I understand I made another post similar to this before, but under-developed. I am hoping to develop thought regarding the SOLUTION of the modern problem of a large portion of men who feel unsatisfied socially/romantically/sexually, are insecure in varying degrees, have varying degrees of self-awareness, emotional intelligence, and self-esteem, and overall feel alone, isolated, ignored, and even in some cases emasculated or shunned/neglected. I am not basing this on factual evidence, but more so personal experience in dealing with men of this nature in all sorts of situations. I am also an introverted shy person.

I feel there is a larger crowd of simply love-shy men who have good intentions, good hearts, and are simply struggling with a personal issue that has interpersonal and personal effects that a lot of folks are rather harsh about. They judge men more for being socially reclused; or awkward; or weird if they lack confidence than when compared to women. The lacking confidence part is key: everyone respects the esteemed hermit in the woods who doesn't give a fuck about society (a choice and self-confidence in this choice) v.s. the 'incel' who is a recluse but without any confidence (not a choice, no self-confidence).

I think those types of men who are love-shy are often unfairly lumped in with the more malicious of this kind of person or looked down upon because some people never struggle with their problems and therefore don't see it as a problem (like social privilege).

I also see a number of the same afflicted person turn sour almost; they assume people think they're lesser than, are malicious against them too (vindictive or cruel), or give up completely due to mistrust (MGTOW types, 'stone cold').

As a young woman it is sad to see this splitting apart and ripping up young men as a group and as individuals. It makes interpersonal relationships with them hard, and unpredictable if they are unstable and cannot socialize in a healthy way (obsession or preoccupation with girls/relationships, sexual issues, anger or mistrust, distant/aloof).

Perhaps I only feel this strongly about it because I myself suffered some of the same in my own way, but I was curious if anyone has noticed things like this too, and has thought about it. What will be the effects years later as a generation? What is causing this and what could be actual solutions to the problem?