Help: Just seen my ex wife on dating app.

Fairster_ · 2024-01-11T18:54:33+00:00

Get off the dating apps. Catch the city bus and walk downtown in your city. Start with a simple Good Morning, Afternoon, etc. It’ll change your life. Dating apps are trash the best partners are met irl

Flesh_Pillow5 · 2024-01-08T09:35:11+00:00

Stop calling her your ex, she’s your surrogate, would you be upset seeing a surrogate on a dating app

Articulate_idiot · 2024-01-08T07:47:58+00:00

Bro, time will heal your wounds. Soon you’ll realize your worth again. You were fine before you met her, you are even better after she’s gone because you now have the wisdom earned from the experience that you just went through. You get to use that wisdom to make sure that you find someone much more suited to a long term partner in the future. Don’t rush it, though. Let it happen organically. For now, there’s no issue with using dating apps to go out and have fun with women 10-20 years younger than her. What I’ve learned is that if you’re honest up front and tell them that you’re not looking for anything serious right now, most of them respect that and appreciate your honesty and will share some temporary companionship with you and move on.

jimsmythee · 2024-01-08T06:31:54+00:00

I filed for divorce and moved out and I was now out of the dead bedroom prison (amongst all of her other disasters that caused me to divorce her). I had all of the freebie dating apps installed on my phone. And I happened to be on Plenty-of-fish and it "matched" me with my exwife. I blocked her profile so she wouldn't see me.

We both dated other people and then she got a "serious" relationship. I figured, "what the hell, there are desperate people out there." A year into the 2 of them dating and living together, she texted me, "I'm getting married." I laughed so hard I nearly blew coffee out of my nose. Who would be so desperate to marry her? She didn't work. Didn't drive. And he had to spend his days driving her sorry ass to 10 different doctors and multiple ER trips when she'd run out of narcotics. They got married and I again laughed.

6 months later he left her. And I laughed so hard I nearly blew coffee out of my nose.

NewDay0110 · 2024-01-08T06:14:30+00:00

It's hurtful, but it's going to happen. You guys are done. Just swipe left. It's time for you to move on.

illuminateOblivion · 2024-01-08T04:34:42+00:00

I found my ex wife on a dating site about a month after we seperated, most of the pictures she used were from our honeymoon - 3 years earlier. You could see me in the reflection on her sunglasses and the other pics she was wearing my hoodie 🤣 ya just gotta laugh really

SireSweet · 2024-01-08T04:26:38+00:00

That’s fresh man.

You’re in like minded company.

I’d recommend getting a hair cut, hot shave, dress yourself up. Makes you feel like a crisp dollar afterwards instead of soggy boob money.

bigtallblacknbald · 2024-01-08T03:33:37+00:00

That’s tough man. August of last year is still pretty recent so it makes sense it would trigger some feelings. Nothing to be ashamed of

Tasty_Yogurt_9478 · 2024-01-08T03:21:31+00:00

Guess that's better than OF that I saw of mine .

Saulzy · 2024-01-08T02:08:00+00:00

I can understand what you might be feeling. Hasn't happened to me - but I get it. Stay strong. Stay cold. Stay Stoic. Detach from the emotions of that. You already know the trainwreck she may perhaps be. You know ALL of her flaws. Whomever is next, doesn't. Not yet. But they will. In Time.

ciscopimp2 · 2024-01-08T01:22:05+00:00

Remember, you know what the new guy is in for--he doesn't. My guess is that it will be some kind of pump and dump when he gets tired of her. Just don't take her back and live your best life.

Due_Promise2866 · 2024-01-08T01:20:55+00:00

Block her, get better

No-Seaworthiness1238 · 2024-01-08T01:03:06+00:00

If your marriage is over, her being on an app doesn’t make her any less yours than she already wasnt. Also if it bothers you which is understandable, just keep in mind that’s a sign you are definitely not ready for another relationship. Left swipe and carry on at a high rate of speed sir

Alternately, super like her and see the fallout. IANAL

Exciting-Throat-2002 · 2024-01-08T00:57:09+00:00

I found out months later that my ex was on the same night I left. I found this out after I confirmed her affair on a vacation she went on.

Ypu will get to aplace where you actually won't give a shit.

probebeta · 2024-01-08T00:49:49+00:00

You can look at it this way... Whatever plans she had with that guy she was thinking about probably didn't work out. So she's back to the dating pool. We find it very hard to accept how shes capable of moving on so quickly and is having a much better life, but the reality is that her life can't be that much better than yours (if you put in the work). It's probably much much worse. Just ignore and delete her from your mind, it's getting in the way of progress!

Feinixaway · 2024-01-08T00:40:09+00:00

Mine was too.

I remember feeling sorry for the poor dude that ends up with such a cheating wh0re.

Today_14 · 2024-01-08T00:39:05+00:00

Practice indifference, you shouldn't give her any attention at all...if you give, she would think you are still hurting or missing her.

saygrace2 · 2024-01-08T00:18:51+00:00

Your point? You’re on the same damn app!

xadmin1 · 2024-01-08T00:12:15+00:00

That’s the reality. Your ex wife was never made for marriage. Be glad it’s over.

