Women should avoid inexperienced men.

twel1999 · 2024-07-18T07:47:23+00:00

But do men with lots of experience stay loyal? I genuinely want to know

Werevulvi · 2024-07-18T11:42:50+00:00

Eh, that sounds like a stereotype of inexperienced men. If we're gonna avoid every type of man because of x associated stereotype there will be no type of man left to date. This kinda stereotyping is exactly what leads to women having ridiculously standards and a lot of good men being rejected based on whatever shit they didn't do.

I date individual men I click with or at least just feel comfortable and compatible with, not based on arbitrary measures like how many sex partners he's had, or how many parents raised him or whatever. Because none of that is any kinda guarantee of what type of person he's going to be. Besides, I've met plenty of inexperienced men who have a very wholesome view on women, and I've met "studs" who basically just make me feel like Swiss cheese (ie a collection of holes.) As well as the opposite.

I know that men can be a bit hyperfocused on numbers (ie body count, age, etc) and statistics, but we women more often go by vibes, instinct feelings and how a guy treats us, regardless of his past. Although both methods can be detrimental when taken to an extreme, I still think it's important to consider the individual and not just immediately judging a book by its cover.

Sweetheart_04 · 2024-07-18T07:22:25+00:00

I am dating a guy who is as inexperienced as me. We are learning and doing things for the first time together which is very romantic. I don't think that I would change that.

Freethinker312 · 2024-07-18T07:44:04+00:00

Adult male virgins are red flags because they feel bitter and jaded about their experiences and wronged by women.

Faulty generalization.

I'm very happy my husband has as little sexual experience and relationships as myself (which is none besides with each other).

Experienced men are red flags because they have not committed to a woman despite having had plenty of options, or because somehow the "commitments" break again and again.

WanabeInflatable · 2024-07-18T07:42:17+00:00

C'mon post is low effort ragebait. Why discussing it instead of banning the troll?

MrSaturn33 · 2024-07-18T07:36:33+00:00

Adult male virgins are red flags because they feel bitter and jaded about their experiences and wronged by women. They expect any woman they date to compensate for all the sexual experiences they've missed out on. Additionally, many of these men struggle with porn addiction and carry emotional baggage from prolonged loneliness.

This is just a false stereotype and a lie. It's ludicrous to suggest that all adult virgin men, or any adult men that struggle with loneliness or to find relationships, have this attitude to women. It's also a convenient narrative. If all men in this circumstance were like this, it would warrant the shunning and isolation they're subjected to anyway. I'm just at a loss for words at this point. Your entire mindset could not be more typical and despicable.

To justify this, you take whatever amount of men in this circumstance to happen to also harbor resentment to women you can see online, to justify falsely stereotyping all men as having this mindset. This occurs reflexively without a second thought. You actually described all adult male virgins this way.

I obviously don't harbor any blame or resentment to women, nor feel "wronged" by them, because I have a clear and rational perspective. But I despise anyone who thinks like you.

Good_Apartment1004 · 2024-07-18T07:31:56+00:00

So women should go for more fuckboys and players?

housemouse139 · 2024-07-18T07:32:25+00:00

How do those guys ever lose their virginity if they should be avoided by women?

Planthoe30 · 2024-07-18T08:34:35+00:00

Some virgins are not involuntarily celibate.
I actually know adult male virgins who are involuntarily celibate irl and guess what? He is actually really nice. He has positive views on women and loves his mother. He makes me a better gamer and in return for his knowledge I rhyme his name with stuff.

DreaminInChocolate · 2024-07-18T15:08:13+00:00

Adult male virgins are red flags because they feel bitter and jaded about their experiences and wronged by women. They expect any woman they date to compensate for all the sexual experiences they've missed out on. Additionally, many of these men struggle with porn addiction and carry emotional baggage from prolonged loneliness.

You've never heard of religious people or asexuals?

uglysaladisugly · 2024-07-18T07:44:57+00:00

No... this is the same dehumanizing and generalizing rethoric we hear here all the time but reversed.

Yes, different life story will have different odds of presenting different behavior and personality but it's not that absolute at all.

HotOutcome9161 · 2024-07-18T09:19:39+00:00

I‘d rather just get to know the person and judge based on actual interactions with them.

