virgin, has this level of confidence. Men don’t give a fuck when they’re the ones getting pleasured.

NEVER let a men c*m first. Women are capable of having multiples orgasms, how are we supposed to get none during sex with men and be ok with it? Why don’t lesbians complain about the lack of orgasms and quality sex as much as hetero women?

ButterfliesHurricane · 2021-12-30T15:11:39+00:00

This young lady is an inspiration. She’s got it nailed down to a tee!

lansburysoda · 2021-12-30T16:20:11+00:00

It’s nearly 2022 and they still don’t know where the clitoris is 🥲

Sewud · 2021-12-30T15:17:45+00:00

It's about time things change because when I was young we had sex, I never had orgasms, and I had to walk on eggshells bending over to make men happy while they brought nothing in exchange (not financial, not emotional, not acts of service). It was just like we like to make men happy because that's a feminine hobby to make others happy. Well I'm glad to see it doesn't have to be that way.

PeanutButterPigeon85 · 2021-12-30T16:08:54+00:00

LMAO, if I'd held this standard with my exes, I'd still be a virgin* at 36. Good for her!

*in the traditional sense of the word

FuckSakez · 2021-12-30T17:13:52+00:00

No effort= no entry ⛔️

Good for her! She’s literally instructed him gently how she likes (and needs) to be touched. He cares about his pleasure above all.

Agent_Smarter · 2021-12-31T02:39:16+00:00

Stop being so rough. Read/watch some tutorials.

Colour_riot · 2021-12-31T11:10:17+00:00

pretty obvious why she needs antidepressants - not having an orgasm even once in a 3 year relationship and a whiny man baby

quasarbar · 2021-12-30T19:18:42+00:00

maybe the issue isn't me

Oh, lord.

TVsFrankismyDad · 2021-12-30T18:21:04+00:00

So he's finger banging her and then begging for sex and then wondering why this isn't getting her off? And considers that "his all"? Boy, step away from the porn for 5 fucking minutes if that's all you've got.

AyemHerself · 2021-12-30T17:06:19+00:00

He says he's giving it his all. She says he's being too rough. It's pretty clear from that line alone he's trying to approach this like smashing buttons for a video game puzzle just so he can get the reward. I guarantee you he's not going to be any more attentive to her needs once he gets what he wants.

xfelugirlx · 2021-12-31T07:43:05+00:00

Lol always blaming women, you are just bad dude. Move along

LilyFuckingBart · 2021-12-31T10:23:03+00:00

I support this woman 100% in her decision but some women simply can’t come from fingers, including their own.

Source: myself lol

(Clearly realize this is not the case for her, though, I’d this is the bar she is setting).

sveji- · 2021-12-30T22:47:01+00:00

Okay, if she's on meds that most likely affects her libido/ orgasms.. but if she says that you're going too rough every time and you say "I give her my all"? Nah, fuck that, you don't give her jackshit.

ThankGrace · 2021-12-30T19:24:44+00:00

Wow! I wish I had come across this post a decade ago. How absolutely smart of a woman to make this part of her vetting process.

MmeNxt · 2021-12-31T10:13:32+00:00

Three years of trying and he still can't do it right? Really?

She is a saint for giving him that much time to practice. I applaud her for saying "no more".

Maleficent-Excuse129 · 2021-12-31T00:01:02+00:00

Dude doesn’t understand erogenous zones. There’s a whole body there…🙄

deadinsidelol69 · 2021-12-30T19:14:33+00:00

Hes probably just intentionally screwing up and not listening to her so he can push her boundaries and get what he wants.

PixiesGem · 2021-12-30T15:52:22+00:00

Ha! This is fuccking fantastic!

spinsterchachkies · 2021-12-30T18:12:52+00:00

Good for her

WandernWondern · 2021-12-31T02:31:29+00:00

Periodt

GlitteryMoss · 2021-12-30T19:33:50+00:00

Reading more info posted by OP it seems she has never masturbated and is against it. Which might mean some issue about sex :-/

Some people offered good advice and a lot of people suggested a vibrator; but if she is against masturbation I wonder if she will be against a vibrator too.

dkwantsdk · 2022-01-02T09:45:17+00:00

but still no luck

Ah yes the classic orgasms come down to luck SHRUG I give up excuse

DTMFA

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scooter_se · 2022-01-05T05:33:13+00:00

My heart goes out to this poor woman’s cervix. I eventually just stopped letting men finger me because they always get too rough and that shit HURTS

Title	This should be how women approach sex. If he can’t make you orgasm he can’t get access. 💅🏾👑
Author	Vmchik
Upvotes	1083
Comments	70
Date	December 30, 2021 2:42 PM UTC (4 years ago)
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