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[–]avakadavaFDS Newbie318 points319 points320 points 6 years ago (17 children) | Copy Link
Once I copy pasted a hurtful message a guy had previously sent me a few days later and he was like don't show me that, I dont want to see myself speaking to you that way
[–]hgd29FDS Newbie95 points96 points97 points 6 years ago (7 children) | Copy Link
I did something similar and he said “That doesn’t sound like me, I don’t behave that way”. Maybe not in your mind, but I literally just sent you evidence of your behavior 🙄
[–]degnan1214FDS Newbie32 points33 points34 points 6 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
“That doesn’t sound like me, I don’t behave that way”.
Male Amnesia, that's what I call it. They don't remember it, so it never happened. Even when it did. Male Amnesia is a powerful, powerful thing.
[–]getrippeddiemirinFDS Newbie30 points31 points32 points 6 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
I'd call it narcissism if anything
A Narcissist's Prayer That didn't happen. And if it did, it wasn't that bad. And if it was, that's not a big deal. And if it is, that's not my fault. And if it was, I didn't mean it. And if I did... You deserved it.
A Narcissist's Prayer
That didn't happen.
And if it did, it wasn't that bad.
And if it was, that's not a big deal.
And if it is, that's not my fault.
And if it was, I didn't mean it.
And if I did...
You deserved it.
[–]soaring_potatoFDS Newbie13 points14 points15 points 6 years ago (2 children) | Copy Link
Then should have just sent a screenshot
[–]hgd29FDS Newbie2 points3 points4 points 6 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
I sent a screen shot and that was his response 😂
Gaslighting through and through.
[–]soaring_potatoFDS Newbie0 points1 point2 points 6 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Yikes
[–]kp10884 points5 points6 points 6 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
Sounds like my ex too after he put hands on me and left bruises everywhere. Came back to get his shit the next morning saying “you know I’d never do that to you” and I’m like “uhh but you did” while I still had chunks of hair coming out from the back of my head.
[–]wedonthavetobeishtarFDS Newbie90 points91 points92 points 6 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
This reads like a line from Seinfeld. 😂
[–]SunflowerinVirgo0903FDS Apprentice48 points49 points50 points 6 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
Mine would delete the history of his dms so that he wouldn't have to look at all the terrible things he said to me and verbal abuse and admitted this. Serious cognitive dissonance.
[–]thegrrr8pretenderFDS Newbie10 points11 points12 points 6 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
In a darker time in my life a few years ago, I had a LVM friend (more like a work boyfriend) who would delete and doctor his text records so that I looked like the instigator and the villain when his (needs this sub and very likely is nothing like his horrible descriptions) fiancée would go through his phone after he got home from work every day.
Many shames on me for going along with it, but so many more shames on him for being such a POS.
[–]RavenWudgieRoseFDS Newbie33 points34 points35 points 6 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
This sounds like how aliens think humans talk and they're right.
[–]sandmangirl1233 points4 points5 points 6 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
That sounds like my ex. He would say hateful things to me and turn around to say,’Now you know how it feels when you say mean things to me.’
He was also a severe mama’s boy.
[–]CassieGreen85FDS Apprentice2 points3 points4 points 6 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
I would've just kept on showing them to him LOL
[–]InayahDaneenFDS Newbie0 points1 point2 points 6 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Lol an lvm said this to me as well. I just blocked him afterwards.
[–][deleted] 368 points369 points370 points 6 years ago (5 children) | Copy Link
Man: "it hurts my feelings when you tell me the horrible things I've done to you"
Woman: "fine then, we're over."
Man on Reddit later: "after I opened up to my girlfriend and was vulnerable with her she left me, this is why men are oppressed :(" -10k upvotes
[–]libraliaFDS Newbie98 points99 points100 points 6 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Omg!!! Yes!!! Lmfao
Going through this irl!
[–]degnan1214FDS Newbie38 points39 points40 points 6 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
And, "I never had any warning. She just left for no reason. Women are irrational."
[–]InayahDaneenFDS Newbie8 points9 points10 points 6 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
And it’s posted on some mgtow forum 🤣
[–]Sea_SoilFDS Newbie243 points244 points245 points 6 years ago* (21 children) | Copy Link
My ex would tell me I was being abusive anytime I wanted to sit down and discuss the relationship!!!!!
Me: "it really hurt me yesterday when you said I wasn't toned enough. Can we talk about it?"
