Lifting....Changed everything

Serious-Biscotti-344 · 2021-08-09T03:48:55+00:00

Inspiring post. Any advice how to start super interested but have zero knowledge about lifting or nutrition.

Pringles__ · 2021-08-09T09:17:12+00:00

Man, you don't believe me but I was about to write something similar but just didn't take the time to do it. I'm so happy to see you went through something similar.

Going to the gym is so much worth it. You work out to become a better version of yourself for yourself but in parallel, you become proud of yourself. You are not just there lifting weights for the sole purpose of getting a better body, you are consistently improving and achieving things. It boosts your morale and your body. Then, let's not forget that if you start thinking about people around you, you become an eye magnet and you get female attention 24/7.

I started going to the gym in September 2020. However, due to COVID-19 restrictions, I didn't go from October to June. That's of course hella long but that's how it was. When gyms reopened in June, I started going 3 times a week (full body program). I do 7-8 exercises, with 4x10 reps (minimum). Each gym session takes me 1:30 hours on average, though I prefer it this way than having to go to the gym 4 times a week (which is not compatible with my lifestyle). After already a few weeks, I noticed my abs were so damn strong and visible. I don't have a 6-pack as it's all about body fat % (it's around 14%) though I'm very proud that my abs are that strong and that my core is getting stronger. My shoulders also got bigger. Then, my arms followed and now my pecs are also getting bigger. Without forgetting that my thighs and ass are also in a better shape (I consistently did leg and thigh exercises), though I don't notice it because my thighs were already in a good shape.

Of course, this evolution is hard to notice as you constantly look at your body, though I noticed that I get tons of compliments since I started going to the gym (which did not happen before). I had a female colleague caress my abdomen and tell me that my abs were increasingly strong and that she never saw something like that, she even compared them with those of another guy who also works out. I had another female tell me that they were impressed my shoulders got that big. An another one tell me that my arms were much bigger. Finally, yesterday, I was with a female friend (who was a previous crush) and she told me she was impressed how muscular I got, although I saw her last time like 3 weeks ago?

Let's not forget all the looks/stares of girls that I notice. They are literally eyeballing me, although it was never like that before.

The huge advantage for me in terms of dating is not really the looks or whatsoever, as I already considered myself as attractive. The big advantage is that you are behaving like a man is supposed to behave, what the society expects from a man. That makes you come off as more authentic. Your whole lifestyle revoles around becoming more genuine and assertive. I'm working out to become stronger, I want to get laid so I'm going to date till I find someone who is worth my attention. Now, I did not completely go back to the dating scene yet as COVID-19 restrictions made me stop (although I could have continued) and I hate online dating as I'm not good at it.

Though, I'm not going to the gym for the girls, otherwise I wouldn't be there. I really enjoy becoming a better version of myself, making things that I could never do before (I can finally do at least 5 pull-ups without assistance) and feeling like I achieved something whenever I go there, regardless of how exhausting it can be sometimes.

Voilà, I don't really have the time nor the patience to word this out better and structure my comment better but I really enjoy that there are people out there following the same progress. We are in this together bro!

dodged_that_one · 2021-08-09T11:53:49+00:00

I'd add once you have seen some good results, let them speak for themselves.

I was at a restaurant at the weekend and there was a couple on the next table having a date. He was talking quite loudly so I got every word whether I wanted to or not.

He was wearing a tight white t-shirt which was painfully obvious to show off his pecs. He went on and on about his lifting progress, his diet, exercise regimen. The girl was your typical girl who was interested in cardio to keep in shape, but that was about it. She was clearly bored to tears with him banging on about how he got to be the way he is.

She was clearly into the results and didn't seem to care that his only topics of conversation were him, his progress and his career / wealth. For everyone around him it was incredibly cringe-worthy.

I don't doubt that they were screwing half the night. Apparently the only way he could have failed the date would to have been outright offensive rather than merely objectionable. The whole thing looked like a formality / mutual inspection of merchendise before a hook up. If it had been a more meaningful date, he would have crashed and burned hard.

tl;dr Most girls are into the result of lifting not the activity, make sure you have more to talk about than diet and gym unless your "date" is only a physical inspection before a hook up.

