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bvtmfdr · 2021-12-26T14:39:15+00:00

Muay Thai - it changed everything for me, discipline, my body and mental/physical health, community, mental toughness and clarity, confidence, testosterone, ego/humility etc.

_BrownPanther · 2021-12-26T17:57:29+00:00

Hitting the gym 3X/ Week (helped me be eye candy said one girl)
Developing a great reading habit (apart from how it helps you level up and grow, it also makes you very interesting, especially to women)
Talk to more women (the more "volume" you have to play with, the more detached and chill you are, the more likely lovely girls are going to chase you)!

Spobobich · 2021-12-26T08:46:10+00:00

I've noticed I've been getting repeating glances from women since I've started working out. And I'm not doing "balls to the wall" hardcore weight lifting type of exercises. Just three days of running elliptical machine for 40 minutes. There's something about you working out that's like a pheromone women pick up on.

Snoo-62854 · 2021-12-26T14:39:42+00:00

I am getting more glances and matches since I started lifting. Its not great, still single but something has improved my confidence as well.

Chicagoj1563 · 2021-12-26T13:44:38+00:00

For me nothing compares to being a musician. I’ve had moments where I’ve experienced what celebrities probably do with women where hot girls were approaching me and were heavily attracted. All because I was a talented musician.

There have been different scenarios, but the ultimate I found was to play improvised piano at small parties. It can be like Spanish fly. Being well known across a social circle for being in a band, or just having people talk about you all the time, that works too.

Of course, I never played music or performed as a way to attract women. It was always about just being a musician and playing. But, it really can have an effect on women if your talented.

Outside of women it has value in so many ways, it would take too long to list them all.

intensely_human · 2021-12-26T09:04:01+00:00

I’ve recently become very poor, and my situation precarious. I’m on the verge of homelessness, living in a room I pay for each night with the day’s earnings.

99% of my stuff is locked in a storage unit I can’t access due to unpaid bills.

So my possessions consist of a few changes of clothes, a phone, a computer, a meditation cushion, and enough food to fill a tiny motel fridge.

Because of my proximity to the abyss of homelessness, all the fluff has been squeezed out of my life and aside from an episode or two of Dexter each night, my days are more full of discipline and purpose than ever before in my life.

I’m scared, but happy. And my conscience doesn’t eat at me because I never feel like I’m wasting my time.

As a result of this simplicity, I have finally (I’m almost 40) found a sense of traction in my life.

Tonight I took an Uber passenger all the way to a town in the mountains, nearly two hours of driving. There I decided to treat myself to a burger before heading back to Denver.

I asked the bartender how her night was going and she promptly worked a mention of her husband into the response. I wasn’t bothered because I wasn’t trying to do anything but be friendly.

Are my burger, enjoyed it immensely, and at one point the whole room suddenly quieted. I turned around and a very attractive woman was staring at me from down in the dining area.

Again I disregarded her. I’ve got no time for anything but making money and resting. Found myself debating whether to make conversation again with the bartender (my phone was getting bad signal so my reddit wasn’t working), decided against it, and she initiated with me!

That hasn’t happened in an extremely long time. I know she wasn’t after me at all, but it was gratifying to see that she felt comfortable talking to me, and that she could see I wasn’t chasing anything.

Just a small thing, but it’s been a long time since women have treated me as anything but a creep, and I know it’s because my life is so much simpler now. The simplicity has given me mastery.

During this time I’ve been extremely afraid at times. One hiccup and I lose any gains and if I miss one night’s payment I’m on the street. And in the midst of this I’ve had a string of small disasters that have threatened that slim margin of safety: one night the hotel charged my card separately from the hold, another time my neck suddenly spasmed and I lost a few days to sharp pains in my neck.

Through this I’ve repeatedly encountered waves of bitterness and hopelessness, and the only way I’ve been able to survive is to forcibly grab my mind and move it firmly out of those dark places. I’ve been able to practice having faith in God, in reminding myself that my life is an “illusion” projected by my attitude.

Last night I met with the family for christmas and this brand new neck injury was bothering me. Making me feel hopeless because if my health goes my income goes and I start sliding downward. (My family is literally crazy and so leaning on them for support is not a workable option).