Jello_Vivid · 2024-07-18T08:51:02+00:00

I agree with other comments that this is false information and does not reflect all adult virgin men. In my opinion those sorts of men usually become desperate and try to overcompensate but how do you expect these men to gain experience and become better with women when you tell women to stay away from them.

MongoBobalossus · 2024-07-18T09:12:21+00:00

If the woman is fine with being “the first,” why not?

My first time was with a more experienced woman and she was a good teacher.

SaBahRub · 2024-07-18T14:43:14+00:00

I’ll decide on an individual basis, thank you very much

In my life, that’s what’s been available to me, because I’m not hot

Silvers_No3 · 2024-07-18T07:52:14+00:00

This can Only come from a woman with a superiority complex over men.

Disgusting, honestly.

MidoriEgg · 2024-07-18T07:34:19+00:00

Not every older male virgin fits the profile of a typical ‘incel’. Personality’s don’t just fit into one profile based off sexual experience.

januaryphilosopher · 2024-07-18T12:44:55+00:00

You can say that all you want but many of us have actually done it and know it's just a stereotype. I have not found my husband to be jaded or bitter (he's probably less so than most actually), he doesn't expect me to compensate for anything, he doesn't watch porn and he has little relationship baggage due to having no previous relationship experience. Virgins are especially attractive partners for other virgins.

lgtv354 · 2024-07-18T13:18:19+00:00

need work experience to get job, need job to get work experience moment.

tiddermacss · 2024-07-18T13:45:24+00:00

op has some kind of prostitute syndrome, look at her posts lol.. everything’s about what she can get in exchange for sex.. what a bum

harmonica2 · 2024-07-18T13:47:58+00:00

To the OP what about men going for inexperienced women, if they should avoid them too?

ApprehensiveMusic351 · 2024-07-18T14:26:16+00:00

Adult male virgins are red flags because they feel bitter and jaded about their experiences and wronged by women

What about experienced guys who feel wronged by women? Guys who have been cheated on or divorced? Bad breakups etc. You should hear what some of these good looking experienced guys say about women they were with.

Just another post by you justifying your hate on any guy you deem as physically unattractive.

Dayman115 · 2024-07-18T14:41:14+00:00

Emotional baggage from prolonged loneliness? But wait, I've seen plenty of women argue that being alone is no big deal, so why would they have baggage from something that shouldn't be affecting them in the first place?

Dense-Tell-6147 · 2024-07-18T17:54:49+00:00

I had some personal issues that culminated in a suicide attempt. I basically lost all my teen years and a good deal of my twenties. I did a herculean work to mend myself and I got back on track as a successful adult, but with a baggage. While I had sex and romance during my lost years it was nothing close to that of a carefree western young man of the 1990s. My very first relationships after the big gap weren’t optimal, but I corrected the course and improved rapidly.

This world is shitty enough by itself. If after suffering this much I was denied intimacy because I suffered, adding suffering to other suffering, that would have been hard.

Thank goodness I wasn’t avoided, got my shit together fast and then made up for the lost time as a much appreciated lover

Silver_Switch_3109 · 2024-07-19T16:01:54+00:00

This is going to cause the same issue with trying to find a job where you need experience to get into a relationship but you need to be in a relationship to get experience.

thedarkracer · 2024-07-18T07:30:10+00:00

And they should go for guys with a much more experience aka playboys or guys dumped by their gfs bcz they can never be red flags at all?

Funny OP is trying to justify mate copying which she is biologically programmed to do just like some women as the smartest thing in the universe.

Adult male virgins can have a lot of reasons like religious, low sex drive and even waiting for the right one only and not whoring around.

Novadina · 2024-07-18T07:29:42+00:00

My man was inexperienced before me and he wasn’t bitter or jaded. I think that might be more a red flag of someone who identifies as an incel than just someone who happens to be inexperienced. We were all inexperienced once.

MikeArrow · 2024-07-18T09:35:59+00:00

They expect any woman they date to compensate for all the sexual experiences they've missed out on.

Well, yeah. I don't think that's a bad thing though.

Spiritual_Hamster945 · 2024-07-18T07:43:46+00:00

low tier post.

