Because in my experience when I have or other men have revealed insecurities like being sketched out about the women in our lives having male friends for example. Or to use another common example of dressing or acting like she’s single when she’s supposed to be in a relationship with us. Like bachelorette parties, the work husband, the male personal trainer or male yoga teacher or the dreaded male gynecologists. We get told we are controlling and it’s really a lot of angry harsh judgement.

However when women admit that they are uncomfortable with their men acting single. Things such as bachelor parties, having female friends, having a female therapist, the work wife, or even being close with female family members or staying in contact with female friends. The advice women get is validating. It’s also a lot of encouragement to stand up to the men. Listen to your gut. You’re not insecure he’s an asshole.

So it comes off to me and a lot of other guys that society sees men being insecure as a weakness. But women being insecure is a strength. The former is controlling behavior in-betted by the patriarchy the latter is feminism and women’s intuition, seen as wisdom etc.