I got back to the hotel 11:30 pm, tired, wanting to sleep. Checked my bank account: $5-ish. With horror I realized I couldn’t go to sleep.

But I let go of the fear. I decided “fuck this neck injury, I’m done fucking around here” and I did a few minutes of the best qigong I’ve ever done and was like “heal this shit now” and my neck felt alright.

I’ll stop with the details but paring my life down to the absolute basics has opened up the possibility of feeling truly alive and masterful, and I love it.

drgreen987 · 2021-12-26T19:22:50+00:00

What makes someone attractive? Inner confidence How do i develop inner confidence? 1. Martial arts 2. Lifting weights 3. Acquiring knowledge by reading, studying, practising

All these teach you discipline, overcoming problems/failures, dedication, patience, creative thinking and in turn will bolster your confidence

Ps: these were 3 BIG things that improved my inner confidence. Other things like fashion etc can add value as well

ChicoBrillo · 2021-12-26T15:42:40+00:00

I always dreamed of being a nomad but kept deferring that dream to finish my degree and do other things to make my parents and others happy.

Well one day I finally got my degree and it was very underwhelming. It finally occurred to me that I could very well live my entire life for other people, and never do the things I’ve dreamed.

So one day I bought a ticket out of my city and have more or less been moving around ever since (COVID obviously has complicated things but I still manage to be nomadic, I just spend more time in places).

I now speak Spanish fluently and have friends all over the place. I also have an unlimited supply of bat shit stories. It impresses people even though I don’t do it for that reason.

Canadian-Seductioner · 2021-12-26T14:10:52+00:00

Not all of these apply to me specifically, but some attractive hobbies and skills to consider include:

learning another language
traveling to multiple countries
living in other countries
making more money
getting good at an instrument like guitar
curating a high value IG
learning how to dance salsa & bachata
hitting the gym and getting ripped

megnina · 2021-12-26T16:26:27+00:00

Reading books! People truly start to respect you more if you often read books in various situations of your daily life rather than be scrolling on social media/phone or watching Netflix. That would be in the subway, in the park, in a waiting room… or even by yourself in a corner somewhere lol! also, reading is mentally challenging, and you became more eloquent when you speak, eventually you will start to write better and you also learn about different subjects like history, politics, philosophy, and human experience overall. :)

amyg36819 · 2021-12-26T11:22:37+00:00

mindfulness. being overwhelmingly egotistical without it being obvious to appear confident. but a couple people see right through me haha.

i’ve always had unproportionally large tiddies. as in im 4’10 but have F cups. wearing low cut tops that are tight. i have seen people treat me a whooooole lot nicer.

who knew dressing pretty and being confident would mean people wouldn’t talk down on me 🥲 kinda bittersweet but it is what it is 🤷🏽‍♀️

Pringles__ · 2021-12-26T18:25:50+00:00

Working out.

6 months hitting the gym has changed my life drastically:

I look in shape and very muscular: https://i.imgur.com/gefi5HS.jpg.
I'm way stronger, I can carry very easily things that I couldn't even lift before. Need some help for your move? You can count on me.
I learned what discipline was about and how our brain tries its best to prevent us from doing things that are essential for our lives. You want to approach that girl? Just do it, don't listen to your brain.
I feel energetic and in a positive mood most of the time.
People respect me for being so dedicated in my routine and for being stronger.
Women find me more attractive and they peek on me.
I'm looked as an example of physical fitness.
I'm way more confident in myself, I have a higher testosterone level and higher clarity in my head.

Alextryingforgrate · 2021-12-26T15:54:14+00:00

Getting some proper fitting clothes. It gives women the idea that you have some sort of your shit together. I use to have loose fitting clothing, then bought proper fitting pants and it looked good on me. Then the same with shirts dropped a size and could see my own figured. I liked looking at myself more, not in a narcissistic way but in a way that gave me confidence.

Also working out as mentioned earlier, not full on balls to the walls TST, and roids, or creatine and 42069 different supplements. Working out on a level that gets your body going to gain some strength, mobility and also learn to stretch. Yoga is also another one that helps with movement and the hips, for good reasons.

