She had me in the first half...

Sound-Impossible · 2020-12-21T13:43:57+00:00

Ok, she prove to him that she is worthy now or what is this shit means 🤮🤮

SpringJonesOcean · 2020-12-21T14:05:42+00:00

Wait, what!? She did all that work and self-improvement to get back together with the guy who cheated on her???? Why?

It's like she blamed herself and "fixed" herself for him. But. Why?

Cognitivedecadence · 2020-12-21T14:12:02+00:00

And what did he do exactly???? She worked on herself and she’s not even the problem here

eveningceremonyhshs · 2020-12-21T13:47:43+00:00

So many comments are saying that he’s going to cheat again and that it happened to them but she’s ignoring them

nostradamusapologist · 2020-12-21T14:29:51+00:00

"Life coach" kind of reads like a scam.

Queen-of-My-Realm · 2020-12-21T13:45:36+00:00

Great job teaching your man that cheating on you is acceptable! 🤮

Phoenix__Rising2018 · 2020-12-21T15:09:10+00:00

He fucked one of their clients and she's going to stay? No dignity. I swear women are obsessed with taking a huge L like it affirms their female gender. I'd rather be called a bitch and be told I'm acting like a man.

vitryolic · 2020-12-21T14:13:53+00:00

Wow, she proved to herself and everyone that’s she’s better alone... and gave up her self respect to go back to him. It’s such a harmful example to teach her kid.

monatsiya · 2020-12-21T15:00:17+00:00

a podcast about breaking up but you’re getting back with your cheater...the math isn’t mathing

balladwilds · 2020-12-21T14:11:10+00:00

oh hes gonna cheat again... what a sad life

MuffinSongs · 2020-12-21T13:40:21+00:00

Nope!

Not_Main_Acct · 2020-12-21T15:06:49+00:00

He proved to her that he is able to disrespect her, to put her safety and love to the side, and selfishly engage in risky behavior for MINUTES of pleasure.

She is worth less to him than MINUTES of an orgasm.

She spent months working on herself, on being a better person, on learning her worth to then trash everything for a man who placed and will again place a quickie with another woman over her. I'm so sad. She deserves better.

wolf_town · 2020-12-21T15:41:08+00:00

Well at least he finally picked her 🤣

localgirlcult · 2020-12-21T15:50:55+00:00

"Life coach". Someone hold me back.

mshourglasss · 2020-12-21T16:12:01+00:00

Lol the irony in her username being “wakeupelsie”

Yes, Elsie — please for the love of god wake up.

AwkwardDisaster4150 · 2020-12-21T14:04:35+00:00

I understand wanting to keep the family together for the kid but I could never get past that kind of betrayal or trust someone again after he cheated, especially if I were the mother of his child. This man is trash and there’s no fixing him.

BabyBlankieieieieie · 2020-12-21T13:45:37+00:00

Nah girl

2020-12-21T13:49:47+00:00

Hard pass 👌🏼

posprov · 2020-12-21T14:28:21+00:00

Nooo she climbed up so high, only to give up and slide back down to the bottom

littleoysterz · 2020-12-21T14:51:35+00:00

pathetic. all the effort to get the same results soon again

AyemHerself · 2020-12-21T15:04:20+00:00

So she ruined all the work she did on herself for what? Fear of being lonely?

Adventurous_Rise_307 · 2020-12-21T19:41:10+00:00

Let’s say he never cheats again, he’s reformed, yay.

Shes never going to look at him the same, or even love him the same again.

I read a post once on a sub about working through infidelity, I can’t remember the question, but the reply was from a man who had cheated but his wife worked through it with him. In this one, he doesn’t cheat again, and he loves her SO MUCH MORE than before because she showed how true of character she was. But then the part came that made me cry and made me decide to never go back.

He said he knows she’ll never love him as much as she did before. That while he’s happy and over the moon, he knows she’s not and probably won’t ever be again.

This is the best case scenario for OP here. She’ll never love him the same, never be over the moon for him, never fully trust him again. Infidelity is literally an un fixable break.

idhavetocharge · 2020-12-21T15:44:03+00:00

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brylm92 · 2020-12-21T14:15:00+00:00

looking-for-freedom1 · 2020-12-21T16:20:04+00:00

Oh god! She got me there. And I bet the guy didn’t do shit to be a better husband and father. It was obvious she was doing great without him 🤦🏻‍♀️

IgetUsernameScraps · 2020-12-21T16:33:23+00:00

Damn, that twist though. She should write movie scripts cause I did not see it coming.

teriyawki · 2020-12-21T17:08:12+00:00

So what kind of bullshit lines do you think he fed to her to reel her back in? Im feeling that he’s used the excuse of “oUr cHiLd nEeDs tO kNoW hIs PaReNtS lOvE eAcHoThEr”

Guizzaboi · 2020-12-21T14:01:31+00:00

Ugh. All that work for naught.

