A few weeks ago, my girlfriend (F38) told me (M38) that men should be trained to notice and intervene when they see that a woman is uncomfortable with another man, especially in a setting like a club. She describes herself as a feminist.

I suggested that women could instead be trained to identify bad guys and surround themselves with good guys, especially in settings like a club (or even to avoid environments like clubs altogether). She did not like this idea because then society would be asking even more of women.

I told her that I would never directly intervene and risk personal harm for a woman I did not know, especially in a club. I asked her if she would want her son or dad to intervene, even if it meant they'd be risking their lives for a woman they have no connection with—she struggled with this.

It seems to me that she wants all the benefits of a chaperone, boyfriend, or husband without any of the disadvantages. By expecting men to use their bodies to perform violence on her behalf when confronted with a bad guy, she feels entitled to men's bodies.

If there is a group of "good guys" that are expected to protect women from "bad guys", then doesn't this infantilize women?

Do women really want men to monitor their actions with other men?

Do women feel entitled to men's bodies and expect men to use their bodies to protect women?