“I’m Not Sure Yet” is one of the biggest lies men tell. If he’s not consistently pursuing you and trying to impress you, NEXT THE HELL OUT OF HIM UNAPOLOGETICALLY.

viper8472 · 2019-12-23T22:19:34+00:00

Men usually know sooner.

I think the issue is that many men settle down when they are the right age and maturity, and not when they meet the right partner. Since most of us start dating in our teens, this means at least 15 years of bullshit since men are not usually very mature and ready to commit until into their 30s.

How old was Clooney when he met his wife? Probably the Age of Commitment whatever it was for him. Then he met a great girl and boom.

If he met her when he was 25 I guarantee he would have acted like a fuckboy. Then she would have married someone else who was ready.

themissdaydreamer · 2019-12-23T15:11:45+00:00

no shit, every married/engaged/taken guy I know told me they knew their girl was the one in a matter of days. "Men just know", they say. if they don't know, they don't want you. it's that simple.

perfekti0n · 2019-12-23T17:05:00+00:00

I’ve been with my boyfriend for eight years and we aren’t even engaged. Reading this sub is making me want to build my confidence and self worth. I’m going to go through the side bar and buy a couple of the recommended books.

I used to want to marry him, and ever since finding this sub two weeks ago, I decided I’d turn him down. I can’t get him to clean empty soda cans off of his desk. It will never happen.

I turn thirty in 2021 and that would be 10 years together. It’s a long story about how I am dissatisfied. We are like best friends with no passion whatsoever. I’m realizing that it’s not enough for me anymore.

I’ll make a post at some point, but I don’t think I’m ready to lay it all out yet. I’m still trying to learn the phrase “I deserve better”. I’m trying, it’s hard being insecure for your entire life and trying to build confidence for the first time.

I have a lot of plans. Hoping 2020 comes up all me.

quasarbar · 2019-12-23T19:33:10+00:00

I am in full agreement that if a guy acts like he's not interested, then he's not interested and you need to move on.

I do think, however, that it's worth mentioning that the opposite extreme is also a red flag. Narcissists and borderline disordered men will "love bomb" the hell out of you from the get-go, and it's nothing less than predatory behavior.

Date the man who shows that he's into you without pushing for too much too soon. If it feels too slow, it is. If it feels too fast, it is.

CuriousCatNYC777 · 2019-12-23T17:49:42+00:00

How celebrity males knew she was the one:

NICK JONAS ON PRIYANKA CHOPRA - “think I got to know her so well as a friend first, which then made it really easy when we started dating to say, 'Wow this is the person and I know, right off the bat.' So it happened very fast, within days of us diving in. I told [my brothers] a week after our first date, 'I'm going to propose later this year.' “

PRINCE HARRY ON MEGHAN MARKLE - "The fact that I fell in love with Meghan so incredibly quickly was confirmation to me that all the stars were aligned, everything was just perfect. It was this beautiful woman just sort of literally tripped and fell into my life, I fell into her life."

JOE MANGANIELLO ON SOFIA VERGARA - "I knew [she was the one] like right away. She was in New Orleans shooting this movie so I was flying back and forth to date her.”

STEPHEN COLBERT ON EVELYN MCGEE-COLBERT "I walk in [to a theater lobby] and I see across the lobby this woman —I think for the first time, not girl, woman — beautiful woman in a black linen dress, and I think 'Her.' Honest to God, I thought 'There's your wife, you're going to marry her.' And I thought, 'That's crazy …' "

KANYE WEST ON KIM KARDASHIAN "Our love story's a love story for the ages. I felt like when we first got together, it was like a Romeo and Juliet kinda thing where it's like she's a reality star and I'm a rapper."

DAVID AND VICTORIA BECKHAM - David Beckham knew Victoria was the one for him the very first time he saw her, and that was before he even met her. While watching a Spice Girls video, the soccer stud reportedly pointed out Posh Spice and told his friend that he was going to marry her. After they did finally meet, she agreed and said it was “completely love at first sight.”

GEORGE AND AMAL CLOONEY “I think it was about three days in I knew she was the one,” he said.

TIM MCGRAW AND FAITH HILL In 1996, they went on tour together, and that’s when the sparks really flew. Several months later, they walked down the aisle.

