I'm done with men shorter than me

StainedGlassCat · 2021-10-06T13:17:57+00:00

The part where he "found out" where you work without you telling him and then SHOWED UP THERE WITHOUT ANY NOTICE to "surprise" you has me with my jaw on the floor. This is such a gigantic red flag. Please take it seriously that he did this and make sure you are protecting yourself. If your place of employment is listed on your social media it would be prudent to remove it, as men can and will use any information to stalk you. Stay safe!

barbedwiredaisycrown · 2021-10-06T15:08:15+00:00

"I wanted to confront you about something I saw you doing while I was creeping on you, so I did the manliest thing I could think of and left to go home and message you about it." Ok?? 🤪🤡

cml678701 · 2021-10-06T13:49:24+00:00

“Free therapist for men who were bullied in high school!”

YES!!! This is my new go-to line when explaining why I don’t try to “work things out” with emotionally damaged men.

vforvendetta87 · 2021-10-06T13:54:52+00:00

You know, I don’t mind shorter-than-average men. I’m 5’5” and have no issue dating a man in similar height or slightly above.

It’s their raunchy Napoleon-complex that turns me off.

CountingDownTheDays5 · 2021-10-06T13:14:22+00:00

It should be noted members and onlookers of FDS. Height is not a indicator of LV or HV. So be ready to get the same sh*t from tall men. They feel better because they are taller. Still ladies be wary of all men, vet all men, and make sure you are keeping your standards.

ArugulaIsAwesome · 2021-10-06T13:44:07+00:00

There’s a guy at work that bitches about how he can’t find a girlfriend because he’s so short.

He really doesn’t have the self-awareness to realize it’s not his height that’s the problem it’s a shitty personality.

lilac-hiraeth · 2021-10-06T14:40:41+00:00

As someone who loves art, I care what I hang at home. That’s reason enough I think.

This guy sounds like a tool.

Thestral-glow6 · 2021-10-06T12:53:28+00:00

Girl same. Small, bitter, jealous insecure man syndrome is a real thing.

I’m the same height as you. I’ve dated men shorter than me (because of societal pressure to gIvE tHeM a ChAnCe) and each and every one of them was SO insecure and tried to make me feel bad for my height 😅 I love being tall and I’m not insecure at all and they hated that.

I’ll never ever date a guy shorter than 6ft again.

Phoenix__Rising2018 · 2021-10-06T13:56:12+00:00

Short, poor and intimidated. A trifecta of loser.

xfelugirlx · 2021-10-06T15:19:13+00:00

I can’t with men like this, always playing victim. Yes you were bullied in hs (like almost everyone lol) but that doesn’t give you any excuse to be a fucking asshole to others because of your insecurities. This also happens with fat or ex fat men.

My father is quite short, I’m taller than him but he never felt less for this, he always told me how he pulled a lot of tricks to do things in gymnastics that were easier for tall people, never complain minus in his adulthood.

shockingupdate · 2021-10-06T15:43:13+00:00

“I was stalking you at your job the other day and you were spending time with another human male! You should be ashamed!” My god, the cognitive dissonance.

LittleSnackPack58 · 2021-10-06T16:38:23+00:00

I am 5'10 and thin (not model thin, but in the healthy BMI range) and i used to get this shit all the time from shorter guys. They would act interested in me and then make digs at my height. Like "you're tall like a man" etc. Surrre Jan, that's why you bought me a drink and want my number. Gtfo if my long legs offend you!

woadsky · 2021-10-06T14:14:40+00:00

Yeah, those criticisms that come after just minutes of first meeting are definitely red flags. It's not going to get better. It's usually something that can be glossed over because in other ways the man is putting his best foot forward. But -- it's there.

Datonecatladyukno · 2021-10-06T14:58:27+00:00

Well that’s terrifying. So glad you have your brother to walk you out of work!

avocadobarbie · 2021-10-06T15:23:22+00:00

My ex husband is an inch shorter than me. His attitude about him being short and low self esteem was part of the reason I chose to leave. It’s a self fulfilling prophecy for them.

MsWriteNow07 · 2021-10-06T14:18:46+00:00

Bruh, short men are a huge waste of time. When I was doing OLD, I matched with a finnnnnnnnne guy who was 5’7. I’m 5’7 and that’s the time I didn’t mind dating my height. I show up and he’s gorgeous, but he stands up to greet me and he is obviously shorter than me. I confront him about it, he blames our height difference on my “heels”. Yeah, I had on sandals. This was years before I was on FDS, I was an ignorant girl in my early 20s, so I went on and dated him. He was fine and he was a sweet guy, paid for everything, thoughtful, etc. The whole five freaking months we dated, he was so extra about my height-even though I had been honest and he lied. I couldn’t wear heels. He intimated certain clothes made me look too tall. No, I’m not kidding. So I was moving cities and I broke up with him because I both didn’t want to do long distance and I didn’t feel the level of commitment from him I was looking for in a relationship. I was right. He wanted a short white or Asian girl. A waifu basically. Let me give you a tip. A man who is not Japanese or Asian who has lived in Japan and speaks Japanese is probably porn obsessed.

quasarbar · 2021-10-06T17:04:06+00:00

I would have been tempted to say "that was my brother" just to make him feel like the idiot he is, but I'm sure it's better not to say anything at all and have no contact with him.

Equal-Ear2312 · 2021-10-06T15:43:59+00:00

I've tried dating shorter men -plus they lied about their height all of the time, especially on OLD and I've decided I had enough as well.

I cannot stand the jokes: giraffe girlfriend, please wear your flats or sneakers, wear your hair down, don't wear hats etc.

