Hookups for women would amazing if it actually guaranteed safety.

nomaday389 · 2026-05-22T23:12:05+00:00

For a hookup to be safe, it would need to go beyond the threat of physical violence.

It would also be necessary to guarantee condom use to avoid diseases + pregnancy.

leosandlattes · 2026-05-22T23:17:03+00:00

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BrianMeen · 2026-05-23T01:49:46+00:00

no one is ever guaranteed safety anywhere though - human nature guarantees 100% safety is not possible ..

you need to be more realistic about the danger you are in though when it comes to dating men - Scott Galloway has very interesting data about this that I can pull up if you’d like

gordonnowak · 2026-05-22T23:12:11+00:00

that's one reason they do casual hook ups less than men but it's far from the only one

growframe · 2026-05-23T00:52:52+00:00

Plenty of women have casual sex with no expectations of safety. Clearly that's not the limiting factors.

Feeling_Ad_1034 · 2026-05-23T00:14:32+00:00

I'd love to continue disappointing women without having the added safety risk factor.

Neverending_Danding · 2026-05-23T03:53:32+00:00

Given how many women have butterflies in stomach, for attractive killers, and how many mistake chaos, uncertainty and danger as "chemistry" and "vibe", I'd say hookups would be rarer if safety was a guarantee. It would be boring to them then

Antique-Bumblebee295 · 2026-05-22T23:31:25+00:00

I’m sure that would help for a segment of women but I think there is also a large segment of women who aren’t interested in any hookups whether they are safe or not.

GGMcThroway · 2026-05-22T23:19:18+00:00

No. Because safety doesn't guarantee orgasms.

No_Mammoth8801 · 2026-05-23T00:18:04+00:00

Obviously you're going to have women on here saying, "Yeah, would be great if I could cum everytime" not mentioning the leadup of a guy that is her physical type approaching her first, saying all the right things, and sexually escalating at the exact pace she wants.

I don't doubt safety is the biggest factor but it would just get replaced by another difficult-to-clear goalpost (see above). And if that isn't enough, hormones make libido so variable dpending on the woman and time of the month its useless to say: if eliminate "x" factor then "y" will happen more. Color me skeptical.

I don't doubt the "what if he's bad in bed?" comes up, but that's what situationships (or actual relationships) are for. So you can hookup with a familiar guy that knows how to make you cum and won't assault or murder you during or after the encounter. And women already engage in that aplenty.

Competitive_Swan_130 · 2026-05-22T23:34:07+00:00

Hell, if it guaranteed we'd have an orgasm most of the time it would be amazing. That's all some of us would want.

And people wonder why sex workers ask for something up front. Yeah, no shit because most women aren't getting a damn thing out of sex. You are walking away with no orgasm, no decent man, no money...it's like you're paying him for sex actually

Present-Afternoon-70 · 2026-05-22T23:18:03+00:00

Think about how few guys have tasted a vagina and really think about that?

Prior_Flamingo_2276 · 2026-05-23T02:04:25+00:00

Some men just can’t stand “extra logistics” or basic communication and think of it as a turn off. Those are the men I would avoid for casual sex or long term dating.

The key is having some pretty strict filters for folks unintimidated by direct honesty and sex positivity.

Others respond pretty well to a list of requirements around a “casual and conscientious” arrangement with shared paperwork, condoms, transparency about other partners, and use of toys as needed/ wanted.

Artistic_Speech_1965 · 2026-05-23T06:09:01+00:00

Hooks up are not tailored for women (let alone men). I don't know who thought it would be liberating for the majority of women

Gold_Sheepherder6569 · 2026-05-22T23:37:06+00:00

Women aren’t that physically attracted to the vast majority of men so not much would change

Denim_n_Diamonds_78 · 2026-05-22T23:38:44+00:00

Exactly! Even the bare minimum is too much for some people. I know I try to embody what I'm looking for as much as humanly possible.

4444-uuuu · 2026-05-23T00:38:24+00:00

Who told you women are opposed to hookups? Women are the reason for hookups. Before modern feminism, hookups were extremely rare. They became standard once modern dating dynamics gave women all of the power in dating. Women love hookups, otherwise they wouldn't keep rejecting relationships in favor of hookups.

Sea-Ebb4658 · 2026-05-23T03:38:08+00:00

Yet there are some women having hookups left and right. This is why alot of guys dont want a relationship with a woman like that, we know its not safe, she knows its not safe and yet she cant control it for the guys she finds hot

BitsAndBobs304 · 2026-05-23T04:46:11+00:00

Safety? Your husband is much much more likely to kill you than a one night stand, it's statistics

Podlubnyi · 2026-05-23T06:15:34+00:00

Women love hookups, though for appearances they have to pretend they don't. Hookups are more common now than at any time in history, and that's because women want them. Heck, about 2% of children are being raised by a man who has no idea he isn't their father. That doesn't happen by osmosis.

Expensive_Lion1807 · 2026-05-22T23:55:52+00:00

The piece of the puzzle that you’re missing is that (many) men actually hate the women who hook up with them even more than they hate the women who don’t.

