Guys should filter out women who don't show any interest, romantically or sexually

wtknight · 2023-07-13T19:48:15+00:00

Re-flaired as CMV as this post is making an affirmative claim

Dunkman83 · 2023-07-13T20:00:56+00:00

and dont try and "convince" them to date u, offer the date and leave it at that, no follow up request.

Fun_Community_6833 · 2023-07-13T20:43:08+00:00

Good advice. If she is interested after not reciprocating your energy she can reach out to you.

kukkle1111 · 2023-07-13T20:17:20+00:00

you haven't built your attraction

She knows within 5 seconds of looking at you if she’s attracted to you, this cannot be built, forced, or changed. If she sends the slightest signal of disinterest, she’s not attracted to you and is just looking to settle down with a paycheck.

Beebum5 · 2023-07-13T19:41:33+00:00

Is that not just common sense?

pinealpresence · 2023-07-13T23:08:46+00:00

I get it, this has just led to me filtering out almost everyone though. For men who are already very selective (and not nec. because they have many options), this may not be optimal.

Enough_Chemistry3258 · 2023-07-14T00:07:20+00:00

Its hard to define what interest really is today. Everybody has to play hard to get and take long to answer text.

SlimSoccer · 2023-07-14T04:01:33+00:00

Why do y’all need advice to tell you to not chase after girls who don’t want you 😂

EsotericRonin · 2023-07-14T12:10:06+00:00

This is common sense. The entire world of dating would be a lot more easy if both genders just decided to only go for those that are highly interested in them. But for some reason people have a fascination with trying to get people to love them who just won't reciprocate.

toasterchild · 2023-07-13T19:54:26+00:00

This should just be normal dating knowledge and not gendered at all. Unless you have little drive for it then clearly seeking out someone else who has little drive for it is a good bet.

Chief_top_leaf · 2023-07-14T01:36:11+00:00

Mf, i wouldn't ever get laid

Rhinosaur666 · 2023-07-14T10:14:58+00:00

The problem is that people (both men and women) want this which they can't get. Just go to the dating_advice sub or other dating sub. It's filled with requests for advice from men who have been repeatedly shut down, given the runaround, flaked on, etc. Yet they want nothing more than to keep chasing these women.

Stunning-Ad14 · 2023-07-14T13:16:18+00:00

This is good advice for everyone, women just as much as men

Dagenius1 · 2023-07-14T20:11:05+00:00

Putting aside teenage boys, most men eventually figure this out in their mid-late 20s. That’s when smart guys go from chasing to pursuing.

Most Teenage boys chase..period. Not hating cause I sure did.

But yes men if a woman isn’t reciprocating your interest, stop talking with her and find a woman who is. Said another way, if you got on three dates with a woman and you aren’t sure she’s interested in you, there shouldn’t be a fourth date.

Still makes me cringe looking back at how much energy and attention I gave women who weren’t really interested in me.

Slipthe · 2023-07-13T19:48:49+00:00

It literally saves everyone especially you time

As a trade off, it prevents opportunity.

Icy_Ordinary2025 · 2023-07-13T19:43:40+00:00

I don't feel comfortable kissing on dates 1-3. Filtering me out because of this is a win because we clearly don't have the same values.

puddingbike · 2023-07-13T21:38:30+00:00

Disagree

The one important thing is your attention, so if you see that the woman your paying attention to is not interested, cut it off immediately and move on

You can be wrong. It can appear that way when it's not the case. Women can be shy. People can have anxiety which affects their behavior. A person can be preoccupied with some other bullshit that you have no idea about. A woman can be testing you to see if you remain composed: this happens a lot. She can be testing you and not even realize she's testing you. She might not be feeling well. There are a lot of possibilities including the one you gave.

I agree with the following:

Even on dates, if you go for a kiss or any little physical touch on the second or third date and she doesn't reciprocate it back, then yea that's a universal/obvious indicator she ain't interested and you haven't built your attraction

NangKwak51 · 2023-07-14T02:20:41+00:00

When the verdict is not into you, there is no court of appeals

If she's into you, but wants to wait for reason-X, she'll let you know reason-X and not expect you to be a mindreader while she secretly tests you.

What kind of crazy person would do this?

Time-wasters, placeholders, attention-hogs, and the perpetually confused. Plenty of men fit these categories too.

EsotericRonin · 2023-07-14T12:19:06+00:00

So funny the men in the comments saying if they followed this they'd never get any girls/dates. Lol. That just goes to show you haven't built up the qualities most women find attractive and are addicted to trying to "raise a womans interest." Yeah have fun finding a meaningful relationship with anyone that way.

ApprehensiveDot3115 · 2023-07-13T20:39:58+00:00

This is a better way for guys to live in general, it's so much easier when she's totally enchanted by you. As I've gotten older, I only pursue those women. The process goes so much smoother, and you're given a lot of forgivable leeway with regards to little fuckups and potential 'icks' she may have. All of that stuff goes out of the window.

Unfortunately for most guys, they have little options because women are so picky (rightfully so). Like starving dogs, these dudes will be willing to take what they can get. They'll put up with ridiculous levels of low-effort and disinterest if they think it'll get them a crumb of affection.

The best thing for guys to do is to try to develop all the qualities that women find attractive, and they'll quickly find out how easy women make it for you.

BeneficialRush4171 · 2023-07-13T20:14:57+00:00

But a lot of the time women won’t show interest until they’re comfortable. She’ll likely be uncomfortable around a guy if she doesn’t know him or his intentions.

jingle_ofadogscollar · 2023-07-13T23:39:18+00:00

r/noshitsherlock

Laurely4u · 2023-07-14T10:49:05+00:00

The dating apps are filled with men who are “tire kickers” and wouldn’t have any money regardless of whether the woman showed interest or not. The lady showing romance doesn’t transform a flat broke scrote into anything other than what was/is/will continue to be.

Iamslightlysad · 2023-07-13T20:21:22+00:00

Oh great, this would just make women happy!

Men arent getting dates, men arent cold approaching! MEN ARENT GETTING TEXTS FROM FEMALES!

You are literally just saying "leave women alone!!!!!" in so many words, giving women the world they want, a world where men are all asexual beings.

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[deleted] · 2023-07-13T20:11:06+00:00

You suggest ghosting and blocking? Or more formal ways when you realize they aren't interested romantically or sexually as you say?

Jazzlike-Actuary-99 · 2023-07-13T20:55:18+00:00

Common sense really, although I know some might give women far too many chances, because they are hoping there might be a future. I know that I have made that mistake in the past.

Implentsofhell · 2023-07-14T01:34:39+00:00

So you mean all of them?

thefinalrodeo · 2023-07-14T04:17:13+00:00

Yeah sure but it’s also okay to have female friends.

Substantial_Video560 · 2023-07-14T09:33:02+00:00

I filter out all women. Strictly platonic relationships only.

happy_discus · 2023-07-14T11:30:42+00:00

I am confused. What's the endgame here? Do you want men to filter out everyone?

basedmama21 · 2023-07-14T12:03:16+00:00

Ghost them

Sekina7 · 2023-07-14T14:57:00+00:00

A post I actually agree with ?! PLEASE heed this advice.

Willow-girl · 2023-07-14T15:58:07+00:00

Does this even need to be said?

Sadly, yes, probably ...

armonilyss · 2023-07-15T19:38:50+00:00

agreee we do the same

Title	Guys should filter out women who don't show any interest, romantically or sexually
Author	DerayRevan
Upvotes	146
Comments	248
Date	July 13, 2023 7:37 PM UTC (3 years ago)
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