PointingNoWhere · 2021-12-26T15:59:32+00:00

Working out. When you know you look good it changes the confidence you walk around with. Plus it gives you a better frame and posture so your body language is better. Just do two compound exercises every session with 3-4 sessions a week. Have an accountability group (friends, siblings, etc) so you remain consistent

Knights_Ferry · 2021-12-26T20:47:17+00:00

Learning how to swing dance. You get really really really comfortable holding, picking up, knowing where to put your hands on a lady without it ever being awkward. Plus, having the skill to just ask a girl to dance and also knowing how to do it correctly, girls find impressive.

It's also a great way to meet people. Go to lessons, usually they will rotate everyone and you get to dance with dozens of different people, plus, nobody is really trying to pick up girls and people are pretty chill and just having fun and learning.

willgo-waggins · 2021-12-26T16:01:05+00:00

I have embraced positivity and reinforced my credo of giving back. I do well in life and I have been blessed with beautiful children and a lot of enjoyment.

Today I am taking my sons to a homeless shelter with my social group which I help lead. Most people are bringing food. I cleared out Costco of their fleece blankets the other day and we are bringing those to be handed out to people so they can have a warm blanket here in the winter. It’s not much but if everyone does something the load will be lighter for those that are overburdened.

wickedlobstah · 2021-12-26T16:29:03+00:00

Brazilian jiujitsu.

Alonso81687 · 2021-12-26T16:31:42+00:00

Honestly, lifting weights. And I'm not even ripped(i basically have a dad bod)but having muscle in almost all the right places has gotten more girls to give me compliment and some can't help but touch or grab.

RedditSellsMyInfo · 2021-12-26T18:01:49+00:00

Going to therapy regularly. being a happier well adjusted person made a huge improvement. Also therapists have been pretty open to game and working through game specific things like approach anxiety. Best investment I've ever made.

WanyCaleb · 2021-12-26T11:08:02+00:00

Meditation-yoga for the mind

Madssa1 · 2021-12-26T08:48:43+00:00

Doing Krav Maga. It makes you able to protect yourself in almost any situation, and also gives you confidence and stamina at the same time. You probably won't notice yourself, but after a while it changes the way you walk and move aswell, and girls love it.

TrippynFlippy · 2021-12-26T21:27:54+00:00

1) workout , the confidence boost from knowing the discipline and dedication you put towards sculpting your body into your vision is infinitely better the how heavy your wallet is. plus it makes you “different” from the average guy. 2) expand your interests. in a social setting, if you have anything interesting to talk about. (a new podcast you listened to, a new movie, literally anything thats “new” or niche”. is something you can talk about, if you know 5% more then the person youre talking to, you just seem smarter by default

Shoes_4_daze · 2021-12-26T21:32:49+00:00

I became more confident (& ergo more attractive) when I realized it’s okay to be a little self-indulgent. Getting a new haircut, a massage or my nails done always makes me look better, but also gives me a more positive feeling of self-worth. Buying a good bra (for the folks that need it) does wonders for your posture, your confidence & can also alleviate pains in your back or shoulders…not to mention the fact that it puts a little pep in my step knowing how good my girls look! And for the folks that don’t need a new bra, do something that gives you the BDE you need to be confident, but not arrogant. I think spending a little money on whatever makes you feel like the best version of yourself is the perfect way to show the world you value you, so they should too. ❤️❤️❤️

MO_drps_knwldg · 2021-12-26T15:03:08+00:00

Martial arts. Muay Thai lessons

kingtechllc · 2021-12-26T12:20:31+00:00

Prob ever since I started using DN. My life has changed

taleesita · 2021-12-26T19:23:06+00:00

I started biking and doing yoga daily. I don't talk about it a ton with folks but I take a lot of personal pride in the routine and my consistency, which makes me feel more confident and secure in myself. 🥰

DavidMXXIV · 2021-12-26T20:38:30+00:00

Being completely unapologetic for my views and actions. That’s not to say that I am not wrong sometimes or that I don’t ever apologize when I know I’m wrong. Thats a different kind of awareness.

richietherich92 · 2021-12-26T22:51:20+00:00

physically attractive: hitting the gym, working on my fashion(clothing, cologne, hairstyle, accessories, etc.)

financially attractive: focusing on my career by creating short term and long term goals and trying to meet those goals every day

emotionally/mentally attractive: working on my mental game through positive affirmations and only consuming positive/motivational media, going out alone and talking to as many people as possible (helps build your charisma and self confidence)

It’s challenging but do-able. Almost anything is possible, if you have the right mindset.

tradone · 2021-12-26T13:11:44+00:00

Money.

