How can I learn to talk to women?

atomant88 · 2022-08-15T13:17:35+00:00

women are people. just talk to them like anyone else bro

YourAverageTurkGuy · 2022-08-15T15:24:32+00:00

Gain new hobbies and attend hobby groups. You don't have to talk at first. Just observe how other people interact with each other and how succesful people around you interact with women. After a while you will get used to the group and will be able to form meaningful conversations with other women in your group. Once you shake off your anxiety and your negative biases you can start interacting with other women from your friend group or maybe even strangers when you feel confident enough.
Do this while also improving yourself in other aspects such as your body, your face, your social circle. Basically add value to yourself in areas that you find lacking and expose yourself to enough amounts of women. You might feel bad because you're a little bit late to the party but you have a long life ahead of you and if you start now I guarantee it would take less than a year to make significant amounts of progress.

CompetitionFair7686 · 2022-08-15T13:57:18+00:00

First of all, don’t call it sexual intercourse 🤣… Call it sex. Please don’t use any type of wimpy language in front of women. Be willing to say words like fuck, sex, she is hot…
Secondly, don’t tell women that you are inexperienced, just don’t talk about your experience with girls at all, be vague, and definitely don’t say to them that you are a virgin.
Why? Because most girls don’t wanna teach a guy, and your options will be reduced drastically.
There are very few woman who like teaching a guy in the bedroom… Most girls want guys who know what they are doing and know how to treat women.
Thirdly, you need to be playful, be willing to joke, mess with them, tease them playfully and being sarcastic for playfulness…

nomamx · 2022-08-15T15:05:14+00:00

How did you learn to ride a bicycle…?

Did you spend months and years agonizing about it and reading Reddit on how to ride a bicycle?

NO. You got on a fucking bicycle and fell off it and bruised your ass and banged up your knee and it fucking hurt. But you got it eventually.

anicknameyo · 2022-08-15T13:38:33+00:00

Treat them like humans, because they are humans. Throw away all the bullshit PUA crap that tells you to say cringy A and then B.

usemeforsecret · 2022-08-15T13:20:39+00:00

By talking to them

Iamamindfullsoul · 2022-08-15T14:50:50+00:00

Just pure experience. It’s an acquired skill. You have to have the balls and heart to go out and talk. It’s takes practice.

SociallyCluelessHELP · 2022-08-15T13:34:56+00:00

By talking to them like to any other human, but focus more on emotions than information.

Ph1ldo33 · 2022-08-15T15:39:55+00:00

Stop giving a shit and overthinking it. They are just people. Be yourself and don't try so hard. Let the conversation happen naturally.

Skadongle · 2022-08-15T16:46:55+00:00

Judging by the way you write here, you sound like a personified cliche of the fedora wearing neckbard

First step would be to not fulfill that cliche

kryptofaerie · 2022-08-15T19:21:19+00:00

Talk to women like they're people and not just a body you want to have sex with. Also, learn how to say sex instead of sexual intercourse. Focus first on being able to hold up a conversation with any woman. Make sure you understand consent. I can share a link that explains consent very clearly. Read up on how to please a woman (consent and foreplay are the most important).

Also the line about "not being evil" makes you sound like a serial killer. Most people don't have to clarify that they aren't evil.. It's like saying "I'm a nice guy". Nice is the baseline. Everyone should be nice. Have hobbies, listen, read, talk to people.

2022-08-15T14:08:08+00:00

The "evil" line is a bit worrying. If you feel like you have a long way to go on any goal, there's usually not quick steps. Do a lot of learning and studying like anything else.

zisehuar · 2022-08-15T16:06:51+00:00

Just make sure you're genuine and honest while acting like a gentleman. Treat them like human beings with dignity. As I like to say, girls like to get laid, too.

MrWolffman · 2022-08-15T13:23:39+00:00

Check out "Actualized" on Youtube. The channel is mostly about self improvement and has a videoseries solely on how to get laid.

tudorcj · 2022-08-15T16:31:48+00:00

Okay, so a couple of red flags:

By saying “I’m not evil” you’re basically saying I’m not a good person but I want others to think otherwise. A normal, decent person doesn’t need to advertise that - they just are decent and people just feel comfortable around them.
You really just want sex - if you’re looking at every single woman that you find attractive as a potential sexual partner you’re definitely on the wrong path. She also needs to be into you, you need to be able to start and maintain a conversation, flirt and you need to also accept that she just may not be into you - and that’s totally fine and normal. If all you want is sex just hire an escort.
Women and relationships don’t work that way. It’s not just up to you and what you want.

