There's a very simple solution to women's AF/BB hypocrisy for BB men. Don't Marry.

Mrs_Drgree · 2021-11-29T21:25:44+00:00

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stormcloakporn · 2021-11-29T17:57:06+00:00

Don’t BB men complain all the time how hard it is to get a woman in the first place? How can they easily replace girlfriends when it was difficult to get even one at all? If they could easily replace women…wouldn’t that make them AF and not BB??

More and more women are opting out if they can’t get their demands met, making it even harder for the betas who wait and pray a woman eventually settles for them.

catchtowards12345 · 2021-11-29T18:55:37+00:00

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HumanNumber348 · 2021-11-29T18:36:23+00:00

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Wide-Illustrator2906 · 2021-11-29T19:35:42+00:00

Outside of having children, there really isn't any reason to get married nowadays.

Aldabruzzo · 2021-11-29T17:53:31+00:00

The main reason this doesn't work for men is because they're not sexually attractive enough to keep a permagirlfriend. Eventually what happens with most BBs is the woman does this:

When are we gonna get married? I wanna get married. If we're not getting married then ~~I'm gonna go fuck other guys~~ we should date other people. ~~I'll have you replaced inside of 24 hours; while it's gonna take you months just to get some other woman to let you take her out for dinner.~~

And then she ~~fucks other guys~~ dates other people, and breaks up with you, and then it takes you months just to get a date; and another few weeks to fuck her. Meanwhile, she's fucked at least three other men.

The main reason women get married is they want unfettered and exclusive access to a man's money and resources; the main reason men get married is they like fucking this woman and they want to keep fucking her and the only way they can keep fucking her (allegedly) is to marry her. She lays down the ultimatum - either we're getting married, or I'mma go out and fuck other men. And that's how most men get suckered into marriage.

catchtowards12345 · 2021-11-29T18:17:43+00:00

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throwawaylessons103 · 2021-11-29T17:58:49+00:00

The downside would likely be that on average, it's not that easy to just "replace women" as a BB.

As people get older, the dating pool gets smaller (even as a man) unless you've maximized both your income and your looks. You're still not going to be playing dating on "easy mode" unless you have both.

As you get older, the places to meet single women IRL decrease, and we all know the "return on investment" for average looking men on apps even if they have money (outside of sugar dating).

wtknight · 2021-11-29T18:07:13+00:00

When a man reaches a certain age women may start getting suspicious if he has never been married. Also, many guys do want kids, and being married arguably provides the most solid foundation for having children. Finally, I think that for certain jobs being married provides more prestige when it comes to promotions and for relating to senior executives than being unmarried.

But other than that, it’s probably sound advice for men who don’t feel like they can trust any woman out there.

SonicBackScratcher · 2021-11-29T17:54:12+00:00

The sociopaths guide to love.

Now for neuotypical guys who actually, you know, actually like women, and fall in love, and such, and really want to spend time with them not viewing them as fleshlights, its ok to be married.

catchtowards12345 · 2021-11-29T19:13:10+00:00

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ruboyuri · 2021-11-29T19:35:15+00:00

And women would go along with being a forever bangmaid because…….awesome dick? Emotional support? Domestic contributions?

Mossimo5 · 2021-11-29T20:13:01+00:00

Unless you're the cream of the crop, this is pretty unrealistic. However, my general advice to everyone is that if you do (have to) marry, make sure you both sign a prenuptial agreement AND a postnuptial agreement. Ensure the prenup has a clause in it stating the postnup must be signed within 10 days after marriage or the marriage is annulled (not divorced). The postnup is SUPER important for issues like retirement accounts that cannot be covered under certain conditions where a prenup is invalid due to various laws. It also really cements the prenup and very much helps enforce that both parties were serious and makes it much more difficult to have it dissolved by a judge. A lot of people don't know that. Ensure both documents are witnessed when signing by independent counsel and that no duress is present. After that, you need to have 3 accounts, yours, hers, and the shared account. Stipulate that only the shared account is considered marital property. Absolutely nothing else is. Don't be greedy in these documents too. Be fair. Her assets are hers both outside and inside the marriage, and likewise for him. If it's too imbalanced it can be dissolved.

If she wont agree to it, then don't marry her. Yes, love is nice and all, but you MUST protect yourself above all else. Thos goes for women too, but especially men where it's rigged against you from the start. If she wont agree to it, that's a strong indication that she sees you as a ride. Or is too into fantasy to understand the reality of our culture, where we are at, and that in the real world love doesn't mean anything anymore.

Sad, but absolutely necessary. If you absolutely must get married PROTECT YOURSELF.

januaryphilosopher · 2021-11-29T18:15:47+00:00

And then you end up old and alone, with no women who are into you due to your age. Whatever the male equivalent of a cat lady is.