And there are many many more...

EDIT: Many if these men were in okayish relationships with other women just before, or at the time they met their future wives. Don’t be that girl, if you can help it.

EDIT 2: adding more:

DAVID BOWIE ON IMAN "My attraction to her was immediate and all-encompassing. I couldn't sleep for the excitement of our first date," Bowie told HELLO! . "That she would be my wife, in my head, was a done deal. I'd never gone after anything in my life with such passion in all my life. I just knew she was the one."

TOM HANKS AND RITA WILSON- When they starred in the movie "Volunteers" together in 1985, Tom knew Rita was the one. "Rita and I just looked at each other and - kaboing - that was that. I asked Rita if it was the real thing for her, and it just couldn't be denied," Tom said to GQ, per Good Housekeeping.

DENZEL WASHINGTON ON PAULETTA WASHINGTON - Denzel Washington says he proposed to Pauletta Washington three times before she accepted. "You heard it here first," Denzel said on the red carpet at the L.A. premiere of his film, "2 Guns," per E Online. "She turned me down, she said no. And since it was three times, that means she turned me down twice."

cherieblosum · 2019-12-23T16:18:50+00:00

Men want to actively pursue the one they are interested in because they don't want to lose her. They hope she will give them the time of day.

JuddHerpatow · 2019-12-24T02:22:55+00:00

I think these examples *really* should be taken with a grain of salt. Just because a man says he knows he wants to marry you within six months doesn't mean that he's the right guy for you or is a HVM. I've encountered many men who swears she's the one but still fuck around. You can be the one he wants to marry, but that ring isn't going tame the wolf under that fairytale fleece.

cocainetea · 2019-12-23T17:51:26+00:00

Had a dude I was just seeing for a month tell me he didn’t want a relationship / he’s emotionally unavailable although at the time, we were just talking and nobody ever mentioned a relationship. He said that we were moving too fast????

My fiancé now was constantly pursuing asked me to be his girlfriend within the first month and asked me to marry him a year and a half later. When I asked what made him propose, he told me he just couldn’t wait. ♥️

You will know when a man wants you.

w0manifest · 2019-12-23T15:32:21+00:00

I heard Deb Cooper talk about this phenomenon and asked my husband when he "knew" and he said within the first 10 min of meeting me.

jalapenopancakes · 2019-12-23T15:08:52+00:00

100%. “I don’t know” means you don’t matter. Move on.

MarcyDozer · 2019-12-23T16:20:17+00:00

My ex was wonderful every day we were together. Made me think I was the only person on earth. Wanted to spend almost all his time with me.

But he couldn’t commit for life or even share a bill with me. Bought me a ring. Wouldn’t plan a wedding or move in. Spent every night with me.

After 4 years of being in limbo, had to leave the love of my life.

“I’m not sure yet” can still be an amazing road.

Just know when to cut ties.

Edit: I own my own home and make good money. Didn’t need him to take care of me. Wanted a partner to share life with. Including the cost.

janeaustenfan99 · 2019-12-23T17:47:46+00:00

50 year old man finds 30 year old woman extraordinary and special. So unique.

harrohamtaro · 2019-12-23T19:17:33+00:00

Sometimes it makes me sad that I might never be someone a guy would look at for 10 minutes and think “she’s the one”.

meecy166 · 2019-12-23T22:24:02+00:00

They know, within the first day they meet you whether or not they want to marry you, I always read stuff of how couple met and the men always said they knew within “30” seconds that she is what they want and they’ve had long term girlfriends before

Fatt3stAveng3r · 2019-12-23T16:05:00+00:00

Mine knew right away, and he's taking things slow per my request (I had a lot of trauma). It is so true. I'm not sure = no.

occhiolisms · 2019-12-23T21:31:14+00:00

How does one become that girl though? I feel like it’s never in the cards for me

PunnyPrinter · 2019-12-23T16:02:55+00:00

Without knowing anything about the two of them on a personal level, from her accomplishments, I could see why he was taken with her.

abicus4343 · 2019-12-23T17:02:23+00:00

Guys that can easily get beautiful women fall for women with intelligence and status, guys that can easily get smart/wealthy women fall for beautiful women. Its kind of funny, they always want what they cant have.

