Ladies which man do you prefer in this example. I’m curious

death_by_1000_cats · 2022-02-19T01:07:43+00:00

Whichever one approaches and interacts with me.

RabbitNRaccoon · 2022-02-19T01:13:36+00:00

Number 1. Maybe number 2.

Why?

Because I'd be doing the exact same thing. If I was at a night club (which I wouldn't be) I would be there because I was a DD and that's it.

I don't like dancing, crowds or music (that much).

Which means me and number 1 would likely be be introverts and prefer conversation to loud ass, crowded places.

Dudes like number 3 are my least favorite. I don't like people whose self esteem hinges on being liked by others or getting the attention of others. People who need to be the center of attention and act out to get looked at are not attractive to me.

Male or female.

LalaTheSecond · 2022-02-19T01:08:44+00:00

I'm going after number 2, that's my favorite kind of target. Someone just waiting for someone to persuade them into a little fun.

LittyKitsune · 2022-02-19T01:40:52+00:00

Bruh you're on Reddit, guy 1 is going to get a disproportionate advantage.

And yes, I'm a guy 1 girl.

Tiny-Pigeonss · 2022-02-19T01:24:27+00:00

Guy 4: He lurks in the shadows. He speaks to everyone and knows no one. He is feared and respected. He is the bouncer.

But of the three you described, whoever is the best looking.

rosephase · 2022-02-19T01:06:05+00:00

No idea. I need to talk to a dude to know if I am attracted to him.

fakingandnotmakingit · 2022-02-19T03:38:28+00:00

Umm is there a man who is dancing and enjoying himself but also isn't attempting to be the center of attending for the whole club? Cause that would be nice.

But from your 3 options I suppose I'd go with 2.

Brutebits67 · 2022-02-19T01:52:49+00:00

The first. I would never be in a nightclub in the first place, but I’m a sucker for the shy-guy wallflower types.

ididntwanttoexist · 2022-02-19T03:08:28+00:00

Guy 1. He sounds like he doesn't want to be there either, so we can at least bond over that, I guess. 2 is too extroverted, 3 sounds outright obnoxious.

I'd never realistically be in this situation, though. I dislike everything about this type of environment.

figuringMylife · 2022-02-19T01:24:40+00:00

depends i like 1 and 2, but prob 2 at club/bar/party - we’re entertaining each other! i love chilling during some songs, talking drinking. then getting wild when we’re hype. i think sometimes that person is a little nervous and just hyping them up will be so fun!

philomexa · 2022-02-19T01:12:23+00:00

Guy 3; why bother if I'm not being entertained?

januaryphilosopher · 2022-02-19T02:09:14+00:00

None of them are going to instantly attract me but I'd probably avoid guy 3 if I was looking to approach because he already seems to not be my type. I'm unsure why guy 1 is there if he's uncomfortable and wouldn't want to make him more so meaning I'd probably go for guy 2.

wtknight · 2022-02-19T02:12:26+00:00

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bluestjuice · 2022-02-19T02:16:49+00:00

What we've done here is confirmed that I'm not going to a nightclub unless I'm taking a posse along.

Former-Aardvark · 2022-02-19T02:54:58+00:00

Ignoring the fact that personality will play the most vital role in how I attracted I'd be to him, 1 would be my first option, 2 would be the next best, and I wouldn't even look twice in 3's direction.

I'm an introvert and a wallflower who much prefers people who would match my energy. I dated someone I'd consider close to a 3 and it was not sustainable.

EviessVeralan · 2022-02-19T03:18:40+00:00

1 mainly because id be doing the same thing

Salt_Mathematician24 · 2022-02-19T06:20:04+00:00

Depends which one I was most compatible with and found the most attractive but I find social butterflies intimidating/exhausting as an introvert.

FizzleMateriel · 2022-02-19T02:35:56+00:00

Guy 3 is what 90% of women want.

shinsekie · 2022-02-19T02:36:01+00:00

lol guy 1. Night clubs have never been my thing. If a guy looks like he doesn't want to be there, then we can start a conversation about how we even got there.😅

But this question really depends on the personality and the likes or values of the woman in question. Answers are going to vary. There's no one size fits all.

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TomorrowsWar · 2022-02-19T01:49:26+00:00

Maybe guy 2 if he approached me

Orange_Paisley · 2022-02-19T02:10:08+00:00

Probably 2, I’m not a party girl so 3 would probably not mesh with me and 1 just sounds sad.

sarkington · 2022-02-19T02:10:54+00:00

Who can hear over the music in a club?

A1Dilettante · 2022-02-19T02:14:44+00:00

I'd definitely strike up a conversation with guy 2 about music and booze over the other two.

Fishyinthemiddle · 2022-02-19T02:18:08+00:00

All three seem cool. I'd be happy if any approached me, but I wouldn't approach 3.

livs4dietdrpepper · 2022-02-19T02:31:55+00:00

I’d probably approach all three at some point. I’m very friendly and flirty and love the club scene.

I deff would attempt with one cause I like to be that girl to break a dude out of his shell. But if he doesn’t relax fairly quickly and at least engage in a fun way with me, I’ll move on quick, just because I’m not really gonna play the “I can’t tell if they’re interested game”

I love a private flirty conversation in a bar or club though I think it was F. Scott Fitzgerald said “I like large parties, they’re so intimate, at small parties theres isn’t any privacy”

learn2earn89 · 2022-02-19T02:37:18+00:00

Are they all showing interest? If that’s the case, then the first one. Otherwise it’s between the first two. The last guy sounds like he fucks around.