Puzzleheaded_Bet7294 · 2021-11-29T17:55:58+00:00

In theory, this makes perfect sense. But unfortunately, what ends up happening to a lot of these guys is that they end up falling hard for these women and their original plan ends up falling through. Love can really blind people unfortunately

cuckspace · 2021-11-29T17:57:01+00:00

just never do the things you enjoy, be a good waggie, and pay taxes

here's a simple solution: women have sex with more men.

Mrs_Drgree · 2021-11-29T17:54:05+00:00

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AnonymousAndy2018 · 2021-11-29T18:30:46+00:00

What’s BB? Bluepilled Boys?

yo_dwayne · 2021-11-29T18:47:15+00:00

What’s “AF/BB”?

HumanNumber348 · 2021-11-29T19:49:37+00:00

I never got why marriage is considered this special thing here? I would feel just as committed to a boyfriend of 12 years as i would to a husband... Why does one have more “BB downsides”?

social_mule · 2021-11-29T19:58:45+00:00

Option 2: Get a passport and a vasectomy. Use both to the fullest.

daddysgotanew · 2021-11-29T20:09:56+00:00

I’ve been doing this for years

Ok_Impact2910 · 2021-11-29T17:47:29+00:00

meanwhile the first idiot who's willing to marry her and spread his asshole open for her to divorce rape him shows up once and it's all over

Slyfer_Seven · 2021-11-29T17:53:21+00:00

That sounds horrible, knowing that every relationship will never go the distance and you'll never have a stable environment to raise a family in...

thegtd22 · 2021-11-29T19:21:23+00:00

You think women won’t realise what’s happening? You think they’re stupid enough to accept that as a deal? No, they’ll ultimately realise that you have no relationship goals with her and move on to someone that’s better than you in (by the sound of it) every single way and isn’t a piece of shit. Then, when a guy who actually likes her and wants to build a life with her comes along, she’ll end up in a happy relationship while you’re alone desperately trying to get laid again with someone. It’s almost as if you WANT to get continuously rejected?!

velvetunderground111 · 2021-11-29T18:19:05+00:00

I was a scum bag alcoholic Chad as a kid (so very blessed), and I never had the cash to BB later in the game. HOWEVER, if I did? Why not just string them along and then ditch after awhile? You can almost be AF doing this. Just ding-along-dong 30-33 year old hotties until you get too old to play ball. Sound feasible to me, but what the fuck do I know? I am old and ugly now.

Mrs_Drgree · 2021-11-29T18:09:42+00:00

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roaming_bartender · 2021-11-29T18:47:08+00:00

What you think you're saying:

just keep her as a gf and dont marry if you're a BB

what you're actually saying:

just be an incel

BBs dont pull, they take what they can get.

Estarossa86 · 2021-11-29T19:16:22+00:00

What’s all this about? AF/BB? What is this? If men are having trouble with women the moment they realize they should be focused on themselves all that changes hit the gym make your bread and win in life all the other kiddy shit will follow. The sad part is that there are actually men out there so focused on women that they neglect themselves just shameful.

Before I forget wth is AF/BB?

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Mrs_Drgree · 2021-11-29T17:47:26+00:00

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Whynotbebetter · 2021-11-29T20:08:11+00:00

What is AF/BB men?

nathaniel_new · 2021-11-29T20:12:54+00:00

The BB guy in this situation can't just get a new relationship just like that. And why would you bother to get a girlfriend if it's just sex your after: an occasional prostitute would be a better option because you have to get your girlfriend things anyways which costs money. The best way to avoid the AF/BB dynamic is to be with a woman who makes it 100% clear that she desires you outside of what you can do for her. There are many tests you can do over the span of 2-3 years before getting married that would lessen the chances of this happening to you, any even though it’s not full proof and she can switch up after marriage, you will know that you did everything you could prior to vet her and your now taking a calculated risk. First rule here avoid high n count women, if you know this info early, and move from there.

EviessVeralan · 2021-11-29T20:39:15+00:00

Or you can be straightforward and honest about what you want and just find a chick who also doesn't want marriage? This saves drama and time.

feta_morgana · 2021-11-29T20:54:34+00:00

Is this you Leonardo Di Caprio ?

BlackGriffin_1 · 2021-11-29T20:59:54+00:00

This will not work because most women will leave after a certain amount of time, due to vast amount of options they have. Simping has no limits.

quiturbitchn · 2021-11-29T21:09:19+00:00

The premise is flawed. BB don’t easily get girlfriends or relationships so they need to lock in the few options they have

Booexgirlfriend · 2021-11-29T21:11:05+00:00

If there's no ring, there's no cheat...

New_Swan_ · 2021-11-29T21:12:32+00:00

What does BB and AF mean

catchtowards12345 · 2021-11-29T18:18:04+00:00

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Title	There's a very simple solution to women's AF/BB hypocrisy for BB men. Don't Marry.
Author	RandomRedditGuy322
Upvotes	55
Comments	351
Date	November 29, 2021 5:44 PM UTC (4 years ago)
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