Q4M: You're alone in the woods... Would you rather be vulnerable with your SO or with a tree?

damaggdgoods · 2024-05-25T02:51:39+00:00

Doubling down on the tree. No fake virtues about wanting men open up emotionally but feeling the ick when we actually do

Tokimonatakanimekat · 2024-05-25T03:01:56+00:00

If woman is choosen there are three possible outcomes:

She's helpful
She's not helpful
She's harmful

If tree is choosen there is one possible outcome:

It is not helpful

So, picking a tree is a risk-free option.

Crimson-Pilled · 2024-05-25T03:32:06+00:00

The tree is more empathetic.

SsRapier · 2024-05-25T01:55:54+00:00

The tree wont get the ick if i end up crying

Ok-Specialist-4777 · 2024-05-25T01:47:53+00:00

The tree, and I love the **** out my wife.

MetalHead794 · 2024-05-25T04:33:02+00:00

The tree, it won’t try use it to hurt me when it’s going to lose an argument.

eli_ashe · 2024-05-25T03:16:45+00:00

still tree

clearly a question aimed at women. i wouldn't trust a woman to be accepting of any emotion i had. i'd expect them to try and find fault with it and hurt me in every way they possibly can the very moment i said something.

note, i'd be mor trusting towards the youth, women or men, than anyone older.

Ludens0 · 2024-05-25T08:25:55+00:00

The tree.

Not a single open up with a woman have ended in something good for me.

just_a_place · 2024-05-25T01:48:15+00:00

With a tree.

Just voicing something is generally enough.

A tree won't judge and a tree won't end things.

If your happy with your relationship why do shit that will end it, just tell the tree then read a book on stoicism. It's all a man can do.

OmoshiroiKudamono · 2024-05-25T00:31:38+00:00

The TREE.

The tree won't hold my words against me. The tree won't be judgmental. The tree won't tell its tree friends about private things. It won't lose attraction. The tree won't consider it "emotional labor."

Women SAY they want "emotionally intelligent" men. They do NOT say they want emotionally intelligent men, but ONLY for THEIR "emotions" or ONLY what they "deem" fit. But that man doesn't or will never know what she is defining as truly "fit."

just_a_place · 2024-05-25T04:32:20+00:00

In my case it really makes absolutely no difference because both the woman and the tree will hear the same exact thing: nothing. I don't verbally vomit my problems. As a man I do not talk out my problems, because my natural instinct is to solve them. Quietly, and alone.

Mature men do not need hand-holding when something is bothering us because what usually bothers us is an unresolved conflict which requires action, not words; and which we need to figure out and resolve on our own.

Learning and figuring out how to resolve our own problems is a requirement for adulthood - for women as well. They used to tech that once upon a time. Before the era of the Man Babies and Grown Toddlers.

grown_folks_talkin · 2024-05-25T01:24:27+00:00

Is there an option to chop wood and have a SO understand that is a valid way of dealing with stress?

Lift_and_Lurk · 2024-05-25T01:27:13+00:00

That’s just camping without the girls,

Barely-moral · 2024-05-25T01:38:39+00:00

You are late. This was already adressed in video form.

Stunning-Spirit5275 · 2024-05-25T03:03:32+00:00

Tree. My SO can't handle a man being emotional. It either confuses her or makes her insecure

gntlbastard · 2024-05-25T05:15:18+00:00

The tree a 100% of the time. Women like the concept of a vulnerable man in theory. Sort of like a dog chasing a car, he wants to catch it, but has no fucking idea what to do with it if he did. Same thing with women, they like the idea of a vulnerable man, but once faced with one has no fucking idea what to do.

Spicy_take · 2024-05-25T06:39:03+00:00

Tree, definitely lol. I don’t have to console the tree about how my feelings make it feel.

Ultramega39 · 2024-05-25T00:14:09+00:00

Tree

DarayRaven · 2024-05-25T00:16:34+00:00

How many more are we going to get of this ?

