A Man is either desired by many women or no women

Qu3stion_R3ality1750 · 2025-09-06T08:18:46+00:00

I can see there being some credence to this theory.

It isn't uncommon to hear that married men, or at least men in serious romantic relationships, suddenly start getting more attention from women...whereas before, when they were single, it was a fucking drought. In fact, I think it's even become a sort of cliche at this point because it's been a minor plot point in at least one shitty romcom.

ReasonConfident4541 · 2025-09-06T01:01:59+00:00

I agree I'm so tired if hearing women comment here saying 80/20 rule doesn't exist because women like all types of different men / women have different type

Yes this is true but they must meet the minimum looks/status/height/money etc status

I.e. a celebrity nerd A tall guy with a beard A short handsome guy with a clean shaven face A dad bod guy who makes 250k a year

Yes women have "different types" but only AFTER the minimum attraction is met

ThrowRABigStoveTV · 2025-09-06T00:59:38+00:00

I can understand how it feels that way but I think there are quite a few that are desired by a few or a good handful. The existence of people who are just found attractive by everyone doesn’t discount this.

grown_folks_talkin · 2025-09-06T01:49:12+00:00

I don’t believe very much in 80/20 but yes to social proof. When a guy acquires social proof in a particular setting his visibility can go from 5 to 85.

baller696969balls · 2025-09-06T01:17:09+00:00

Wow, I’ve never seen this take before!

Dramatic_Survey_5743 · 2025-09-06T08:04:51+00:00

Proof : tinder

Constant_Common1357 · 2025-09-06T04:08:08+00:00

My guy put the podcasts down💀

Flightlessbirbz · 2025-09-06T13:05:54+00:00

Idk, it seems to be pretty rare for a guy to either be desired by no women or many women. What is very common is for a woman in group of friends to be all excited about some guy she’s dating, and then the other women meet him and are like… “Really?? This is who we’ve been hearing all about?” Never once have I thought a friend’s boyfriend was a real catch, nor have I ever gotten the impression they thought mine was.

Practical-Assist-758 · 2025-09-06T04:21:17+00:00

Kind of, but if you’re average or even slightly above average you’re desired by a decent amount of women, but I wouldn’t really say “many” or call it a feast. Also, the quality of women you attract matters. If you’re genuinely desired by a bunch of undesirable women I wouldn’t describe it as feasting.

candiedgemstone · 2025-09-06T06:48:01+00:00

Who do you guys think the average women are dating?

Do you think average looking Ashley who works at the bank making $18/hour is trying to date some super hot guy making six figures? No…

She’s dating average joe who works construction.

Feeling_Ad_1034 · 2025-09-06T00:39:09+00:00

Although there are SOME men desired by no women (just as there are some women desired by no men),

The vast majority of men are desired by a few. It’s just that.. just like women, the men don’t recognize the women that desire them even exist. They don’t count. Because they’re not attractive.

PattayaVagabond · 2025-09-06T03:59:35+00:00

Eh not true for me . Normie women hate me. But alt/ND women want me.

Maybe that’s true for normie guys but if ur a real weirdo ur going to have niche appeal

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Whiskeymyers75 · 2025-09-07T13:27:55+00:00

Or the wrong women. PPD loves to pretend all women are the same. But getting hit on by five obese 2’s is not the same as landing a 10.

Substantial_Video560 · 2025-09-09T17:59:01+00:00

The truth is there are many men who are just not desirable to women. My advise to those men is to move on and find other pursuits in life.

Turbulent-Company373 · 2025-09-10T11:04:41+00:00

True. Sometimes all it takes for a man to be liked by many women is for him to be liked already by many other women. It seems that popularity helps to attract. It seems like there is crowd following copycatting involved. In other words, for some people it can go viral in their being found attractive by others.

Economy-Praline9372 · 2025-09-12T02:19:47+00:00

Errr, what?

Come to USA and tell me the fat, bald dudes with asymmetrical faces roaming Walmart and Home Depot with their wives/girlfriends are "desired by many".

Hoopy223 · 2025-09-06T00:57:46+00:00

Logical_Breadfruit49 · 2025-09-06T07:04:55+00:00

I agree with this, but I feel like this is true for women too, right? Except the distributions are different. For most men, it's famine and for most women, it's feast.

aleknovy · 2025-09-07T14:45:01+00:00

This is true. A common gripe I've heard among guys is "why can't I just get one girlfriend? Why must I go in the journey of building a roster, to get one".

Women are the ones who enforce this insane dynamic that serves no one. Any guy will tell you that if you only speak to one woman at a time, she will literally act disgusted. Talk to 10 women at a time, all 10 want you.

PointObjective8528 · 2025-09-06T03:29:24+00:00

Women are NOT more attracted to looks. There is a difference between ‘finding attractive’ and ‘being attracted to’, and if women recognized this difference, dating relationships wouldn’t be so shallow, unrewarding and most often futile.

But women weren’t supposed to recognize this difference, which is why the online dating world was set up the way it was; to destroy the natural way that women select men: by how they feel.

Women are attracted to men by how an aspect of that man triggers her desires- whatever they may be at that time. It could be simply the tone of his voice or the chemical reaction of pheromones. But now it’s a picture. So women have been trained to be visual like men naturally are, with disastrous results as evidenced by Earth.

Title	A Man is either desired by many women or no women
Author	cs_throwawayyy
Upvotes	93
Comments	101
Date	September 5, 2025 6:53 PM UTC (10 months ago)
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