I think it’s pretty obvious that men and women, on average, tend to evaluate potential partners differently. The vast majority of men are attracted almost exclusively by physical appearance (a guy sees a pair of thighs and a pair of tits and immediately wants to get laid), whereas most women also need emotional and mental involvement. That doesn’t mean looks don’t matter to women, but very often they’re not enough.

That’s why men who know how to create emotions, keep a conversation going, make a woman feel comfortable, build chemistry and sexual tension tend to be more successful than men who come across as passive, boring, dull, or emotionally closed off.

The difference, in my opinion, isn’t between “good guys” and “bad guys.” It’s between men who know how to spark emotional attraction and men who, because of their personality, upbringing, or life experiences, don’t. Many of these skills are learned while growing up, often through the relationship models we see in our families.

It’s true that some men use these abilities only to get laid. But that doesn’t change the point: if someone knows how to create emotional attraction, they’ll generally have more opportunities than someone who doesn’t.

Is it fair? Is it unfair? Those aren’t the right questions—or rather, they’re pointless questions. Nature follows its own rules.

The real question is: if this is really how attraction works, does it make sense to complain about women’s dating standards? Or would it make more sense to ask ourselves how we can improve our social and communication skills, accepting that you can’t force attraction?
Curious to hear different opinions, as long as we keep the discussion on topic.