I would recommend that you first try getting laid by an escort to get that sexual part out of your system. Then, work on treating women as people, not just vaginas - that way you won’t give off the creep vibe and you’ll have plenty of opportunities to talk to them in non-romantic scenarios. Engaging them like that will allow you to be more confident in talking to them and also begin flirting if you see that there is mutual attractionz

EatHerButt · 2022-08-15T14:16:45+00:00

Just need sum confidence. Get a haircut make sure you smell good and have a decent outfit and you can approach any girl.

Noryb_of_Myst · 2022-08-15T15:39:29+00:00

Approach them and talk without any expectations. For start enough is to talk to girls without creeping them out. Do that and you are in front of many other guys. Like other people here said you can't learn without trying.

Deluxedunk · 2022-08-15T16:24:14+00:00

Easily. Talk to them. There are not E.T.I and you whould be suprised, they don't bite either.
Based on your feedback, I whould say that you don't have too much experience and you are a bit scared. You don't have to be. Start by baby steps. By talking with so many people, you are going to be good in it and trust me, you will become more interesting person to be with because you will know how to handle every possible situation. When it comes to your interests, it is not about them but it is more about how you talk about it and present it. Trust me, over the years, I meet people with the interesting hobbies but the way how they talked about it, killed my curiosity. What you need to do, you need to become passionate and enthusiastic. There too much people in this world and it is totally normal that some people will think that you are boring. Take that as a privliege because you know that they are not worth of time and time, trust me on this, is precious. The last tip, when you speak with somebody (it can be a girl), just relax and thing more about having a good time then getting a green light for a date.

Kitchen-Ranger-4175 · 2022-08-15T18:26:53+00:00

I really recommend watching YouTube videos they have a ton on Talking Etiquette, Dating Etiquette etc just research it and see what comes up there’s a lot of valuable content

2022-08-15T21:52:55+00:00

Experience. Start meeting and talking to women. Embrace failure and grow from it. Imitate the ones who are successful and abandon things that dont work. Also don't ever say something like "I am not an evil person" because that just shows to me that you are trying to be likeable. Be a piece of shit. Its ok because we all are.

Amalasian · 2022-08-15T14:04:34+00:00

pick one at randome and go say hi. just talk about weather or some shit. then leave.

a small gem to add. not trying to get the girl and just having your own fun even slightly at the expense of her (negging, jokes, teasing), and because there is no current of "i want you!!!" in it the girl will respond stronger cause no creep flags going up. as well your more relaxed and natural because your not stressing out that you have to talk to the world killer called woman.

2022-08-15T15:53:58+00:00

Gotchu bro 1 Stage You need confidence and you only get confident when you feel good .You can only feel good when you look good .So firstly, you gotta look sharp bro. Nothing flashy ,just sharp.

2.Stage ,Lets say you meet a woman outside.First thing you have to do is examine her environment.Is she busy ? What is her body language? Is it welcoming or not?

3 .Stage You then approach after 3sec you guys make eye contact. Say hi and compliment her on her looks by saying; I was just roaming around and cudnt help but notice how gorgeous you looking today. After youv said that , she already knows what this is all about. Now she will pay attention to see how confident you are .Your body language, your voice , your posture. You introduce yourself by stretching out your hand for a hand shave .Eye contact bro.Dont look anywhere else. Just her eyes. Blink tho or else she might think you kinda creepy.lmao.

4.Stage What exactly you have to talk about depends on what she is doing. Reading a book? Ask about what its about.Drinking at starbucks? Ask about her favorite drink.Let it be solely about her.If she is interested you will know by her reactions and how she answers your questions.If you get one word answers ,you shd back off. Thats it bro.

Knbnc · 2022-08-15T13:23:07+00:00

Just talk to them. Join a local activity through a page like meetup that has girls and talk to them. You don't even need to ask them out, just be friendly like you are with any guy.

DODI3OG · 2022-08-15T15:09:48+00:00

Just talk to women. Just do it. Chances are you're already talking to women, just not the women you think highly of.

Thing is, there's no one-size-fits-all how to. If there's one, it's just to talk to them. You can be dishonest, honest depending on the results you want.

terry_l_ng · 2022-08-15T15:23:03+00:00

Start talking to women in general, regardless of whether you find them attractive or not, young or old. It can be as simple as smiling and saying “Hi, good morning.” to start off. If this develops into more of a conversation then go with the flow and enjoy it. Don’t think of it as getting the girl because that’s when you are objectifying her. Think about it as you and her just enjoying each other’s company. If the conversation fizzles out, that’s ok, but if it’s going swimmingly, then that’s great! Try to enjoy someone else’s company based on their personality rather than on their looks. If you can do that, then I suspect you will be way more successful with people and women in general because you will be present in the moment

princelydeeds · 2022-08-15T16:18:25+00:00

You think too much and try to little...

Learn, grow, get better at thinking on your feet.