No, it doesn’t make sense logically since they profess that they “need” sex (without strings) and crave being valued as a sex object without preconditions, so one would think that the women who are willing to satisfy that “need” would be revered, appreciated, and respected, but nope…their deep self hatred gets transferred along with their ejaculate.

“Post nut clarity” is essentially what Groucho Marx famously said, "I refuse to join any club that would have me as a member.”

LongShanksFTW · 2026-05-23T00:34:08+00:00

Hooking up is already pretty safe

Theawkwardmochi · 2026-05-23T00:34:08+00:00

They would be every bit as uninteresting to me. The reason why I have never been into hookups is because they aren't appealing in the slightest, not because I'm afraid of men. Or women for that matter.

Lost_Reaction_5489 · 2026-05-23T00:35:23+00:00

A lot of women would still be disturbed by simply sharing themselves with someone who wouldn't care if they lived or died tomorrow.

Lenovo_Driver · 2026-05-23T02:11:42+00:00

Women would hookup more if more men actually possessed the skill to make them cum.

Many dudes are absolute ass at fucking.

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PuzzleheadedRow9896 · 2026-05-23T03:23:30+00:00

I wouldn't find it amazing and never would have. I know this may be hard to imagine, but safety is one of the pillars preventing this.

The lack of sexual interest in random men, lack of promise of sexual pleasure, and overall mental damage this does to most folks are equally preventing this.

Conscious-Moment7977 · 2026-05-23T04:54:20+00:00

Hookups are nonsense. Non-zero STD risk. Non-zero pregnancy risk, with a rando. Terrible idea. Sex should not be played with

Axis_Control · 2026-05-23T09:18:45+00:00

Not worth it even if it is safe

Outside_Memory5703 · 2026-05-23T16:56:40+00:00

Nope, only if they also guaranteed pleasure

Safe and unfulfilling isn’t great

Informal_Decision181 · 2026-05-24T05:05:49+00:00

You’ve been thinking about this often and this is what you came up with? Have you considered the vast amounts of women who do have hook ups, particularly with guys they know don’t actually care about them genuinely? I mean, from my experience that’s a major part of the hook up in the first place

Academic-Ball-9606 · 2026-05-24T08:25:43+00:00

Women are hooking up, the safety narrative just gives them cover to do it without judgment

theminxisback · 2026-05-23T00:45:20+00:00

They're so hard to find. Glad I got into the work I did and now it's like a 9/10 are incredible. My have times changed.

Guaranteed pleasure and orgasms are the best.

Terrible_Mixture_759 · 2026-05-23T01:06:35+00:00

Not possible, men are dangerous by default

ThatBitchA · 2026-05-23T01:32:51+00:00

Idk I had a lot of hookups and they guaranteed safety, care, and human decency.

If you're hookups don't make you feel safe, cared for, or feel human deceny pick better.

Also, most of my friends who aren't in to hookups just aren't into causal sex. They don't want disposable sex. They don't do fuck buddies either.

I'd imagine that those who want to have hookups are doing so.

Those who don't want hookups aren't doing them.

Mindful_Insights · 2026-05-23T01:51:51+00:00

What it seems you are saying is CERTAIN women would be more willing to hookup if they knew it would end in a relationship. That’s already been happening and it’s been a fallacy. Casual sex with strangers is playing roulette and the house usually wins.

NavIsShit · 2026-05-22T23:38:55+00:00

Bullshit. If women cared about safety, the clubs will be empty filled with all men and women wouldn't immediately go home with whatever tall dude/ chad they find. The safety part is a way to deter YOU from making a move but rest assured she has gone home with a random dude before she doesn't know atleast in college or from a random bar.

If women cared about being safe, they wouldn't solo travel to foreign countries to be dicked down by foreign European men. Like....

Its clearly just a ruse to avoid sleeping with normie too early, because normie looks like a threat as he's asexual looking. Chad looks safe because he's arousing and arousal lowers inhibition. They think about safety when you don't look hot

No_Project_4738 · 2026-05-23T00:08:37+00:00

If it hasn’t happened by now I think it’ll never happen and it’s probably because on some level they don’t want to make it safe. I honestly think a good solution would be to encourage males to become sex workers. 😅They would have a vested interest in keeping their customers safe and happy…and best job ever right?

Beginning_Act_9666 · 2026-05-22T23:44:49+00:00

That's why it shouldn't be safe lol

Woman 1 = 1/2	Man 1 = 0/5
Woman 1 = 1/2	Man 2 = 2/2
Woman 1 = 1/2	Man 3 = 1/1
Woman 1 = 1/2	Man 4 = 1/1
Woman 1 = 1/2	Man 5 = 1/1
Women average = 50%	Men average = ([0+1+1+1+1]/5) = 80%

Title	Hookups for women would amazing if it actually guaranteed safety.
Author	Alarmed-Toe9423
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Date	May 22, 2026 11:04 PM UTC (1 month ago)
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