TTV-DontEvnTrip · 2021-12-26T20:57:28+00:00

Exercise is the common one, but reading is another crucial hobby that builds confidence. Learning a new skill. Something like programming, trading, cyber security, real estate. When you learn a new skill that can build wealth your confidence in yourself will skyrocket, you will become more aware of full potential to grow again. And reading gives you this knowledge that is undeniable, when you know something to be real and true nobody can take away your confidence when speaking about that subject and that gives you power. Something that builds attraction not just for the opposite sex but also respect from people who listen to you and they understand you know more so they lean towards you as well. TLDR : build your brain and body. Making those your hobbies will give you confidence and build attraction, women love to be taught new things.

Intelli_gent_0601 · 2021-12-27T01:52:55+00:00

Through building my business that I sold for 9 figures, I spoke to so many people (clients and partners) which allowed me to build unrelenting confidence. It also allowed me to deal with any setbacks and not be upset by them.

This has directly flowed onto my dating life. I have no fear at all about rejection and am very comfortable to walk away if they aren’t the right person to be with.

Health and fitness is also a big one. This keeps your mind sharp and in the right space to be making sound decisions. This, of course, is nothing new.

The big one is learning to fail and becoming comfortable with it. In fact becoming comfortable with being uncomfortable made the biggest positive changes in my life. So many people avoid pain, so if you want to succeed in any facet of your life, embrace discomfort..

sunkized · 2021-12-26T16:36:58+00:00

Getting back into shape. I get more attention

Dr_Ellis · 2021-12-26T16:52:02+00:00

cycling. it's fun too so easy to get addicted

mijo4presidentay · 2021-12-26T18:33:49+00:00

Simple and more on the inner game side of things but positive affirmations. As soon as u wake up and right before u go to bed. Write em down and say em to ur reflection. Sounds dumb but its worked wonders in my life.

nbh1995 · 2021-12-26T18:44:00+00:00

Cooking, cleaning, exercise, music\art.

oiamo123 · 2021-12-26T22:07:25+00:00

Bought a motorcycle, I don't have anyone to ride with so I started doing things I want to do alone. Such as checking out new restaurants, going out of town for the weekend etc etc.

I found that it made me significantly more confident in my independence.

coming2grips · 2021-12-26T23:57:02+00:00

Shibari

MeWuzBornIn1990 · 2021-12-26T17:00:02+00:00

Lifting weights at least five times per week.

coldbrew18 · 2021-12-26T16:04:23+00:00

Hitting the gym. 5d/wk. 45mind.

NichRigga- · 2021-12-26T16:40:29+00:00

Getting shredded.

kenny950905 · 2021-12-26T20:43:09+00:00

Psychotherapy

Got_er_otter · 2021-12-26T22:41:50+00:00

Reading.

BarberStriking8887 · 2021-12-26T22:59:15+00:00

Jiu jitsu.

chronicallybeautiful · 2021-12-26T23:15:25+00:00

For me it’s makeup. It’s my creative outlet, I love to talk to friends or my therapist while I get ready, and when I’m done it’s a total confidence boost. And I love looking sexy for my husband so he doesn’t forget he’s got a steak dinner waiting at home so don’t stop for fast food iykwim. I have an awesome collection of makeup, I’m especially into eyeshadow and have tons of high end palettes that I love and keep adding products. A good skin care routine is good too! Self care.

coming2grips · 2021-12-26T23:56:50+00:00

Brazilian jiu-jitsu

mrmarkme · 2021-12-27T00:17:56+00:00

Gym, have a large group of friends has made me more social and having people to talk to all the time has helped me tremendously

simbuah · 2021-12-27T00:49:19+00:00

Quitting weed

Tatiana0o0 · 2021-12-27T01:26:12+00:00

Stretching everyday.

