How do you define a slut?

Lie-Equal · 2020-10-11T19:52:23+00:00

If a woman has fucked so many guys that she doesn’t even remember the names of some of the guys she has fucked.

Then issa slut

merlinscalculator · 2020-10-12T02:55:27+00:00

In high school one summer I took my braces off and my tits magically popped out. Came back to school and got called a slut all year even though I hadn’t so much as kissed a dude much less anything else. The word really lost any kind of significance for me after that experience.

cuckspace · 2020-10-11T22:39:42+00:00

A slut is a woman who has had sex with a lot of different men. I'd say N>20 but the definition differs in different communities/cultures.

A slut is not a woman who has had a lot of sex with the same person within a relationship. A serial monogamist is not a slut. A woman who loves sex or masturbates a lot is not a slut. There seems to be a knee-jerk reaction from lib-fems that slut shaming is about shaming women for liking sex. That's a whole different thing. A slut may not even like sex that much, but use it to get validation or for other psychological reasons.

A slut should not be confused with a whore, who does sex work for money. Yes, that includes OF models, SA sugar babies, panty and bathwater sellers, pro dommes etc.

That said, I tend to like sex-loving sluts more than monogamous prudes. The prudes often have a utilitarian mentality towards sex, more akin to the whores, which is extremely off-putting for me at least. Sex-loving sluts just love sex for the its' own sake, which is awesome! But I understand that most men are viscerally disgusted by high N-counts, so I don't think that general consensus can be ignored easily, even though I prefer sluts myself.

_pineapplylemon · 2020-10-11T19:50:07+00:00

Sluts are the best thing in the world to men who are able to get causal sex and the worst nightmare of men who are not

2020-10-11T21:20:20+00:00

The abject category of whatever makes men feel some type of way in regards to sexuality

wtknight · 2020-10-11T21:17:22+00:00

I don't like the term "slut," but I consider a promiscuous woman one who at least somewhat regularly has casual sex with either strangers, or one who has multiple FWBs.

Mr-X1 · 2020-10-11T20:33:02+00:00

Slutty behavior is when someone treats their own sexuality as a part of their personality. Constant jokes about vulgar things on social media or in the workplace? Slutty. Sexual brags to people who don't even want to hear it? Slutty. Acting like a whole different person because you had sex or you are trying to have sex? Slutty. Putting sex ahead of your important, previous obligations? Slutty.

There is only slutty behavior. There is hardly such thing as a SLUT. It's not some permanent characteristic, not for at least 99% of people. Sluts won't go to being prude (or normal, to me), but they might learn to be more honorable and productive with time.

Slutty is not even the same thing as "easy" to me. Be easy all you want, but if you're literally being controlled by sex and making it your life, you probably have a relationship problem. And I'm certainly not going to enjoy being around you. You can be

Even people who are just "easy" have their own set of characteristics that might be unlikely to change, but it's nowhere near as bad as it is with truly sleazy, slutty acting people.

Matt_Door · 2020-10-11T22:37:05+00:00

“Anyone who has more sex than me”

thasixohfour · 2020-10-11T21:57:20+00:00

It's more about how one carries themselves than how many people they've fucked. If they're the sort of person who is always flaunting their body, overtly seeking out attention while also being suggestive - this is slutty behaviour. Not if it's someone who acts that way once in a while, but definitely for those for whom that is the default setting. Those people can be male or female.

Do I know chicks who've done things like get fucked by multiple dudes, or sucked multiple cocks at once? Of course! And by and large they're nice ladies, and not at all who you'd suspect. These aren't party girls. There's some moms, and others happily in long term relationships. Some women like their sex every bit as scandalous as some men do. I don't see a problem with that.

TheJim66 · 2020-10-11T20:25:39+00:00

For me anything above ten is a problem and anything above 20 is a dealbreaker. FOR RELATIONSHIPS , I couldn't care less about anything other than looks for casual stuff.

Other than n count, extreme stuff like gangbangs, threesomes or past as a sex worker.

spacechicken1990 · 2020-10-12T05:16:07+00:00

Sluts just a wird for women who fuck around like men do.

To me slut is an insult to someone’s character, promiscuous is a better definition.

Someone who enjoys casual sex.

But honestly I’ve been called a slut just for having large breasts & existing. I’ve been called a slut for wearing tight fitted clothing, dancing at clubs, kissing a guy in my senior year of HS & having slept with 2 men. The definition is essentially any woman who has some form of sexuality.