Him: "This is abusive!"
edit: Men be like
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[–]Sea_SoilFDS Newbie66 points67 points68 points 6 years ago (4 children) | Copy Link
Same! My ex would tell me I was gaslighting him WHILE gaslighting me.
[–]ImPiqued1111111FDS Newbie37 points38 points39 points 6 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Mine lectured me on cognitive vs. emotional empathy, while he was in the process of perhaps his most evil display of cruelty over the course of the entire relationship.
[–]skyerippaFDS Newbie13 points14 points15 points 6 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
SAME WND HE WOULD CALL ME A NARCISSIST WHEN HE CLEARLY WAS LOL
[–]Sea_SoilFDS Newbie7 points8 points9 points 6 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
It's DARVO back at it again!
[–]sweetpotatocupcakeFDS Newbie33 points34 points35 points 6 years ago (3 children) | Copy Link
My ex told me me being sad and concerned and down on myself when asking him if he actually loved me (after him often not saying it back, I know I had a lot of anxiety- caused by his hot and cold behavior- and low self esteem when I was with him) was being emotionally manipulative. Oh and just in general when I brought up any valid concerns regarding him being: standoffish/distant, would ignore my messages for days to weeks after some argument about something he did, and being literally angry at me when I was sad again when I was sad about the umpteenth time he dismissed my feelings.
Fun times.
[–]SunflowerinVirgo0903FDS Apprentice14 points15 points16 points 6 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
He was probably sleeping around during one of his hissy fit silent treatments.
[–]sweetpotatocupcakeFDS Newbie2 points3 points4 points 6 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Probably.
[–]SunflowerinVirgo0903FDS Apprentice22 points23 points24 points 6 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
yep. mine too. Why is this so common??? it's like they are all covert abusers or something.
[–]flimm_FDS Newbie23 points24 points25 points 6 years ago (6 children) | Copy Link
Sounds like my ex, he would call me an abusive bully whenever I’d voice my frustration with him and would insist that I was shouting when I wasn’t?! He would shush at me (and in my parents culture that’s VERY rude so it hurt a lot, but he kept doing it) until I stopped talking, so I felt stupid and most of the time I’d barely get to discuss the issue.
It’s only since I discovered FDS that I realised how shitty he was.
[–]Sea_SoilFDS Newbie14 points15 points16 points 6 years ago (3 children) | Copy Link
He sounds like a dirtbag NVM. Sorry you went through that! My ex basically wouldn't ever let me voice my concerns or speak my truth without getting triggered and trying to kick me out of the house for being "abusive".
[–]flimm_FDS Newbie9 points10 points11 points 6 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
I’m so sorry you had to deal with that, he’s pure scum. They end up making us feel so insignificant and actually crazy every time they shut us down, and over time that can really destroy someone’s spirit. I’m still working on myself.
Never forget that your feelings are valid and you have every right to voice your concerns and enforce your boundaries.
[–]Sea_SoilFDS Newbie4 points5 points6 points 6 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Thank you! I'm slowly recovering from the mind games and learning to love myself again ❤️ I wish you all the best
[–]Unlikely-MarzipanRuthless Strategist1 point2 points3 points 6 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Mine did this too! Oh god I’m so glad I’m out of that, and I’m so glad yours is also in your past.
[–]lexiconGNDFDS Newbie5 points6 points7 points 6 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
omg my ex would also tell me to keep my voice down whenever my tone got slightly raised in an argument, then would proceed to make a big show of yelling at me and then calming himself down after.
[–]loneWoolfyFDS Newbie0 points1 point2 points 5 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Yeah my ex said to me once 'why are you so hostile' I was so confused that I had a blank moment and thought 'wait what, I didn't say anything hostile'. Extremely manipulative.
[–][deleted] 7 points8 points9 points 6 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
What a goon lol. I hope you know now that complaining to men is useless. When they show you who they are, you are not a therapist, dating coach, dog trainer or parent who is supposed to sit them down and school them. Just walk.
[–]BabaAuRhumOhlalaFDS Newbie6 points7 points8 points 6 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
S a m e !!! I was abusive for every little thing! Sending a smiley after an ironic statement? Abuse! Saying the pinnacle of support, “its going to be alright.” over and over doesn‘t make me feel better? Abuse!!
[–]Capable_OkraFDS Newbie101 points102 points103 points 6 years ago (4 children) | Copy Link
This was my ex too!! He got so mad any time my feelings were hurt because "he didn't mean to" so therefore I had no right to be upset. So by his logic, he was never responsible for apologizing or changing, because he would say he didn't have bad intentions. Apparently the only time you ever need to apologize or acknowledge someone's feelings is when you are acting maliciously.
