Guys making fun of noises you make during sex. Just why?

LadyGrimes · 2021-02-06T21:32:57+00:00

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OrangeGeorge · 2021-02-06T21:20:57+00:00

Tell him that wanting put his penis in you is needy and clingy

ablashak · 2021-02-06T22:29:37+00:00

Meanwhile their faces during sex are like dead fish, and they're just as silent as one, too.

devoushka · 2021-02-06T21:22:20+00:00

This is disgusting behaviour. Even my exes never sunk this low. Sex is one of the most intimate experiences possible between two people, and I expect not to be shat on by my partner for the way I act in my most vulnerable moments. I'm so sorry this has happened to you. Ugh.

simplicityduplicity · 2021-02-06T21:15:46+00:00

Not alone. I’ve been there before in years past. But hear this- if he’s doing any of the above: calling you needy because you want to kiss him during any intimate connection, lose him immediately. I’m talking call the session and kick him out. You deserve to reserve your body for men who will meet you on that very emotional front, and these dudes are clearly not it. They are just using your body as a fleshlight, and you deserve more, Sis.

-pop-fizz-clink · 2021-02-06T21:49:16+00:00

This feels like "tell me your ex is a sociopath without telling me he is a sociopath".

I was accused of "making a face that" and that was a "turn off", but he was very very girthy and despite me having zero natural lubrication issues - it hurt a bit at first the first few times. I told him this and to take it slow. He was very cheap so it surprised me when he bought high end water based lube "for me". (For US. WE are having sex. We.) My response floored him; I told him that saying my wince is a turn off is extremely insensitive and shows how much compassion he lacks. If you want to brag about your size, understand it comes with issues for some. Sorry that the porn actresses you watch don't have a problem with a very large phallus, but it isn't reality. On the flip side... if I didn't have a "problem" with his size, perhaps this would have been an issue to and would speak to how clutches pearls horribly promiscuous I am - gasp! Porn teaches men that sex is something being done TO someone - not WITH someone. I'm a person, and if a wince is a turn off, lawd help the woman who ever has post partum sex with him.

Phoenix__Rising2018 · 2021-02-06T21:38:05+00:00

These type of lvm get really bitter about a woman wanting, needing or enjoying anything. The manslation of this behavior is literally "Fuck you. I don't like you and I want you to know it."

Delicious_Comfort000 · 2021-02-06T21:21:34+00:00

The ones that don’t want to kiss or cuddle after sex are addicted to porn, in all likelihood. Their brains are rotten. They call it post coital depression.

Novemberinthechair · 2021-02-07T00:17:35+00:00

Um, do men know what they look like when they come? Walt Disney's Goofy comes to mind. Especially when they bite their lower lip. No wonder women usually keep their eyes closed. One time, during a makeout session, the dude bit his lower lip and looked at me like I was a sandwich. I thought, "Eww, I can't fuck him." Thank God my phone rang.

Men are rarely fuckable. It's amazing female heterosexuality exists.

Confection_Efficient · 2021-02-07T01:35:14+00:00

Ugh. I had a bf once who got upset when I told him I wanted him inside me. In his words I was being bossy and he was the one who was going to decide when he would enter my body. I was honestly shocked. I ended things the next day.

devoushka · 2021-02-06T21:31:27+00:00

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avokatze · 2021-02-06T21:21:39+00:00

All of this.

Also, have you ever had a guy just...well...grab your goods and squeeze them like you’re a stress ball and your body is just funny to them? Or make casual comments on parts of your body like you should have known you have a particular defect? I’ve been told I have “fat knees”, “fucked up legs”, and other such wtfery.

I swear, it’s just that they fucking hate us. Nothing else explains the level of contempt and the sense of being assessed like an unsavory lab specimen.

advice1988 · 2021-02-06T21:44:49+00:00

A man who has issues with kissing you during sex & mocks any part of you during a intimate moment has no business being inside you, let alone in your bed. I bet he was kissing , cuddling and mooching up to you before sex right? sex isn't an act that cannot be halted during it. Any man that does this, should be kicked out asap, no matter if he was going to 'finish' . He can buy a blow up doll if he wants 'unclingy' and no kissing and play moaning from porn on his laptop, like he did before he was lucky enough to share the same air as a woman.

sassyheather · 2021-02-06T21:52:39+00:00

Guys described as “disgusting dick” shouldn’t even be in your body or bed. They have no place anywhere near you.

anotherdamnloser · 2021-02-06T23:40:07+00:00

One time a guy mocked me for not being flexible enough to do an uncomfortable porn position and laughed at me. And I didn’t block him. Never again

devoushka · 2021-02-06T23:07:49+00:00

You know these problems vanish when you find the right one, this is plain disgusting behaviour. It feels like they don't care about your feelings and how mocking can in the long run distant someone from them even when you liked them.

Not related but I find a lot of parents do this and in the long run, the child feels violated and would distant himself from parents.

anotherdamnloser · 2021-02-06T22:57:24+00:00

I use to use a higher pitch voice during sex because I sound "like a man"....

DutyKooky · 2021-02-06T22:17:08+00:00

Part of my vetting with a guy is not shaving for sex. I will not shave my thighs or get a brazillian. I will trim what is needed for my personal hygiene, but no more. If he makes any comment whatsoever about my hair down below, or refuses to suck me when I have hair on my labia, he is a goner. I will kick him out of my bed immediately and tell him to get lost. He;s never coming back. A guy who likes you for you will find your hair interesting and cute. He will love tickling it and pulling gently on it. He will be crazy about wanting his hand to get lost in your pubes and call it a " forest of pleasure" where he loves going exploring. Any objection to your hair down below is a sign he is porn sick and doesn't really like you. Men love mystery - right? Hair provides that mystery. A hairless vage has no mystery whatsoever :-)

ponchoacademy · 2021-02-07T00:33:28+00:00

Had a guy tell me not to look at him like that during sex...did him a favor and never had sex with him again. That was the end of that. I can't say I've chosen to have sex with a guy who I think has a digsusting body, but for sure if someone is going to try and insult me and make fun of me just to try and embarrass me, I would not keep seeing him.

