Why do women who have casual sex morally condemn prostitution?

Novadina · 2024-05-21T06:46:39+00:00

Prostitution is more economically viable and is not morally different from casual sex

Your entire post was about the “economically viable” point, but never once discussed the “moral” point.

I doubt most people’s problems with prostitution is about how much money it saves men, it’s more about the morality.

I personally don’t believe buying sex is the kind of moral position I would want a partner to have. I do think it should be legal, but I would prefer not to date men who partake in it. I don’t think it’s anything like casual sex at all, which is just two people wanting to have sex, instead it’s turning it into a financial transaction with the man purchasing access to the woman’s body, and I am just not into men who view sex in that manner. I also wouldn’t want to date a man who viewed casual sex as purchasing sex either, which seems to be your view on it with that whole cost breakdown, so maybe that’s why you don’t see a moral difference because you think even in casual sex you are “purchasing”, rather than two people enjoying a good time together.

Lysa_Bell · 2024-05-21T06:34:19+00:00

I had casual sex and I'm from a country where prostitution is legal. We also have a pretty good social system net that doesn't force you into prostitution if you don't want to. We get money even if we are unemployed by the government to cover our cost. All prostitutes here pay taxes and work self employed. Most brothels here are providing rooms to self employed prostitutes and receive rent and provide safety for the workers. They have security and help available if needed. You can't really traffic here because everything is very regulated and controlled. (Obviously there are still shady things happening like in every business - there are always black sheep).

I'm all for prostitution if it's properly regulated. Its a normal thing here. But guess what? It's not as big as you would think. The majority of clients for prostitution here are actually older husbands.

Young men don't really want to use prostitutes. They still want to get to know someone and feel desire and love. They still want to date. They still want to have a family.

Sure the option for just paid sex is there. But it's not the first choice for guys here.

UpbeatInsurance5358 · 2024-05-21T06:41:50+00:00

I don't morally condemn prostitution. I have absolutely no issues with it. Personally, I find the concept of buying someone's consent morally dubious, but honestly it's not my body not my business. And if someone chooses sex work without any pressure etc, it's fine with me.

sublimemongrel · 2024-05-20T23:54:53+00:00

Women aren’t looking at prostitution and condemning it based on an analysis of how easy/low effort it is for men versus the normal ways of getting laid (few are or would do that). Those who are outspoken against it are typically concerned about trafficking and exploitation aspects.

Also investing in an expensive car to get laid lol. As if men need to do this and as if that isn’t a stupid ass reason to spend money you apparently don’t have.

_noneoftheabove · 2024-05-21T00:37:22+00:00

I’ll momentarily set aside the ethical issues of sex trafficking and women having to resort to sex work due to circumstance, which are pretty much impossible to divorce from this question. Casual sex for me was always about mutual sexual chemistry and enjoyment. Prostitution is not. She’s faking being into you and most likely faking any sexual pleasure. A guy who doesn’t care about that and wants to have sex with someone who isn’t into him is very unappealing. Not sure that piece of it is a moral issue, but it’s a very strong “no” from me when a guy talks about visiting prostitutes. Don’t want to touch him with a 10-foot pole.

Financial_Leave4411 · 2024-05-20T23:55:15+00:00

They condemn it because they see a lot of women being backed into a corner financially with no other way out or forced into it in other ways. In other words many prostitutes aren’t their by choice and would gladly take a regular job if they could get one that payed a living wage.

Overall though the real question you need to be asking yourself is “why do men care so much about the opinion of women they don’t plan to marry, date or fuck?” If you want a prostitute go find one and stop trying to get every woman to agree with your decision.

HappyCat79 · 2024-05-21T00:49:45+00:00

I’m all for legalizing and regulating sex work.

claratheresa · 2024-05-21T02:44:26+00:00

Don’t know about others but i support legalization and regulation

Nellylocheadbean · 2024-05-21T00:08:35+00:00

I personally think prostitution should be legal so it can be regulated properly. Plus I think it’s a great solution for men and can maybe lessen the thirst in the dating world. Women would be a little more safer as well.

TSquaredRecovers · 2024-05-21T16:21:36+00:00

A couple things: 1.) I’ve a feminist who has had casual sex, and I’m for the legalization of prostitution. I want the se workers to have as many protections in place as possible, and legalization of prostitution may help keep them safer. (However, I recently saw data from European countries where it’s legalized, and the research shows that trafficking and assault rates are actually higher in some of those countries since legalization happen.

2.) I would think that women who are down for casual sex are not the same women who are demanding fancy, formal dinner dates. In my experience, women who have casual sex encounters usually just want to hang out at bars or parties or even at home.

Medical_Sense5953 · 2024-05-21T16:30:45+00:00

I only condemn unregulated prostitution, and there is a huuuuggee difference. If a man is going someplace where prostitution is legalized, sex workers have workplace safety regulations, a fair wage, benefits, etc., more power to him.

Supporting an underground black market industry where the women are frequently exploited, not so much.

januaryphilosopher · 2024-05-21T05:44:24+00:00

For a start, because this idea that women are all wanting to be bought and sold has people like you thinking they're prostitutes if they aren't comfortable with sex immediately and see getting to know your sex partner as "jumping through hoops", everything you do with them just being an obstacle in the way to sex (all they're good for, apparently). You're not paying someone for sex if you have dinner with them, if you buy their meal you are paying for food, and you're certainly not paying for sex if you buy a car for yourself. People date so they can figure out if they actually want to be with each other including having sex, prostitution is the practice of paying someone to ignore that they don't want to sleep with you. (Also, are you counting all premarital sex as casual sex?)

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kalashhhhhhhh · 2024-05-21T16:41:15+00:00

It all comes down to how you view sex. In my view, sex is something that's equally valuable for a man and for a woman. It's not something that a woman gives to a man and needs to be compensated for.

apresonly · 2024-05-21T00:29:34+00:00

because the majority of sex workers are sex trafficking victims or in a desperate financial situation

the 10% most privileged sex workers who do it by free will, are totally fine by me

superlurkage · 2024-05-21T00:52:47+00:00

Because abuse and coercion are things

Title	Why do women who have casual sex morally condemn prostitution?
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Date	May 20, 2024 11:33 PM UTC (2 years ago)
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