Gentelment, how long does it take to a divorced woman to realize that her life has changed and now she has to be accountable for herself?

Odd-Yoghurt1869 · 2025-11-15T04:53:17+00:00

Never.

Every_Hospital_6933 · 2025-11-14T13:54:44+00:00

Just wondering, did she initiate the divorce? Or did you?

Flapique · 2025-11-12T18:19:41+00:00

You're assuming an awful lot here... Women will do anything to protect themselves from feeling bad about any of their decisions. I know I've had problems with my ego in the past but oh my goodness like this is a whole nother level, like self preservation depends on the ego. It's not the type of thing that changes overnight if at all.

Blue_Flower512 · 2025-11-12T16:30:15+00:00

Everyone is different. IMO, men have just as much work to do to realize their life has changed and they are responsible for themselves, too. It all depends on how either of them handles the challenges and their mindset throughout.

Own_Maybe9468 · 2025-11-11T13:32:18+00:00

Maybe only in your dream

Americanjello · 2025-11-11T12:20:09+00:00

It don’t matter

Mysterious-Offer-949 · 2025-11-11T07:47:01+00:00

Brother, there’s an army of simps and cucks out there who’ll provide food, luxury and shelter to her. As long as simps and cucks are there they’ll cushion her. For you my friend get strong, work on carrier she’s gone for good. The longer you’d have stayed the more problems arise trust me on this! To make it simpler see it like a drug the more you do the more addicted you become and the more damage it does to your body just for a short duration of faked happiness through drugs

Sector5AC · 2025-11-11T07:02:04+00:00

Hi, I recommend focusing on acceptance. Accept that you have control over this aspect, she may or may not realise and that’s ok. Accept that you may never find out. In doing so, you stop torturing yourself and accepting abuse. Ask yourself, why do you want to know and once you know the answer to that, you can address the underlying concern/problem. Stay strong brother.

softinvest · 2025-11-11T02:48:05+00:00

The trick is to stop caring. It’s done it’s over. Her successes and failures are hers

upvotersfortruth · 2025-11-11T00:11:31+00:00

How many roads must a man walk down

Before you call him a man?

How many seas must a white dove sail

Before she sleeps in the sand?

Yes, and how many times must the cannonballs fly

Before they're forever banned?

The answer, my friend, is blowin' in the wind

The answer is blowin' in the wind

jplank1983 · 2025-11-10T22:20:44+00:00

I’m curious about the background behind asking this question

Hereforthatandthis · 2025-11-10T21:46:05+00:00

Same as what it would take you as the man I’d assume? Weird question

Dangerous_Item_6879 · 2025-11-10T21:43:35+00:00

Who cares. Not my problem anymore.

darealyst · 2025-11-10T21:35:10+00:00

Expert-Raccoon6097 · 2025-11-10T21:12:09+00:00

Women are not wired to be accountable. They react based on their emotions and how they feel. It is beautiful chaos. If you want logical and accountable then date men.

dukeofthefoothills1 · 2025-11-10T20:23:40+00:00

Don’t know; don’t care…

leowomanthe · 2025-11-10T19:30:46+00:00

leowomanthe · 2025-11-10T19:30:22+00:00

Pinko

leowomanthe · 2025-11-10T19:07:46+00:00

I ok 👌 with

ShaunyP_OKC · 2025-11-10T19:04:54+00:00

Depends. Many don't.

New-Coach6620 · 2025-11-10T18:27:29+00:00

Don’t care, not interested in her life. Im not being an ass, just saying.

RevolutionaryLaw8854 · 2025-11-10T17:25:53+00:00

This on the list of “Things I don’t give a fuck about”

Huge_Mug776 · 2025-11-10T16:59:41+00:00

I admit that I am the main reason why my STBX is leaving me. There are things that I did that were wrong and there were things I could have done differently. She ran out of patience. I don’t blame her; I own it.