Mrs_Drgree · 2020-10-11T20:13:19+00:00

A woman that makes you mad.

rubbooyuri · 2020-10-11T20:15:18+00:00

Like “Chads”, “hypergamy”, and “alphas”, “sluts” can be neither definitively identified nor comprehensively condemned, because they are too useful as sub bogeymen

For all I know, I could be a “slut” or have fucked a “Chad” or “Alpha”, the way they are discussed here

poppy_blu · 2020-10-11T22:19:45+00:00

Bookmarking this thread for the next time I say “you guys think the town bike is like 3” and they say “nuh-uh! No one says that!!!”

brinkleybuzz · 2020-10-12T01:44:45+00:00

Sluttery is in the eye of the beholder. I think most guys define sluts as women who bang multiple guys but won't have sex with them.

Sid_Insidious · 2020-10-12T07:21:49+00:00

Slut: Female who will sleep with practically anyone.

Bitch: Female who will sleep with anyone but you.

psychicmargaret · 2020-10-12T03:08:47+00:00

How abt “slut is a derogatory term used to shame women who enjoy casual sex.” Just don’t use the word against people and don’t attack people who are minding their business. It’s so easy.

reluctantly_red · 2020-10-11T20:56:13+00:00

Any person who has ever had sex outside of a long term relationship

poppy_blu · 2020-10-11T22:30:05+00:00

I’d like actual experiences here

And I think you know you’re in the wrong place for that

thetruthishere_ · 2020-10-12T00:21:03+00:00

women who get gangbanged, blow banged, bukkake, fuck an entire sports team or other porn like behavior?

Im an escort and this stuff is fairly rare. It has to be more rare in civi life.

TheBookOfSeil · 2020-10-11T20:01:46+00:00

Sluts are women who have sex with men seemingly indiscriminately. They bang everyone. They've had sex with some or all of your friends or someone else's friends, and other random people that they've met. It's also likely that they've been with more than one guy at a time on multiple occasions.

SeemedGood · 2020-10-12T00:40:22+00:00

Any woman that gets upset when men express a preference for low n-count women.

Young_Zarathustra · 2020-10-11T19:59:18+00:00

Sluts are women who use sexual currency to gain social standing.

This includes:

Fucking frat guys for drugs.

Dressing in tight clothing because a potential employer might be more likely to hire you.

Flirting with nerdy losery type men to boost your ego, because it makes you "feel powerful" to make a man "feel a certain type of way "

Slut does not necessarily include:

N Count of 100. She could have just genuinely liked all the guys vibes.

Dressing provocatively because she genuinely likes the aesthetic.

Flirting with men because she finds banter fun.

Slut is motive based, and there aren't any on paper tells that will immediately point out SLUT.

DangZagnut · 2020-10-11T19:55:47+00:00

Any girl who dates me is a slut, because I only date sluts.

The people hating on sluts are retarded trad cucks and religious lickers. They can't handle women being fucked. So they get all up in arms and pray to their Gods and think of mommy being a virgin and grab their peen at the thought of ripping a hymen on their wedding night, then use made up pseudo science that measures nothing as a guide to mating, which of course won't work. But the hymen fetish persists.

Then they lick on some religious texts because oh noes! A girl might have a wiener in her before him! So he fears his little peen won't compare to the real men she's had that didn't lick religion and retarded ancient "traditional" customs that never worked or they would still be working now wouldn't they? Oh right, they worked so well they fell apart under the slightest tremor.

Oh well, some men are incels, some are deluded trad cucks that are like, 25, and barely understand adulthood, much less traditional anything other than tendies for basement dwellers.

Small peen rules still apply to the slut bashers. It's always the peen. A little peen in fear of a woman that has seen more than one peen. That's the fear. Fear needs to be gotten over, but trad cucks live in fear.

Sluts are great. If they aren't a slut when they meet me, and they are, they sure as hell are a slut when our relationship ends, and her n-count has increased by one or more numbers and one or more genders.

Why RP, that used to be about casual sex until it was invaded by the religious lickers, would care about sluts being sluts, I don't know. They want to close a casual deal, sluts are the way to go. Sluts like having their holes pounded. Good girls don't, they don't like sex. You know they don't like sex because they don't have sex. They are a primary source of dead bedrooms, always a trad con long term fantasy since sex = bad and sex through a hole in a blanket is high end fun for the trad cuck.

