The story begins a couple Sundays ago. I was invited to a co-worker's Halloween party. I was pretty excited considering my last day of work was the night prior. I knew this would be a great time to unwind and be goofy with my coworkers. Upon arriving everything was really enjoyable. Their was food, beer pong, the whole 9 yards.

So the night continues, I drink my White Zinfandel and enjoy my time at the party. Eventually I meet this girl. We'll call her Vanessa. I've never actually been formally introduced to Vanessa, but I've seen her at other parties. I know her brother through a mutual friend, but I've never spoken to Vanessa before. All I know is that she's trouble. She had a horrible upbringing and accused my friend of taking advantage of her while she was drunk. They only made out.

As the night progresses I eventually talk to Vanessa in a group full of people. Not one on one. It was contractually friendly. There weren't any romantic sparks there, no rapport, and it wasn't flirtatious in nature. I didn't think anything of it. So I continued with my night by hanging out with friends.

Eventually I feel someone grab my arm from behind me and pull me backwards. I thought this was odd and figured it was just a friend messing with me. No. It was Vanessa. She took me by the hand, and took me inside, (the party was primarily by the outside pool area) around a corner where we proceed to make out. I should've known that doing anything with this girl was a bad idea considering her behavior with my friend, but in the moment it was sexy and exciting and I didn't think that far.

Eventually after making out reached its plateau, we go into an empty bathroom. At this point she starts reaching down my pants and I help her take off my pants. She proceeds to blow me. I was having difficulty maintaining an erection so I try different positions: standing, sitting on a toilet and lying on the floor. I had an erection when she was blowing me on the floor, but eventually she wanted to have sex. She stopped performing oral sex and took off her pants to sit on me. I went immediately flaccid as she tried to sit on me to put my penis inside of her. Because of this disappointed she continues to blow me in an attempt to get me hard. It was unsuccessful. So what happens is that, well, nothing happened.

I told her I was sorry that I couldn't perform and we kind of laughed about it. While we were in the bathroom her friends were knocking on the door and we said "occupied" and everyone kind of got the hint. After another friend knocked on the door, Vanessa opened the door despite the fact that I was trying to get redressed. In a quick time, Justice League maneuver, I was fully clothed before her friend on the other side of the door could see me.

Her friend enters the bathroom, giggles because she knows what happened and I just kind of stand there not knowing what to do or say. Eventually I thank Vanessa for the good time and continue on with the party. As the night goes on, and people start leaving, I realize I'm not in any condition to drive so I fall asleep on the couch.

Before I fall into a deep sleep, I fade in and out of consciousness due to the sound of crying in the background. I open my eyes a little bit to realize it's Vanessa. I have no idea why she's crying and she was surrounded by friends following her outside, so I continued with my rest.

I sleep for what couldn't be more than a few minutes to an angry presence. It was one of Vanessa's friends. He woke me up violently and said that I had to leave. I stand up, disoriented and confused due to this random encounter. He said "Dude you have to get the fuck out of here. Vanessa is claiming that you raped her."

I tilt my head to the side and squint my eyes. I said "What the fuck are you talking about." I start thinking about how ridiculous this claim is. I COULDN'T EVEN MAINTAIN AN ERECTION, AND NOW I'M BEING ACCUSED OF RAPE? WHAT IS THIS SHIT? Eventually I move outside with a few people I know to kind of sit and tell my side of the story. Every one else is in the front of the house with Vanessa, hearing her bullshit, and one by one people come inside with the intention of kicking my ass. One of my friends comes back inside and demands to hear my version of events. I tell him that Vanessa initiated contact with me, wanted to have sex and I couldn't perform sexually. I told him I couldn't even get it up.

I felt like a sitting duck. I couldn't leave because there were people everywhere that wanted to kick my ass. So I drank water for about an hour and talked to the remaining people who didn't automatically jump to the defensive regarding the false rape accusation. I get notified by a friend that Vanessa and her friends left to get cigarettes. I saw this as my only window to leave. I drive home, and go to sleep after this very chaotic night.

I wake up to death threats from her brother via Facebook. I call the cops to get this all on record so I have a foundation if it were to ever escalate from a legal standpoint. In retrospect this was a good idea. I have two female roommates, and I was mostly looking out for them.

A week goes by, and I assume that everything died down and it was just a bad night. But no. A couple days ago, after my roommates leave to go shoe shopping, I hear pounding on the door accompanied by consistent use of our door bell. I thought the timing was weird and my paranoid self thought that Vanessa's brother had been scoping our house and saw an opportunity to hurt me. But after awhile I ask who it is and my cities police force notifies their presence.

They tell me that Vanessa went to the police headquarters where a rape kit was administered. I told the cops what actually happened, and undermined her false accusations. According to the cops Vanessa said that "I forcefully took her into the bathroom, forced her to give me a blowjob, then I proceeded to throw her on the ground, take off her panties and rape her as I covered her mouth and told her to be quiet."

UNBELIEVABLE. I cannot believe scum like this exists. We didn't even have intercourse yet she's claiming I committed one of the most serious offenses possible. The cops perform an oral swap for saliva that I highly encouraged. I'm questioned for a little under an hour, and the cops leave my house to continue their day. I was told that the results would be compared to her rape kit and that I would be notified in a month when the data was available.

I'm really scared concerning everything. I'm a really outgoing, honest, likable guy, and this girl is trying to ruin my life with something she knows didn't happen.

I have a couple questions:

What's the procedure for a rape kit and what do they look for? We didn't have intercourse so if they perform an internal swab I will be cleared instantly. But as I said, she did sit on me for a moment, while I was flaccid, and I don't know if my skin cells are on her from that contact. I told authorities exactly what happened but I don't know the extent of a rape kit search. I assume they look for semen, and tearing, which didn't happen. But if they are just looking for general evidence of skin cells, I don't know if this will make me seem guilty.

Even when this is all over, will a rape accusation be on my record? I don't want even a claim to be tied to me. I would guess that it would only be on my record if I'm charged, not based off an accusation. But I don't know how that works.

Also, what can I expect in the near future?

**TL;DR: A girl at a party took me by the arm, made out with me, proceeded to give me a blowjob and wanted sex. I couldn't maintain an erection so we didn't have intercourse. She sat on me for a moment when my penis was flaccid. She seemed cool about my performance problems it in the moment but later told her friends that I raped her. She had a rape kit administered the day after the party. We didn't have intercourse so I assume I'm automatically in the clear, but I don't know if they are just looking for skin cells or any other DNA that could have been transferred when she sat on me. I assume they look for semen and tearing which wouldn't happen due to the lack of intercourse, but I don't know the procedures. I'm hoping that even when this is all over that it won't jeopardize future career prospects if they look up my history. I would think that I would have to be convicted for this to happen but I don't know the statues for it.

What can I expect in the near future and what should I do to prepare?**