Ex Called to Meet Up

Regular-Bat-4449 · 2023-12-04T22:27:48+00:00

She's getting married
She wants you back
She's pregnant

Gattsama · 2023-12-04T23:15:08+00:00

Do _NOT_ do it. There is zero benefit to you. You want to move on, having her in your life does not help. You want to meet or date other women, hanging out with the ex does not help. You want peace in your life, you already said that is not her.

Her reasons do NOT matter. She is no longer your concern, you do not even have to lie about being busy. Simply tell her no, and break all future contact. You are still healing and opening old wounds (which is what will happen) does nothing to the new journey you are on.

shell_shocked_today · 2023-12-04T23:05:33+00:00

I agree with a lot of the comments here about being careful. I'm also gonna throw one in about your emotions. Its been seven months. Your doing well now. I gather it took a while.

Do you really want to throw yourself back into the maelstrom you were feeling the last time you saw her?

Rportilla · 2023-12-04T22:44:04+00:00

She found out it wasn’t greener on the other side

Similar-Guitar-6 · 2023-12-04T23:52:48+00:00

Amway 😆

whiskey_piker · 2023-12-05T01:08:23+00:00

Stop. Do not meet. No possible reason. Tell her to text you her cliff’s notes and then fuck off and lose your number.

SeminoleTom · 2023-12-05T01:25:03+00:00

Move on, find a nice girl to date. Don’t marry again…

TheBoyBand · 2023-12-05T02:21:47+00:00

My vote is meet up so you can update us and see who guessed right out of all these commentors 🤣 so men see first hand, and we can all laugh and keep encouraging you 😂

Kerry120 · 2023-12-05T05:01:51+00:00

She's done everyone on tinder, Full circle.

cornellejones · 2023-12-05T03:25:29+00:00

You said she was controlling, this is just an extension of the need to control you. She most likely got shitcanned by another man and feels depressed so why not go back and try to manipulate and control the ol’ reliable you? This is not a good idea to meet up at all. There was a very good reason you split.

sinisterkid34 · 2023-12-04T23:05:08+00:00

It’s a trap. She’s done playing the field and now wants back in your life.

Sea-Mission-6316 · 2023-12-04T23:35:34+00:00

Don't. Nothing good can come from it. She's in your past for a reason.

FuriousSasquatch · 2023-12-05T01:11:24+00:00

Nope, there is no reason for you to even entertain the idea. You have moved past the marriage and are doing well. No upside. Let her fester in her own remorse and regret.

muscularmusician · 2023-12-05T01:17:50+00:00

My vote. Nope. Don't go back. Don't reconnect. There's no up-side for you. .. at all.. only negatives. You fought for peace and calm. .. she will mix everything up again, and all your hard work will go down the drain. Don't give her the chance to hurt you again... or mess with your head and emotions.

MrInbetweenn01 · 2023-12-05T02:33:06+00:00

Could we get an update as to what happens here?

Fresh-Brilliant4550 · 2023-12-05T12:02:31+00:00

Why are you wasting your time? A divorce is the nuclear war option to where it is never going to be inhabitable in your lifetime. Tell her you aren’t free and ghost.

Why the hell are you even considering this if you didn’t have kids? Wake up my man.

krazykanuck · 2023-12-05T03:52:49+00:00

If she can’t tell you over the phone, then it’s probably not in your best interest to humour her.

CRobinsFly · 2023-12-05T05:39:31+00:00

No kids? Holy smokes! Block.

Or "Send nudes, notes and maybe we can meet" (we wont)

AStirlingMacDonald · 2023-12-05T06:01:04+00:00

There’s no way in hell that she wants to meet up just to apologize and give you closure. Meeting up with her is a terrible idea. Don’t do it.

aquatic-dreams · 2023-12-05T06:15:09+00:00

When women are done, they are usually done. And that means not meeting up. Something is amiss. I wound go so far as saying it's a trap. She probably wants something and meeting could cause you to regain more feelings and have a harder time moving on. At this point, I would recommend passing.

QuestionsOnlyLeach · 2023-12-05T06:22:08+00:00

Have you seen her socials since? Not pregnant? Had kid?

tellmemorelies · 2023-12-05T15:47:22+00:00

She wants to meet up but won't disclose the topic of discussion?

As you are probably aware, divorce has to be handled like a business decision, emotions need to be excluded as much as possible.

Knowing this, would you attend a business meeting without any knowledge of the topic of the meeting? Probably not.

I would not engage in this situation.

Just my 2 cents worth.

DivorceRecoveryMen · 2023-12-05T15:50:34+00:00

Never put your hand back in the snake bag. Keep it moving.

Lean_BigDaddy · 2023-12-05T17:13:20+00:00

Don’t do it. (Period)

You found peace, don’t let it get disrupted!

black65Cutlass · 2023-12-05T17:15:44+00:00

Remember the abusive, controlling and miserable parts and then don't meet up with her. I wouldn't even entertain the thought. She showed you who she really was.

SkeptiCynical · 2023-12-05T18:51:17+00:00

Keep that door closed. If she needs to 'share' something, she can email you.

fishingforthought · 2023-12-05T19:32:27+00:00

Move forward not backwards. Be civilized nice to hear from you, hope all is well, take care of yourself. Good by.

medic4401 · 2023-12-06T19:07:46+00:00

She’s your ex for a reason.

captainchippsixx · 2023-12-07T00:45:13+00:00

Fuck No. Don’t meet up. She wants something. So it’s a no. Tell her just send an email and that she looks fat. Lol.

Seriously. She is going to lie to you anyway. Meet up could set you back emotionally. Why do it. There is no positive out of it.

infinite-ignorance · 2023-12-08T01:53:06+00:00

Why does it have to be meeting in person? Why would you do that with somebody that was abusive? Why can’t she tell you her news over the phone or video chat?

Regardless, even if you are ok meeting up with her, it would be an interesting experiment to tell her that you’ve thought about it, and don’t want to meet up, and see what her next move is.

JJJflight · 2023-12-04T23:25:57+00:00

she wants to get back together with you for sure. She realizes after trying the dating scene what a huge mistake she make leaving you....maybe have some fun but that's it!

playerknowmore · 2023-12-05T01:49:06+00:00

Don't meet. Just text her. "I don't like how we ended, but I'm happy where I'm at. If you have happy news, I am genuinely happy for you. If it is bad news, just know you are always in my prayers. I am so thankful for the road before me, I would have a hard time finding it beneficial to look back.

This way, if her venture into the streets was hard on her, she knows there is no coming back . If she feels guilty, you don't have to hear about her affair. After seven months, I wouldn't understand why she would need to tell you about her pregnancy or engagement. Good luck!

DeadBedroomRealTalk · 2023-12-04T22:55:52+00:00

Even if she thinks she wants you back and you think you want back together - you need to watch out.

You’re effectively communicating she is your best option. Things might go well if you get back together, and then she might become a cunt again. She won’t respect you man.

If you just want to get laid, have sex with her if you really want. Watch out for a false accusation. Ex sex is the best sex. But don’t get back together with her. You’ll be in your same situation in a couple years.

Title	Ex Called to Meet Up
Author	Mopstick86
Upvotes	16
Comments	118
Date	December 4, 2023 10:12 PM UTC (2 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/Divorce_Men
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