Think of it as salesmanship.

xAttilaTheBunx · 2022-08-15T16:46:43+00:00

If you’re having trouble coming up with stuff to say, you can try practicing your conversation skills by talking to random people throughout the day. Just a quick convo with the clerk at the grocery store or barista at a coffee shop is enough to boost your skills and gain confidence.

Progress isn’t always immediate and will probably take some time. Be patient and you’ll get there, you just gotta keep at it

Amikatey · 2022-08-15T16:50:24+00:00

It isn't and would never be no matter what your situation currently is, you just have to be willing to take action and you will find it's not the most difficult thing to pull off , you can start by taking a walk down your street and asking for directions if that's too much, just say hello to strangers while walking away, if that's too much just look strangers(ladies) in the eye as you walk pass them and smile when they look at you.some will look away, some will smileback, some will thing your weird some will.........but You just have to start from somewhere although it might be awkward at first but you'll get past it.

alchomy8 · 2022-08-15T17:28:37+00:00

I think the overwhelming point is to start talking to women, we all get nervous. We’ve all had blunders in body language, speech, misreading social cues that may typically be easier to recognize when our heart isn’t beating in our throat. Over time, usually dependent on frequency of “practice” your confidence will grow and eliminate much of the fear / anxiety you’ve described. Most importantly IMO is to always remain yourself weather in conversation, dress or activity. Acting or misrepresentation of yourself is setting yourself up for heart ache. Remember we all have qualities that are sought after and there is someone for you. Now get off Reddit and put yourself in environments that will help you succeed i.e you like reading head to the library, comic book shop, enjoy coffee find a caffe and lastly don’t forget to enjoy the process! Finding compatible partners takes time and effort.

Blaphrodite · 2022-08-15T18:09:56+00:00

As everyone else says. Women are humans… not a potential cum rag or glory hole.

Treat them like you’d want to your mum to be treated. Be nice, polite. Make eye contact. Chat with people, say hello. Being a decent human is a whole lot easier than trying to be a pick up artist.

Calamity__Bane · 2022-08-15T18:30:55+00:00

Start by just getting used to having normal conversations. Talk to women like you’d talk to your guy friends, and focus less on getting laid and more on having mutually enjoyable interactions with no strings attached. Once you can do that easily and confidently, you’ll have enough of a baseline to move on to more flirty, risky, and seductive conversations.

ThorOden101 · 2022-08-15T19:13:48+00:00

I have been on my first dates with women this year and noticed they are much funnier to talk to than guys. You can joke a lot more with them about stupid things. Try to talk most about things that she is part of. And the biggest one is playfulness. Make a girl laugh and you have half a foot in. I am new to this too and I got rejected by the few girls I dated, but I get one step closer every time by learning from my mistakes and I want to keep learning.

OkNefariousness9758 · 2022-08-15T19:30:52+00:00

Here's a tip, talk to women that you are unattracted to. It'll reduce some of the nervousness you have and you can really focus on what you're saying and how your body is reacting. This helped me boost my confidence, and now I can talk to beautiful women like it's nothing.

Here's another tip, beautiful women like to be treated regularly. It gets a little weird when they're pedestalized, especially when they haven't done anything. They get called beautiful all the time, so for you to not give her a compliment so quickly, she'll treat you differently because you're treating her differently. She won't put you in the same box as every other guy, you'll have your own separate section in her mind, and the more you get to know each other, she might like you more

joeyggg · 2022-08-15T21:56:27+00:00

Get a job or volunteer somewhere that you’ll have lots of interaction with people. Once you get comfortable talking to people you don’t know you won’t care whether chicks are hot or not when it comes to conversation.

teekayoh96 · 2022-08-15T21:56:40+00:00

One thing for sure is that you should be yourself. People in general can tell if someone's not acting him or herself, it comes off as abnormal or a sense of something off. Unless the person is a sociopath.

organbakery · 2022-08-15T23:40:15+00:00

Practice makes perfect

StrongElderberry8952 · 2022-08-16T06:03:56+00:00

Go somewhere no one knows you and talk to every girls you see

2022-08-16T06:47:44+00:00

Don’t overthink it. Just go up to one and say what’s up? Ask about her. Be curious about her. Remember women are just like us dudes. They wake up like us. Brush they teeth like us etc. Be easy and just don’t overthink it.

Tribeless1 · 2022-08-16T10:04:48+00:00

To begin improving with relationships, you need to break it down to a few simple steps to make it easier.

Step One: The Approach.