Sluts have positive personality traits. They like fun and risk and adventure and a whole lot of fucking, whereas good girls like to lick religion and fear men and sex, so they're either nuns or feminists, both which lead the charge of rampant man hating lesbianism.

Good girls = crap
Sluts = best girls

When trad cucks and trump shills invaded TRP, it became, fake, gay, fake & gay, and became a bunch of trad cucks desperate for virgins, and monogamous marriage, and licking religion 24/7, and voting for idiots. Not sure what that has to do with casual sex, but trad cuckery is no way to go through life son. It's over. Let it go and look to the future.

But sure, sluts are the problem in the world.

Dumb shits.

I've been with dozens of sluts. Some were nuts, some were highly intelligent, some were highly educated, some were high school drop outs, and they all loved sex, casual or otherwise.

Do I know girls who do porn behavior? Yes. Have I held the camera during porn? Yes. Have I run video of me being with her and made porn? Yes. Every time. Sometimes the vid gets sent to her husband.

Do they like it? Yes. Are they trad cuck sex fearing lickers? No.

Save TRP, ban trad cucks. Luckily they'll mostly disappear after the election since it's primarily shilling, but some will stay to try and turn it into /r/conservative, which like /r/feminism fears sex because their peens are tiny.

MasterTeacher123 · 2020-10-11T20:44:47+00:00

Any woman can be a “slut” for the right guy

SonicBackScratcher · 2020-10-12T13:20:00+00:00

By most of the manospheres definition of a slut, I really like and hang out with sluts.

As a negative term I would use, a slut is a woman who takes her own pleasure higher than the feeling of her partners.

By perusing swinging my wifes ncount is 50ish, so obviously a "slut" by tradcon ewww standards, but not to me because she'd never just do a guy because she wanted to and not consult me. She doesn't pursue this much on her own.

This being said I don't use the term, precisely because its so ill defined, and always a negative.

If I were single again, I guarantee any woman I found would qualify as a slut to many, "sluts" tend to be more fun.

psypD · 2020-10-12T23:44:18+00:00

Anything from the chick that changes her boyfriend every 3 months for 10 years straight to the chick that blows 3 strange guys in some dirty bar toilet every day for 10 years straight.

2020-10-14T23:39:42+00:00

All the sluts I’ve known have been sexually compulsive. Just about any dick or pussy will do. Usually alcohol is involved. Some love sex and orgasm every time, some do it because they’re empty inside

I don’t think n has anything to do with it.

Most women who are fun have ‘turbo slut’ phases at some point in life between relationships, where it’s just a lot of getting interested then not interested in a series of men til they meet one worth a relationship. In this context, there’s no self loathing or compulsiveness. It’s just experiencing different men and giving them the boot when they cease to be amusing or expose themselves as lacking.

DebnathSelfMade · 2020-10-11T20:00:14+00:00

Be completely spineless to a girl, let her talk and show no judgement whatever disgusting past experience she tells, let her talk, be lighthearted about it, and you will learn for yourself how many of them did have 3somes.

Any casual experience makes a woman a slut period. Sex is not something you do without responsability, not only about protection but the act of ultimate intimacy with someone should be something you take a time to process and think about.

Sure, I will not change anyone's thought, this is just my opinion and I don't call girls sluts for that, I just absorb information and use to guide my life.

Avoidance.

12112019 · 2020-10-11T20:41:11+00:00

Sluts are women who either enjoy casual sex and have low aversion to risk, or are not secure enough in themselves that they believe they need to offer sex almost immediately to hook men, then these men sense that something is off with these women and do a quick pump and dump, which causes these women to start racking notches.

Danger3214 · 2020-10-11T23:30:27+00:00

I don't like the word slut, it's rather degrading.

Lacuna-Foil · 2020-10-11T22:38:25+00:00

A slut is just someone who has a lot of non-committed sexual partners whether in back to back short-term relationships or outside of relationships. I don't view it personally as a pejorative, but I know a lot of other people do. That's pretty much it.

It's such a meaningless word these days as anyways. It gets lobbed so often.

AntWillFortune15 · 2020-10-12T00:42:39+00:00

Sandy : [sits down at Reacher's table] Mind if I share your table?

[Jack gives a nod]

Sandy : I'm Sandy.