I don’t really like night clubs. I like family parties and concerts.

GobLinUnleashed · 2022-02-19T03:02:36+00:00

I would be interested in guy three or guy four

2022-02-19T04:49:56+00:00

Neither of them. I don't get attracted to people I have no emotional connection with. I've never experienced immediate attraction.

If I had to choose who I'd approach to have a conversation with - either the first or the second. I'm closer to introverted type myself, I feel extroverts wear me out too fast.

shadowkittn · 2022-02-19T06:04:41+00:00

Guy 2. I'm kinda shy, but love to dance and like men when aren't stiff and afraid of looking silly. Plus, guy 1 seems like I would have to drag him on the floor for a slow dance. Guy 2 seems chill.

42nanaimobars · 2022-02-19T06:32:13+00:00

ChibsFilipTelfordd · 2022-02-19T06:56:47+00:00

The lack of people saying 3 here makes me sad :(

Sockmonkeyaccount · 2022-02-19T07:10:22+00:00

I would be attracted to number three but know I’m probably more compatible with two or one.

lonely_mixtape · 2022-02-19T07:21:33+00:00

Was gonna say life of the party at first, but the more I think about it, it doesn't actually make me more attracted. It just makes them seem more fun to be around in a platonic way. I think the second guy would be more attractive to me. More down to earth.

Federal_Bat_5355 · 2022-02-19T07:33:51+00:00

Between 1 or 2... Thw one that looks at me and maybe smiles? (Not that I'd go up to them, but I can hope!)

87AudreyHorne · 2022-02-19T09:06:55+00:00

Guy 1 I guess but I probably won't notice either unless they approach me. I dont really like clubs and dancing, I'm a pub person. I like some live music and I like to sit and talk over drinks. I just find good convo more stimulating than dancing

87AudreyHorne · 2022-02-19T09:07:39+00:00

Guy 1 I guess but I probably won't notice either unless they approach me. I dont really like clubs and dancing, I'm a pub person. I like some live music and I like to sit and talk over drinks. I just find good convo more stimulating than dancing

accountantladyreads · 2022-02-19T10:29:22+00:00

I wouldn't date a man who went to a nightclub.

TermAggravating8043 · 2022-02-19T12:33:21+00:00

None of them, I’ll go fir the dude out with friends having a laugh, maybe dancing the odd song but ultimately just enjoying himself

_virgo-virago_ · 2022-02-19T13:57:31+00:00

none of that information gives me anything to go on lol as usual. also, you left out the actual choice "guy i find appealing who dances WITH ME"

why do all of you make choices that include words like "Scared" and "timid", two of the most repulsive things men can exhibit? like what is the function of adding those words?

gimpgirl555 · 2022-02-19T16:56:26+00:00

Guy 1: Sits around with a cup in his hand doesn’t dance the whole night , he might be too scared or maybe it’s not his thing

This one. Dancing is ghey.

Moelester6609 · 2022-02-19T17:55:18+00:00

Why is this even a question

lissssa-13 · 2022-02-19T18:55:34+00:00

Lol so I’m basically guy 2, and my partner is basically guy 3. I’m happy he has fun when we go out but I’m equally happy there is no expectation for me to keep up. I don’t think we would have ever met if we’d first come across one and other in a club or party scene.

So I guess guy 2? I’m very happy to stick with my group of friends and am going to have the most fun with people who want to do that.

mrspoods · 2022-02-19T19:03:59+00:00

Probably 1 or 2, I prefer approaching men myself so it really depends on their personality, but I don’t like people that are “the life of the party” and are just all pumped up all night long since I’m a really calmed person and nightlife is a little too much for me

Drive-By-Cuckers · 2022-02-19T21:53:47+00:00

If you’re at a club you better be off your ass on drugs and making a fool of yourself otherwise you may as well have just gone to a bar or stayed home

You gotta get back to work/school in a day or two, there’s no reason to waste time trying to think about what women find attractive or whether or not you should be dancing, just enjoy yourself lmao

Stunning-Potato-1984 · 2022-02-20T15:19:59+00:00

It's the guy who made his own Ash from Amy of Darkness costume complete with chainsaw hand. Only guy in a club that ever struck my fancy.

Elegant-Umpire7385 · 2022-02-20T16:41:52+00:00

Never ask a woman what she prefers. When a woman feels attraction or arousal, it just happens and is a consequence of something going on in a part of the brain outside of conscious awareness. It's an emotional and physical sensation.

Women are familiar with what their attraction is like, but they are not logically connected to the on/off switch and will not be able to tell you how it works.

However, if a man in a club seems to draw a lot of attention from other women, and he's not below average looks he might provoke attraction. Or, if he's just a raw, top 5% hottie, that might work as well.

This idea, however, that women have these unique little nice preferences and if you happen to be the right match for just her and put in this or that kind of effort you might get her attention is just baloney.

DorianneGrey · 2022-02-19T01:59:06+00:00

Probably 1, maybe 2. Definitely not 3.

Title	Ladies which man do you prefer in this example. I’m curious
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