Men want relationships more than women

A common misconception is that women want relationships more, and men want sex more.That's why you here phrases like women are the gatekeepers of sex, and men are the gatekeepers of relationships.It sounds logical when you first hear it, but when you really start to think about it you realize that It's not really true.

The reason why people believe women want relationships more is because women are more oriented towards long-term relationships than casual sex.While men have much more permissive attitudes towards casual sexthan women do.However, this does not prove that women actually want relationships more than men, they just prefer relationships over casual sex.

In reality I think men want relationships more than women do.I wrote a comment under a different post with studies and statistics backing up what I'm saying.I think the most compelling evidence to prove this comes from evolutionary psychology.

Women have more to risk than men when they get into relationships.They have higher parental investment than men, which means that they need to be more practical when they choose a mate.Mother nature gave women a weaker desire to be with men so they could be more rational when their choosing a partner.

This benefits women because being more selective helps increase their reproductive fitness.Men on the other hand don't have as much to risk when getting into a relationship with women, and it would actually benefit them to be more idealistic,because it will motivate them to compete for women.

Also, if you look at sex differences in mate preferences.You will see that men emphasize looks and fertility, while women emphasize financial prospects.This is another reason why men would desire relationships more, they can easily figure out if a women would be a good potential long-term partner just by looking at her.Women need to get to know a man to assess his ability to provide.This research article explain this pretty well.

Among the half dozen or so more replicable findings in the human mating literature is that men place a greater premium than women on physical appearance in their selection of a long- term mate (Buss, 1989 , 2016 ). This is not because men are superficial or brainlessly judge a book by its cover. Physical appearance provides a wealth of information about a woman’s health and youth, and hence her fecundity (probability that an act of sexual intercourse would lead to successful conception, barring use of modern birth control) and reproductive value (future reproductive potential). The features of physical appearance that embody standards of female attractiveness all support the attractiveness- fertility link – clear skin, smooth skin, lustrous hair, long hair, symmetrical features, absence of open sores, pustules, or lesions, relatively small waist, relatively large breasts, and a low waist- to- hip ratio (see Sugiyama, 2005 , for comprehensive summaries of the empirical evidence). Many of the qualities critical to women’s selection of a long- term mate are not readily assessed through physical appearance. These include a man’s ambition, industriousness, drive, and status trajectory – qualities linked with resource acquisition (Buss, 1989 , 2016 ; Buss & Schmitt, 1993 ). These contrast with what women want in a short- term mate, including signals of good genes, which can be evaluated partly through physical appearance (Gangestad & Thornhill, 1997 ; Sugiyama, 2005 ). Love, however, is not an emotion typically linked with casual sex. It emerges mainly in the context of long- term mating. Because love is an emotion tethered to long- term mating; because reproductive value is so critical to men in selecting a long- term mate; and because physical appearance provides an abundance of cues to a woman’s reproductive value, we can predict that men will experience “love at first sight” more often than women. The empirical evidence supports this prediction. Men, more than women, report falling in love at first sight (Brantley, Knox, & Zusman, 2002 ; Kanin, Davidson, & Scheck, 1970 ). This evidence supports one hypothesized sex difference in the design of the psychological circuitry of love. Other