[–]owlwriteapoemFDS Newbie28 points29 points30 points 6 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
Omg did we date the same PoS, cause girl, SAME!
[–]Capable_OkraFDS Newbie22 points23 points24 points 6 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Unfortunately this is apparently just a male thing - see this article
[–]CaseSensitivo17 points18 points19 points 6 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
I feel like all men are like this, unfortunately
[–]king12807FDS Newbie191 points192 points193 points 6 years ago (4 children) | Copy Link
My dad has been passive aggressively shitty with me for not coming out for the 4th because he had a CROWD and with COVID I just didn't feel safe.
Sunday I talked with him on the phone and told him I missed him and he responded with "well that's what you get" and hung up.
He called yesterday a couple times (we talk almost every day) and finally texted why I wasn't picking up. I texted "well that's what you get."
He BLEW UP! "How dare you talk to me like that. So disrespectful. You're so sensitive."
Poor little man feelings. So touchy.
[–]jeanneeebeanneeeFDS Apprentice89 points90 points91 points 6 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
"I learned it from you dad"
[–]OrchidLionFDS Newbie41 points42 points43 points 6 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
Lmfaooo I love how you handled it. He sounds like a narc
[–]king12807FDS Newbie20 points21 points22 points 6 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Yaaaa he's an interesting one. This sub would have a field day with him. Every woman he meets, it's either "hey gorgeous" or "hey sweet thang". It's been a struggle to get to a good place with him, but he's my dad...
This sub is such a fantastic support group. I wish there were more posts about how to handle this kind of behavior when it's a close relative. I don't want to shut him out.
[–]lyricthesecondFDS Newbie28 points29 points30 points 6 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
This is why I don't talk to my dad. There's no room in my life for shitty, abusive men, blood-related or not.
[–]buzzkillyallFDS Newbie72 points73 points74 points 6 years ago (5 children) | Copy Link
My ex told me that I should work on my self-love. I calmly agreed, & mentioned that the years of verbal abuse had wrecked my self-esteem, and I'm not the same person I was 10 years ago. I am, at least, in therapy. Que the meltdown and suicide threats. This man is over 50 years old. Poor, poor him. How the hell did he think the screaming and belittling felt, FFS? How is mentioning it worse than enduring it?
[–]hyacinthgirl95FDS Newbie16 points17 points18 points 6 years ago (2 children) | Copy Link
Because you are no longer under his control. He can’t torture you any more. He probably got self validation from verbally abusing you.
[–]buzzkillyallFDS Newbie13 points14 points15 points 6 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
Thank you, you're right. It was absolutely about control, but he kept insisting that he loved me & didn't want me to leave. He loved having an emotional punching bag available. I now know what love is NOT. It's so surprising to see I'm not alone on this crazy-train ride.
[–]SouthernbelllleFDS Newbie0 points1 point2 points 6 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Welcome my sista.
[–]skyerippaFDS Newbie9 points10 points11 points 6 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
My ex did the same thing and when I would tell him him constantly cheating and commenting on other women’s fb pics and messaging them compliments doesn’t make me feel good he would say WELL THEY ARE BEAUTIFUL!!!!! And that I need to fix my self confidence 😡
[–]flimm_FDS Newbie8 points9 points10 points 6 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
I’m so glad you left him, he sounds vile.
[–]ZambigulatorFDS Newbie61 points62 points63 points 6 years ago (6 children) | Copy Link
Hahahahaha this was my ex!!
[–]carachuFDS Newbie[S] 59 points60 points61 points 6 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
I think its everyones ex!
[–]GoldBasket5FDS Newbie37 points38 points39 points 6 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
This was everyone's ex.
[–]throwawayitstFDS Apprentice19 points20 points21 points 6 years ago* (2 children) | Copy Link
Same- i wish i could shove this pic down my exs throat
[–]hussy_trashFDS Newbie2 points3 points4 points 6 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
This comment gave me joy. Choke him with it.
[–]throwawayitstFDS Apprentice1 point2 points3 points 6 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
I know exactly how you feel
[–]sterne_arctiqueFDS Newbie17 points18 points19 points 6 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Exes, brother, collegues... So liberating to finally expose this. I always felt trapped in a crazy house before this sub. There wasn’t even any woman to talk about this with.