NiBBasBeCrazy · 2020-12-21T15:16:33+00:00

No no no noooo!!!! You were doing so well 😭 WHYYYY

peachtartx · 2020-12-21T18:47:08+00:00

It makes me sad that women feel they have to get back together with the father of their child. If the man cheated on her, he cheated on the whole family. I think the child has a right to decide if they want anything to do with their father, once they’re old enough, but I think mama should set a good example and leave his ass. Don’t teach your children that people can treat you terribly and then have to suffer no consequences.

My dad cheated on my mom when I was a baby, and she raised me with her parents until she met my stepdad. My biological father was, and still is, a shitty person. I respect my mom more for leaving him. Why let that kind of a person influence your child?

Stuffnthings1840 · 2020-12-21T17:44:58+00:00

Dude....he isn't worth it.

idiopathictendencies · 2020-12-21T16:19:55+00:00

How sad! And now that he thinks he’s in the clear, he’ll do it again baby. Just wait and see.

christmasforoutlaws · 2020-12-21T13:44:56+00:00

She named her kid Banks? Wow.

champagnebjs · 2020-12-21T17:21:15+00:00

LOL. I can’t help but laugh at how ridiculous this is. All that work only to go back to square one. Textbook definition of futile.

faux_naturale · 2020-12-21T17:41:51+00:00

All this, just to get cheated on again. 😬

romantickitty · 2020-12-21T17:56:31+00:00

So basically, he waited her out and she wanted to forgive him, so she did.

LevelTurbulent · 2020-12-21T21:16:46+00:00

It's going to be even harder the next time he does it. And even harder the time after that. And even harder the time after that. Until there's nothing left of her. She's made a terrible mistake.

Novemberinthechair · 2020-12-21T16:20:34+00:00

Bummer.

Also, who takes images of themselves meditating?

2020-12-21T18:20:01+00:00

I'm so disappointed

pangolinplatypus · 2020-12-22T06:37:36+00:00

Okay, now I'm invested. I mined down through the comments (a combo of "people don't understand what it's like to give yourself fully to love and stay with a cheater" and "Girl, you are an idiot, he will cheat again," which is the correct answer).

Commenter Niecie: I was happy at first then was like oh she went back. Let me guess he had a sex addiciton and now he has gotten the help he needs.

Her: No..he was trying to sabotage our relationship and business. I had emotionally checked out of the relationship and he was battling depression.

Commenter: Why would be sabotage your relationship and business.

I eagerly await the answer, lol.

Mella_20 · 2020-12-22T07:16:43+00:00

Imagine being forced to fight for a relationship when he messed up.

-badmadAM · 2020-12-21T23:23:41+00:00

Well, if she is thriving so much AFTER ending the relationship maybe there is a reason for that.

Ramauna · 2020-12-21T22:34:39+00:00

So she failed

cosmicabstract · 2020-12-22T00:56:54+00:00

regardless of whether or not she took him back (huge mistake btw), I really and sincerely hope she continues in her self love routine that she developed while they were apart. my instinct is telling me that will all fall to the wayside now, including the increased time with family/friends.

I just can’t even imagine how she just feel when he even goes to the gym now. 😭

thebonecarrier · 2020-12-22T01:56:11+00:00

Queen of the Clowns

Meadow97 · 2020-12-22T00:32:19+00:00

Sis... This ain't it. Tf.

Unfit_Needleworker · 2020-12-22T02:41:30+00:00

This makes me sick to my stomach 😔

MathematicianOk1364 · 2021-04-14T22:47:26+00:00

nnnoooOOOOOooooOOoo if you did so much improve without him why did you feel compelled to go BACK!?! poor girl she's is so much better and deserves more.

Title	She had me in the first half...
Author	eveningceremonyhshs
Upvotes	327
Comments	101
Date	December 21, 2020 1:38 PM UTC (5 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/FemaleDatingStrategy
Original Link	https://old.reddit.com/r/FemaleDatingStrategy/comments/khhkan/she_had_me_in_the_first_half/
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