52M. No known cheating.

First 7 years before marriage, we actually counted 3700 times having sex. Super sexually compatible even when we have had fights/issues it has always been AWESOME.

Fast forward, menopause, I got super ill from the Covid vaccine/gained weight etc. She would always get into it if I initiated, but she NEVER initiated. No making out, no touching me but loved to get laid and would respond if I started making out.

Then months and months with nothing. No snuggling unless I did it etc.

I lost weight, asked if I was doing enough around the house, planned dates, asked about hygiene, is there anything I can do, etc. Never an answer.

2 years of therapy. I did everything I was asked, and I do mean everything. No interest unless I did something. Asked all the meno questions (pain? Low libido? Etc) and never got a response. So now I don’t think she is attractive anymore (she is litterally a 10) and I don’t pursue.

I separated 4 months ago, never a single call from her or discussion about it or saving our relationship.

I get it, she checked out and isn’t into me, or she is not capable of it herself. Got it.

I was fine for these months but now I can’t sleep and my mouth actually waters due to wanting that sweet poonanny. I am pretty sure we could have hot monkey sex if I did something.

Your experiences? Did you do that? Pros/cons? I don’t wanna get back with her but am thinking FWB?

Go.

And thank you.