But I also believe it takes two to make a marriage work and there’s a lot of things that she hasn’t done right, either. She doesn’t see it; she is one of those people who is never wrong. It’s always someone else’s fault. I don’t know that she’ll ever get it. I hope for her own sake and for the sake of any future partner that she will eventually figure it out.

Chazilla80 · 2025-11-10T16:55:15+00:00

There is no timeline. Some do and some never do.

ImpermanentSelf · 2025-11-10T16:47:10+00:00

Accountable? Never. Realizing shes fucked? Immediately, still not even divorced yet and she knows it. Even with the half million or so she is gonna get she still has to work and support herself. She knows it’s very unlikely she will find another man that can support her and provide the kind of life I provided. What I still don’t understand why is why she was so incapable of changing her behavior when she had second chances, you would think she would shape up and actually try, she can’t stop lying to my face though, she even knows I can see the phone records when she talks to the other man after she told me she stopped talking to him.

Khancap123 · 2025-11-10T16:40:22+00:00

Unless it has to do with you kids ita non of your buisiness. She isnt accountable to you and its not ypur problem.

We tend to be angry here, i was for a very long time, its not worth it.

Edit: smashing the downvote doesnt change things. If you want to meet someone again and have another shot at joy you gotta let it go

hexlandus · 2025-11-10T16:25:17+00:00

Never. A woman will never accept accountability. It will always be the man's fault.

Descarted1 · 2025-11-10T16:22:45+00:00

This might sound simplistic, but honestly its when the money runs out or any provisioning that supports her current lifestyle.

Also, if she is working at her job and she has that one really bad day that makes her contemplate quitting. Being single again makes that much harder.

Riff_Raff1 · 2025-11-10T16:21:07+00:00

Going through it now. Unexpectedly, my wife recently called and apologized for some of her behavior; I didn’t know how to respond at the time. A short time later we were discussing things, and I mentioned that I don’t trust her…. She was aghast! When I started giving specific examples of her behavior I found to be manipulative, she turned every example around to say that her actions were a result of my behavior. Every single example!!!

It’s amazing the mental gymnastics that occur to justify a belief that her poor behavior is 100% my fault (I made her do it) while also believing that I can’t make her do anything she doesn’t want to do. Accountability is her kryptonite.

DeedIndeed · 2025-11-10T16:18:32+00:00

Hahahahahahaha!

Sorry

Chasdava · 2025-11-10T16:16:33+00:00

Your mileage may vary….

Thevinegru2 · 2025-11-10T16:05:37+00:00

If she fails at dating, not long. If she’s successful at it, she never will.

Slowloris81 · 2025-11-10T16:00:55+00:00

If part of the reason for the divorce is lack of accountability, that will never change. Don’t hold your breath, my man.

NohoTwoPointOh · 2025-11-10T15:57:46+00:00

Accountable???

Are you a vampire or other occult-powered figure who will live forever?

No?

Then the answer won't apply to you. You'll die first.

ciscokid12345 · 2025-11-10T15:53:17+00:00

I’m seven years out of my 50/50 divorce and my exwife still doesn’t work. She lives entirely off my support payments and food stamps.

If she started working it would probably reduce my child support so i’m assuming she’s waiting until the kids turn 18 in a few years.

Instead of learning to take care of herself she’s got a new guy she’s trying to wrap up. Only problem is, he’s still married to someone else.

0neMinute · 2025-11-10T15:31:51+00:00

Only time i have heard it happen is if the man left or she gets dumped by the guy she left for. If someone else even meets minimal needs ( not better ) they will justify their actions. Ie if someone is willing to foot the bill for them why admit they where wrong?

That1TimeN99 · 2025-11-10T15:26:46+00:00

When she first saw me glowing with my new flame.. Hit her hard!! Especially when her favorite hobby was to put me down.

Several-Eagle4141 · 2025-11-10T15:19:51+00:00

My stbx realized it when she saw 1/2 of her 401k disappear

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