My husband and I yesterday were realizing that, after the exact same experience (being raped at a very young age and going depressed and careless), I was called crazy, emotionnal and got prescribed pills very easily and sent the therapist way, while he was recommended to “ play football to evacuate all his “agressivity” “ . 😂
Fucking bullshit. We need to send men to therapy a century ago. Time for them to learn the basics already.
[–]OrchidLionFDS Newbie56 points57 points58 points 6 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
My ex would lose his cool when ever to would show him the abusive rude texts he sent me in the past.
"Bro stop fucking screenshotting me it makes me uncomfortable"
Why bitch? Can't face your own actions in the mirror???
[–]ChocolateBiscuit96FDS Newbie2 points3 points4 points 6 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
OMG. My ex is the same way. He used to say “you’re so fucking weird, why do you keep that stuff?” Like that’s not the point, bro.
[–]FaginRagetteFDS Newbie53 points54 points55 points 6 years ago (4 children) | Copy Link
I could never mention anything my ex did to me because "it was in the past" and "the past is the past. Let it go". If I persisted to try to speak calmly yet assertively, he'd accuse me of being "emotional". When I'd tell him that I wasn't emotional then he'd accuse me of being "hysterical" and "crazy" and "looking for a fight". He told his friends and family that I was abusive. Like Uhm.
You can literally hit me and do all sorts of unkind and cruel things to me , not apologize other than "I'm sorry you feel that way".. never let me speak and discuss on order to reach an understanding. Never let me set boundaries so that the past couldn't repeat itself ... But I'm the abusive one ?
When I spoke to him recently, (we have contact because of our son) he literally used a quote from a cartoon when I accused him of gaslighting (he does this thing where he freaks out and go off and then tries to tell me that he was speaking normal and that I started going off for no reason if I finally react..). He said "there's no such thing as gaslighting. You just say that because you're crazy". I found that it was from a cartoon and that he'd read it on a FB status from one of his boys... Like dude, you do know that's satire and that the man literally was gaslighting the woman by that sentence and that's the joke.. but he did not understand.
[–]NoThisIs-PatrickFDS Disciple32 points33 points34 points 6 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
(he does this thing where he freaks out and go off and then tries to tell me that he was speaking normal and that I started going off for no reason if I finally react..)
I had a guy do this shit to me. I started recording all of my phone calls because he would say he didn't do this or say that. Plus, it's legal where I live for only one person to consent to the recording.
When I told him I was recording my phone calls and that I'd play it back for him if he needed proof he was talking that way, he sure changed real quick. Then once I uninstalled the recording app, he tried to pull that shit again and I said I'd record calls again if he kept that up. Always stopped him and made him admit it.
They fucking know what they're doing.
[–]sterne_arctiqueFDS Newbie22 points23 points24 points 6 years ago (2 children) | Copy Link
The revolting thing is that people still want to believe the woman is the crazy one.
[–]skyerippaFDS Newbie16 points17 points18 points 6 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
My ex posted a status after physically mentally and verbally abusing me for 2 hours and threatening to murder me and hide my body, saying “don’t talk to “me” she’s crazy” and people who I’ve never met or talked to and I know he hadn’t seen in at least a year (how long we were together) were commenting all this fucked up stuff like to throw battery acid in my face.
Somehow I’m the crazy one for being abused and telling someone about it ?????
[–]gcfemtasticFDS Newbie42 points43 points44 points 6 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Lol
I had ex boyfriend call crying on the phone a month after I left him about how upset he was because I had once called him a monster.
Lol. This dude strangled and sexual assaulted me, my response was to call him a monster and leave. Literally that was it on my end.
But he was hurt by my big meanie word.
[–]pacachanFDS Newbie43 points44 points45 points 6 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
When you confront him on his actions hurting you and he makes a big deal about how he feels SO BAD and he actually starts crying and wants you to comfort him. I've actually said "stop crying, it won't work on me, apologize" in an argument before because I just couldn't take it anymore. Guess who stopped crying lol
[–]Seranova7788FDS Newbie36 points37 points38 points 6 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
This was definitely my ex and then he'd have the audacity to complain that I was being mean to him!
[–]hussy_trashFDS Newbie2 points3 points4 points 6 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
I’m mean too. Even though I am telling you how you hurt my feelings, in a ELI5 calm way. You’ll be mean regardless of what you do.