If your in a public place, a Club, a Bar, a Grocery Store, in line at the Post Office, it’s important to practice starting a conversation with Women, or hell, any Stranger. Some key Tips: the 3 Second Rule. Only allow yourself about 3 seconds before throwing yourself into a conversation with a Woman/Stranger to prevent yourself from psyching yourself out. When you start your conversation, it doesn’t really matter what you say or what you talk about, you only want to focus on being confident in the moment. I recommend saying something to the effect of, “Hey I only have a minute to talk, I’m (Name) What do you think about _?”

Step Two: Exchanging Phone Numbers or Contact Information.

If you talk for a little bit and you establish some rapport with the Person, you want to build some comfort during your conversation, and be as unthreatening as possible. Then before you go, you can ask for their number or offer your phone number. Tips: If you ask for their phone number and they give it to you, read it back to them but read one of the numbers wrong. If they’re really interested in you, then they will make sure to correct it. If they don’t catch the error, they probably either never intended to talk to you again, or they gave you a fake, or worse, Prank number to call. These days it’s best to text them while your exchanging numbers to ensure you both can Text.

Step Three: Calls or Texts.

When you call or text the person, you want to be high energy, exciting, and fun. Some people try Mysterious, Cocky, Adventurous or whatever. The point is you want to keep their interest and attention. You want to continue to build comfort as you work to set up a first date. Tip: When you engage with them on the phone or in texts, try to remember to ask fun and open ended questions, without making yourself sound like a job interview.

Step Three: The Date.

You want to pick somewhere you can meet publicly and carry on a conversation. A Coffee Shop or Park is great, a Movie isn’t as good for a First Date because you don’t get to talk as much. While on the Date, you really want to keep your headspace in being Fun and Exciting as you practice your Active Listening Skills. Feel free to joke with her about small stuff on the date, all the while showing a smile so she knows your joking. A lot of what makes a First Date so tense is when you wait to the end of the night to try to kiss her. What you want to do is break the touch barrier early, in a non threatening way, so that when you do go in for the kiss later, she’s more open to it. If she did something new with her nails? Take her hand to get a closer look, then playfully toss her hands away afterwards while giving a wink and a smile to let her know your kidding. Or as your in line for something, gently guide her with your hand on her lower back for no more than a few seconds. Build up her desire for you by staying true to your inner attractive nature and when she tests you (and she will, and that’s a good thing) be ready to stay true to yourself.

So if you break it down into steps, it’s easier to improve your relationship.

This is a good start, good luck!

EU-Howdie · 2022-08-16T17:12:35+00:00

PRACTICE

Practice is the only way to get better. Practice to make small talk. That is the start. AND !! not only that cute girl. Talk with everybody, become talkable! Young and old, man and women.

Let people talk, that is what they like to do, somebody who is interested in them and listens. Do ask open questions, which are questions you can not answer with yes or no or with very short answers. Mostly it is good to give some information about yourself before you ask your question. Like ... I see you take vanille ice. I love that but too the strawberry ice, that is very good here in this icesalon. And you, what are your favorites.

Realise, it does not matter a lot what you say, when they like you it is ok, when they do not like you it does not matter even when you talk like Shakespeare, it won't work.

Second very important tip .. when you ask her to sit down for a coffee, a soft drink or what else, do not be shy. There is nothing wrong at drinking a coffee and have some small talk. You are not asking her for some porno-sex. Just for a coffee and some talk. Third ... Invite her always to a very safe and public place where many people are. Again, when she likes you even a little, you have good chances she accepts your invitation and maybe ... she will become the mother of your six children!

deep2021 · 2022-08-15T15:02:59+00:00

Dance classes can help

MK2718 · 2022-08-15T14:29:04+00:00

How to Start Conversations with Strangers.

eineruntervielen · 2022-08-15T15:15:58+00:00

speak to them

iamgiantlifestyle · 2022-08-16T09:16:15+00:00

Check out this guy on YouTube, he really helped me out. https://youtu.be/42y0bztF4S8

Miguel_Legacy · 2022-08-15T18:15:38+00:00

If you have money, find a dating coach you like and trust (probably through their free content on YouTube) and then join their coaching programs.

2022-08-15T19:01:50+00:00

Vote on the leftmost candidate and become feminist, and pretend to be their gayfriend as well, all the dudes that did thia got pussy while the omega alpha male here is an incel 25 year old virgin. Also dont say anything stupod that will want to make them sue you or theaten to sue you, because deep down every women is a Karen.

Cantsleepperson · 2022-08-15T23:03:14+00:00

Here’s a top secret… Women are human!!!!