Jack Reacher : So was I. Last week. On a beach, in Florida.

Sandy : What's your name?

Jack Reacher : Jimmie Reese.

Sandy : You don't look like a Jimmie.

Jack Reacher : What do I look like?

Sandy : I don't know. But not a Jimmie. So you're new in town?

Jack Reacher : Usually.

Sandy : It's kind of loud in here. Do you wanna, maybe, go someplace quieter? I have a car.

Jack Reacher : You're old enough to drive?

Sandy : I'm old enough to do a lot of things.

Jack Reacher : I'm on a budget, Sandy.

Sandy : [perplexed] What?

Jack Reacher : I can't afford you.

Sandy : I'm not a hooker.

Jack Reacher : Oh, then I really can't afford you.

Jack Reacher : What I mean is, the cheapest woman tends to be the one you pay for.

Sandy : [stands up, angrily] I am not a hooker!

Jack Reacher : Well, a hooker would get the joke.

Jeb : [enters with his four buddies] What's this?

Sandy : He called me a whore.

Jeb : Is that true?

Jack Reacher : Well, nobody said whore. She inferred hooker, but I meant slut.

Punk : Hey. That's our sister.

Jack Reacher : Is she a good kisser?

Jeb : Hey. Outside.

Jack Reacher : Pay your check first.

Jeb : I'll pay later.

Jack Reacher : You won't be able to.

Jeb : You think?

Jack Reacher : All the time. You should try it.

Jeb : It's a great joke, but I'm gonna beat your ass. Do you want to do that here or outside?

Jack Reacher : Outside.

[gets up]

Jeb : Stay here, Sandy.

Sandy : I don't mind the sight of blood.

Jack Reacher : [walks by Sandy] When it means you're not pregnant, anyway.

/thread

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cloudydays84 · 2020-10-11T21:23:14+00:00

It's relative, there isn't really a clear and consistent definition, any behavior that deviates from someone's "moral sexual compass" can be considered slutty. It works the exact same way in the opposite direction with the word prude. More often than not they're used as insults to attack those whose beliefs clash with their owns.

If you're a trad con married to his high school sweetheart with an n-count of 1, then the girl who had casual sex once or twice in college is a slut. Conversely if you're a sexually liberated person who treats sex casually, then the girl that is saving herself for the right partner and who's riskiest sexual kink is "with the lights on" is a prude.

As an analogy outside of sex, one person's behavior can be interpreted by some to be charming, snarky, and blunt while other people probably just think they're an asshole.

2020-10-11T21:24:56+00:00

If a woman had a lot of casual sex during a short period (~ 1 year) of their life, but aside from that only had sex in serious relationships I wouldn't consider them a "slut". But it would still be a yellow flag for me.

I may be old school, but sex is special to me, and it's important to me that it's special to the person I'm with. I like being able to slowly progress over time with each boundary being special.

Also fwiw my fiance (female) was deeply upset that I had some light (non-penetrative) sexual experience with my ex. So it's not necessarily a male-only thing.

mae1995111 · 2020-10-11T21:54:34+00:00

Having sex with someone solely based on superficial traits and not on character.

hnug2 · 2020-10-12T02:37:38+00:00

I am following dictionary, slut = promiscuous women.

theoracleofosiris · 2020-10-12T07:03:43+00:00

Premarital sex. We’re all sluts, no point shifting the goalposts.

eboy4hire · 2020-10-12T07:32:25+00:00

Someone with a loyalty to team women and not whatever partner they are with.

michael1962-01 · 2020-10-12T07:45:12+00:00

N>0.

2020-10-12T08:21:50+00:00

A slut is someone who's had more partners than they can count on one hand (two hands if older).

TopBottomRight · 2020-10-12T11:00:37+00:00

When she's as easy as a fap, she's a slut, bro!

YubYubNubNub · 2020-10-12T14:24:19+00:00

Don’t even worry about how to define it. Who cares

Xombie0991 · 2020-10-12T15:53:33+00:00

Women who brag about how many hookups they’ve had when all they had to do was go to a bar and stand there. Also, women who cheat.