Pahapan · 2021-02-07T04:16:32+00:00

I lost my virginity to my first boyfriend raping me and he later had the audacity to complain that me saying he was hurting me was a turnoff.

The vast majority of men are scum. And remember, nobody is as nice as a guy who hasn't fucked you yet. They'll do whatever it takes to get you into bed and once they've achieved that, all bets are off.

anotherdamnloser · 2021-02-07T00:57:23+00:00

How awful to want to kiss! No seriously men are poisoned and sick and cannot understand real intimacy. To hell with them all.

LockLimePie · 2021-02-07T03:42:36+00:00

Only tangentially related, but I have severe night terrors, and in my sleep sometimes make noises like I'm trying to cry out or speak. EX LVM would make fun of me for them, saying they sounded sexual. Even at the time it rubbed me SO wrong because JESUS Christ that man SNORED like a fucking HIPPO. He sounded like a motorcycle. Having ONE night terror where I'm crying in my sleep is not... Jesus. I don't know, just writing this out pissed me off all over again, LOL.

souredskittles · 2021-02-06T22:54:15+00:00

Wow I was about to ask if there’s were hookups. They def didn’t like you, and threw out the love word to gain access. I’ve has something similar happen, where they slept over but didn’t want to cuddle (there was no sex) like they would sleep on the other side of the bed. What the point of having a sleepover then lol

2021-02-07T02:10:06+00:00

They can't handle actual intimacy. You'd think he'd think your moaning would be a compliment.

Apricot_Ibex · 2021-02-06T21:35:17+00:00

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uptownxthot · 2021-02-07T02:03:49+00:00

i used to be so hung up on guy who didn’t like kissing, would only cuddle after sex if he wanted to, and even pushed me off of him when i tried to hold his hand.

thinktwiceorelse · 2021-02-07T11:51:43+00:00

I, back then 20, had my first boyfriend, 29, who was Japanese (I'm from Eastern Europe), he kept sending me Japanese porn, so I would learn how to moan like Japanese girls. He also told me, that my naked body is beautiful, but Japanese girls actually turn him on. I was literally triangulated with the whole female population of Japan.

PrettyPopping · 2021-02-06T22:24:09+00:00

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2021-02-07T07:14:40+00:00

I don't bother at all, I've embraced singledom as a forever strategy. Literally all men have done for me is disappoint 🤷🏻‍♀️ idk how you ladies find HVM, I'm starting to think they might be a myth.

Emergency-Feed8216 · 2021-02-07T09:35:38+00:00

If there was ever a red flag for clinical attachment disorder, it's mocking the sounds you make in bed. Run, don't walk. I've heard this before.

Clinical attachment disorder isn't just some minor commitment-phobic thing, it's part and parcel with the personality disorder profile of serious abusers. In relationships they swing patholigically between terror of abandonment and fear of engulfment, often based on their demented internal cues that have nothing to do with you. They will alternately push or yank at a partner in crippling ways accordingly. If they feel you're getting too "far away," too confident or independent, they may use charm and pity ploys or devastating attacks on your self esteem, "fear/obligation/guilt" tactics, jealousy traps or threats and physical violence to draw you back in, foster dependence or hobble you emotionally so you can't escape. Some will be overtly, delusionally jealous while others (the most statistically dangerous) will mask jealousy and dependency as their motives, causing even more confusion in victims. Then after yanking you in, they typically start to feel suffocatingly "engulfed" and will do destructive things to shove you to a more "comfortable" emotional distance, including vicious remarks, constant criticism, mocking, cheating, emotional coldness, etc. When this works too well, they'll swing back to yanking and on and on until you break or escape.

To someone like this, your very happiness is a threat since happiness signals someone has a normal sense of control over their lives which threatens the requirement for total control of partners that an individual with attachment disorder harbors. Destroying your peace of mind, equilibrium and joy is therefore a compulsion for someone like this. Not all are violent but the effect is invariably violent. It's the key component of battering.

Izzy4162305 · 2021-02-07T03:50:37+00:00

Does he want you to just lie there like a limp rag and not enjoy it? Because if so, make sure you tell him afterwards how lousy he is in bed. Just... WTF.

sugaredberry · 2021-02-07T06:12:40+00:00

Acting like this is a reason to toss them on their ass, fr. This is horrible. Sorry that happened to you!

witchingsauce · 2021-02-07T05:09:03+00:00

“Have feelings and have love for me” Gee I wonder if it is at all possible they could’ve been lying? 🤔

Frizzycatt · 2021-02-07T09:53:10+00:00

I have never experienced this before they sound like real douche canoes. Who the heck says that shit and expects it make you wanna stay let alone continue to have sex with them??? That's some manipulative shit of them putting you down then claiming to love you.. like they're try to wreck your self esteem to make you docile and faithful to their shit. G R O S S.

2021-02-07T09:59:47+00:00

you're absolutely not alone. i'm very vocal and guys have been making me feel like shit for it in the past a lot.

luckily, the man i'm currently seeing very much into it, which is nice for a change.

terrn1981 · 2021-02-08T01:17:42+00:00

Porn.

The end.

devoushka · 2021-02-06T23:28:57+00:00

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Title	Guys making fun of noises you make during sex. Just why?
Author	devoushka
Upvotes	798
Comments	164
Date	February 6, 2021 9:06 PM UTC (5 years ago)
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