I just stumbled across this sub a few days ago and wanted to rant, while also adding my input from personal experience and maybe help everyone here. People have lost their individuality. No hobbies and everyone acts like a monolith. People have become boring. My story -

Around 2-3 months ago I tried dating apps after a very long time and decided to give them a serious try. I matched with more than 100 women, talked with them, and went on around 20-30 dates. Let me tell you this, only 2 women had hobbies and I still remember enjoying both of them the most. The majority of women I talked to had a similar lifestyle - Wake up, go to work/college, come back home, scroll social media, post on social media and go to sleep. Some of them were into travelling or night outs at weekends but that's just about it. And this does not stop with women alone. My own guy friends, whenever we go out to dinner, all they have to talk about is their job, investing money or just weight lifting.

Now let me tell you what I mean by hobby. Hobby for me means something which you are passionate about, enjoy doing and have become good at without caring about its benefits. It requires hard work over time and your passion, which creates a unique you. So already I am not considering your travel stories and weekend night outs as your hobbies since they require no hard work and expertise.

If you look at me for example, not only am I ripped and considered conventionally attractive which does help on the surface level to get matches, but I also love to cook, read novels and play piano, and all of this is excluding my job. Guess what, I never run out of things to say on dates. I have so many fun stories, memories, recipes and experiences to share that the majority of women I get matched with, they always become interested in me and my personality. Whereas almost every woman I have talked to (or even my friends when we are out on dinner), they have almost nothing interesting to share.

Think about it like this, if you are just like every other person, there is no incentive to get attached with you. You become replaceable easily. Whereas when you are unique, the bond your partner will form with you will be deeper and it will be harder for them to simply get bored with you and break up.

TLDR - Pick up at least one hobby which you are passionate about, which requires hard work to become good at, and start doing it by heart. Anything apart from surface level fitness, travelling and night outs which everyone does. You will become unique, become interesting as you will have lots of stories to share on dates, and become more difficult to simply get bored of.