MOProG2 · 2024-05-25T00:27:18+00:00

The tree won't judge you. Your SO will most of the time. Women don't handle stress to well so showing your vulnerability is a way of destabilizing the relationship. You have to be strong as a man.

There is a lot of pleasantries about being vulnerable with your woman and it's very hyperbolic. Men are not like women where "talking it out" will solve anything. This is why talk therapy sucks for men. So between talking to a tree and an SO, with the tree you know what you need to do now that you've said it out loud.

FromAuntToNiece · 2024-05-25T02:26:48+00:00

For the purposes of shits and giggles following up on the bear mania, here I go.

If that SO is my current object of limerence, or even my original object of limerence, then and only then would I choose the SO.

If not, then I would choose the tree.

Gravel_Roads · 2024-05-25T00:14:25+00:00

My SO. SO is my favorite person in the entire world.

However, as an introvert, otherwise I’d take the woods because I hate talking to people

abaxeron · 2024-05-25T11:11:33+00:00

Tree.

I'll probably also cry my eyes out while I'm there.

Cheap_Revolution_685 · 2024-05-25T17:05:55+00:00

Tree, atleast it won't use my vulnerabilities against me in the future

Gold_Supermarket1956 · 2024-05-25T22:14:07+00:00

The tree... it's not gonna toss the shit back at me later

forking_guy · 2024-05-26T03:53:24+00:00

The tree, hands down. It's less judgemental and maybe even a little smarter, lol.

Fun_Push7168 · 2024-05-26T09:11:11+00:00

I would rather my SO , but I'm not that stupid....anymore.

jhunter2015 · 2024-05-27T02:21:20+00:00

All these TikTok trends are successfully dividing us. We’re doomed

Solondthewookiee · 2024-05-25T02:19:58+00:00

My SO because why would I be with someone who will judge me for being vulnerable?

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Toxic_LigmaMale · 2024-05-25T06:44:38+00:00

The tree. Here’s a good explanation.

https://www.tiktok.com/t/ZPRKM6M3R/

Dr_Click_Click_Boom · 2024-05-25T06:54:20+00:00

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The tree.

ObadiahTheEmperor · 2024-05-25T09:03:14+00:00

Tree. No contest.

Steakman1 · 2024-05-25T11:47:24+00:00

I think women are more receptive as long as you show that you’ll be ok and get over it. And as long as you don’t cry. But if I had a really bad day at work or something, then I suppse I could talk it out with my SO as long as I show it isn’t going to weigh on me for more than one day.

But lets say the problem was my dogs being euthanized. I had to do it about 2 months ago and cried like a bitch for the first 3 days after. Would I have called up my SO during that? Absolutely not.

untamed-italian · 2024-05-25T13:00:16+00:00

Depends on the relationsip. I'm poly, there's one person I'm truly vulnerable with but no one else. I'd prefer SO, but if I am honest with myself I usually pick the tree despite my preference lol

It simply isn't worth it more often than not. What do I get out of it; encouragement, support, understanding? Only understanding is necessary, and even that only for those who need to know.

CryptoThroway8205 · 2024-05-26T12:04:03+00:00

Dr k shared an interesting stat that men are more likely to seek emotional help from an ex than from other men. My friend says it's cuz men suck with emotional stuff.

To answer the question tree can't help so SO.

kongeriket · 2024-05-27T23:36:10+00:00

I'd hug the tree too.

saywhatitis11 · 2024-05-25T03:45:42+00:00

My SO. Being vulnerable with your significant other is perfectly OK as long as you are a strong man who takes care of his shit. If you are a weak victimized depressed man who won’t take responsibility for his life and then express vulnerability, she’ll simply see it as more weakness. in general women love when their warrior comes home and cries in their lap. But he needs to be a warrior. And if he has a good cry, it’s because he’s preparing himself for the next day of war

Title	Q4M: You're alone in the woods... Would you rather be vulnerable with your SO or with a tree?
Author	Windmill_flowers
Upvotes	16
Comments	211
Date	May 25, 2024 12:11 AM UTC (2 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/PurplePillDebate
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