CapitalArm3810 · 2021-12-27T01:57:09+00:00

Nothing.

lana_del_reymysterio · 2021-12-27T02:11:10+00:00

For me, it's got to be getting into working out and then committing to a consistent gym schedule with proper nutrition etc.

It's completely overhauled everything about me; not just appearance wise but my personality, approach to life, etc.

I'm much more confident in myself (not just with women but in any endeavour I undertake - e.g. exams, job interviews), have much better self-image, better posture, more flirtatious with women, I have a positive growth mindset now, my mental endurance is a lot stronger, testosterone levels are much higher.

BirdEngineer225 · 2021-12-27T02:42:13+00:00

As a huge fan of self-improvement, this is the post I've always wanted to post, but never had the internet courage. Thank you!

MakeItGain · 2021-12-27T04:50:46+00:00

You are who you socialise with most. Finding like minded people has helped me significantly. I've taken private dance classes this year and I've learned a lot on how to talk to women from him. He's been really good at showing me where women's boundaries are and has really got me out of my shell and more relaxed.

Im not endorsing dance teachers as most are beta as fuck and too scared to look a woman in the eyes...

kassra25 · 2021-12-27T05:21:17+00:00

I would have to say having Independence and getting my own car and license. Just having a car Made life so much easier in so many ways.

williamroberthoss · 2021-12-27T12:29:06+00:00

Get into watches. It’s shows you take time seriously.

EU-Howdie · 2021-12-27T13:34:38+00:00

Lost weight, a lot, by better food and fitness.

Got my own place,

Wear nicer clothes and haircut

Got a job and / or work as an volunteer.

Rndzle · 2022-01-16T17:38:37+00:00

My pull out game 💪🏼

Silly-Leg-1124 · 2021-12-26T14:45:01+00:00

Learned game, and the true dynamics of attraction.

metaliturtle · 2021-12-26T14:36:19+00:00

Getting money

insecure_f · 2021-12-27T00:26:34+00:00

Retinol, my skin is glowing

medxiv · 2021-12-27T17:44:50+00:00

Worked out every single day for about 6 months

Delicious_Jackoff · 2021-12-26T18:36:11+00:00

More substance in life. If you know what I mean. 😏

YankeesTrader1991 · 2021-12-26T19:34:40+00:00

meditation, working in sales, binge drinking.. in that order

urgobull · 2021-12-26T23:19:44+00:00

Doing porn. It gave the final push/birth to a split - alter ego-personality. I would not reccomend it though.

Peace

lampworkbench · 2021-12-26T19:53:31+00:00

Running

jonycabral1 · 2021-12-26T21:19:39+00:00

Exercise, reading, meditation, bussiness.

Be focused on you and you will naturally attract

soydiosa · 2021-12-26T21:57:27+00:00

Actually going for my dream job - and creating a music career for myself in spite of those negative comments about not making it or it’s never going to pay the bills that you hear growing up. Living my dream has attracted more interested parties than anything else I’ve ever done - including makeup, lingerie, hair, high heels, people pleasing… I’ve tried it all

Ablueskyahead · 2021-12-26T22:08:28+00:00

I think that’s all in the eye of the beholder to be honest. I think as individuals we need to find things that make our souls feel more complete. Not necessarily to be attracted by others, but to understand ourselves. So when we do come into contact with other people, we are our full authentic selves. Then you’re more capable of attracting people that will truly value who you are. Some will like it and some won’t.

eyesopen1111 · 2021-12-26T22:42:37+00:00

Psychology has added so much to my life, game, and insight. Marital arts training has also added a lot.