Gmarlon123 · 2022-08-16T04:54:00+00:00

Check me out- just a normal dude with normal life advice- www.coachg123.com

zapadz · 2022-08-15T14:46:14+00:00

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=twTrrGiRXtY&t=13m35s

Try the “start conversations with women” video here http://davidtianphd.com/masterclass-content/

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=LKAvQYCKhhM

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=OhR3VSMHo2w

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=85jQpsxhMCc

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=oxOih6GwSXI

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=OYXS7lCWgsg

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PTSDrazor · 2022-08-15T14:57:00+00:00

Learn and pratice day game

Chicagoj1563 · 2022-08-15T14:31:24+00:00

You will need to have an abundance of opportunities to practice talking to women. Nothing else really matters if you aren't socializing with women. You can read about all the techniques you want, it won't matter unless you are interacting with women on a regular basis. So, try to figure that out first. Then, you can think of ways to start conversations, keep the conversation going, etc...

Ok-Argument-1015 · 2022-08-15T14:42:59+00:00

If you are comfortable having a conversation in general apply those same skills.

Jasonhardon · 2022-08-15T15:25:15+00:00

How about find a common hobby like yoga or dancing then ask one to practice with you? 🤷🏻‍♂️

2022-08-15T15:25:21+00:00

You talk like you talk with your male friends, but with a seductive voice/vibe and you express your desire/admiration to the girl you're talking to.

There is nothing so special about it.

B3asy · 2022-08-15T16:20:29+00:00

Did you go to public school? Did you have any female friends? It's not much different than that

aaronbuck1975 · 2022-08-15T16:26:11+00:00

How do you talk to your friends? Do the same with women. Ask questions and joke around with them. Questions like: What is your greatest passion right now?

inline6throwaway · 2022-08-15T16:42:43+00:00

If you're starting off, clear your thoughts. Have no motives like trying to get her number, have no expectations. Just get in your groove first and if she seems into you, then ask for the number. Sometimes when you're talking to women you are actually just testing the waters to see how she will respond to you. Keep in mind how you make her feel

Alsotebb · 2022-08-15T16:43:05+00:00

Theirs no one way, just talk to them as you would any other person (parents, family, male) stop putting them on a pedestal. Don’t be a creep and understand if they don’t want to talk to you, it’s fine and move on. Start off by talking to girls you know don’t just approach random women.

Daygamesimplified · 2022-08-15T16:52:58+00:00

It’s easy I can teach you how

Repulsive-Fee393 · 2022-08-15T16:56:16+00:00

Work retail

approaching_freedom · 2022-08-15T17:05:11+00:00

Start small and build up. Ask one what time it is, say your phone died if she wonders why you’re asking. After she tells you say thanks and leave.

Do that a bunch of times and then add in something else, like “do you know where x restaurant is?” These girls would have to be the most rude people on the planet to not help you with the time and where a restaurant is.

Once you’re comfortable saying canned lines move on to actual conversations. Just keep pushing your boundaries and understand that most conversations aren’t going to be super smooth, but as long as you stay persistent you’ll get some eventually

Normal-Profile-3893 · 2022-08-15T17:07:59+00:00

chatroulette

2022-08-15T17:09:16+00:00

Head on over to r/fragrance and they will tell you what to do.

Wretmans · 2022-08-15T17:31:06+00:00

Talk to women.

ReekyHornet69 · 2022-08-15T17:32:12+00:00

By talking to them. It’s that simple. As for a place, go do something you enjoy and talk to people who enjoy the same thing. It’s easier to start conversation with people who have similar interests

comicsans123 · 2022-08-15T17:36:12+00:00

just talk to them lol don’t be scared to fuck up unless you see that person everyday

thekingmike · 2022-08-15T17:42:43+00:00

Personal Experience* Just be yourself. Don't pretend what you are not and not willing to be.

Either_Mission_2887 · 2022-08-15T17:48:01+00:00

If your black then you should look up vids on how to rizz up females because asking here aint gonna help you. But if your white then u might find some tips here.

mainag13 · 2022-08-15T17:54:53+00:00

Talk to them like any other person. They are human my brother. Be yourself. Nothing else.

Glynnroy · 2022-08-15T18:32:49+00:00

The game - Neil Strauss

Vegetable-Mobile-430 · 2022-08-15T19:02:55+00:00

TALK. TO. WOMEN.

I3enj · 2022-08-15T19:27:52+00:00

Man Im 19 and until 2 months ago I was exactly where you are. Then I took a random last minute holiday to spain and spent a week in a club with my mates talking to girls and I swear after that week I felt like a god. The key realisatoon is that girls are just people. If you easily make your guy mates laugh, you can effortlessly make girls laugh.

Dive in at the deep end like I did, go to a nightclub with some friends and talk shit until you get comfortable with yourself.

