It’s perhaps the single biggest attractor at least in the early phase of dating. Sometimes confidence alone is all it takes to seal the deal when someone would only be mildly attractive otherwise.

Yet it’s perhaps the only attribute that doesn’t mean anything. At all.

Think about it - If you were describing your new partner to your parents for example, you wouldn’t exactly say ‘oh he’s just so confident!’ at most you might say ‘oh he’s got such great charisma and sense of humour’ but even that invites more questions about what sort of person he is and whether he’s trying to beguile her ‘that’s nice dear but tell me about him’

Jim Jones and Ted Bundy had charisma. Donald Trump and Andrew tate have confidence. We all know this on some level. Therefore we all know it’s meaningless bullshit on some level.

It’s not just that confident people are more interesting, maybe at most you could argue that they’re more entertaining.

And yet you see women get weak at the knees for outward confidence and chest puffery which might and often does betray inner inferiority complex anyway.

Confidence in women is usually attractive as well but not to the same extent it seems.

Obviously diffidence and self doubt isn’t very attractive and doesn’t inspire someone to follow you especially since we tend to use other peoples outward confidence as a reflection of their self worth and competence- naturally someone who’s not very confident must think rather lowly of themselves and maybe that’s for good reason since they’re lacking in so many ways.

But why don’t we see through confidence more often? Why don’t we look at how people walk not talk? We can’t be this naive

Does it seem from certain people being subtly submissive and allowing someone else to dominate their personality? But then why so confident people seem to attract each other?

Blind attraction to confidence has to be one of the dumbest facets of human nature and is responsible for a huge amount of suffering and bullshit