But yes, they always know instantly. Guys just know. Love at first sight is a real phenomenon with men. Doesnt mean its legit, but they do think they know from the first meeting. I think it's just luck, they see some girl that is their perfect physical type and then she turns out to be a match by fluke. Also love goggles, they only see what they want to see if they think she is hot enough.

EMTamborrino · 2019-12-23T23:26:05+00:00

How do you tell the difference between guys “love bombing” and real “love-at-first-site”?

dalia-chan · 2019-12-24T08:50:12+00:00

Let’s be honest, we all know that amel was out of his league. She was 17 YEARS younger than him, attractive and educated, while he was an actor who was past his prime! He’s actually the lucky one cause he got to marry an attractive affluent younger woman.

I don’t belittle him or anything but it’s just piss me off how peoples act as if amel was the lucky one and that Clooney did her a favor, or that he’s out of her league while it’s CLEARLY the opposite. Ofc he will wonder if he’s good enough for her, cause educated peoples tend to marry other educated peoples. He got to marry a hot younger woman who’s not after his money, since she have her own.

Fitncurly · 2019-12-23T20:28:09+00:00

Mine knew right away. We were kids practically, and were separated by a few states. We met once, and he was with another girl at the time even. After he heard through a mutual friend I was single (and interested), he got my number, dropped that girl and called me almost every day for a month. He held out hope. What he didn’t know was my phone had been cut off (college life, 😆), and I had no Idea. A month later I got it back on again and got all of his sweet voicemails. Not once was he even slightly upset. He just refused to give up and knew deep down to persist because there was a reason to. It’s been history since ❤️

kht777 · 2019-12-23T17:55:03+00:00

This is what I'm waiting for. No more wasting time on guys who waste my time.

LadySwitters · 2019-12-23T21:52:02+00:00

My boss married his wife 6 weeks after he met her, at a funeral. My dad married my mom a couple of months in. A coworker married her now husband about 2 months after they met. She was going to do it earlier but wanted a different dress. My guy proposed to me ... on our forth or fifth date and I thought he was joking. He wasn't. This was after a few 2-4 year long relationships that went NOWHERE fast. I do agree... very often when men know, they know right away.

mmmbopboppin · 2019-12-23T21:41:14+00:00

“Next the hell out of him” @ myself

grimreapersdtr · 2019-12-24T02:06:00+00:00

Oh, how nice for these rich people.

gildedghost · 2019-12-23T22:18:21+00:00

One of the biggest insecurities in my current relationship is how vocally unsure my bf was of wanting to be in a relationship with me in the beginning. I decided to break it off when he expressed that to me and he convinced me not to and says it’s been crystal clear to him ever since then but I think about it all the time! And that was nearly a year ago. Lol But I think we all deserve to be with someone who is 100% sure of what they’re wanting in a relationship.

softservedsoftcore · 2019-12-23T23:11:40+00:00

So true. My man says he knew right away. After being in two emotionally abusive relationships, it was strange to be pursued so strongly and then I remembered, I’m THAT bitch and I deserve it. Everyone deserves to be unmistakably wanted!

I’m not sure = no

Loiacono3137 · 2019-12-23T15:57:06+00:00

It’s true

sadchild5 · 2019-12-24T02:59:52+00:00

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okayrightsickcool · 2019-12-23T20:44:44+00:00

this is so so so true

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manateesareperfect · 2019-12-23T23:16:08+00:00

I'm a little scared because I generally feel like my relationship is healthy and HV but my BF isn't like this and isn't excited about marriage in general. He does think we are as close to "soulmates" as is realistically possible and I know it's harder for him than other guys because he was not given a proper emotional education in his upbringing. And also we're young (22) and think it's too early to get married. I can't tell if he's being realistic or if he's just not that into me (or at least not ENOUGH into me).

Blackishcat27 · 2019-12-24T08:13:12+00:00

This. My husband and I were dating for only three months before he proposed.

JasmineDragon110 · 2020-03-20T21:38:51+00:00

Men only commit when they are all used up, done their whoring, balding and can't pull as many girls as they used to. "Oh no my hairline is receding... Time to settle down"

curlygirl507 · 2019-12-23T15:52:55+00:00

I really hope that image is photoshopped.

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