2022-08-15T19:28:11+00:00

Forget about gender and sex, just talk ignoring this to relax

sinXvang · 2022-08-15T19:38:14+00:00

Break the ice with a dad joke or something. If you’re not 100% with your looks women do love a funny guy. Just don’t be funny all the time or else you’ll be a joker. Be yourself, if they turn you down, it ain’t meant to be and just move on to the next one

Charge36 · 2022-08-15T19:56:54+00:00

Forget sex for minute. You need to get comfortable talking to people in general and women in particular. Best way is to just start doing it more. Go out and talk to people you don't know.

Sex will come when your communication skills make you comfortable to talk with

whiplash81 · 2022-08-15T20:22:33+00:00

Trial and error.

Don't become dependent on the outcome. Just learn from it and adapt.

Don't make the goal "to get laid." Make it smaller, easier to understand steps.

In this case, you don't know what to talk about, or more specifically, how to hold an interesting conversation that will draw her in.

So practice socializing with everyone, men and women, until you start to fill comfortable socializing.

Once you gain that skill, then learn how to pick up on body language, and learn what "indicators of interest" are.

This is how you find women that are interested in you.

Understand that each step will take practice.

Also don't be afraid to read a book or guides if you don't feel like reinventing the wheel.

Ectoplasmic1984 · 2022-08-15T20:37:54+00:00

reminds me of a long statement that was a rant by a guy that i thought hit the nail on the head, completely changed my perspective on talking to women

kylel95 · 2022-08-15T20:59:20+00:00

watch social animal on youtube and start interacting with random women you find attractive. you’ll get better over time, don’t worry about mistakes. it’ll come in due time

2022-08-15T20:59:50+00:00

We're not some endangered species of animal that will run away or bite your head off. Just say hi

Competitive-Link-912 · 2022-08-15T21:05:29+00:00

Trial and error. Just speak with women, any women and normalize them. Friends, classmates, colleagues, family etc etc.

Man even just speaking with men improves overall communication skills and will indirectly help you. In particular when the man is in a position of intimidating authority such as a teacher or high ranking businessman.

Just start doing it and trust me it will eventually coming. It takes years bro but it is worth it .

Confidence is built not born. You can start whenever you want. It’s never too late.

Dream3r111 · 2022-08-15T21:07:30+00:00

Start a hobby where you come into contact with women.

On meetup.com join a language exchange, boardgame night or similar activity where you're compelled to communicate with women.

wakejedi · 2022-08-15T21:09:32+00:00

Get a Service Industry job, you'll have to talk to 30 different women a day.

2022-08-15T21:15:09+00:00

You need to work hard and make yourself a high value man. Think about it, dating is a competition, why would she talk and sleep with you when she can do it with someone better than you, you have to make good money, have your own car, be in peak physical shape by lifting at the gym and going for runs, take care of your face, style your hair etc. you need to work on self improvement, doing all this will increase your confidence and give you the ability to talk to women, then from that point on its trial and error, you learn what works and what doesn’t and you have a certain demographic of women you try to talk to. Eventually you become good at talking to them and you start getting relationships.

2022-08-15T21:29:41+00:00

Get a job at McDonald’s or a fast food restaurant. You will perfect the art

Aesthetic_af · 2022-08-15T21:38:56+00:00

Todd valentine on YouTube ur welcome

minhyo · 2022-08-15T22:53:59+00:00

Yt Craig Ferguson

ciaobellapgh · 2022-08-15T23:15:19+00:00

Commenting purely to find this again

Sure-Wish3240 · 2022-08-15T23:48:38+00:00

You are overthinking this.

Female select. Males are selected.

Unless you are a tera-scale Chad, odds are you have no say in choosing what you want. At most you can say no to a female that selects you.

Rules of being a seductive male:

1-Be attractive. This means keep your best health, clothes and to a lesser degree wealth. Good clothes and a fit body will get you more girls than any book seduction skill.

2-Don't be unattractive. This means dont say things you should not say. Do not say anything about her body or looks. Trust me, girls know where we look and they will notice at once that you are checking their lips, hips and boobs. No need to tell them. Just smile after being caught checking her out.

So females will select you and they will sign her interest. This is universal. The female will look at you for a brief moment, then smile at you. This is true in any country or time. A female that is craving your dick may add more signs like rolling her hair on tip of fingers or biting her lips, but usually you have only this glimpse of an eye contact and a smile.

Stay sharp. Don't miss those moments. Act instantly. Smile back. If she doesnt make a disgusting face, odds are you have been selected. Approach her and follow rule 2. The best pick line is :Hi, my name is XY. May i ask your name? From there, both will try to do a terrain recon. Keep your personal data private. Age and what you do for a living should suffice, some.common tastes or hobbies will speed things up , but keep hearing what she hás to say and make her smile. Fun fact: after a female selects a male age ia more likely to laught from his jokes. And this will later help her achieve faster orgarms.

xxqxpxx · 2022-08-16T00:27:30+00:00

Like you are talking to cat

JrPinel94 · 2022-08-16T00:50:06+00:00

I’ve realized the more you sort your intentions out the more confident you become. Also women aren’t sone foreign species lol. Just approach like you would to anyone.