[–]chateauduchatFDS Newbie32 points33 points34 points 6 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
🚩 my narc ex to a tee 🚩
[–]NoThisIs-PatrickFDS Disciple35 points36 points37 points 6 years ago (3 children) | Copy Link
lol. My most recent ex claimed he was a great communicator. But whenever I tried to talk about shit he was doing that was upsetting me or that I wanted to work on he would be all "Stop talking about the past!"
Even if he did it yesterday. And one time, I shit you not, he did something that I'd been trying to deal with for forever so I brought it up. He'd done it just ten minutes ago. Convo literally went like this:
Me: I want to talk about X thing
Him: Stop talking about the past!
Me: But... it just happened... that was ten minutes ago
Him: Yeah! That's the past!
Fucking asshole. I literally felt like I was going insane. Then he said he didn't want to date someone that was "negative all the time". When I was literally just trying to get him to spend a single weekend with me (he didn't spend a full weekend with me in three fucking years) or make plans to go camping or something.
But yeah, I should be super positive and happy to be with a guy who would only have sex with me once a week, only once in that evening, stopped even having foreplay with me, stopped taking me out, never wanted to meet my friends.
Jesus Christ what the hell was wrong with me putting up with that. Worst boyfriend I've ever had. We interacted well in other ways, but as a boyfriend he was shit.
[–]Sea_SoilFDS Newbie10 points11 points12 points 6 years ago* (0 children) | Copy Link
Mine did this too!! Since it was in the past he's "not that person anymore" so it was irrelevant to bring up and I should be over it immediately.
Strangely when I ever did anything that hurt him he'd make it CLEAR and say "You've pushed me away and this will take a LONG time to get over". 🙄
Also accused me of being negative all the time for being sad that he treated me like shit. The mind games take a massive toll. It's almost like they don't see us as human. glad you got out of that situation. You deserve so much better!
Holy shit. You don’t understand how much better this made me feel.... I know that sounds terrible but I went through the exact same thing with my abusive ex. He would constantly say it’s in the past and stop bringing things up you’re so negative all the time. It really fucked with my head and still does I really thought I was doing something terrible / wrong and am super negative and hard to be with / around.
To see someone else went through it too is super validating 😭😭😭😭
[–]MikeHoncho10480 points1 point2 points 6 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Oh my god, this just happened to me last week! I don’t think I’ve ever experienced this conversation before last week so I’ve been in shock that this conversation even happened! Who talks like that?! I was trying to talk to a guy I was seeing about something that happened the day before and he kept telling me to stop talking about the past and how I don’t let anything go! That was the first time I had tried to talk to him about a problem that was bothering me and so what he was saying wasn’t even logical or true. Ahhh the ridiculousness!
[–]wedonthavetobeishtarFDS Newbie25 points26 points27 points 6 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
This was my ex and so are all the comments. Didn’t realize he got around so much!
[–]daisy_0720FDS Disciple40 points41 points42 points 6 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
Yep, and then you end up apologizing to them for hurting THEIR feelings.
Never again.
[–]throwawayitstFDS Apprentice12 points13 points14 points 6 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Never again sis, indeed
[–]jucamonoleFDS Newbie17 points18 points19 points 6 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Literally laughed out loud. My ex actually said this very same thing... 😂 you cannot make this shit up!
[–]un_dauFDS Newbie14 points15 points16 points 6 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Had an ex who was literally like "being with you makes me feel bad about myself because you say I don't treat you that well, and yeah, maybe I don't, but it's such a downer, man :("
Nearly self aware, just nearly
[–]somberprincessFDS Newbie12 points13 points14 points 6 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
loool I snorted. Reminds me this time I dodged a bullet. Told him not to patronise me because it isn’t nice and he said “yeah, well you’re not being nice, telling me I’m patronising. That’s not nice is it. See you always turn things on me.” I then said “that’s a childish response, I was just asking you not to patronise me” and he said “now you’re calling me a child, see, that’s isn’t nice.” Boy bye.
[–]likejackandsallyPickmeisha™️11 points12 points13 points 6 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
My scrote ex completely stopped his personal hygiene about a year and a half into our relationship. He would bathe maybe once a week. Started smoking. Stopped brushing his teeth.
Of course our sex life died because he smelled horrible and I was just grossed out when he touched me. When he asked why I wasn’t interested anymore I told him “I’m a little offended by your lack of hygiene. Is there something going on that we can work on to get it back on track?”
His response was “I can’t believe you think I stink and I’m dirty. You aren’t perfect either. You’re such a mean person to make fun of me. I can’t believe you’d say something like that!”