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ConanTheCybrarian · 2024-07-18T08:48:07+00:00

For casual, ltr, or both?

At what age does being a virgin as an adult become a red flag?

What if someone has chosen to wait for religious or moral reasons? Still a red flag?

Involved_Currently · 2024-07-18T12:04:35+00:00

I agree they can be massively insecure about it, which is going to be an issue. I think that would concern me the most as a woman as well. However they dont have to be and if they are not, its fine I think.

KGmagic52 · 2024-07-18T12:55:13+00:00

It sounds like you already judged inexperienced men this way, so you just went ahead and applied the worst stereotypes you could for their circumstances. You're also supporting fuckbois over regular men by telling men that you will reject them for their lack of sexual ability and experience.

KayRay1994 · 2024-07-18T13:30:11+00:00

the obvious issue with this post is that it basically means “if you werent sexually successful in the past, don’t bother” its the same attitude as asking for work experience for an entry level job.

I do think inexperience with age should act as a yellow flag, as a mark to be questioned and investigated, but not something to be avoided. Because here is the thing, the behaviors you mentioned is true amongst many, probably even the majority of inexperienced men, but to assume that’s the case inherently is what i have a problem with.

I think a better statement would been “women should be mindful of inexperienced men” or “women should more thoroughly evaluate inexperienced men” citing the jaded attitude, emotional baggage and undeveloped emotional state as things to keep an eye out for, but to throw that in as a blanket statement is what I have a problem with cause it basically sends the message of “be successful when you’re young or gtfo”

ilike18yoblackpussy · 2024-07-18T13:48:47+00:00

Women already do avoid inexperienced men.

KingBembi · 2024-07-18T14:22:02+00:00

That's why I lied my first time I had sex that I've been with lots of girls lol so she wouldn't think I'm a red flag. To my adult male virgins, don't say anything about being a virgin to a girl, it ruins your chances.

DaddyStone13 · 2024-07-18T15:35:43+00:00

they do

Gold_Supermarket1956 · 2024-07-18T15:49:40+00:00

Um... this feels like some pushback because men don't wanna date single moms, lol. also, not all men are virgins against their will some are religious and only wanna have sex when married others really never made sex a priority and focused on their careers

Ultramega39 · 2024-07-18T18:34:23+00:00

OK we get it, you're incapable of empathy. That doesn't mean that every woman should adopt your misandrist mindset.

I mean if a woman avoided me just because I'm inexperienced, I'm just gonna assume that she's a trashy toxic person and move on with my life.

Upset_Material_3372 · 2024-07-18T18:38:05+00:00

The vast majority of women follow this rule already including inexperienced ones.

Also important to note that the EXPERIENCED women has similar negatives for men.

EqualSea2001 · 2024-07-18T08:22:18+00:00

I kind of agree with the title, but not with your reasoning.

Men and people in general who are inexperienced because they found it extremely hard to date/have sex are more likely to be tempted to end the relationship or cheat when presented with another option (which they thought was completely impossible for them before they finally started dating you.) Things are different if he made a choice to stay celibate until finding ‘the one’ (for religious or other reasons), or if he tried very casual relationships with only a few people, then was convinced they are not for him.

A guy who could easily get sex before dating you and settling down already knows he can do casual. If he’s truly set on having a family, he won’t be thinking about what ifs and debating whether the grass is greener on the other side. Unless he raked up this bodycount due to a sex addiction or avoidant attachment style, in which case good luck…

This is why I think it’s so weird that y’all can’t fathom ‘Chad’ ever staying loyal to one woman.

And also, it applies to women as well, only that it’s easier to find a woman who is a virgin by choice, and not because of unfortunate circumstances.

IceWingAngel · 2024-07-18T09:25:28+00:00

Going to ignorantly bite. 29yr old inexperienced man that isn’t bitter and jaded and knows several other inexperienced men. AMA.

e/ As expected lol.

Wodanaz-Frisii · 2024-07-18T07:57:11+00:00

Women should avoid incels, they are very toxic males and can easily turn violent towards women.

Typical-Curve-5568 · 2024-07-18T10:15:06+00:00

A disgusting ragebait from a disgusting b1tch. Poetic

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