Abhi005 · 2022-08-16T03:34:01+00:00

Keep a smile and talk to her. Keep flirting. Don't talk to her like she is a Princess or a Hollywood star, instead talk to her like she is a normal person. And most of all keep your personality and stand on your ground and stand on your character.

dons90 · 2022-08-16T03:34:33+00:00

Based on how you've written this, it feels like you've probably not had many normal interactions with women. I'd say you should probably get comfortable being around women in group settings, learn how to connect with the ones that share similar interests, don't be focused on sex as the outcome, let it happen naturally.

You're 20, you're far from hopeless when it comes to sex, but you have to take meaningful steps one by one to overcome the issues that have prevented you from having normal interactions with women all this time.

Opulent_Lion2022 · 2022-08-16T03:46:31+00:00

Throw candy and snacks at her. If she likes you she’ll eat them and say thank you. Good way to break the ice.

Glittering_Lettuce47 · 2022-08-16T03:49:08+00:00

Perhaps you should start out online? Sometimes it's easier to do things from behind a screen, like sharing your feelings here.

Why don't you chat to girls on dating apps (could start with Bumble where the woman has to talk first) or talk to girls looking to have online friendships/relationships like on Sunroom App?

Lawrence_Honeyhand · 2022-08-16T04:01:09+00:00

My general rule of thumb is the prettier the girl, the more brief you should be with them. No unnecessary flattery or compliments. Beautiful women are always used to men extending a conversation with them for their own ulterior motives, and the less chatter you throw at the them, the more inclined they are to feel comfortable speaking with you, whatever your intentions. Just be sure you are genuine in those intentions.

When they speak, stay silent, listen to their words, look them in the eye. Don’t concern yourself with what you want to say, but rather a thoughtful question or remark in response to their own words. Again, no unnecessary compliments. They already know from the last dude. Of course, use your judgment for when to place the right compliment.

Don’t rush the interaction. Allow it to flow nicely to showcase your confidence and ease of conversation.

All women are different. No matter your attraction level to them, be nice, playful and respectful. Other women will notice this and this is huge.

TanishPlayz · 2022-08-16T04:04:28+00:00

Same here, only 1 meaningful conversation yet, which led to a date, nothing else

Bingo_is_the_man · 2022-08-16T04:04:41+00:00

Just smile and say hi to people. Make silly comments about things you see to strangers whether male or female. Just talk to people in general, stop focusing on trying to bang everyone you see.

SoccerFan1417 · 2022-08-16T04:12:39+00:00

When I was a teenager I used to approach women just by being friendly, ask for notes, homework, try to find a study buddy, ask for simple things. just small talk.

Truth is that eventually you'll notice that women could be shy too when some guy talks to them. You don't have to start all flirty and pretend to be a ladiesman, but you always should look confident. Just try to relax and dont't feel pressure. Don't be discouraged if things don't quite work out at the beginning.

Best wishes for you.

mreno76 · 2022-08-16T04:18:56+00:00

Practice. Talk to all women. Not just the attractive ones.

Dismal-Revolution941 · 2022-08-16T04:31:06+00:00

Don't make excuses like you're not good looking enough because that is classic guy excuse and it just lowers your confidence. Join a gym or club and just start with saying hi to women and saying something as simple as so how was your weekend.

whyismypenisinverted · 2022-08-16T04:33:29+00:00

Best place I’ve been to find actual good tips on talking to women without cringy pick up lines or a bunch of Andrew Tate mysogynistic crap, is tykwondoe on YouTube man’s a saviour. Also check out vontoocut on YouTube got some really good life advice in general + tips to get u laid

Deep-Room6932 · 2022-08-16T05:03:21+00:00

Try any media you feel comfortable with and go from there

Motife3 · 2022-08-16T06:08:46+00:00

Just make friends with some women with no sexual intentions and network till you find someone you like.

You could also get a job, that forces you to get along and the stress can cultivate emotions 🤭

2022-08-16T07:22:34+00:00

The reason the attractiveness makes it difficult is because you have self limiting beliefs that your mind wants to stay consistent with, if you deep down aren't proud of yourself or think that you don't deserve a super pretty girl, you will automatically disqualify yourself which is what causes you to be awkward.

Practical advice : practice saying what you want to without filtering it first, more important than confidence is authenticity, even if it's authentic insecurity.

Long tern advice : use social anxiety challenges to provoke feelings within you, take note of these feelings and conclusions that come up, and then examine them, often the hidden self limiting beliefs expose themselves when you are about to approach a girl for example. As you do this and adress the deep down beliefs, it becomes easier as time goes on. Once again, confidence doesn't matter as much as authenticity, being authenticity insecure requires more real confidence than being fake confident.