SDdude81 · 2021-08-09T12:08:33+00:00

*Results not guaranteed.

I've been lifting for years and interest from women has not increased.

I've gone from a skinny-fat short guy to a fit short guy. Every now and then I get random comments from guys. Women haven't seemed to notice.

Fooking-Degenerate · 2021-08-09T07:47:26+00:00

I keep telling men to take care of their bodies!

No one believes me, or rather want to believe me...

effingava0221 · 2021-08-09T03:27:26+00:00

👑

TexRetroTech · 2021-08-09T07:34:06+00:00

Good job my man. You made the best of a bad situation and came out a champ!

quangshine · 2021-08-09T09:02:44+00:00

Hell yeah... The confidence that I gain from being stronger, healthier, and better looking makes not getting laid doesn't even matter.

RegretsNothing1 · 2021-08-09T14:18:26+00:00

No no no, definitely all should share the fruits of labor. Too many people here think they just need to cold approach more and do NO self improvement.

hxlidayy · 2021-08-09T12:13:46+00:00

YouTube Greg Doucette. Only person you need and calls out all the bs and fake science etc

2021-08-09T09:36:46+00:00

No phones in the gym bro focus on the lift💪💪

SherifffOfNottingham · 2021-08-09T03:55:27+00:00

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Ghosteyo · 2021-08-10T00:33:14+00:00

I'm proud of you buddy

Impulsive666 · 2021-08-09T07:43:47+00:00

Congrats!
Stop fucking around while in the gym and focus on lifting! 😛😉

FlatDistance5 · 2021-08-09T05:20:23+00:00

Glad to hear it man, my problem is I can’t put down the fork. How did you get to the point where you could?

zattraction · 2021-08-09T09:44:21+00:00

You're resting too long between sets bro

DORLOX · 2021-08-09T07:37:38+00:00

Could you also make a new post on what you did in detail? maybe some detail into the nutrition and more? I am a vegetarian so thats a bit of a problem i have. :/

imperiocolgate · 2021-08-09T17:21:08+00:00

Lifting gave me more confidence in being able to change something in my life - that confidence in your ability is the biggest key imo

Lucky-Mustard · 2021-08-09T07:10:48+00:00

Pics.

slightdrippin · 2021-08-09T08:15:28+00:00

Everyone who consider lifting or needs some help on it, I'd suggest Athlean-X channel on youtube

vze1fm8gn · 2021-08-09T06:37:07+00:00

When you say lifting , you mean dumbbells or barbell?

2021-08-09T07:36:40+00:00

This applies to every possible field out there.. be it health, your rlationship or careers

PompousSchmuck · 2021-08-09T09:27:00+00:00

Im proud of you. I did something similar myself, and while things dont go that well, generally i see a large leap forward. So i confirm - be the best version of yourself, life, look good.

tonycampagna69 · 2021-08-09T09:45:52+00:00

my man💪🏻💪🏻

DrixlRey · 2021-08-09T10:17:35+00:00

Can you post a picture of what your body looks like? I also have a lot of progress as well but I want to know at what body type did you achieve this success.

SerMyronGaines · 2021-08-09T10:58:57+00:00

Congrats OP! Great point about investing in yourself i.e. lift for yourself, not for the girls

Gallaga07 · 2021-08-09T11:32:30+00:00

You and I are in the exact same boat dude, dropped from 239 to 206 so far since a breakup at the beginning of 2021 following a pretty fucked up 2020. I have been getting a shit load of compliments and attention all over the place, feels good to max yourself out and actually get results, keep up the great work!

MoStuntin · 2021-08-09T11:47:12+00:00

I went from being 104kg and getting rejected most of my friends didn’t. Take me serious and would take advantage of me I lost weight I’m looking athletic now sharp jawline more girls are interested in me and that’s new to me still getting used to it keep training big things are coming for everyone who works out

gmbhdios3 · 2021-08-09T12:43:28+00:00

Great work man!

FCBarca1984 · 2021-08-09T13:13:58+00:00

Love it, congrats !!!