DerekMorganBAU · 2020-10-12T17:05:17+00:00

I don't know how I'd define it beyond what we coventionally know them as (women who get around a lot/the village bike) but there ain't nuthin inherently wrong with it imo. It's the dishonest hoes that dudes have a problem with. If you a hoe then embrace that shit don't try and act all innocent

Mimoxs · 2020-10-12T20:28:00+00:00

I don't think count itself is relevant

It's more about casualness. I'd be more comfortable with an n-5 who was in LTRs than a n-3 who only had fwbs

It's about the attitude towards sex itself. Sluts, male and female, see it as being nothing of significance.

Holler4Heller · 2020-10-12T21:37:52+00:00

Sex for favors rather than sex for the sake of indulging in a mutually fun bonding activity with the man you love.

Expensive-Guitar3609 · 2020-10-12T22:08:56+00:00

3.28 foots (or 1 meter EU measure) of dick. Take or leave.

Can be 10 dicks of 3.9 inches or 3 dicks of 13 inches. Pass that and you are a slut.

Workaholiconew · 2020-10-13T02:15:01+00:00

Anyone whose n count surpasses the n count of 100 by 25 or is probably past it.

gopher_glitz · 2020-10-13T17:53:16+00:00

Imagine you're invested in a man, you really are into him.

Then he told you he'd payed for sex. Maybe once, maybe a 100 times. Maybe it was a high priced escort, maybe it was a $5 dollar street walker.

Think about how you view him now, how you feel about him. Think deeply about it.

Women who fuck random dudes or are promiscuous to men are like men who pay for sex for women is the closest I can think of.

Promiscuous men love sluts, just like sex workers love men who pay for sex.

Would a sex worker prefer to marry a customer? Even though they love that they pay for sex? Doubtful.

Just as even men who are willing to have casual sex aren't looking to marry or invest their time/energy/emotions into a slut.

vagbutters · 2020-10-14T14:04:03+00:00

Any woman who has had pre-marital sex and is a non-virgin, really (this obviously excludes cases of rape, marrying the one partner you had pre-marital sex with, or widows). This is only a controversial statement in the west because literally all the women here are slutting it up from the time they reach menarche.

whitechaplu · 2020-10-15T23:05:21+00:00

Eradication of promiscuity as a concept will help both genders, and I support it wholeheartedly.

Of course, this is not in context of cheating, but in a context of previous experiences. And I put forth another extremely radical idea - women who have a lot experience in bed... tend to be better in bed. Don’t trust me, check for yourself!

I find it ridiculous that people actually have a specific number in mind - how do you calculate that? Why is, say, 19 ok but 20 bad? Seems awfully arbitrary, I mean, 19 dicks is still 19 dicks, but you shouldn’t be thinking about dicks in the first place, mate.

Our society is madonnawhoring big time, and as long as that is the case, our sexuality will suffer.

spacechicken1990 · 2020-10-11T20:03:17+00:00

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Lie-Equal · 2020-10-11T20:39:32+00:00

So tell me PPD, what is a slut to you? N-count?

When it comes to monogamous commitment, n>0. If I'm not monogamously committing who gives a fuck ♾ is fine for all I care.

And do you find that promiscuous women you know also have a lot of negative personality traits that non sluts you know do not?

Nah

2020-10-11T20:21:23+00:00

Double digit n-count

Sinkagu · 2020-10-11T21:05:11+00:00

Yk i dated a slut in my eyes. She told me she was a virgin and by the time we broke up she had 7 bodies and she was 15. Ummm the reasom we broke up is because she told me she wasn't sexual with guys anymore and wanted one guy(aka me). But yeah we broke up because she had sex with 5 guy friends when she took a trip with them during fall break....shes 16 now. She didnt seem like the type to do this not to me. But yeah i felt 7 was high for 15. But for now on i don't trust the hes just a friend excuse in relationship that girl ruined it for me. sorry i didnt really define it but yeah.

wekacuck · 2020-10-11T23:20:40+00:00

I define "slut" as an out-of-control woman with serious mental/esteem/worth problems and sex addiction. It's not so much the amount of sex, it's the out-of-control nature and self-harm.

And while we are here, do you actually know, in real life, women who get gangbanged, blow banged, bukkake, fuck an entire sports team or other porn like behavior?

Nope. None that I'm aware.

poppy_blu · 2020-10-11T21:46:03+00:00

A woman with 3+ sexual partners. A woman is exponentially a worse partner after 3 sexual partners. This is a CDC verified fact.

Title	How do you define a slut?
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Date	October 11, 2020 7:44 PM UTC (5 years ago)
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