Badger_issues · 2022-08-16T07:35:56+00:00

Learn to approach people in general. Can you approach an old man and ask how his day was? Make smalltalk with a male cashier?

Figure out where you're at with your social skills are and build up from there. From easiest to hardest. Your brain needs to have that eureka moment where it realizes we're all just humans with our own lives flaws and insecurities.

Try to be okay with not having sex or a relationship for a while. This anxiety you're having will only get in the way. I'm going through the exact same journey you are and recently at a festival I had a fun conversation with 3 girls my age about dnd and only afterwards did I realize how intimidating that would've been for me just a few months ago. Just talk to people. And if there's real chemistry between the two of you, the flirting will come naturally.

I feel people on this sub tend to overcomplicate things. But then again. I'm not looking to be a playboy so maybe that's why my experience is so different.

Just work on that social anxiety. Go out there and talk to people. If that sounds like too big of a mountain to climb. Again, make it smaller. Go to the mall and make smalltalk with people you don't feel intimidated or least intimidated by. Compliment a passerby on their fun clothes. Rack up positive experiences and become socially confident. From there on out the hard part is over.

Best of luck :)

Zhai · 2022-08-16T08:00:06+00:00

Walk before run. You don't start a video game and use cheat code to teleport yourself to the last boss. You will not win.

First, start chatting girls up without sexual indication. Just get comfortable having a small talk. That's it. If you are at the party, just say hi, are you having fun, how do you know the host. That's it. You can make observation about her outfit or something that is happening around you. It's incredibly hard to get comfortable in these situations mostly because you are afraid of her reaction and embarrassing yourself. Make your approaches friendly and non sexual. This should lower a pressure in your head. Once you get comfortable talking to girls, you will start noticing when the girl responds enthusiastically to you and you can start shifting gears up. Make jokes, tease her about stuff she says or do - ask her questions until you strike a golden piece. Sort of like comedians are just shooting questions to the audience until they find something interesting and then they pull on that string to unravel some funny absurdity about somebody. Watch how comedians do crowd work, like Stavros Halkias. One rule - don't make fun of stuff that they can't change (for example about their body or family). It's good also to keep it balanced and once you dish it, to put in some self deprecating jokes. But this is important - do not over do it, because otherwise you will look like a guy without self-esteem. It's a fine line. The image you want to project is that you are confident guy and a joke at your own expense will not take away from how you feel about yourself. In general I noticed that girls love when you tease them and are playful with them like an older brother. This will sound like "too much incest porn bro", but sibling dynamic is what you want to go for - brothers don't have anything to gain from sister sexually, they treat them as equals. So you can roast each other and be playful. Of course not all girls will respond to that, but do you want to waste your time with someone not vibing with you on that level? That's another thing - don't overinvest your efforts in girls that don't give you signs of interest. On higher level, sure - you can seduce almost anybody, even people not resonating with you, but that's higher level. Good luck.

saito200 · 2022-08-16T08:01:15+00:00

Learn to talk to people. That will do the trick.

nanoepoch · 2022-08-16T10:14:58+00:00

Forget about seducing and focus on just talking with them because there's no point in jumping in immediately when you don't know the basics of communication.

Brave_Procedure_2739 · 2022-08-17T23:25:13+00:00

Personally I started with a simple goal. For example, once a week I try to talk to a woman with simple questions like, how many hours, asking for advice or talking about a situation. After that, i try to increase the number of interactions during the week, as well as the time I spend talking.

When I started doing these simple habits, I started to feel more confident.

Start doing activities that involve other people, a dance group, chess, debate, book club. Something that you are with other people, because in these places you need to talk to other people, including women.

You will become more comfortable with people, you will learn to talk to others and to listen.

It comes as a surprise when you realize that you hardly speak or listen to others.

We're living where everything is too fast to share the experience

Attention: always good to remember, be well dressed, smiling, be nice

texaspete3 · 2022-08-20T14:07:16+00:00

step 1.

Start talking to anyone. Talk to nice old ladies. a guy you meet . overtime patterns will develop. during the course of your conversations attempt conversational nuances that will add depth to your words such as sarcasm, or statements that will evoke a strong emotional response ( not just positive emotions either, negative ones too) .

Then your next step will be paying attention to body language when talking. .

Stop only looking for event based relationships ( sex). Humans are not just some object for you to put your penis in. Humans and their experiences offer a way for you to connect with humanity. This is the route to go.

Title	How can I learn to talk to women?
Author	C111tla
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Date	August 15, 2022 1:12 PM UTC (3 years ago)
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