If you’re not approaching a few (unique/new) women per week:

  1. whether going about your day: at the supermarket, the cafe, at lunch, at the gym OR

  2. at night: at a bar or club or party on the weekend or

  3. your hobbies: yoga, meetups, martial arts etc. or one of your other interests or

  4. events with friends or social circle

  • then you’re not trying and you have no good legitimate reasons to complain about women and their dating behaviour here.

You just need to talk to more woman and escalate. That’s all. It won’t always go somewhere and not every woman will like you - but when it does, it can change your life.

Why do I say this? Because you’re not actually meeting enough unique women in person to be able to find one (or more) that will return your attraction to them. And this is where all of the complaints here come from.

It’s akin to a salesperson that never makes any sales calls and then complains about how bad all of his potential non-clients are and he earns no money. It makes no sense.

To pre-empt men saying, “Waaah . . I have approached like 3-4 women and all I got was rejection boohooooo” - grow up and keep approaching.

If everyone quit after a few small challenges in life, no-one would ever succeed at anything. If you go to 3-4 job interviews - do you quit and think, “This isn’t for me - I should just never go for an interview or ever do this job ever again”?

No - of course you don’t. You pick yourself up, figure out what where you went wrong and get back out there to more interviews.

This is the same as guys that go to the gym for a week or two and give up saying, “What’s the point? I haven’t grown any muscles and I’m in pain ALL the time”.

Just LOL - it takes months or years before significant muscle growth and weeks of consistant lifting before the heavy muscle pain becomes minor pain.

This is the same with meeting women - you keep doing it consistantly and you’ll keep gaining and learning and the rejection becomes minor pain (forgettable and easy to ignore).

The worst memories aren’t of my actual rejections but of the times I didn’t try or gave up too easily.

Online Daters & Why meeting in person is important

For those who say they use online apps exclusively and rarely meet women in real life and they’re complaining:

Dating online is NOT a reflection of real life in-person dating, and men’s online dating results are significantly negative in comparison to an in-person approach, here’s why:

  1. I know very tall, good looking men with great photos of them in exotic locations all over the world who rarely get dates and when they do - are usually fatfished or she’s very unstable or extremely unpleasant.

  2. Unless she considers you really really good looking in photos (low risk for a woman) Women need more information about you to meet you on a date in person: in order to take the risk of their safety and time/money/effort to get ready & the date itself. In person, women can view vastly more quantity & quality of information about you as a potential lover or partner through your personality e.g.: your body language, your tonality, your confidence, how you move, how you interact with others, your leadership, how exciting and funny you are - all info she can’t see in a dating app profile.

  3. Sexual tension or being physical with each other aren’t possible over text or in a dating profile view. Energy, tension, passion are not communcated well, if at all, with someone you’ve never met or seen live. This is an extremely important but overlooked part of in-person meeting & dating

Just start small and say hello to any attractive woman you see when you leave the house.

Relax and make it fun for yourself and you’ll eventually things will gain momentum.