But this idea that the way to get laid is to earn girls' affection by self development and logically appealing to what women "should" want is blue pilled bullshit. There are many ways to pick a lock/seduce a chick, and blue pill is just one of them. And not a good one at that.

coming2grips · 2021-12-26T23:57:13+00:00

Confidence

Hegemon1984 · 2021-12-27T01:59:21+00:00

Pickup

Left_Bed_9379 · 2021-12-27T03:00:57+00:00

Learning about sincere appreciation towards everyone, and less whining/blaming others about your past failures (as I used to act too serious all the time). As for activities taking salsa lessons and being consistent with it (I gave it 1 year and it has helped me gain more confidence when going to social events)

Less_Atmosphere3931 · 2021-12-27T03:31:25+00:00

Peter Post’s Essential Etiquette For Men. Read that!

midguet12 · 2021-12-27T04:07:13+00:00

Started a business

2021-12-27T05:57:20+00:00

Wim Hof Method, distance running, meditation, metta meditation

doovinator · 2021-12-27T08:11:27+00:00

Learn another language, play an instrument, master a craft, read books, get in shape, keep a positive attitude, talk to people and don't be afraid to be loud. Ask questions. Everyone knows something you don't, and you know something they don't. When people try to act superior, ask them something they don't know (or tell them). When they seem to feel inferior, find out what they know that you don't. Everyone and everything is interesting. Find out how.

United_Cow_9729 · 2021-12-27T09:01:18+00:00

Hiking

greymic · 2021-12-27T12:21:38+00:00

Dancing. I never danced until I was 49, when I was at a festival, the right group of new friends with the right music helped me lose my self consciousness and just thoroughly fall in love with EDM. That night changed my life forever. I started going dancing once or twice a month at festivals, raves, nightclubs, and ecstatic dance events. My circle of friends became younger and larger and I lost 12 pounds over the first year while my endurance made it possible to dance for hours without stopping.

clutch_usa_-6 · 2021-12-27T18:58:22+00:00

Becoming disabled, having my house destroyed by a tornado, having the insurance company fight over my claim for 4 years, getting divorced, fighting for disability for 12 years, 14 years of opiate dependence (physical), getting fucked out of SSDI and my Pension, getting stuck on SSI (asset dependant income, can't ever be worth more than $2k)... ALL of these added to it, and I ABSOLUTELY love my life!!!

Wonder how many people will think the last line is sarcastic?... cause it's not 🤣😋

It's probably just perspective, but I find value in everything and mainly just work through whatever pops up... I can't be the only person who does this 🤔.

MA_CA_NV_CA · 2021-12-27T22:09:03+00:00

Literally all my hobbies: playing music, foreign language, exercise / lifting, reading, even taking an interest in fashion / style and female makeup / fashion.

Lincoln4ever · 2021-12-28T00:41:01+00:00

Playing guitar. Wood turning, Krav Maga, volunteering, donating blood, growing my hair to donate to kids with cancer, donating bone marrow, stone cutting/sculpting, gardening, DIY repairing my own vehicle and recording original music.

These all make me way more attractive and are extremely rewarding. Try as many as you like.

cassclamchowder · 2021-12-28T05:35:02+00:00

Wasn’t expecting to even get into it, but spin cycle classes, learning how to do makeup, watching and reading more. Some things that have remained constant and added value has been music career and developing my instruments, piano, and voice! Thinking before speaking. Reading the Bible. Getting connected with likeminded people. Building solid foundations and friendships with those in my life, and have grown to love and admire, but also stay consistent. Social media app I recommend has been Snapchat, and learning the ways of iPhone. Making healthy choices with food, creating and following through with goals, giving myself time to recollect and let go what God doesn’t want for me. Letting Jesus take full control and obviously life hasn’t been super amazing but He’s been constant and my Rock and another attractive thing is standing up for myself and not letting people be mean. Seeing a problem and doing something about it is hot.

i_love_crazy_hobos · 2021-12-28T05:42:14+00:00

As far as hobbies etc., hiking and meditating are positive ways to stay active and peaceful. Spending time in nature. Going on long walks in nice places and listening to smart audiobooks on double speed. Riding my bike around town. DJing as a hobby at home.

Learning coding and starting that as a career made a great difference for me. I can work remotely and live anywhere now.

Also, IDK if this counts as an answer, but going out and doing alot of cold approach to get better with girls has made a bigger impact than even career on my life.

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