I'm sure I'm not the only one here being bothered by it. Whether it's Reddit or real life as soon as two working people, a man and a woman, have a fight about the division of the household labor everyone seems to suggest hiring a cleaner "because it's cheaper than divorce trust me, it will help the missus out".

Why on earth if I don't need to hire a cleaner when I live alone would need to budget for it when living with a man?? People can reasonably do what they want with their $$, put there's something devious about it. Men resent household labor so much, they'd be OK if their wives/gfs did everything on their own and had no free time, but if they have to actually resolve the issue they'll just delegate it to another poor woman.

BTW, my mom cleaned houses and there are many situations where hiring a cleaner is needed and understandable. I'm talking about the relationships where the woman does the lion's share, gets tired of it, cOmMuNiCaTeS that and the man instead of taking responsibility uses a considerable portion of the household budget to hire someone else to do it.

If this happens to someone you know or yourself, I believe it's an orange/red flag.

EDIT: My problem is not people hiring help. You could be living alone, be able-bodied and have tons of free time and if you want and can afford to pay a cleaner well then go for it. It's that these men were perfectly ok with receiving a woman's free labor until she had enough, they'll be ready to spend HER money to avoid doing anything.