I am echoing FDS's gospel: please, don't send nudes to dudes, even though you think you know them very well, even though you used to be friends, even though you think it's NBD.

I recently met up with a guy friend after 20 years apart. We were pretty good friends back in the days and have loads of common friends together. During our hangout, our conversation naturally gravitated to dating & relationships, and started counting the crushes we'd had and whom in the common friend group that we found attractive when we were young.

It started out pretty harmless. He told me a few girls that he was into, that he hooked up with, etc. The normal stuff. A few drinks in, we both tipsy, he secretly gestured me to sit next to him, and showed me his phone of some pictures. I took a glance, and was abso-babashook-lutely shocked to see naked pictures of a girl, posting all seductive poses. That woman and I were friends, and whenever we ran into each other in the hall way, we would make small talks. Never a day in my life did I imagine I'd see her naked from another man's phone. I saw her boobs, vulva, everything - she still had those innocent eyes when I first met her, but now I feel awkward. I hate this feeling when I can't get rid of these images in my head. I feel like I have peaked into her secrets that I don't want to know.

My guy friend kept going, "for every girl I got with, I create a photo album for them, and this one has all the goodies in it." I just can't. I abso-XXX-lutely can't. God knows what he had done to these nudes when he was alone? When he was with friends? When he was on internet???

Girls, please please do not share nudes with dudes, even if you thought you knew them pretty well. Cuz we don't. We really don't.