Acceptable_Piano4809 · 2024-01-07T23:49:07+00:00

I found out my wife had been cheating by getting a “friends suggestion” from some guy I’ve never heard of, and she was in his profile pic…. (Knew she was cheating as they listed their relationship starting while we were together)…. I know the feeling, and that’s not something I wanted to see… think it happened from her stalking me using his profile, as I have no idea why FB would suggest I be friends w some guy that has no common friends w me unless she was using it to stalk me… but everyone is right, who gives a shit, I feel bad for the guy

King_of_Corinth_ · 2024-01-07T23:45:39+00:00

You were on the app, so was she, who cares. It's been a long time. Go back to trying to get laid and not caring.

mostly80smusic · 2024-01-07T23:27:13+00:00

Send her profile link if you want me to ghost her.

Artistic-Trifle-555 · 2024-01-07T22:29:38+00:00

That happened to me. Sucks to see at first but I just thought of the lies in what she posted and thought "glad she's gone".

MrCleanWI · 2024-01-07T22:27:41+00:00

When a divorce comes about, that means you separate your lives. You got to learn to move on past it and realize you need to do you and she's doing her. Everybody moves at their own pace.

Timbers-creek · 2024-01-07T22:16:45+00:00

I’ve been single for over a year now & still working on me. Get off the dating apps, focus on you & take the time.

dadplup · 2024-01-07T22:12:27+00:00

It will be ok, my nexw and I have been divorced since 2/22 and she didn't wait until we separated before starting her next relationship, then the next and then the current one, ik it hurts even when you know it will happen, it makes you feel insignificant, it did to me like I didn't matter.

This days I'm ok with me being where I am, life is not perfect but it's better than it was, this happened when I accepted that I had no control over what she did with her life, that she would do what she wanted to do, when she wanted to, if she wanted to do it , what ever happens in her life is no longer my concern as long a our kid is not going down with her it is not my coop, nor my poop.

Since this is very recent for you it will seem overwhelming sometimes, but it's important that you don't dwell on it, don't give it a second thought, because she is not giving you one anyway I can guarantee you that. Good luck to you

vector5633 · 2024-01-07T22:10:38+00:00

Stop using those cesspool of dating apps. Like others said. Work on yourself! Don't worry about her anymore. She belongs to the streets now. You will heel and be a better version of yourself.

Keep moving forward brother!

HawksNation91 · 2024-01-07T22:06:26+00:00

Like her picture

Intrepid_Raisin6446 · 2024-01-07T22:04:40+00:00

It happens. Just take it and stride.

research002019 · 2024-01-07T22:03:58+00:00

Happened to me a few months after the divorce. The funny thing was that the app said we were a 95% match!

We were deep in the resentful, court stages of the divorce at that point, but I just had to tell her, I found it so hilarious!

whereami113 · 2024-01-07T21:29:04+00:00

My advice.

Get off the dumpster fire that is dating apps and work on yourself .

Gym , and making sweet dollars.

Travel. I just came back from a week in Thailand , had a ball. Did what I wanted and had some fun also along the way for myself.

chango01232020 · 2024-01-07T20:56:24+00:00

This has happened to me multiple times unfortunately. And others have sent screenshots of her to me. But I will say, it sucks now probably because you are still pretty freshly out of it. In time, youll be able to laugh at it. But it takes time. For now, try to laugh about some sucker thinking hes winning.

Diablo_Canyon2 · 2024-01-07T20:27:49+00:00

Fine, let her disappoint someone else in the bedroom for once.

mehmench · 2024-01-07T20:25:50+00:00

Dude, you're on the same app. Swipe left.

dpch · 2024-01-07T20:11:40+00:00

Bro, it just happened, it could take years for you to recover it’s a personal journey. Don’t forget to block her ass and take a breather. Time numbs all things.

woundedsurfer · 2024-01-07T20:06:52+00:00

Well, if you saw her on a dating app, that means you’re on the same app as well? So if you’re allowed to move on and date, so should she. We need to remember that these women are not our property nor our problem. Block her and move on. I know it stings, trust me, but you’re both allowed to find happiness.

Dunkman83 · 2024-01-07T19:49:35+00:00

block her and go do some push ups.

go buy a nice suit, go buy a cross bow, get a tattoo, do something, anything besides mope

trust i was depressed for my ENTIRE 20s and regret it to no end

keep your feet moving

Grand-Expression-493 · 2024-01-07T19:48:55+00:00

Sorry man. Take the happiness in swiping left and pray for the next guy.

her_dog_is_odd · 2024-01-07T19:41:23+00:00

Don’t give her the satisfaction of knowing she still resides in your mental space. And while you’re at it, kick her out of your mental space.

KEK0811 · 2024-01-07T19:22:51+00:00

Well, here's to hoping that she sees you as well and feels even worse! Sorry don't know what to say, mine was never without dick for more than a few days after me. Would be very tough though. Just keep working on yourself!

Technical_Agent_689 · 2024-01-07T19:19:16+00:00

Not sure what would be worse. Me seeing her or her me. There should be a way to block names from seeing you.

Plenty-Entertainer71 · 2024-01-07T19:18:33+00:00

Saw mine on tinder before divorce was finalized honestly didn’t think nothing of it , just blocked her and went on my day

sicrm · 2024-01-07T19:15:46+00:00

don’t say a word unless she brings it up and keep it moving.

get out the house for a little bit today if possible to help clear your head.

Title	Help: Just seen my ex wife on dating app.
Author	Miserable_Ad_1172
Upvotes	84
Comments	117
Date	January 7, 2024 7:05 PM UTC (2 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/Divorce_Men
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