VG_240 · 2021-08-09T13:32:58+00:00

Doing the same brother. Taking my lifting and dieting very serious. My mental health and physical has gone up so high. I feel amazing. We'll all make it ✊🏽✊🏽🦍💯

Son_of_Eros03 · 2021-08-09T14:07:40+00:00

Congratulations bro! I love stories like these! What exercises did you do to lose weight?

squatch1601 · 2021-08-09T16:31:30+00:00

Absolutely! Lifting changes a lot. Not just your shape, but it improves your posture a lot and people look at you different. It also boosts confidence and gives you another thing to be proud of. And it also improves mind muscle connection so you start to enjoy your body and move different.

decapitate_the_rich · 2021-08-09T16:54:00+00:00

I've always wanted to join a gym, but never been in one and not sure I can afford it so I'm really intimidated. I lift wights at home, but not getting the results I want, mostly due to lack of energy. At my age I'm not even sure if I can get the results I want. I've never known anyone into fitness before so not even sure where to start.

weirdowerdo · 2021-08-09T17:07:45+00:00

Been working out for years, made a lot of progress and compete in powerlifting. But yeah no one cares about that, no one really notices it because they dont even care about me to begin with so. i haven't suddenly gotten more female attention despite the all the hours spent in the gym making progress, the gym isnt some magic thing that suddenly will make girls attracted to you.

st0nervirginsunit3 · 2021-08-09T18:01:35+00:00

That’s awesome man. For me it was the opposite though. Getting fit changed nothing

Supahafiya · 2021-08-09T19:29:30+00:00

What a legend, virutally the same thing happened here bro! We got this

2021-08-09T20:19:10+00:00

You act like the friggin' gym is a big secret, but for someone with Aspergers, it makes no difference. I just hate these normie posts where people act like the gym or haircuts or showers make a difference when it's not going to change who you are.

Particular_Visual531 · 2021-08-09T21:16:00+00:00

this is one of my basic rules when I'm giving advice as a dating coach to guys. The number of guys that fight me on this is amazing. Well done!

richietherich92 · 2021-08-09T21:25:59+00:00

Hell yeah bro! Started my weight loss journey five months ago and since then, I’ve started getting more and more compliments from women that I’ve never heard in my life! Improving yourself certainly is the way to go! So proud to hear that someone out there is working to improve themselves as well! Gives me more motivation to continue improving myself! Keep it up man!

Yo_Techno · 2021-08-10T16:45:00+00:00

Amazing! Great job :) There’s been very few times in my life where I look back and think I played my cards perfectly, but the 2020 lockdown is one of them. Spent the entire time reading books and weight lifting, played with hairstyles and clothing styles, etc. Now my skincare, grooming, and fashion is on point all the time and I get told from everyone at work that COVID was my glow up. I finally feel clever enough to approach a girl and not be terrified that I’m just gonna fumble over my words and implode, sometimes. The 1 month I spent actually going out before delta exploded resulted in 2 one night stands, 1 semi-consistent booty call and another girl I can see pretty much whenever. Still deal with approach anxiety from time to time and I’m nowhere near as outgoing as I’d like to be but I feel 1000% better about my dating life and I’m positive it would’ve taken years to accomplish all that without the lockdown

shannonx2 · 2021-08-15T13:09:42+00:00

Can anybody Pin this post?

Fallingbe · 2021-08-15T21:12:00+00:00

What kind of photos good sir? Like just straight topless at the beach or?

quotemep · 2021-08-19T07:23:13+00:00

Fuaaarrrkkk we're all gonna make it boyss

antoine-mat · 2021-08-20T14:14:33+00:00

May I ask what's your height?

EdosRants · 2021-08-31T14:38:27+00:00

May I ask how tall are You?

Effortless0 · 2021-11-11T03:12:33+00:00

Thank you. Peace and love to everybody

Ahad0 · 2021-08-09T08:31:09+00:00

What do you do every time you go to the gym?

Title	Lifting....Changed everything
Author	JabaJabaLlama
Upvotes	1045
Comments	174
Date	August 9, 2021 3:07 AM UTC (4 years ago)
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