So for the next 2.5 years he’d only shower when he wanted sex. And then after we broke up and he started dating a new girl he started showering and brushing his teeth daily again.
[–]AccomplishedCan910 points11 points12 points 6 years ago (2 children) | Copy Link
Currently going through this exact thing. Everytime I mention it, he threatens to break up.
[–]skyerippaFDS Newbie6 points7 points8 points 6 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Seriously dump him. My ex did the same then he cheated, abused me and left me for her. Now I look like the idiot for staying
[–]ginnnnieFDS Newbie7 points8 points9 points 6 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
BIGGEST ISSUE IN MY LAST RELATIONSHIP
[–]BWKittehFDS Newbie6 points7 points8 points 6 years ago (2 children) | Copy Link
Ugh! That was so my ex! Last year, three years after we broke up, he contacted me and I ended up inviting back to my country to see if we could rekindle things.
The moment when I realised that would not be possible was when he said almost exactly that, that he didn't understand why we had to go over everything that happened and that hurt my feelings during our relationship. I blocked him as soon as I could after he went back home.
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[–]BWKittehFDS Newbie2 points3 points4 points 6 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Because otherwise they have to admit they've been doing something wrong and that they have to change.
[–]PollyAnnaSunshineFDS Newbie6 points7 points8 points 6 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
My ex: refuse to listen to me speak, talk until he wears himself out, get tired of talking and say discussion is over.
Me: responds by writing letter
My ex: "I'm saddened to hear you think I treat you poorly"
Me: [breaks up w/ him for acting disrespectful and allowing his family to breach boundaries over and over again]
My ex: "I read an article about narcissism today and YOU are the REAL narcissist!"
Me: Rolls eyes, tells him to GTFO of my apartment
[–]delishtisFDS Newbie5 points6 points7 points 6 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Omg.
An “ex” accused me of emotional abuse any time I tried to talk to him about something other than himself.
He never paid for a single thing in our relationship despite me bringing it up over and over again (I know, I know, disgusting)
Finally, I politely asked him if he would please pay for movie tickets for the film we were going to go see together that night and he yelled at me about how I was being abusive and he was tired of me “gaslighting him” 😂
[–]thepastamancerFDS Newbie5 points6 points7 points 6 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
My ex 100%!
[–]Vonoah4 points5 points6 points 6 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Are there men who don’t do this? Who see the wrongs and don’t forget and remake the same mistakes down the line?
Mine is treating me differently now that I finally told him the whole of how I feel when he treats me wrong.
Figured this was just a guy thing.
[–]bey124FDS Newbie6 points7 points8 points 6 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
It’s kind of sad how legit this one is
[–]verusckaFDS Newbie5 points6 points7 points 6 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
My ex is triggered
[–]lexiconGNDFDS Newbie4 points5 points6 points 6 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
I’ve talked to so many women who have been disrespected, insulted and even raped by their partners and they aren’t apologetic in the slightest. They just say some bs like “it was never my intention to hurt you” or “but I needed you and you weren’t there” or some variation. Seriously wtf is wrong with these men.
[–]meltedhippo3 points4 points5 points 6 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
I’m seriously going through this rn. This touches my soul.
[–]Killer_BhreeFDS Newbie4 points5 points6 points 6 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
This gets me every time 🤣
[–]ChocolateBiscuit96FDS Newbie1 point2 points3 points 6 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
THANK YOU!!! I CONFRONTED THIS GUY ABOUT LYING TO ME FOR MONTHS. I have screenshots and everything and one day I just snapped and laid his ass out. I sent him a screenshot of every lie and excuse he told to me. Then of course, he attempted to turn it on me and called me bipolar.
[–]asamin0 points1 point2 points 6 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Doing it continuously with the same reasons behind it is abuse. Bringing it up in a calm situation to work through problems together is fine, bringing it up to win an argument is abuse.
[–][deleted] 0 points1 point2 points 6 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
This
[–]4BigDataFDS Newbie0 points1 point2 points 6 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
What value do they really add?
[–]catchaleafFDS Newbie0 points1 point2 points 6 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
This happened to me bc recently. He said Idk what to tell you, I was joking after I said multiple times something he said was hurtful. They are Not a fan of us reacting and informing them of .
[–]adajoanaFDS Newbie0 points1 point2 points 6 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Your pain is abusive!
[–]sadpourtoujoursFDS Disciple0 points1 point2 points 6 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
This is my ex holy shit.
[–]ThrowRACapoChanger0 points1 point2 points 6 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Omg. Nailed it.
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