And them buying platform sneakers and soles to stick into their shoes, making their haircuts stand up to gain some height... It's pathetic, really.

I've heard it all. And I've been through it, tried not to be too tall because their masculine who couldn't take it.

It's fucking abusive.

Plus, they feel so emasculated that their next gf is someone way shorter than they are, someone petite and frail looking.

It's always like that. always.

They secretly have an issue with a woman being taller than them. They'll say it isn't so but it's what they're thinking.

And I'm 5'6

AnonymousRooster · 2021-10-06T16:23:15+00:00

I had a lot of issues dating shorter guys and how weird they acted/this odd inferiority complex. I'm lucky the guy I'm dating now is so relaxed/able to make positive jokes about being shorter than me. I recently sent him a snapchat of new super high heeled boots I just bought, and all his comments were complementing the boots, and general excitement for going on a date while I wear them (in a good way not a creepy way).

intergalacticanon44 · 2021-10-06T15:20:17+00:00

pls not him thinking your brother was your man thats fucking hilarous😭😭

Astral_weaver · 2021-10-06T15:47:21+00:00

I'm a shortie, but I'm taking notes. Should hang out more with my tall brother in order to repel short scrotes.

Also the red flag about art, damn. As an artist I find it absolutely offensive that people dismiss quality art because "it's expensive" and decorate their spaces with mass produced sh*t.

sheokay · 2021-10-07T14:38:31+00:00

Sidenote but does anyone else feel sick when they see that “married to my 5”5 king while you’re chasing a 6”2 alcoholic” tweet? The problem is that short men have less options than tall men and should THEORETICALLY behave better but instead they have chips on their shoulders and it’s all the same.

So why not go for tall?

Emergency-Feed8216 · 2021-10-06T17:35:52+00:00

I'm almost 5'9" and long married. But I can remember gradually becoming aware of men's height insecurity to the point that I wouldn't even consider anyone shorter than me. Too much hassle.

Fashion industry hubs like NY, LA, London, etc., attract a lot of model toinkers. Some short dudes wanted the status perk of dating someone "supermodel height" but don't like how this exposes them as shorter than the height listed on their driver's licenses. That type would argue with me about my actual height, insisting I was 5'11" rather than 5'8 3/4" so they could maintain the illusion they were 5'10" rather than 5'7".

I'd think it would be great to be 5'11". But just like my name isn't Svetlana and I never won the US Open, it's too bizarre to end up having to defend yourself against random fabrications, even good or neutral ones.

What a bore. I generally don't like excessive talk about appearance. I don't consider dressing up to be an invitation to be scrutinized. It's a bumpkin move, tacky and there's so much else to think about. I can guarantee that even the more talented people in fashion don't talk about it beyond pragmatic shop talk. Treating people like cattle to their faces is associated with with drunks, thugs, freaks and pervs like anywhere else.

Rude is rude. I believe in treating everyone like little old ladies in social circumstances and never saying anything beyond "Lovely hat, Gladys."

thruwuwayy · 2021-10-06T14:05:34+00:00

Manlets, man.

bubblegumsparkles · 2021-10-06T15:26:31+00:00

Unstable little immature men with an inferiority complex are not worth your time or effort.

Biracial_tooth_fairy · 2021-10-06T16:29:14+00:00

Sis, he vetted himself!

sleepysiri · 2021-10-07T18:25:29+00:00

I’m very short and the amount of men that have, without me prompting them, aimed a tirade at me about how because I am short, I should date a short man and that it doesn’t matter what their height is. Unannounced, out of the blue.

If I can’t reach the top shelf, and he can’t reach the top shelf, who the fuck is going to reach the top shelf?

I will stick my head in a sandbox if I have to watch a man climb a counter to reach a cupboard the way I have to 💀

mashibeans · 2021-10-06T14:46:31+00:00

I'm all for less chances for short men to reproduce. It really wouldn't be a problem if MEN didn't make it such a fucking problem, but hey, since they have such a chip on their shoulder about their height, women who want children owe it to their future baby boys to not have such short fathers.

Gallaballatime1 · 2021-10-06T18:15:18+00:00

OP he sounds dangerous. How does he “found out where you live” he sounds really dangerous. And then the usuage of the word “Chad”. Start documenting this and tell people who he is his name and number because he could be a real threat to you!

Feministtiktok · 2021-10-06T19:10:05+00:00

My brother doesn’t care that his gf car pools to work with male coworkers sometimes. Obviously he offers to drive her and likes to be there for her but he doesn’t control her like she’s on a leash. He lets her be an adult and make her own choices. My point in sharing that is to let you know that that level of jealousy and control is NOT normal. And my brother loves his gf like he plans to propose to her so him not being a controlling dick isn’t because he doesn’t care about her enough, despite what abusive men might say.

slayeroftruth · 2021-10-06T21:35:56+00:00

Short men can be aggressive and rude to tall women minding our own business from their insecurity.

__kamikaze__ · 2021-10-06T19:43:32+00:00

From my experience short men are perpetually angry, even though I am perfectly fine with them not being tall.

TriggeredQuilt · 2021-10-07T02:01:27+00:00

No more charity work! Unless you are genuinely interested in someone can we put the “I’ll give him a chance” to rest. Short dudes always have the biggest chip on their shoulder and need constant reassurance. Next please.

Title	I'm done with men shorter than me
Author	aoi4eg
Upvotes	1406
Comments	101
Date	October 6, 2021 12:47 PM UTC (4 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/FemaleDatingStrategy
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